The Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast

Unmet expectations can damage relationships, so it's crucial to clarify them. This podcast explores the impact of unclear expectations in various settings such as families, teams, churches, and workplaces. It discusses the importance of leaders shaping a healthy culture through clarifying expectations and avoiding assumptions. The transformative power of clear communication and mutual agreement in relationships is highlighted. It also delves into the far-reaching impact of clarifying expectations in daily tasks and leadership roles, empowering individuals to address frustrations and disappointments. Finding your voice and being true to yourself is emphasized, along with practical examples of applying clarifying expectations in hiring and writing job descriptions.

Learn the consequences of wrong assumptions in relationships and jobs. Discover the importance of speaking your truth and avoiding mind reading. Explore the significance of emotional health in leadership and the need to clarify assumptions. Break free from conformity and gain personal approval through differentiation.

The podcast explores the essential skill of creating safety for clear and honest communication. It discusses the power of emotionally healthy relationships, the significance of the community temperature skill in creating safety, and exercising personal power through expression. It also emphasizes effective communication skills and shares a story about heart transformation through disability advocacy.

In this podcast, the speaker explores the topic of spiritual maturity and forgiveness, using the backdrop of the Rwandan genocide. He emphasizes the importance of loving our enemies and shows how love is the true mark of maturity. The chapter also discusses the significance of emotional health in developing active love and building counter-cultural communities.

Explore the 10 timeless axioms of emotionally healthy leadership, the importance of silence and solitude, disrupting false peace for true peace, leading out of our marriages or singleness, and the consequences of being emotionally unhealthy and inviting financial partnership.

Movements with longevity are sustained through shared, easily understood language. This most often comes through the development of axioms - short, memorable phrases that capture the essence of truth in simple ways. Reflecting on the last two decades of leading Emotionally Healthy Discipleship, I've been able to identify at least 10 core axioms (probably more like 25!) that have stood the test of time. In many ways, they are a "cliff-notes" introduction to an emotionally healthy church culture. In today's podcast, I share the first 5 timeless axioms that have shaped the culture of what we call Emotionally Healthy Leadership. (ie. "Jesus may be in your heart, but grandpa is in your bones." If you are a leader, these axioms are extremely helpful to use with your teams as simple ways to build a healthy team and church culture. I pray you will memorize them, ponder them, and make space to allow the biblical truth to penetrate you.

According to the World Christian Encyclopedia, the fastest growing stream of the church is the Pentecostal/Charismatic movement. In terms of overall numbers, it represents 644 million Christians world wide. This is 8.3% of the world population. By 2050, it will reach over 1 billion people. Unbelievable! We need the power of God, gifts of the Holy Spirit, signs and wonders for the global mission of the church. Much of my personal spiritual and leadership journey was formed in the charismatic movement. We regularly experienced the outpouring of God's power in our church. It was electric. And yet I was still proud, defensive, distant, not present, unable to connect relationally, conflict avoidant, unaware internally, and unloving. This disconnect is what led to the birth of Emotionally Healthy Discipleship. In today's episode, I unpack 5 key contributions of Emotionally Healthy Discipleship that allow us to walk in the healthy, long-term release of God’s power. 

For leaders, one of the most frustrating parts of decision-making is this... It....takes....time. Sure, sometimes quick decisions are necessary. But most consequential decisions (that shape the future of your life, church, and ministry) require the ability to slow down and wait. Usually for longer than is comfortable for you. In order to let your judgments (discernments) come from deep within, you cannot in any way be pressed or hurried. You must wait. To be clear, waiting does not mean you are doing nothing.  You are doing the most important something there is. In today's podcast, I share more about what God is actually developing in you in times of waiting. Then I take time to address several questions listeners have submitted.

Decision-making is primarily about discernment. It's the ability to make decisions that align with God's will for your life and ministry. The truth is - discernment is an art. It takes practice, attention, and a lifetime to develop. But if there is one core practice that is the foundation of discernment, it is learning to pay attention to the movement of God in your own soul through consolations and desolations. "Consolations and desolations" are terms offered by Ignatius of Loyola, founder of the Jesuits over 500 years ago to describe the inner feelings that move you toward God and the ones that take you away from God.   Leaders who are able to slow down and pay attention to the inner work of God will not only be effective, they will be able to lead from joy, rest, and freedom.

One of the primary tasks of spiritual leadership is the ability to make prayerful, wise decisions. Yet many leaders find it difficult to invest the time and space necessary for sharp discernment. The result is that our decisions become dull, lacking precision and power. Over time, flippant decision-making inflicts tremendous consequences on us and those we lead. In the first episode of this new podcast series, we discuss the importance of boundaries to keep us surrendered to God’s purposes. Why? Because any time God calls us to a specific work, the devil tempts us to live beyond our boundaries. This happens in every season of our life! When we discern and yield to the gravity of God's purpose, life flourishes. This is the first step to becoming leaders who make sharp decisions.