
The Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast
Many pastors and church leaders today feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and frustrated that their churches don’t seem to be making mature disciples. The Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast explores the paradigms and practices leaders need to transform their church culture and multiply deeply changed disciples.
Latest episodes

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Dec 26, 2023 • 40min
The Kind of Fighting Every Church Needs
Explore the significance of healthy conflict resolution within church communities and the need for clean fighting skills. Learn about the transformative nature of conflict, maintaining emotional boundaries, and the value of feedback. Discover the importance of practicing and internalizing these skills for personal growth.

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Dec 12, 2023 • 37min
Staying Grounded When People Are Driving You Crazy
The podcast discusses the challenges of staying grounded during the busy holiday season and the importance of addressing frustrations and disappointments. They introduce the 'Ladder of Integrity' tool for identifying and communicating emotions and values in a healthy way. They also explore personal experiences with leadership and values, and highlight the impact of the ladder of integrity on personal and professional lives. The chapter concludes by emphasizing the significance of living with congruence and integrity in various aspects of life.

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Nov 28, 2023 • 40min
The One Skill That Will Make or Break Your Life and Leadership
Explore the essential skill of 'incarnation listening' for life and leadership. Reflect on improving communication skills. Learn to love like Jesus and practice attunement in relationships. Prioritize creating spaciousness in your schedule. Provide a safe environment and find a safe person for support.

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Nov 14, 2023 • 37min
Why Bottling Up Emotions Kills Spiritual Growth
In this podcast, the hosts discuss the importance of acknowledging and integrating emotions into one's faith journey. They share personal experiences of suppressing emotions and how it affected their leadership and relationships. The podcast also explores the skill of exploring emotions in biblical scriptures and emphasizes the significance of admitting and experiencing a range of emotions for personal and spiritual growth.

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Oct 31, 2023 • 42min
The High Stakes Decision to Transform Your History into a Great Future
Leaders must acknowledge their past to move forward. The genogram tool helps to uncover family baggage and catalyze transformation. The hosts reflect on the impact of family history on personal growth and relationships. Personal transformation is crucial for effective leadership. A workbook for genogram and discussing triggers is discussed. Healing and growth from abandonment wounds are explored.

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Oct 17, 2023 • 44min
The Life-Saving Practice of Clarifying Expectations
Unmet expectations can damage relationships, so it's crucial to clarify them. This podcast explores the impact of unclear expectations in various settings such as families, teams, churches, and workplaces. It discusses the importance of leaders shaping a healthy culture through clarifying expectations and avoiding assumptions. The transformative power of clear communication and mutual agreement in relationships is highlighted. It also delves into the far-reaching impact of clarifying expectations in daily tasks and leadership roles, empowering individuals to address frustrations and disappointments. Finding your voice and being true to yourself is emphasized, along with practical examples of applying clarifying expectations in hiring and writing job descriptions.

Oct 3, 2023 • 45min
Slay the Dragon of Wrong Assumptions
Learn the consequences of wrong assumptions in relationships and jobs. Discover the importance of speaking your truth and avoiding mind reading. Explore the significance of emotional health in leadership and the need to clarify assumptions. Break free from conformity and gain personal approval through differentiation.

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Sep 19, 2023 • 43min
Unleash the God-given voice of your people
The podcast explores the essential skill of creating safety for clear and honest communication. It discusses the power of emotionally healthy relationships, the significance of the community temperature skill in creating safety, and exercising personal power through expression. It also emphasizes effective communication skills and shares a story about heart transformation through disability advocacy.

Sep 5, 2023 • 28min
The Outrageous Way Jesus Measures Spiritual Maturity
In this podcast, the speaker explores the topic of spiritual maturity and forgiveness, using the backdrop of the Rwandan genocide. He emphasizes the importance of loving our enemies and shows how love is the true mark of maturity. The chapter also discusses the significance of emotional health in developing active love and building counter-cultural communities.

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Aug 22, 2023 • 31min
10 Timeless Axioms of Emotionally Healthy Leadership (Pt. 2)
Explore the 10 timeless axioms of emotionally healthy leadership, the importance of silence and solitude, disrupting false peace for true peace, leading out of our marriages or singleness, and the consequences of being emotionally unhealthy and inviting financial partnership.