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Dr Corey and Pam Allan
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Jul 30, 2025 • 29min
Marriage Advice That Isn’t Helpful #739
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore common phrases and beliefs about marriage that may not hold true.
Phrases like 'You complete me,' the 50-50 marriage proposition, and the idea that love conquers all. We dive into the complexities of marriage, emphasizing the importance of individuality, communication, and realistic expectations. What are your own beliefs and what phrases resonate with you?
Enjoy the show!
On the Xtended Version …
In the XTD content, we do a deep dive into the phrase "you can be right or you can be happy."
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Jul 23, 2025 • 31min
Best of SMR: Anxiety As A Smoke Signal | Dr John Delony #738
An episode from the vault - Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives.
He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to drive our own lives instead of trying to control others.
Lastly, we discuss the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for our own actions in relationships.
Learn more about Dr John here https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony
Enjoy the show!
On the Xtended Version …
In the XTD content, we continue the conversation with Dr John by looking further into how vulnerability and open communication are key to building strong and intimate relationships. Plus, it is important to embrace the mundane aspects of life and find joy in the everyday moments.
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Jul 16, 2025 • 38min
Surrendered Sexuality | Dr Juli Slattery #737
In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery joins me as we dive into the complexities of Christian sexuality, exploring themes of trust, identity, and the integration of faith with sexual intimacy.
We discuss the challenges Christians face in surrendering their sexuality to God, the importance of understanding behavior versus identity, and the biblical perspectives on sexuality.
Juli emphasizes the journey of discovering a deeper intimacy in relationships and the role of God in sexual experiences, ultimately encouraging listeners to wrestle with their faith and sexuality in a meaningful way.
Enjoy the show!
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Jul 9, 2025 • 25min
Willingness vs Intent #736
In this episode, we answer a listeners question about how to address an issue that has come up now that his wife has had a partial hysterectomy and gets too wet so there is a loss of friction.
Enjoy the show!
On the Xtended version …
We explore the difference between a willingness vs intent to have sex. Only this segment is one where Pam and I are not on the same page and it goes a completely different way than Corey was thinking it would beforehand.
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Jul 2, 2025 • 29min
Too Much Focus On The Beginning – Live from the Getaway #735
In this episode, recorded live from the 2025 Sex Marriage Radio Getaway, we explore how spending too much focus on the beginning of a sexual encounter can actually hurt the desire levels in both spouses.
Enjoy the show!
On the Xtended version …
The second portion of the live Q&A session from the 2025 Getaway.
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Jun 25, 2025 • 26min
Sex Quiz – Live from the Getaway #734
In this episode, recorded live from the 2025 Sex Marriage Radio Getaway, I quiz Pam and the audience on what they know about various aspects of sex.
Follow along, or get a piece of paper and see how you score.
Enjoy the show!
On the Xtended version …
A portion of the live Q&A session from the 2025 Getaway.
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Jun 18, 2025 • 26min
Grief and Infertility #733
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we address the complexities of navigating new relationships after experiencing loss. We discuss the challenges faced by a young widow who is trying to reconcile her past relationship with her new partner, emphasizing the importance of establishing boundaries, open communication, and allowing space for grief.
Our conversation highlights the necessity of collaboration in relationships and the need for self-confrontation to foster personal growth and healing.
Enjoy the show!
On the Xtended version …
An email from a wife asking for help navigating over a year and a half of infertility in her marriage. How do you make it intimate when it becomes so task oriented instead?
And, how do you handle the meanings of the struggle during this season?
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Jun 11, 2025 • 29min
The Problem With Love Languages #732
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio we explore the Love Languages from Gary Chapman. Specifically we dive into how there are some problems with them that can actually be harmful to relationships.
How exactly can something so widely known, and even loved, be possible?
Listen to find out.
Enjoy the show!
On the Xtended version …
An email from an Academy member wants to know about action steps to move beyond the "Nice Guy" - that's what we go through today.
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Jun 4, 2025 • 46min
Best of SMR: Obligation Sex | Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #731
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we revisit an archive show with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. We dive into the topic of obligation sex.
Is it a part of every marriage?
Is it harmful to one, or both spouses?
To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast – check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/
Enjoy the show!
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May 28, 2025 • 28min
Desire For Sex Or For Your Spouse #730
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into an email from a listener wanting help with the complexities of desire and connection in marriage.
A husband is feeling used in a relationship where sexual interest seems limited to ovulation periods.
Our conversation dives into the dynamics of sexual desire, the impact of past trauma, and the importance of communication in navigating these challenges. We explore the need for emotional connection and understanding in relationships, highlighting the two-choice dilemma faced by spouses when their desires do not align.
Enjoy the show!
On the Xtended version …
We continue the conversation and go deeper into the moves they each can make to better face the gridlock in their marriage.
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