

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
Robert Duff, Ph.D.
This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com
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Oct 6, 2023 • 31min
Episode 369: Avoiding Depression Relapse & Questioning Parenthood
Episode 369: Navigating Personal Struggles & Motherhood Hello, friends! I hope everyone is doing well. In today’s episode, we delve into two deeply personal and powerful listener questions: 1. A 26-year-old woman shares her journey from the depths of a severe depression to her current stable and fulfilling life. Despite her progress, she grapples with anxiety about possibly regressing into her past depressive state. We explore the resilience of overcoming challenges, the changes that occur within us as we grow, and the power of reflection and gratitude in maintaining mental health. 2. A single mother of two confronts the painful reality of potentially repeating the patterns of her own tumultuous childhood. With raw honesty, she reveals her struggles with emotional, mental, and occasional physical abuse towards her children. In response, we discuss the profound challenges of motherhood, the potential for growth and change, and the importance of seeking resources and support. Resources Mentioned: Child Welfare Information Gateway A comprehensive resource hub offering assistance on various topics, from adoption to strengthening families. National Parent Helpline A platform that provides support to parents and caregivers. They offer a directory of parent resources by state. For more detailed information and links, please visit the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode369. As always, if you have questions or topics you’d like discussed on the show, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com. --- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you find yourself stuck in a rut, consider enlisting the help of a licensed therapist online. Head to http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month!

Sep 29, 2023 • 29min
Episode 368: How to Overcome Anxiety About Flying
This podcast episode discusses strategies to overcome anxiety about flying, including the importance of anchor thoughts, avoiding safety behaviors, and relying on support systems. It also explores techniques such as grounding exercises and distractions, and highlights the significance of self-compassion and preparation. The chapter descriptions cover facing fears, managing flying anxiety with kids, establishing anchor thoughts, managing anxiety with breathing exercises and distractions, and seeking support and finding bravery while flying.

Sep 22, 2023 • 36min
Episode 367: Preventing Age Discrimination and Promoting Longevity
This podcast episode delves into the challenges of aging, particularly in relation to mental health and the discrimination faced by older adults in healthcare. It discusses the bias against helping older people with mental health problems, the lack of follow-up care for stroke patients, and dismissive attitudes towards cognitive issues. The episode also explores the causes of impairment in older adults, age discrimination in healthcare, and the impact of Medicare reimbursement on mental health providers.

Sep 15, 2023 • 47min
Episode 366: Explaining My Polyamorous Relationship & Supporting a Partner in Grief Over a Pet
The podcast explores the speaker's personal journey into a polyamorous relationship. They discuss the concepts of non-monogamy, different types of polyamorous relationships, and the importance of clear communication. They also provide advice on supporting a partner through grief over the loss of a pet, especially while dealing with mental health challenges.

Sep 8, 2023 • 38min
Episode 365: Getting Autism Diagnosis as an Adult & Living with Partner's PTSD
Hello, all! I hope that you are staying healthy and safe. In this episode, I cover two very interesting questions. In the first, someone has been through almost every treatment for depression and anxiety under the sun, yet they still struggle. Their therapist suggested that they may be on the autism spectrum and the person is wondering whether it would be useful to get an evaluation. We discuss the potential benefits as well as how to go about finding (and affording) an evaluation. Next, someone has PTSD from their partner's PTSD reactions. Their partner is a war veteran with multiple brain injuries and the question-asker is wondering how they can stay afloat mentally when their partner does not get help. We talk about ways to avoid codependence, how to establish boundaries, and when to call it quits. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode365 ----- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Rather than letting your thoughts stay swirling around in your mind, get them out by talking to a licensed therapist. Try BetterHelp today and get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff Also, don't forget to check out my new shop. I'm putting out new designs all the time including this awesome mug:

Sep 1, 2023 • 34min
Episode 364: PTSD with Psychosis & Body Dysmorphia Cured by Loss
Hello, friends! I hope you're treating yourselves well. In this episode, I dive into two compelling listener questions that touch on complex emotional states and mental health diagnoses. First up, we discuss what it means to be diagnosed with PTSD with "schizophrenic episodes." If you've ever been confused by mental health jargon or diagnoses, this segment will provide some clarity. We'll break down the DSM criteria for PTSD and explore the possibility of psychotic symptoms within the framework of trauma. Our second question is a deeply emotional one. It's about the sudden disappearance of body dysmorphia and low self-esteem following the death of an abusive parent. Can such a significant life event dramatically shift one's self-image? We'll delve into the complexities of grief, closure, and self-perception in this intriguing discussion. As always, your engagement keeps this show going. Send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com for a chance to be featured in future episodes. For full show notes, head to duffthepsych.com/episode364.

Aug 25, 2023 • 39min
Episode 363: Treating a Phobia of Wasps & Adjusting to Moving in With a Partner
Hello, friends! I hope you are treating yourselves well. In this episode, we dive deep into two thought-provoking listener questions. Our first discussion revolves around a listener who's grappling with a profound fear of wasps, known as spheksophobia. This phobia has had a significant impact on their quality of life, especially during the summer. We delve into the nature of specific phobias, their prevalence, and debunk some common misconceptions about wasps. Moreover, we explore potential strategies for addressing and managing such fears, emphasizing the role of exposure therapy and the significance of understanding one's fear hierarchy. The second question opens a window into the world of a couple navigating the challenges of moving in together. One partner has relocated from a cherished home, and both are experiencing the typical growing pains of cohabitation for the first time. We discuss the importance of communication, curiosity, and compromise in this new chapter of their relationship. By establishing routines, rituals, and shared spaces, they can create an environment that feels like home to both, while also setting aside time for individual activities to foster a deeper bond. Your questions always bring valuable insights to our conversations. If there's a question or topic on your mind, feel free to send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com. For full show notes, head to http://duffthepsych.com/episode363. ---- If you are looking for an air purifier that is powerful enough to circulate the air in your room four times per hour and can eliminate airborne particles as small as 0.005 microns, be sure to check out Air Doctor. Right now, you can get 40% off by using the code "duff" at http://airdoctorpro.com Life doesn't come with a road map. Whether it is navigating changes in your relationship or figuring out how to use exposure to conquer your anxiety, BetterHelp may be just what you are looking for. Get professional help conveniently and quickly plus 10% off at http://betterhelp.com/duff

Aug 11, 2023 • 33min
Episode 362: PMDD Treatment & Dealing with Scary Ex
Hello, everyone! I hope you are doing super well. As always, I really appreciate your attention. A special thank you to everyone that has left feedback for me about the show. Very helpful. In this weeks episode, I tackle the following questions: Could my symptoms be PMDD and if so, how do I get help? What can I do about my ex that is spreading harmful lies about me? As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode362 ---- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you could use the support of a therapist to help you navigate life's challenge. Check out BetterHelp and get connected to a licensed therapist quickly, entirely online. Visit http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month. This episode is also sponsored by OneSkin. If you're like me and would like a simple skincare routine that is backed by clinical research, then OneSkin is for you. Visit http://oneskin.co and use the code "duff" for 15% off.

Aug 4, 2023 • 39min
Episode 361: Health Anxiety Rabbit Holes & The Psychology of Weight Loss Drugs
Hello, all! In this episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions. I have successfully been treated for cancer, but I can't stop looking at research and personal accounts online for fear that it may come back. How can I stop? How do weight loss medications like Ozempic help reduce the psychological addiction to food? Please give me feedback on the show at this link: https://forms.gle/TGx4puKucMJKjSNz7 As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode361 --- Today's episode is sponsored by Mindbloom. Get $100 off your first at-home ketamine treatment for depression and anxiety at http://mindbloom.com/duff with the promo code duff.

Jul 28, 2023 • 39min
Episode 360: How to Survive Starting Fresh & Resources for an Overloaded Parent
Hello, friends! I hope you're staying safe from the heat and generally taking good care of yourselves. Today, I have two awesome listener questions. The first comes from someone that left her job as a teacher because she was burned out. However, now she finds herself in a difficult situation without insurance or a longterm steady income. I provide advice regarding resources for inexpensive and free therapy. I also talk about different resources available to someone in a situation like this and explain how Maslow's heirarchy of needs explains why the person should focus on basic needs before trying to answer big questions about their life and sexuality. The second question is from a mother with two autistic children and a mother with dementia. She is looking for advice about how to take care of herself without abandoning her family. I provide a variety of ideas for resources that would allow her to have more help and freedom. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode360