Where does your kids' temperament come from, how strict should you be & is it okay to be a 'good enough' parent? Honestly, the last few months have truly humbled me - being a parent is HARD and with so much advice out there, it’s VERY tricky to know what’s best for your children. So what IS good for your kids? Luckily, Dr Norman Swan has done the work for us - from birth to ten years old in his new book So You Want To Know What’s Good For Your Kids. If you’re an Aussie, you’ll know his name - he trained in pediatrics and he’s also a dad, so he knows the struggle!! We talk through some of the biggest takeaways - everything from where our kids' temperament comes from, how to strike the right balance when it comes to discipline and what it means to be a ‘good enough parent’. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. BOOKS So You Want To Know What's Good For Your Kids TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Challenges of Parenting 05:15 Learning Your Baby and Parenting for Life 08:10 Crying Babies and the Evidence Behind It 10:32 The Importance of Pregnancy and Breastfeeding 15:31 Breastfeeding and Introducing Solid Foods 19:09 Introducing Solids and Allergies in Children 23:34 Understanding Your Child's Temperament 27:29 The Canvas of Genes and Environment 29:18 The Importance of Consistency and Setting Expectations 34:09 The Concept of 'Good Enough' Parenting 38:01 The Impact of Parental Match Fitness 40:08 Cleaning the House and Order in Parenting 43:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts  

Aging can be a fairly daunting experience & when the topic comes to mind most of us try to move on  and clear it from our thoughts as quickly as possible. But award-winning journalist Melissa Doyle is urging us to take an active role in aging to push back against ageism and make the experience healthier and more connected for us all. In this conversation Mel shares her aging toolkit & the lessons she’s learnt from the experts on how to normalize aging and embrace some of our most challenging and transformative years. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Mel on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. BOOKS How To Age Against The Machine

So often we prioritize romantic relationships above all others - whether it’s searching for a ‘soul mate’, choosing who we spend our time with or who takes priority in our lives…But according to Rhaina Cohen, the idea that a romantic partner is the only kind of relationship that can fulfill our emotional needs and bring meaning to our life is an incorrect one.  Rhaina is an award winning producer and editor for NPR and she’s the Author of The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Rhaina on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. BOOKS The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:00 - The relationship that made Rhaina re-think friendship 00:02:28 - The similarities between falling in love 00:03:46 - The hierarchy of relationships 00:07:00 - Why the phrase ‘just friends’ is BS 00:09:23 - What defines a relationship when sex doesn’t 00:10:10 - What we’re missing out on by not prioritising friendship 00:12:50 - The lessons romantic relationships & friendships can take from each other 00:14:54 - The scripts of relationships 00:17:17 - How to make deep friendships 00:20:10 - Other people’s reactions to close friendships 00:22:00 - Friendship break-ups 00:24:42 - How to nurture friendships to deepen them 00:27:00 - Reimaging friendship can help reinvent your life 00:29:57 - Dealing jealousy over close friendships 00:32:49 - Marriage is not a monopoly on closeness  

When it comes to role models, toddlers may not be the first people you think of. Their reputation for tantrums, impulsivity, distractedness and general chaos doesn’t put them at the top of most people’s list. But Hasan Merali says you’re wrong. He’s a pediatric emergency doctor and the author of Sleep Well, Take Risks, Squish The Peas: Secrets from the Science of Toddlers for a Happier and More Successful Way of Life. In this episode, he shares some of toddler's ultimate life hacks that could help everything from your work, to your relationship with food and even sleep! Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Hasan on Twitter & via his website. BOOKS Sleep Well, Take Risks, Squish the Peas TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:10 - Why are toddlers great role models? 00:03:00 - The masters of learning and building relationships 00:04:05 - Why toddlers’ poor reputation is unfounded 00:05:14 - Why toddlers’ brains are different to adults 00:07:15 - Lessons in laughter 00:09:19 - Finding joy 00:10:47 - Being kind 00:13:08 - Asking questions 00:16:06 - Setting boundaries 00:19:30 - Talking to yourself in the third person 00:23:10 - Toddlers are the ultimate intuitive eaters 00:26:51 - The sleep routine  

Back in 2015, journalist Gemma Hartley wrote an article for Harper’s Bazaar that went viral. The article was about emotional labor & it really hit home for so many people - in fact 2 BILLION people read it. It led to Gemma writing a book on the topic & coming up with some real solutions to this incredibly familiar experience. Gemma is the author of Fed Up; Navigating & Redefining Emotional Labour For Good. CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Gemma on Instagram⁠ & via her website. BOOKS Fed Up; Navigating & Redefining Emotional Labour For Good. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:00:55 - The Mother’s Day that led Gemma to write the book 00:03:30 - What is emotional labor? 00:06:35 - Society assumes women are the default parent  00:08:00 - The mindset of ‘helping out’  00:10:40 - What happened when Gemma’s husband became the full time at home parent 00:12:30 - The response to ‘stop being such a control freak’ 00:15:00 - Setting shared standards 00:19:00 - Emotional labor for men in the dating period 00:21:12 - Why Gemma no longer asks for ‘help’ at home 00:25:11 - How to explain the problem without it becoming a fight 00:30:18 - Why taking on the emotional labor can make partners’ lives richer 00:33:15 - Having the expectation that this is going to require more than a single conversation 00:36:16 - Taking on the emotional labor of addressing emotional labor (!!) 00:40:30 - It’s okay to leave if someone isn’t meeting you where you are  

Often we see so many traits & behaviors as directly tied to our morality - including those around how we look, feel, think and act. But journalist & author Rebecca Seal says many of the things we’ve been told are bad are actually just as useful as the good. Her latest book is called Be Bad, Better: How Not Trying So Hard Will Set You Free. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com You can also find the video version of the podcast on Youtube here. CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Bex on Instagram & via ⁠her website. BOOKS Be Bad, Better: How Not Trying So Hard Will Set You Free ARTICLES Rebecca’s original article for The Guardian PODCASTS Unlearning Shame with Dr Devon PriceHow to Work Solo without Losing Your Mind TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:24 - Rebecca’s own experience with perfectionism 00:11:39 - Why not trying so hard is empowering 00:18:00 - Why certain behaviors are tied to morality 00:27:10 - Embracing laziness 00:33:30 - Mindlessness over mindfulness 00:37:48 - Getting comfortable with negative emotions 00:48:00 - Accepting being human 00:50:50 - Where did these thoughts come from in the first place? 00:52:20 - Manufactured insecurity

Grief is one of those things that many of us still have no idea how to talk about. Whether we’ve lost someone or know someone who has lost someone it can be very uncomfortable to know what to share, when & even how to just broach the subject. This struggle is one Cariad Lloyd knows well. After losing her dad at 15, she says she only really started to understand her grief when she was 34 and pregnant and decided to start her award winning podcast Griefcast. Running since 2016, the podcast has helped a whole host of people to process & verbalize their grief & Cariad’s book encompasses some of those lessons. Cariad is a comedian & author of You Are Not Alone. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Cariad on Instagram⁠ & via her website. BOOKS You Are Not Alone PODCASTS Griefcast The Grief Gang Good Mourning TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:30 - What is the grief club? 00:02:30 - Why did Cariad start Griefcast in 2016? 00:06:00 - What enabled Cariad to start to grieve? 00:08:30 - Myths about grief 00:10:30 - Victorian time limits on grief 00:12:24 - What is grief?  00:14:20 - The physical sensations of grief 00:16:20 - How processing grief changed Cariad 00:18:19 - Grief never goes away & that’s okay 00:24:09 -  Why the 5 stages of grief are complete BS 00:30:30 - Dual process theory 00:34:00 - Why we should all be talking about death more 00:38:00 - What to say & do for someone who’s grieving 00:44:05 - The best thing to do / say if an acquaintance loses someone  

We all know how essential a good night’s sleep can be for our health, but whilst we might be prioritising our bedtime routine, our partner’s night time habits may be the thing that’s costing us a perfect night’s sleep. Whether they’re a champion snorer, elite level fidgeter or they just have a completely different sleep schedule to you - it doesn’t take much to affect our eight hours. So what can we do about it? How can we sleep better as a couple & is it time for a sleep divorce? Dr Wendy Troxel, is licenced clinical psychologist specially trained in sleep medicine & a senior behavioural scientist at the RAND Corporation think tank and the author of Sharing the Covers: Every Couple’s Guide to Better Sleep. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Wendy on Instagram & via ⁠her website. BOOKS Sharing the Covers: Every Couple’s Guide to Better Sleep TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 Intro 00:01:11 Why this is Wendy’s area of expertise 00:02:17 What does the research say about sleeping together or separately? 00:04:30 How men & women sleep differently 00:07:45 The benefits of sharing a bed 00:10:35 How we’ve slept throughout history 00:12:53 How important sleep is to our relationship 00:14:30 When to re-evaluate sleeping in the same bed 00:18:30 How to start experimenting with sleep as a couple 00:23:40 The stigma against night owls 00:27:28 Why we should see sleep as a social behaviour 00:31:51 Sleep as a public health issue 00:32:48 How to manage pets & kids in the bed 00:38:00 The one thing to take away 00:39:39 Sleep & morality

If you’re anything like me, ageing is probably something you try not to think about. But it doesn’t have to be this way - we can embrace ageing, help to combat ageism & make the most of all the brilliant things that come with it, without denying of course that it’s not all wonderful. So how do we do it? Well, lucky for you, my guest today is an expert in this.  Anne Karpf is a writer, sociologist, Professor of Life Writing and Culture at London Metropolitan University and the author of How to Age. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Anne on Twitter & via ⁠her website. BOOKS How to Age

A good skincare routine can be a truly fantastic thing, but with SO many products on the market making wild claims, it is incredibly hard to know where you should be focussing your time, not to mention your money. Fear not though, Dr Michelle Wong is here to help - you might know here as Lab Muffin Beauty Science on social media where she’s been debunking the beauty industry since 2011. She’s a cosmetic chemist & her latest book is called the Science of Beauty - we’re going to work through some of the beauty myths & get you what you really need to know about the products you use everyday and what actually works. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Michelle on Instagram & via ⁠her website. BOOKS The Science of Beauty TIMESTAMPS00:00:00 Intro 00:01:20 How Michelle started researching the chemistry of beauty 00:03:55 Does more expensive mean more effective? 00:05:45 Can we trust the research that brands quote about products? 00:07:30 How can we tell if a product is working? 00:10:30 How to choose a good cleanser 00:13:00 Should you use a cloth or tool with the cleanser? 00:14:20 How to choose a moisturizer 00:17:52 What to look for in a sunscreen & how often to apply 00:22:45 How to use spray sunscreen 00:23:30 If your makeup has sunscreen included, do you need to apply sunscreen? 00:24:37 Other things to do to protect your skin from the sun  00:27:00 How important is sleep to our skin? 00:28:30 Do skin supplements work? 00:31:10 How to fade a scar 00:32:30 Dealing with stretch marks 00:33:55 Michelle’s top 3 products 00:35:50 Sleeping to avoid wrinkles 00:38:15 Michelle’s top 3 active ingredients 00:40:00 Michelle’s top 3 tips