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What does recovery actually look like years later? Do bad body image days ever completely disappear? In this vulnerable episode, Lindsey pulls back the curtain on her life after eating disorder recovery and shares exactly what she does when difficult body image moments show up - because yes, they still do sometimes. If you've ever wondered what to expect from recovery or you're struggling with perfectionism around your healing journey, this episode will give you hope and practical tools you can use today. Today's Truth: Recovery doesn't mean perfection - it means having the tools to navigate difficult moments with love instead of war. Key Topics Covered: 🌟 The reality check: Do bad body image days ever completely stop? 🌟 Why having difficult moments doesn't mean you're "not recovered enough" 🌟 The difference between struggling in active eating disorder vs. recovery 🌟 8 practical tools for navigating bad body image days 🌟 How thoughts about your body directly impact how you feel in your body Lindsey's 8-Step Bad Body Image Day Toolkit: ✨ Give Yourself Grace Upon Grace Permission to feel without judgment Talk to yourself like your best friend Remember: recovery isn't about never struggling ✨ Throw on Comfy, Baggy Clothes Remove physical discomfort that amplifies emotional discomfort Focus on how you feel, not how clothes fit This isn't hiding - it's self-care ✨ Get to the Root: What Am I Trying to Control? Ask: "What's really going on here?" Often body image struggles are about something else entirely Address the actual issue, not just the symptom ✨ Resist Mirror-Checking Temptation Avoid body-checking and analyzing Body-checking always makes things worse Redirect energy toward things that serve you ✨ Honor Yourself with Mindful Eating Eat normally despite difficult feelings Choose nourishing foods that taste good Don't punish your body for emotional discomfort ✨ Notice Exercise Compulsions and Pause Ask: "Am I moving from love or punishment?" Choose gentle movement over intense workouts It's okay to rest when you're struggling ✨ No Social Media Scrolling Stay off platforms that trigger comparison Protect your mental space fiercely Choose books, friends, or creative activities instead ✨ Ask "How Do I Want to Feel?" Shift from "How do I look?" to "How do I want to feel?" Focus on strength, comfort, connection, gratitude Research shows this actually changes body image in real-time Key Takeaways: 💝 Recovery isn't about never struggling - it's about struggling with love instead of war 💝 Bad days don't mean bad weeks or months - you have tools now 💝 Your humanity doesn't disqualify your recovery - difficult moments are normal 💝 Progress over perfection, always - you're exactly where you need to be 💝 You can do hard things - including sitting with uncomfortable feelings Research Highlight: Studies show that when we focus on how we want to feel in our bodies rather than how we think we look, it directly impacts our actual body image experience. Our thoughts about our bodies influence how we experience being in our bodies - which means we have more power than we realize! Ready for Community Support? Join The Recovery Collective! Finally, a recovery community that gets it. If this episode resonated with you, you're exactly who The Recovery Collective was created for. This is where women in all phases of eating disorder recovery come together every other week to normalize the messy parts of healing, celebrate victories, and support each other with practical tools and genuine understanding. What You Get: Bi-weekly 60-minute group coaching calls via Zoom Safe, judgment-free space with 10-15 women maximum Real-time support for your current recovery challenges Community of women who understand what it's like to navigate recovery in real life Coaching insights that help you move forward with practical strategies Special Founding Member Pricing: First 10 members: $47/month for 6 months (over 50% off!) Regular membership: $97/month Less than $1.50/day for bi-weekly coaching and community support Imagine having a safe space where you could share that you're having a difficult body image day and receive understanding, practical support, and gentle reminders of your worth instead of judgment. Recovery is possible right now, and it's so much more beautiful when we do it together. Ready to sign up? www.herbestself.co/recoverycollective  Ready for Support? 📧 Email Lindsey: info@lindseynichol.com  🌐 Apply for Recovery Coaching: www.herbestself.co  💕 Join the Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com  Limited spots available for fall coaching - only 2 slots remaining Connect with Lindsey: 🌟 Website: www.herbestself.co 🌟 Instagram: @thelindseynichol 🌟 Client Application: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms Love this episode? Here's how you can support the show: 💕 Share it with a woman who might need to hear this message 💕 Leave a review on Apple Podcasts - it helps other women find the show 💕 Screenshot and tag @thelindseynichol if any of these steps help you this week! Remember, beautiful: Your worth is not measured by how perfectly you do recovery. Healing isn't linear, progress over perfection always, and you are exactly where you need to be right now. Her Best Self with Lindsey Nichol is a podcast for women in eating disorder recovery who are ready to break free from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and diet culture to live authentically and wholeheartedly. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.  

Are you tired of self-help books that sound good but don't create real change in your recovery journey? In this episode, Lindsey shares 7 current book recommendations that she's actively using with clients and in her own healing - books that will meet you right where you are and support your next brave step toward freedom. Whether you're just beginning to question your relationship with food and your body, or you're years into recovery and ready for that next level of freedom, there's something here for you. Today's Truth: You deserve resources that support your healing, and recovery is possible right now....but sometimes you just need an extra boost of belief! Books Featured in This Episode: 📚 "Feed Yourself" by Leslie Schilling Perfect for healing your relationship with food from the inside out Teaches intuitive eating and food freedom beyond diet culture 📚 "You're Not Enough (And That's Okay)" by Allie Stuckey Challenges toxic positivity and "be your own everything" mentality Offers permission to need support in your recovery journey 📚 "Goodbye Perfect" by Homaira Kabir Essential reading for recovering people-pleasers and perfectionists Subtitle: "How to Stop Pleasing, Proving, and Pushing for Others and Live for Yourself" 📚 "Already Enough: A Path to Self-Acceptance" by Lisa Olivera Medicine for anyone struggling with self-worth in recovery Focuses on genuine self-acceptance, not fake confidence 📚 "Don't Believe Everything You Think" by Joseph Nguyen Game-changer for dealing with loud eating disorder thoughts Teaches you that you are not your thoughts and don't have to believe them all 📚 "A Crown That Lasts: You Are Not Your Label" by Demi Tebow Powerful reminder that you are more than your eating disorder or diagnosis Perfect for finding identity beyond your struggles 📚 "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brené Brown Life-changing research on shame, vulnerability, and wholehearted living Essential for anyone who's used perfectionism as armor Key Takeaways: ✨ Recovery is possible right now - You don't have to wait until you're "ready enough" ✨ You are not your eating disorder - Your thoughts and diagnosis don't define your worth ✨ Progress over perfection - Healing isn't linear, and that's completely normal ✨ You can do hard things - And you don't have to do them alone ✨ Your journey is unique - What works for others might look different for you, and that's okay Exciting News: The Recovery Collective is Launching October 2025! Finally, a recovery community that gets it. The Recovery Collective is where women in all phases of eating disorder recovery come together bi-weekly to share wins, navigate challenges, and build lasting freedom in a safe, supportive community. What You Get: Bi-weekly 60-minute group coaching calls via Zoom Safe, judgment-free space with 10-15 women maximum Real-time support for your current recovery challenges Optional check-in prompts and VIP offers Coaching insights that help you move forward, not backward Special Founding Member Pricing: First 10 members: $47/month (over 50% off!) Regular membership: $97/month Less than $1.50/day for bi-weekly coaching and community support Recovery isn't a destination - it's a journey best taken together. www.herbestself.co/recoverycollective Connect with Lindsey: 🌟 Website: www.herbestself.co 🌟 Instagram: @thelindseynichol 🌟 Client Application: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms Love this episode? Here's how you can support the show: 💕 Share it with a woman who might need to hear this message 💕 Leave a review on Apple Podcasts - it helps other women find the show 💕 Screenshot and tag @thelindseynichol if you're reading any of these books! Remember, beautiful: Your worth is not measured by how perfectly you do recovery. Healing isn't linear, progress over perfection always, and you are exactly where you need to be right now. Her Best Self with Lindsey Nichol is a podcast for women in eating disorder recovery who are ready to break free from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and diet culture to live authentically and wholeheartedly. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Core beliefs are the fundamental, deeply held beliefs we develop in early childhood that shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world around us. In this eye-opening episode, Lindsey breaks down how eating disorders stem from and reinforce negative core beliefs that can take years to heal from. Learn about the three types of core beliefs that are secretly feeding your disordered eating patterns and discover how to identify and transform these beliefs to break free from the cycle keeping you stuck. Key Takeaways Core beliefs are fundamental truths you've made into idols that need to be challenged Eating disorders stem from and reinforce negative core beliefs developed in childhood There are 3 types of core beliefs: how you see yourself, others, and the world You are becoming someone you've never been before - be patient with that process "You either quit or keep going - they both hurt. Choose your hurt wisely." The 3 Types of Core Beliefs Type 1: How You See Yourself What It Includes: Self-worth and personal value Self-competence, skills, and abilities Self-identity - who you are at your core Beliefs shaped by caretakers, feedback, and criticisms over your lifetime How It Feeds EDs: "I'm not good enough" leads to perfectionism, restriction, and rigidity False identity created by the eating disorder becomes your truth Tying worth and value to performance instead of inherent value How to Change It: Build self-compassion through recovery inspiration Embrace your identity as "daughter of the most high, warrior, queen" Recognize the voice in your head is a false narrative Understand you don't have to earn, restrict, or compensate for nourishment Type 2: How You View Other People What It Includes: Trustworthiness and reliability of others Beliefs about goodwill and kindness in people Prejudices and stereotypes Safety mechanisms developed from rejection or inconsistent caregiving How It Feeds EDs: "If I can just be perfect, I'll have less rejection" Using food and exercise to control how others perceive you "If I gain weight, will my husband/boyfriend still want me?" How to Change It: Stop comparing yourself to other people Understand most people don't actually care about your recovery journey Set boundaries with people who aren't in your corner Accept support from those who truly want what's best for you Type 3: Your Perception of the World What It Includes: Beliefs about safety vs. danger in your environment Abundance vs. scarcity mindset Beliefs about available resources and opportunities Level of control you have over your life and world events How It Feeds EDs: "The world is unsafe, so I must perform to prove my value" Searching for control and stability through food/body management Fear-based restriction during uncertain times How to Change It: Challenge wellness culture and societal body image messages Create personal meaning and purpose beyond the disorder "Stay away from processed bodies rather than processed foods" How Core Beliefs Create ED Cycles The Connection: Core beliefs affect your motivations, goals, life choices, and desires for freedom Negative self-perception breeds perfectionism and restriction Fear of others' judgment results in using food and exercise for control Worldview of unsafety heightens need to prove value through performance Powerful Quotes from This Episode "You are becoming someone you've never met before - and that's what I want you to take with you today." "What other people think of you is not your business." "No one truly cares what you are doing in your recovery outside of those closest to you." "You either quit or you get to keep going, and they both hurt. Choose your hurt wisely." "We have to stop living and breeding a culture where our daughters feel wrong for being in their own body." The Core Belief Transformation Process Step 1: Identification Recognize which of the 3 types of core beliefs are impacting your ED Identify the "fundamental truths" you've made into idols Understand these beliefs reinforce unhealthy coping mechanisms Step 2: Challenge Question beliefs about yourself, others, and the world Recognize many beliefs aren't even yours - they were inherited Challenge wellness culture and societal messages Step 3: Rebuild Build self-compassion and embrace your true identity Set boundaries and stop caring about bystanders' opinions Create meaning and purpose beyond the disorder Warning Signs Your Core Beliefs Are Feeding Your ED Tying your worth to your performance or appearance Believing you must be perfect to avoid rejection Using food/exercise to control how others see you Feeling unsafe in the world and needing control through restriction Believing you're "not good enough" or "unlovable" The Recovery Mindset Shifts From: "I'm not good enough" To: "I am a warrior becoming someone I've never been before" From: "I must be perfect to be loved" To: "I am worthy of love exactly as I am" From: "The world is unsafe" To: "I can create meaning and purpose beyond my fears" Journal Prompts for Core Belief Work "What beliefs about myself are keeping me stuck in ED patterns?" "How much influence am I allowing others to have in my recovery?" "What worldview am I holding that makes me feel unsafe?" "Which core beliefs are reinforcing my unhealthy coping mechanisms?" The Call to Action Be the Change: Challenge societal messages about body image and success Stand up for your truth "Stay away from processed bodies rather than processed foods" Stop creating negative cycles for future generations Signs You're Ready to Transform Core Beliefs You recognize these beliefs are "idols" you've created You're tired of caring what everyone else thinks You want to break generational cycles You're ready to become someone you've never been before You understand recovery requires belief transformation, not just behavior change Ready to Break the Chains of Limiting Core Beliefs? If you're ready for personalized support in transforming the core beliefs keeping you stuck, Lindsey has one slot available for personal coaching, plus amazing support coaches on her team. Fill out a client application at herbestself.co and get the help you need to see yourself, others, and the world differently. Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co  Private Facebook Community: Her Best Self Society www.herbestselfsociety.com  Client Applications: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She understands how core beliefs formed in childhood can create and maintain eating disorder patterns, and she's passionate about helping women identify and transform these beliefs to find lasting freedom. If this episode helped you identify the core beliefs feeding your eating disorder, please share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Your support helps more women break the chains of limiting beliefs. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

What if the fear you feel about getting help for your eating disorder isn't a warning to stay away - but actually your internal compass pointing toward freedom? In this powerful episode, Lindsey shares wisdom from her 7-year-old son who said, "When I feel those flutters in my tummy, I just know I'm about to do something really brave." If you're feeling afraid to ask for help, scared to gain weight, or terrified of actually getting better, this tough-love episode will show you why those butterflies are your invitation to do the bravest thing you've ever done. Key Takeaways Fear isn't a stop sign - it's a compass pointing toward your breakthrough If you could recover on your own, you already would have Those flutters aren't warning you away from help - they're pointing you toward it You don't feel brave first and then act brave - you act brave while feeling scared Ready is a feeling that comes AFTER you take action, not before Main Topics Covered The 7-Year-Old's Wisdom Lindsey's son facing his first day of second grade without his big brother "When I feel those flutters in my tummy, I just know I'm about to do something really brave" How children understand fear differently than adults Kids feel scared and do the thing anyway - adults build cases for why they should wait The Real Fears Keeping You Prisoner Fear of asking for help (admitting you can't do this alone) Fear of gaining weight (worth tied to a number on the scale) Fear of actually getting better (losing your eating disorder identity) Fear of investing in yourself (what if you spend money and don't change?) The Lie You've Been Believing About Fear If something feels scary, it must be wrong for you Heart racing when thinking about help = "not the right time" Anxiety about meal plans = "body not ready" Terror about recovery = "maybe not meant for me" Truth: Fear means it matters, it's important, you're about to grow Why Recovery Feels More Terrifying Than Staying Sick The "Safety" Illusion: Staying sick feels familiar = brain labels as "safe" Recovery feels unknown = brain labels as "dangerous" Reality Check - How "Safe" Is: Spending every moment thinking about food Missing life because you're afraid of restaurants Measuring worth by what you ate yesterday Living in constant body anxiety Isolating because eating around others feels impossible What Bravery Looks Like in Recovery Admitting you need help when you want to prove independence Following someone's guidance who has been there and recovered  when ED voice screams it's too much Gaining weight when diet culture says smaller is better Investing money in recovery when you've never felt worth it Showing up to therapy and being honest instead of pretending you're fine The Wisdom Gap: Children vs. Adults Children: Feel scared → Do the thing anyway Adults: Feel scared → Analyze, overthink, research, wait Adult Excuses: "I'm not ready yet" "I need to think about this more" "I should try on my own one more time" "What if it doesn't work?" "I can't afford it right now" Fear as Your GPS System Sick feeling about calling a coach = "This way to freedom" Anxiety about meals = "This way to healing" Terror about recovering = compass pointing toward the life you've been dreaming about Powerful Quotes from This Episode "Fear isn't a stop sign. Fear is a compass pointing you toward your breakthrough." "If you could recover on your own, you already would have." "Fear doesn't mean it's wrong. Fear means it matters." "Those flutters aren't telling you to run from recovery - they're telling you you're about to do something incredibly brave." "You don't feel brave first and then do brave things. You do brave things while feeling scared." The Cost of Playing It Safe Questions to Consider: How's playing it safe working out for you? How's trying to manage this ED on your own been going? How's waiting until you feel "ready" been serving your recovery? The Reality: Everything you're afraid of losing by being brave, you'll replace with something infinitely better Playing it safe = staying in a familiar prison Taking action despite fear = walking toward freedom What Going All In Actually Means Not perfection, but: Being willing to be imperfect in the direction of healing Reaching out for professional help despite vulnerability Following meal plans despite ED resistance Gaining weight despite diet culture programming Investing in yourself despite never feeling worth it Showing up to therapy even when you want to cancel The Decision Point Two Choices: Let fear drive your bus (stay stuck in eating disorder) Feel the fear and drive anyway (choose recovery despite butterflies) The Truth: Butterflies aren't telling you to turn around They're telling you you're at the edge of your comfort zone All growth happens outside your comfort zone Signs This Episode Is For You You feel afraid to ask for help with your eating disorder You're waiting to feel "ready" before taking action You've been trying to recover on your own without success The thought of gaining weight terrifies you You're tired of living with constant food and body thoughts You keep making excuses for why "now isn't the right time" The Son's Success Story Parallel Felt nervous about first day without big brother Could have played it safe (stayed home) Chose to feel the butterflies and walk into brave Result: Made three new friends, came home with huge smile Everything he feared losing, he actually gained This Week's Challenge Stop waiting to feel ready. Ready comes AFTER action, not before. Notice when you feel butterflies about recovery Recognize this as your compass pointing toward growth Take one brave action despite the fear Apply for help at herbestself.co while feeling scared Ready to Feel the Fear and Apply Anyway? Those butterflies you feel about getting help aren't your intuition telling you to wait - they're your soul telling you you're about to change your entire life. Stop analyzing your fear and start acting despite it. Go to www.herbestself.co right now and apply to work with Lindsey. Feel the fear. Apply anyway. Your freedom is waiting. Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co  Private Facebook Community: Her Best Self Society www.herbestselfsociety.com  Client Applications: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She believes the butterflies you feel about recovery aren't warning you away from help - they're pointing you directly toward your freedom. If this episode gave you the push to finally take action, share it with someone who needs to hear that fear is their compass, not their enemy. Your support helps more women discover their brave.

"I'm fine." "I don't have a problem." "Everyone else is overreacting." Sound familiar? If people around you are expressing concern about your relationship with food but you genuinely feel okay, this episode is essential listening. Recovery coach Lindsey Nichol gets raw about the difference between denial and anosognosia—and why your malnourished brain might literally be unable to recognize the problem. She shares her own story of feeling "on top of the world" while struggling with anorexia, and introduces one powerful question that can break through the fog of eating disorder denial. This episode is for you if: Others say you have a problem but you feel fine You're questioning whether you're "sick enough" You feel like you just have more willpower than others You're confused about whether your eating patterns are normal You've been told you need help but don't understand why What You'll Discover ✨ The difference between denial and anosognosia (and why it matters for your recovery) ✨ Why malnourishment literally impairs your ability to recognize disordered eating patterns ✨ Lindsey's personal story: How she felt superior and in control while her body was failing ✨ The science behind eating disorder awareness and brain function ✨ One crucial question that can shatter the illusion and start your healing journey ✨ How to tell if your eating patterns are actually normal or adopted behaviors Understanding Eating Disorder Denial Anosognosia vs. Denial Anosognosia: "Without knowledge" - physiological brain damage that creates complete unawareness of the problem. You literally cannot perceive your disordered behaviors. Denial: Knowing you have a problem but refusing to address it. Using defense mechanisms to avoid facing the truth. Signs Your Brain Might Be Lying to You Feeling "on top of the world" while restricting food Superiority complex about your "willpower" Believing everyone else is jealous or crazy Wearing restrictive eating like a "badge of honor" Feeling energized despite severe calorie restriction Complete confusion when others express concern Lindsey's Personal Story "When I was struggling with anorexia, I felt like I was on top of the world. I had this superiority complex, like everyone else was just jealous that they didn't have the willpower that I had. The more I restricted, the more satisfaction I achieved and the more in control I felt." The One Question That Changes Everything "How are you? No, but how are you REALLY?" Why This Question Works Challenges automatic "I'm fine" responses Forces honest self-assessment Breaks through subconscious denial Reveals underlying unsureness and hesitancy How to Use This Question Sit with yourself honestly - don't give the surface-level answer Challenge your patterns - are these behaviors you've always had or recently adopted? Listen to trusted voices - if people you love are concerned, investigate why Assess your daily reality - survival mode isn't the same as thriving Red Flags to Consider 🚩 Constantly telling yourself you don't need to eat 🚩 Never feeling hungry (when you used to) 🚩 Bargaining and finding ways to restrict 🚩 Terror of weight gain controlling decisions 🚩 Rigid food rules that feel like "identity" 🚩 Behaviors that started as dieting but intensified Powerful Moments from This Episode "That voice is not you. With a healthy brain, you can assume positive intent from your internal voice. When you have a malnourished brain, it's important to challenge your mind with every tiny little thing." "You can't change something you can't name. You can't change patterns and behaviors that you can't accept are patterns and behaviors." "You are not a failure for getting help and support. The only way you fail is if you quit." Your Next Steps If You Recognize Yourself in This Episode: Answer the question honestly: How are you really? Look at your patterns: Are these normal behaviors or adopted restrictions? Listen to loved ones: If trusted people are concerned, investigate their perspective Seek professional support: You don't have to figure this out alone Ready for Support? 📧 Email Lindsey: info@lindseynichol.com  🌐 Apply for Recovery Coaching: www.herbestself.co  💕 Join the Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com  Limited spots available for fall coaching - only 2 slots remaining Key Takeaways 💡 Malnourishment literally impairs your ability to recognize eating disorder symptoms 💡 "I'm fine" often masks underlying confusion and unsureness 💡 Eating disorders progress gradually - you didn't wake up sick overnight 💡 Trusted voices matter - if loved ones are concerned, listen 💡 Awareness is the first step - you can't change what you won't acknowledge If this episode helped you recognize patterns you hadn't seen before, please leave a 5-star rating and review. Your support helps more women break through denial and find the help they deserve.

Feeling stuck in the "waiting room" of recovery? You're not alone. If you've been telling yourself you'll start living your life "when you're better," this episode is for you. Recovery coach Lindsey Nichol gets real about why your eating disorder wants you to wait—and why you don't have to. In this intimate 10-minute conversation, she shares three concrete steps you can take today to start pursuing your dreams, even in the messy middle of healing your relationship with food. This episode is for you if: You've put dreams on hold until you're "recovered enough" Recovery feels like two steps forward, four steps back You're tired of life passing you by while you struggle in secret You need hope that recovery is possible, even when it feels impossible What You'll Discover ✨ Why waiting for "perfect recovery" is just another way your eating disorder controls your life ✨ The mindset shift from "waiting to recover" to "living your recovery" ✨ Real client story: How one woman realized she was using recovery as an excuse to stay small ✨ 3 immediate steps you can take today to start making life happen instead of waiting for it ✨ Permission to pursue your purpose even when healing isn't linear The 3 Steps to Start Living While Healing Step 1: Name One Dream You've Put on Hold Get honest about one thing you've been telling yourself you'll do "when you're better." Don't judge it—just name it. Step 2: Take the Smallest Possible Step Not the perfect step, not the biggest step—the smallest step. The eating disorder wants all-or-nothing; recovery is built on tiny, consistent actions. Step 3: Remind Yourself: "I Am Living My Recovery" Shift from waiting to live until recovery is complete to understanding that living IS part of your recovery. Powerful Moments from This Episode "Your eating disorder wants you to wait. It wants you to believe that you need to be 'fixed' before you're worthy of pursuing your dreams." "Life doesn't pause while you figure out your relationship with food. Your dreams don't go on hold. Your purpose doesn't wait." "You don't have to wait until those hard days are gone to start living. You don't have to have it all figured out to take up space in this world." "Your eating disorder is not your whole story. It's not even the most interesting part of your story." Client Spotlight Hear from one of Lindsey's current clients who had a breakthrough realization: "I keep thinking I need to wait until I'm 'recovered enough' to apply for that role, to book that trip with my friends. But I'm realizing that waiting for perfect recovery is just another way the eating disorder is controlling my life." Key Takeaways 💫 Recovery isn't linear—and that's okay. Four steps forward, two steps back is still progress. 💫 Living your life IS part of recovery, not something you do after recovery. 💫 You're allowed to want things, dream, and take up space even in the middle of healing. 💫 Struggling doesn't mean you're doing recovery wrong—it means you're human and doing something brave. 💫 Your life is happening right now, not when you're thinner or "better." Your Reflection Prompt "What is one dream I've put on hold, and what's the smallest step I can take toward it today—not when I'm 'recovered enough,' but right now?" Take Action Today Ready to stop waiting and start living? Here's how to connect: 📧 Email Lindsey: info@lindseynichol.com  🌐 Apply for Recovery Coaching: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms 💕 Get Support: www.herbestself.co & FB: www.herbestselfsociety.com  If this episode gave you hope or helped you take that first small step, please leave a 5-star rating and review. Your support helps more women discover that they don't have to wait for permission to start living. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Struggling with exercise addiction? You're not alone. If you're working out every single day, feeling intense guilt when you miss a session, or using exercise to compensate for food intake, this episode is your roadmap to freedom. Recovery coach Lindsey Nichol, who overcame her own compulsive exercise patterns (working out twice daily at her worst), shares the exact 5-step framework that helped her and countless clients break free from exercise addiction and develop a healthy relationship with movement. This episode is essential if you: Exercise daily without rest days Feel anxiety or panic when you can't work out Alter vacations or skip social events for workouts Restrict food on days you exercise less Use fitness to "earn" your meals Experience guilt when missing planned workouts What You'll Learn About Exercise Addiction Recovery ✅ The Hidden Connection between eating disorders and compulsive exercise patterns ✅ Lindsey's Recovery Story: From cardio queen doing 2-hour daily sessions to finding movement freedom ✅ Real Client Success: How one woman reduced her routine from 7 days/week (1 hour 45 minutes daily) to just 3 days (30 minutes each) ✅ The Science Behind Exercise Addiction and why it's so common in eating disorder recovery ✅ 5 Proven Steps to Overcome Exercise Addiction (detailed action plan included) The 5-Step Framework to Healthy Movement Step 1: Assess Your Current Exercise Routine Document frequency, duration, and intensity Track emotional responses to missed workouts Identify compulsive exercise patterns Recognize anxiety triggers around rest days Step 2: Master the Power of Permission Grant yourself permission to rest Challenge exercise-related guilt Reframe rest as essential for recovery Practice self-compassion during routine changes Step 3: Visualize Your Future Recovered Self Imagine life beyond daily workouts Consider enjoyable movement alternatives Identify non-exercise activities you're missing Question whether current exercise brings joy or obligation Step 4: Set Small, Tangible Goals Start with 5-minute workout reductions Replace one workout with restful activities Schedule rest days in advance Plan alternative self-care activities Step 5: Embrace Progress Over Perfection Expect setbacks as part of recovery Practice self-forgiveness for "slip-ups" Recognize growth in small changes Challenge diet culture messaging about exercise Powerful Recovery Insights "Rest is required in recovery—it's non-negotiable." "We don't even realize we're doing this to our body because we get so trapped in the cycle." "I didn't start working out two times a day overnight. It was the disorder that came on over time." "If you're listening to me and you're on the treadmill, get off of it." Client Transformation Spotlight Hear from Sabina, Lindsey's client who worked together for over a year to overcome people-pleasing, perfectionism, and exercise compulsion. Her powerful testimony demonstrates that recovery from exercise addiction is possible with proper support and guidance. Sabina's words: "Lindsey gave me feedback on how to reframe with positive intent rather than staying stuck in negativity... Since working with Lindsey, a new concept of myself is emerging, one free from deprivation and restraint." Exercise Addiction Warning Signs Physical Signs: Working out despite injury or illness Exercising multiple times daily Inability to take rest days Fatigue from overtraining Emotional Signs: Anxiety when missing workouts Guilt after rest days Exercise-based self-worth Social isolation for workout time Behavioral Signs: Rigid exercise schedules Compensatory exercise after eating Vacation planning around gym access Prioritizing workouts over relationships Recovery Resources & Next Steps Ready to Break Free from Exercise Addiction? 📧 Email Lindsey: info@lindseynichol.com  🌐 Apply for Recovery Coaching: www.herbestself.co  👥 Join the Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com  Your Permission Slip for Today: Choose one workout to skip this week. Use that time for: Coffee with a friend Journaling or meditation Reading a book Simply resting without guilt   Key Takeaways for Exercise Addiction Recovery Exercise addiction is common in eating disorder recovery due to learned restriction patterns Cold turkey approach may be necessary for some individuals Gradual reduction works for others - find your approach Rest days are essential for physical and mental recovery Professional support accelerates the healing process If this episode expanded your vision of what's possible, please share it with someone who needs to make peace with exercise. Your support helps more women discover the abundant life waiting beyond their eating disorder. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Tired of being held hostage by thoughts like "When can I eat next?" or "I need to work this off"? In this game-changing episode, Lindsey introduces her signature Triple Threat Tool that stops ED thoughts from spiraling and puts YOU back in control of your mind. Learn the exact 3-step framework to go from being controlled by eating disorder thoughts to being completely in control of your recovery. Key Takeaways You can't fight what you don't acknowledge, and you can't change what you don't challenge Your ED thoughts aren't actually YOUR thoughts - they're learned responses The Triple Threat Tool threatens the lies, the spiral, and the ED's power over your choices You're allowed to have the thought - but you don't have to believe it or act on it Deciding your comeback in advance stops spirals before they start The Triple Threat Tool Breakdown Step 1: NAME IT - Who's Really Talking Here? Purpose: Identify whether this is your ED voice or your authentic voice How to Do It: Give your ED voice an actual name (Restriction Rachel, Control Freak Carla, Body Critic Betty) Separate the ED voice from who you really are Recognize these aren't YOUR thoughts - they're learned responses from diet culture Example: ED Thought: "I shouldn't eat this cookie" Name It: "That's Restriction Rachel trying to control my food choices" Step 2: TAME IT - Take Your Power Back Purpose: Acknowledge the thought without giving it power How to Do It: Refuse to let the ED voice drive the bus Thank the voice but decline to take orders Set boundaries with your ED thoughts like you would with a demanding person Example: Tame It: "Thanks for sharing, Restriction Rachel, but I'm not taking orders from you today" Lindsey's Example: "Rachel, you've been fired. I'm in charge of my nourishment now" Step 3: FRAME IT - Create Your New Truth Purpose: Replace ED lies with recovery-aligned thoughts How to Do It: Create thoughts that feel true and move you toward recovery Not fake positive affirmations - authentic recovery truths Choose thoughts that serve your healing journey Example: Frame It: "My body needs consistent fuel throughout the day, and this cookie is part of my recovery" Real-Life Triple Threat Examples Food Thought Scenario: ED Thought: "I need to work out extra today because I ate something different last night" Name It: "That's Control Freak Carla" Tame It: "Carla, exercise isn't punishment for eating" Frame It: "I move my body because it feels good, not to earn or burn off food" Body Image Scenario: ED Thought: "I look disgusting in this dress" Name It: "That's Body Critic Betty" Tame It: "Betty, your harsh comments aren't welcome here" Frame It: "My body deserves to be treated with respect, and I choose clothes that make me feel comfortable" ED Voice vs. Authentic Voice Guide Your ED Voice: Is harsh, critical, and demanding Uses words like "should," "can't," "need to," "have to" Makes you feel anxious, guilty, or ashamed Wants you to be smaller, eat less, control more Your Authentic Voice: Is kind, curious, and flexible Uses words like "I choose," "I want," "I deserve" Makes you feel peaceful, empowered, or hopeful Wants you to be nourished, rested, and free Common ED Thoughts to Practice With Food Thoughts: "When can I eat next?" "What am I allowed to eat?" "How can I avoid eating?" "I need to work this off" "I shouldn't eat this" Body Image Thoughts: "I look huge in this outfit" "If I eat that, I'll gain weight" "I'm bigger than everyone else" "People are judging my body" "I'm disgusting" Powerful Quotes from This Episode "You can't fight what you don't acknowledge, and you can't change what you don't challenge." "Your eating disorder thoughts aren't actually YOUR thoughts." "You're allowed to have the thought. There's no judgment in having an ED thought pop up." "You are not your thoughts. You are the thinker of your thoughts." "Your ED voice is loud, but your authentic voice is stronger." When to Use the Triple Threat Tool In front of the mirror when body image thoughts attack At meal times when food anxiety kicks in The moment any ED thought enters your mind - don't wait for it to spiral During social eating situations When getting dressed or shopping for clothes Before, during, and after exercise This Week's Homework Give your ED voice a name (make it specific to your struggles) Identify your 3 most common ED thoughts Write out your Triple Threat response for each one Practice your comebacks - decide in advance what you'll say Use the tool immediately when any ED thought pops up Lindsey's Personal Example Situation: Standing in front of closet, choosing what to wear ED Thought: "You can't wear that dress, you look huge, everyone will notice how much weight you've gained" Name It: "That's Gina trying to make me hide my body" Tame It: "Gina, you don't get to dictate my wardrobe choices anymore" Frame It: "I'm choosing clothes that make me feel comfortable and confident in my recovery" Result: Wore the dress, had an amazing day, realized Gina's opinion had nothing to do with reality Signs You Need This Tool Food thoughts consume your mental energy throughout the day You spiral from one negative thought into restriction or shame You feel controlled by thoughts about your body or food You believe every critical thought about yourself You can't distinguish between ED voice and authentic voice What Mastering This Tool Looks Like You catch ED thoughts before they spiral You feel empowered instead of controlled by your mind You can enjoy meals and social situations without mental chatter You respond to body image thoughts with compassion instead of criticism You're present in your life instead of trapped in your head Ready to Master Your Mental Game? If you want to learn how to use the Triple Threat Tool in every situation and build an entire toolkit of weapons against ED thoughts, go to www.herbestself.co and fill out an application to work with Lindsey. Stop trying to figure this out alone. Your ED voice has had you for years - but it doesn't get to have your future. Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co  Private Facebook Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com  Client Applications: www.herbestself.co/services  About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She created the Triple Threat Tool during her own recovery journey and now teaches women how to boss around their ED thoughts instead of being bossed by them. If this tool empowered you, please share it with someone who needs to learn how to control their ED thoughts. Your support helps more women discover they don't have to be held hostage by every thought that pops into their head. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Are you tired of living small? Of missing out on life because your mind is consumed with food thoughts, calorie calculations, and body obsession? In this expansion-focused episode, Lindsey paints a vivid picture of what your life looks like when you stop settling for the crumbs of existence and start feasting on the fullness of freedom. If you've been thinking this eating disorder life is just "how things are" for you, prepare to have your world expanded as Lindsey shows you what abundant recovery actually looks like. Key Takeaways You've been settling for surviving when you were made for thriving When you focus on less, you get more of less; when you focus on more, you get more Sometimes you have to make peace with what is to grab onto what's waiting The abundant life is waiting for you on the other side of food thoughts "So what?" is the question that changes everything about weight gain fears Main Topics Covered 💔 What You've Been Settling For (The Small Life) Saying no to dinner with friends because you can't control the menu Missing conversations because you're calculating calories in your head Choosing the gym over your daughter's soccer game because you "have to" work out Canceling date nights because restaurants feel too scary Living in sweatpants because nothing else feels "safe" Spending vacations obsessing over food instead of making memories ✨ What MORE Looks Like (Lindsey's Personal Examples) More Presence: Actually being THERE at dinner instead of calculating what everyone's eating Laughing at husband's jokes and listening to boys' stories Present in your own life instead of held hostage by food thoughts More Energy: Not exhausted from mental gymnastics of restriction and over-exercise Energy to play with kids and show up fully in business Living FOR something instead of managing against something More Purpose: When your brain isn't consumed 24/7, you discover what you're passionate about Remembering what brings you joy beyond food and body control More Authentic Relationships: Ordering what you actually want at dinner Traveling without packing your entire kitchen Being fully present because you're not monitoring every bite 🧠 The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything From Scarcity to Abundance Thinking: ED Focus: Less food, less calories, less space, less needs Recovery Focus: More nourishment, more rest, more joy, more presence Maya Angelou Quote: "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude." 😰 The Fear That Keeps You Small The Weight Gain Terror + The "So What?" Breakthrough: What are you really afraid of if you gain weight? "So what if you gain weight? So what if people have opinions?" "I'd rather be 20 pounds heavier and present at my son's birthday party than be the 'perfect' weight and miss the joy" "I'd rather wear a size 8 and go on adventures than fit in tiny clothes and live a tiny life" 🚀 Expansion Thoughts for Daily Life 1. Expand Your Food Choices Instead of: "I can only eat these 5 safe foods" Expansion: "I'm exploring what my body actually craves and enjoys" 2. Expand Your Social Life Instead of: "I can't go out to eat because I won't know the calories" Expansion: "I'm choosing connection over control" 3. Expand Your Self-Talk Instead of: "I need to exercise to earn this food" Expansion: "I'm nourishing my body because I deserve to feel good" 4. Expand Your Identity Instead of: "I'm the girl who always orders salad" Expansion: "I'm the woman who chooses what sounds good to her" Powerful Quotes from This Episode "That's not living. That's surviving." "Sometimes we have to make peace with what is so that we can grab onto what's waiting for us." "When we focus on less, we get more of less. When we focus on more, we get more." "So what if you gain weight? I'd rather be 20 pounds heavier and actually present." "Your life - your REAL life - is waiting for you on the other side of these food and body thoughts." Scripture Reference John 10:10: "I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly." - Not restricted, controlled, or conditional life, but ABUNDANT life. The Two Ways Happiness Comes Change your circumstances (choose recovery, expand your life) Change the way you think about your circumstances (reframe fears, focus on abundance) The Three Steps to Start Settling for More Step 1: Notice Where You're Playing Small Catch yourself choosing the eating disorder option over the life option Are you skipping work happy hours? Avoiding family barbecues? Step 2: Ask "What Would More Look Like?" Before automatically choosing restriction, ask: "If I were living in abundance instead of scarcity, what would I choose?" Step 3: Take One Expansion Action Daily Order the sandwich instead of the salad Say yes to the invitation Take the rest day your body is asking for The Vision of Your Future Self One year from now: Your first thought isn't about food or your body You're planning weekend trips excited about adventure, not anxious about restaurants You're fully present for every moment because your mind isn't consumed You're living in abundance instead of scarcity Signs You're Ready for More You're tired of living in the corner of your own life You're exhausted from the mental chatter consuming your days You want to show up fully present for your family and friends You're ready to discover who you are beyond food and body thoughts You want energy for purpose beyond managing your eating disorder What Lindsey's Clients Experience They don't just recover - they fall in love with their lives They discover energy they forgot they had They show up as the women they were always meant to be They expand from small, controlled lives into abundant, joyful presence Action Steps This Week Notice every time you choose the ED option over the life option Ask "What would more look like?" before making food/social decisions Take one expansion action daily (order what sounds good, say yes to plans, rest when needed) Apply to work with Lindsey at herbestself.co to make the shift from settling to expanding Ready to Stop Settling for Less? If everything in your heart is saying "YES, I want more energy, more presence, more LIFE" - go to www.herbestself.co right now and fill out an application to work with Lindsey. You can keep trying to figure this out alone, or you can let Lindsey show you exactly how to expand into the abundant life waiting for you. Your eating disorder wants you to settle for less. But you were made for more. Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co  Private Facebook Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com  Client Applications: www.herbestself.co/services  About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She's lived on both sides of the choice between settling for less and claiming more - and now helps women expand from small, controlled lives into abundant, joyful freedom. If this episode expanded your vision of what's possible, please share it with someone who needs to stop settling for less. Your support helps more women discover the abundant life waiting beyond their eating disorder. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Ready to break the lies that have kept you trapped in disordered eating? In this fire-filled episode, Lindsey delivers one golden nugget that could change everything: it's time to evaluate your agreement. The direction of your life is based on agreements you've made along the way - and if you're still stuck, you're standing in agreement with lies that no longer serve you. Learn how to fall out of agreement with false beliefs and make the most powerful commitment you'll ever make: putting yourself first and choosing recovery. Key Takeaways The direction of your life is based on agreements you've made along the way You must fall out of agreement with lies that keep you trapped No one's coming to save you - this agreement is yours to make The goal of life is living in agreement with who you were made to be You must give yourself permission to succeed instead of searching for evidence of failure Main Topics Covered 🤝 What an Agreement Actually Is Definition: A meeting of the mind, acceptance and action of future commitment The most powerful commitment: putting yourself first A transaction of trust and faith from where you are to where you want to be The difference between silent self-agreements and shared commitments 💔 The Problem with Eating Disorders and Agreements You're not living in agreement with who you are - you're believing lies about who you need to be The division between heart (wanting freedom) and mind (feeling unable to give up control) Living at war with yourself instead of in alignment How lies about perfection, size, and worth create false agreements 🚫 Lies You Need to Fall Out of Agreement With "You're not good enough" "You have to be perfect" "You have to be the smallest" "You're going to gain all this weight and hate your life" "You're just not ever going to change" ✨ The Power of Making THE Agreement Choosing to stand in agreement in both heart and mind Rebuking the division between what you want and what you believe is possible The courage required to step forward with hope and trust Making the choice to follow through no matter what it takes 🔥 The Reality Check Section "No one's coming to save you" - hard truth about personal responsibility No one will give you a permission slip to freedom This life is yours and yours alone When you accept 100% responsibility, you gain your power back ⚔️ The Fighting Questions Lindsey challenges you to ask: Are you fighting FOR yourself or AGAINST yourself? Are you fighting FOR recovery or against it? Are you fighting FOR your future or against it? Are you standing in your truth or believing the enemy's lies? Which side are you agreeing with? 🙏 The Biblical Foundation Matthew 18:19: "If two of you agree here on Earth about anything you ask for, it will be done" Lindsey stands in agreement with listeners (1 + 1 = 2) The enemy wants to kill, steal, and destroy - but you can stand against it Your obligation to stand no matter what opposition comes Powerful Quotes from This Episode "Life is too short, sister, to spend it at war with you." "The goal of this life is living in agreement with who you are." "No one's coming to save you. No one has got a life vest for you." "You must give yourself permission to succeed instead of searching for evidence of why you're going to fail." "It is my duty. It is my destiny. It is in my design to become the woman I was created to be." The Agreement Declarations Declaration #1: "Even though I don't know what it's like yet to break free from this disordered relationship that I have with food and myself, I can rebuke the lies that I've been believing. Today I deeply choose to love and accept and honor myself and my body. Today I choose to stand in agreement." Declaration #2: "It is my duty. It is my destiny. It is in my design to become the woman I was created to be. I break the agreement of lies that I've been believing for so long. I break them because I'm free to be me. This is my time and today is my day to honor me." Journal Prompts for Your Agreement "What lies am I believing that I need to fall out of agreement with?" "What must I give up in order to heal my life?" "Who am I standing in agreement with?" "What do I truly want for my future self?" "What evidence am I searching for that I'll fail, and how can I redirect this?" The Agreement Process Step 1: Identify what you truly want (or start with what you no longer want) Step 2: List the lies and beliefs that are keeping you trapped Step 3: Fall out of agreement with these false beliefs Step 4: Make your personal treaty with your future self Step 5: Stand in agreement daily, even when opposition comes Signs You Need to Make This Agreement You feel divided between wanting freedom and feeling unable to change You're searching for evidence of why recovery won't work for you You're still believing lies about your worth, body, or ability to heal You're waiting for someone else to give you permission to recover You're fighting against yourself instead of for yourself What Happens When You Make the Agreement You stop giving your power away to the eating disorder voice You gain the courage to take action aligned with your values You break the chains of false beliefs that have controlled your life You start living in alignment with who you were created to be Your best days become ahead of you, not behind you Action Steps Get out a journal and write down your personal agreement Identify which lies you need to fall out of agreement with Share your commitment in the Her Best Self Society Facebook community Apply for coaching support at herbestself.co to help you honor your agreement daily Ready to Make Your Agreement? If you're making a personal commitment today to step into your very best self, share it in the Her Best Self Society Facebook community at www.herbestselfsociety.com.  Need support honoring your agreement? Fill out a client application at www.herbestself.co and jump on a call to see if coaching can help you take daily actions that serve your agreement and push you forward. Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co  Private Facebook Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com  Client Applications: www.herbestself.co/services About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She made her own life-changing agreement years ago and now helps women break free from the lies that keep them trapped in disordered eating patterns. If this episode fired you up and you're ready to make your agreement, please leave a rating and review! Your support helps more women discover they have the power to break the chains of false beliefs. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.