The Motherkind Podcast

It is well documented that times of dramatic societal change, like the one we are in now, can either undo relationships or strengthen them. My guests this week are married couple Kaley and Nick Klemp and they found their relationship nearly undone to the point of break-up because of power struggles they were experiencing over trying to make things fair. So they decided to try a new approach which they call the 80/80 Marriage. The idea is that each person gives 80% as opposed to the traditional 50%, which is what they call radical generosity. It’s based on giving more than required. It’s not based on traditional gender roles or this idea of fairness. You may be thinking I am barely able to give 50%. How can you be suggesting we give more? I hear you on that and I do challenge them on that exact point. Their answer was fascinating. This is a model that rather than being based on what’s best for me, asks what’s best for us. Simple but quite radical if you think about what that might mean. I cannot wait to hear what you think about this idea. Would you be willing to give it a go? What difference do you think it might make in your marriage or any relationship? We talk about: - What is an 80/80 marriage? - Why the 50/50 marriage almost destroyed their marriage - How equality left them feeling resentful in the marriage - What is the 80/50 hangover - How has the Pandemic intersected with the 80/80 concept - What does radical generosity look like in a marriage - Letting go of the scorecard and transitioning beyond resentment - How to balance your professional pursuits - How their marriage feels today - Tools that make a difference As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there. FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co. Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. THIS EPISODE IS KINDLY SUPPORTED BY WILD DEODORANT Wild is a natural deodorant that is free of aluminum and parabens whilst also being guilty-free and vegan. What I love about wild is that it actually works. As a mum, I’m on the move all day and Wild which I’ve been using for a while now keeps me fresh as a daisy. It comes in a fully sustainable case for life with little refills you pop in that are biodegradable and recyclable. This is such a simple switch to make for ourselves and the planet. Go to Wearewild.com and pop in MOTHERKIND for 20% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is Jen Gale. Jen Gale is an author, blogger, writer, podcaster, campaigner, community builder and speaker. Her book The Sustainable(ish) Living Guide covers everything you need to know to make small changes that make a big difference and her new book just released in March 2021 is The Sustainable(ish) Guide to Green Parenting which offers guilt-free eco ideas for raising your kids. She talks about sustainability in a really accessible way and I hope you’ll agree and enjoy the episode. We talk about: - How parents can be more imperfectly sustainable - Micro-changes to feel empowered and in control - How to ditch the eco-guilt and overwhelm - Gentle steps and imperfect action - Finding what works for you and your family - We caused it we can fix it - Easy doable things that cause a big impact - We are more powerful than we think - Her journey of buying nothing new for a year (with 2 small kids) - Getting comfortable with our sacrifices As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there. FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co. Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. THIS EPISODE IS KINDLY SUPPORTED BY WILD DEODORANT Wild is a natural deodorant that is free of aluminum and parabens whilst also being guilty-free and vegan. What I love about wild is that it actually works. As a mum, I’m on the move all day and Wild which I’ve been using for a while now keeps me fresh as a daisy. It comes in a fully sustainable case for life with little refills you pop in that are biodegradable and recyclable. This is such a simple switch to make for ourselves and the planet. Go to Wearewild.com and pop in MOTHERKIND for 20% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this week’s episode. It’s a very special one. Perhaps one of the most important conversations I’ve ever had on the podcast. Have you ever tried to change a habit or behaviour and got stuck - finding yourself repeating the same cycles again and again? My guest this week, Dr Nicole LePera (you might know her as The Holistic Psychologist) says that's an almost universal experience and the way to break that pattern is actually quite simple - keeping one small daily promise to yourself. Listen to this week's episode to learn: - Why your past is still informing your present - How to stop living on auto-pilot - How to heal your deepest patterns, on a daily basis - Why modeling to our children is the most effective way to teach them FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co. Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. THIS EPISODE IS KINDLY SUPPORTED BY TU My parenting in a pandemic workshop series with Tu has now finished and was a huge success. I absolutely loved connecting with those of you that came. Summaries of each of the four workshops are on @tuclothing Instagram. What I really took from the workshops was the power of validating just how challenging this pandemic has been for new parents - there is so much strength in a shared experience and a safe place to process that experience. Thank you so much to the wonderful Tu for partnering with me to make the workshops happen. Please do check out their spring collection at tu.co.uk - it's gorgeous, there’s a pair of floral dungarees and the most amazing yellow raincoat I’m buying for Rose. So head over to tu.co.uk to have a look. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this week’s episode. As you know if you are a regular listener to this podcast, what we experience in our childhood unconsciously shapes and determines our entire approach to life as adults. Once we know this, it gives us something very powerful. And that is choice. Once we have a choice to become aware of our unconscious belief patterns and where they come from in our childhood, then we can change them. I find that the most exciting thing in the world. Regardless of how you were parented or how your early experiences were you have the power to change how you show up in parenthood. And I believe that is whole, full of love, and infinite potential. And that is what this week’s episode is all about. It will show you how to connect to your childhood experiences if you want to enact change as an adult. If you are getting stuck it could be because of something that happened in your childhood. Stephanie Stahl is known as Germany’s psycho-therapist superstar. She is one of Germany's top psychologists and authors on how to confront your past, trauma, fear and shame and live more authentically. She has written 10 books. Her latest one, the Child in You, is brilliant. It’s been a multimillion best seller in Europe and it’s about to be released in the UK. I loved how practical the book is. Super simple yet transformational. I love this episode and hope you do too. We talk about: - What your inner child is - Why it is important and why you should care - How to connect with your childhood experiences - How the inner shadow child can manifest in adulthood FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. About Stephanie Stahl Stephanie is a German clinical psychotherapist with her own practice and the author of more than 10 books. She conducts seminars on self-esteem, love, and the fear of commitment, and is a sought-after expert on these topics in the media. Fluent in English, Stahl has been intensively involved in psychology for over 30 years, previously working as an expert witness in family courts. THIS EPISODE IS KINDLY SUPPORTED BY TU My parenting in a pandemic workshop series with Tu has now finished and was a huge success. I absolutely loved connecting with those of you that came. Summaries of each of the four workshops are on @tuclothing Instagram. What I really took from the workshops was the power of validating just how challenging this pandemic has been for new parents - there is so much strength in a shared experience and a safe place to process that experience. Thank you so much to the wonderful Tu for partnering with me to make the workshops happen. Please do check out their spring collection at tu.co.uk - it's gorgeous, there’s a pair of floral dungarees and the most amazing yellow raincoat I’m buying for Rose. So head over to tu.co.uk to have a look. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest on this week’s episode wants you to know that you are worthy of living a life that feels good. She also wants you to know that you are capable of achieving that. But you need to make a conscious decision about how you show up for yourself. My guest is Heather Chauvin and after her youngest son was born she was diagnosed with stage four cancer. She shares how that really tough experience showed her how far away she was from living the life she actually wanted. Before going through treatment she decided that if she did survive, surviving wasn’t going to be good enough anymore. She wanted to feel alive. Well, she did survive that experience and she consciously started to re-parent herself and everything began to change in her life. She noticed everything in her life changed especially her children’s behavior. I love this episode it is such an incredible story. Her message is don’t wait. This episode is inspiring and also challenging at times because she invites us to questions our lives. Are we living or surviving? I hope you really enjoy it. We talk about: - How parenting is personal growth on steroids - What her new book Dying to be a Good Mother is actually about? - Her driving force - What was it like for her to be a mother before cancer - The insights she had after her cancer diagnosis - How to get the joy and freedom that you crave - What is energetic time management - What does it mean to feel alive? - How do you know if you are actually living and not just surviving? - Heather’s pyramid for life - How to take radical responsibility - Red, Green and Yellow zones to live by PARENTING IN A PANDEMIC - SERIES OF FREE ONLINE WORKSHOPS This episode is kindly supported by Tu. I’m thrilled that in partnership with Tu, I’m offering a series of four, totally free online workshops to support new and expectant parents in navigating this difficult time. The Parenting in a pandemic workshops will cover what we know are the challenges right now for new parents - relationships, self-care, how to process becoming a parent in a pandemic, and what your baby needs most at this time. We had such an overwhelming response, all four workshops booked up so quickly we decided to release more spots. You can find out more and register here. You can follow along and catch highlights at @tuclothing #tuBaby #ParentinginaPandemic I love Tu clothing for the girls - and the spring collection looks amazing, have a look here and if you attend the workshops you’ll get a 25% off discount. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week says we are all born feeling enough, with an innate sense of esteem and confidence. And our job if we want to live a fulfilled life, is to get back to that place where we are enough just as we are. In this episode, I’m talking about the power of the mind with Marisa Peer. She’s been named the UKs #1 therapist as voted by Tatler Magazine and has spent over three decades treating a client list that includes international superstars, CEOs, Royalty, and Olympic athletes. Her approach is known as Rapid Transformational Therapy. It’s a mind optimisation science that completely transforms a person’s way of thinking and therefore living - in just as little as 1 or 2 sessions. I have wanted to talk with Marisa for a long time, and this is an important time to have Marisa on the podcast. Right now there is a lot of uncertainty for parents, yet Marisa has some simple and transformative ways to use our mind to change our experience. I’m excited for you to hear this episode. We talk about: - the power of what we say to ourselves - simple ways to use our mind to change our experience - the way you feel about everything is based on just two things - how to speak to yourself - the three Ps to evaluate any situation - how can we give ourselves certainty - the power of rewards - the power of ‘I am enough’ As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there. PARENTING IN A PANDEMIC - SERIES OF FREE ONLINE WORKSHOPS This episode is kindly supported by Tu. I’m thrilled that in partnership with Tu, I’m offering a series of four, totally free online workshops to support new and expectant parents in navigating this difficult time. The Parenting in a pandemic workshops will cover what we know are the challenges right now for new parents - relationships, self-care, how to process becoming a parent in a pandemic, and what your baby needs most at this time.  The workshops booked up so quickly we have released more spots. Go to the link to find out more and register: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/copy-of-parenting-in-a-pandemic-tickets-141131922379 You can follow along and get highlights at @tuclothing #tuBaby #ParentinginaPandemic I love Tu clothing for the girls - and the spring collection looks amazing, have a look here and if you attend the workshops you’ll get a 25% off discount. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest on this episode believes we need to reframe the narrative that a breakup is the end of something and instead view it as the start of your journey to self-realisation. Amy Ransom is a writer, blogger and author of several books, including The New Mum’s Notebook and her newest release The Soul-Soaring Virtues of Separation. Amy is passionate about spreading the word that the end of a relationship doesn't have to mean despair. Separation can be the enabler to live a more authentic and joyful life. In 2016 she separated from her husband with 3 small children and it turned out to be her most positive experience yet. This episode isn’t just about separation though, I believe she is offering a process that’s useful for anyone contemplating big change. We talk about: - The surprising way her marriage ended - The aftermath of early separation - How to discover lost parts of your self - The process for any big change PARENTING IN A PANDEMIC - SERIES OF FREE ONLINE WORKSHOPS This episode is kindly supported by Tu. I’m thrilled that in partnership with Tu, I’m offering a series of four, totally free online workshops to support new and expectant parents in navigating this difficult time. The Parenting in a pandemic workshops will cover what we know are the challenges right now for new parents - relationships, self-care, how to process becoming a parent in a pandemic, and what your baby needs most at this time. Spaces are very limited and will get booked up fast, so head here to book yourself on. It’s totally free. Register here. I love Tu clothing for the girls - and the spring collection looks amazing, have a look here and if you attend the workshops you’ll get a 25% off discount. We cannot wait to see you there. #ParentinginaPandemic #tuBaby @tuclothing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Emmy Brunner is a Psychotherapist, Personal Empowerment and Transformation Coach, Hypnotherapist, CEO of The Recover Clinic London, Author of Trauma Redefined and Find Your True Voice, Founder of The Brunner Project and Speaker with more than 20 year’s experience in trauma and mental illness, across both the business and clinical worlds. Emmy believes that we've all experienced trauma in our lives. And that what we now refer to as mental illness is actually our response to that trauma. Do you want to start healing, but don’t know where to begin? This episode is for you. We discuss: - what trauma is - Emmy’s inspiring path to healing - how to become your true self where anything really is possible - how to identify unresolved trauma - how to start healing - why lockdown can be a fantastic time for healing This episode is sponsored by Zendium toothpaste. Zendium toothpaste strengthens your mouth’s natural defenses. It also contains mild flavours and ingredients which are kinder to your mouth. It is free from SLS, a foaming agent that can irritate the mouth's soft tissues and alter taste. This makes Zendium suitable for even the most delicate mouths, including pregnant women suffering from morning sickness. All you need to do is head to Zendium.co.uk and enter the code MOTHERKIND at checkout for 20% off their kids and adult range. Big gratitude to Zendium for supporting me and the podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jane Tavakalian, also known as Jane Lightworker, is a mum of three, an intuitive business and life coach and the creator of the #1 course for empathetic people looking to take their energy and power back. Energy is finite. We only have so much of it each day, and yet often without knowing it we give that energy far too quickly to other people and things that aren't that important to us. We feel exhausted and depleted, not from lack of sleep, but from allowing ourselves to be drained by what's going on outside of us. So how do we preserve our energy for things that actually matter to us? How do we claw that precious energy back and become more empowered? Well, this insightful episode will tell you how. You will learn: - What it means to be an empath - How to know if you are one - Navigate the energy around you as a parent - How to reconnect with yourself - How to shift your whole experience of life with a mindset change - The Law of Assumption and how to use it to transform your day As you may already know, I’m very excited about our sponsor, Zendium toothpaste. Zendium toothpaste strengthens your mouth’s natural defenses. It also contains mild flavours and ingredients which are kinder to your mouth. It is free from SLS, a foaming agent that can irritate the mouth's soft tissues and alter taste. This makes Zendium suitable for even the most delicate mouths, including pregnant women suffering from morning sickness. All you need to do is head to Zendium.co.uk and enter the code MOTHERKIND at checkout for 20% off their kids and adult range. Big gratitude to Zendium for supporting me and the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's guest Latham Thomas is a master doula and activist. She was named one of Oprah Winfrey's Super Soul 100, has a host of celebrity clients, a global following with her Mama Glow brand, two books, and is the co-founder of the popular Continuum Conference. Latham shares “If you think about what happens when the baby arrives here, they are born but the mother is also born. And it’s a rebirth for that person. Who she once was is no longer; she’s someone new.” I think this episode is a special one. It will help you all helicopter above the day to day challenges we are all facing right now and think about the bigger picture. It's a moving episode which I hope gives you a sense of peace and perspective. It certainly did for me. She shares about: - her mission to help women reclaim the birth experience - the difference between a calling and a passion - Latham's moving and beautiful hope for her legacy - what we can do about the black maternal health crisis - becoming a more divine version of ourselves - why it’s so important to envision how we want to experience giving birth - what's most important during and post-pregnancy - her hope for all mums DISCOUNT FOR THE MOTHERKIND COMMUNITY As you may already know, I’m very excited about our sponsor, Zendium toothpaste. Zendium toothpaste naturally strengthens your mouth’s natural defenses and reduces bad bacteria responsible for dental problems. Parents will be familiar with the battle to get their kids to brush their teeth, but did you know that kids have 3x more taste buds than adults? This makes them particularly sensitive to strong flavours and foaming agents, which can result in difficulties with brushing and too-short brushing times. You may also not have known but your child’s mouth also has its very own natural defences, made up of enzymes and proteins in saliva, that have the ability to protect them from dental problems. All you need to do is head to Zendium.co.uk and enter the code MOTHERKIND at checkout for 20% off their kids and adult range. Big gratitude to Zendium for supporting me and the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices