The Motherkind Podcast

I’m re-releasing this important episode covering Matrescence with the wonderful Amy Taylor-Kabbaz. Amy is an author, journalist and a matrescence activist. Her latest book, ‘Mama Rising: Discovering the New You Through Motherhood’ , is brilliant and was released last year. For the last 10 years, Amy’s work has revolved around her search for an answer to the question of what happens to a woman when she becomes a mother. Amy’s search began after not being able to find anything that described the experience she had been through in her own journey to motherhood, until she came across the word ‘matrescence’.Matrescence means the experience of becoming a mother and the radical identify shift that goes along with it. Amy describes this in such a beautiful way – she says that when we become a mother, ‘we split in two’ – the person we used to be and the mother we are becoming. And, unless we honour that shift, we can get lost in the process of trying to figure out exactly who we are now.I know I really relate to this, and that many of you do, too. I really enjoyed my conversation with Amy and I think you’re going to get a lot out of this episode. As always, the conversation continues over on Instagram so do come and join us there.+++ As you might know, my 121 coaching is sold out with a waitlist. I'm so passionate about supporting more mothers, I've decided I'm going to launch my first ever group programme next week, there's space for just 30 of our community - find out more and register https://www.motherkind.co/group-programme +++ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kate Silverton has been a journalist for 25 years. She is one of the BBCs leading and most popular broadcasters. Kate has spent decades interviewing leading figures throughout the world, from politicians through to celebrities and scientists.What you might not know about Kate, is that throughout it all her lifelong passion has been to advocate for children and their emotional well-being. Her academic roots are in child development with a BSc in psychology. After having children of her own, Kate decided to retrain as a child psychotherapist. She is currently volunteering as a counsellor on placement working with children at a London primary school. Kate’s counselling work with children, her own personal experience of psychotherapy and the interviews she has conducted with world-renowned psychiatrists, neuroscientists and psychotherapists have all informed her approach and the concept in her Sunday times bestseller There is no such thing as naughty.Her philosophy is, which is all rooted in neuroscience, ‘If we get it right from conception to five, we can set our children up for life’. And her passion is to share what she has learned with as many parents as she can, to help them to have the parenting experience they always hoped to have, and for their children to have the parenting experience they deserve.As you can imagine we had a wonderful chat. We have this absolute shared passion for fostering emotional health in our children and ourselves. That is the most important thing. I say this so often because I’m so passionate about it, just like Kate.There is nothing more important than emotional health and we now know that from so many of the studies that Kate and I talk about during this episode.Kate shared how much joy she is getting from hearing from people about the concepts she is talking about. I’d love to hear from you about what you think of the episode, the book and what she shares.We talk about: Where her passion for child well-being came from Her duty to reach a wider audience to support children and parents Why conception to 5 is so important The aim of the book There is no such thing as naughty FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.About Kate SilvertonIn 25 years as a journalist, Kate Silverton has become one of the BBC’s leading and most popular broadcasters. She has produced and presented numerous documentaries, including for the BBC’s flagship current affairs programme Panorama. She has come under fire on the frontline in Iraq and Afghanistan, covered the glamour of the Oscars in Hollywood, and stepped out beneath the glitter ball herself as a contestant for the BBC’s much-loved entertainment show, Strictly Come Dancing. Kate has spent decades interviewing leading figures throughout the world, from politicians through to celebrities and scientists.THIS EPISODE IS SUPPORTED BY NHS TEST AND TRACEWith the kids finally back at school and some normalcy returning, we are all keen to keep life moving. NHS Test and Trace are encouraging all adults in England to get tested twice a week using totally free rapid Covid-19 tests, which are now available for all adults in England.Testing is going to help prevent around 1 and 3 people who have Covid-19 but with no symptoms or knowledge they are spreading it.It’s a fast and easy way to find out if you have Coronavirus, with results in around 30 minutes. You can order tests to your home or go to a test site or participating pharmacies.For more information and guidance online go to nhs.uk/gettestedThe more of us who take part the more we can help protect each other. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week, Eliane Glaser, says that mothers are trying too hard and society is not trying nearly hard enough. She says worldwide mothers are overworked, underpaid, often lonely, and made to feel guilty about everything.She says that motherhood is one of modern society’s awkward little secrets and that fixing this is the unfinished work of feminism. How powerful is that - Motherhood is feminism’s unfinished business.She is an author, a BBC radio producer, a research fellow at the school of advanced study UEL, and has just released a powerhouse of a book called, Motherhood: a Manifesto.We talk about the really helpful distinction between motherhood the experience - the joyful, hard mess of it, the intoxicating love, and yet the fear and rage (all those feelings which I’m sure all as mothers of you can relate to) and the institution of motherhood with its societal messages and the systems that are set up or not to support us.This is such a helpful distinction because it enables us to bring more nuance to the conversation than is often present. It enables us to love the experience of being a mother, most of the time, imperfectly, while also allowing us to feel rage and anger at the system and the cultural messages we operate in and that often let us down.This conversation is a little bit different from what we usually talk about on the podcast but I think it is such a brilliant complement to last week’s episode about The Motherhood Penalty and I found it really enlightening and fascinating. Her book is full of data and statistics which you’ll hear throughout the episode.I hope you really enjoy it. Please do let me know what you think.We talk about: The data and statistics of motherhood Why motherhood is a barrier to equality Motherhood the experience vs motherhood the institution And so much more At a time when women are supposed to be more liberated than ever before, modern motherhood has become rigidly perfectionist.- Eliane GlaserAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Website Twitter Motherhood: a Manifesto FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.About Eliane GlaserEliane Glaser is the author of Elitism: A Progressive Defence, Anti-Politics: On the Demonization of Ideology, Authority and the State and Get Real: How to See Through the Hype, Spin and Lies of Modern Life. In addition to writing books, Eliane is a BBC radio producer, a research fellow at the School of Advanced Study, University of London, and writes for publications including the Guardian, Prospect, and the London Review of Books.THIS EPISODE IS SUPPORTED BY NHS TEST AND TRACEWith the kids finally back at school and some normalcy returning, we are all keen to keep life moving. NHS Test and Trace are encouraging all adults in England to get tested twice a week using totally free rapid Covid-19 tests, which are now available for all adults in England.Testing is going to help prevent around 1 and 3 people who have Covid-19 but with no symptoms or knowledge they are spreading it.It’s a fast and easy way to find out if you have Coronavirus, with results in around 30 minutes. You can order tests to your home or go to a test site or participating pharmacies.For more information and guidance online go to nhs.uk/gettestedThe more of us who take part the more we can help protect each other. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you heard of the phrase the motherhood penalty? This week’s guest, Joeli Brearly, founder of the brilliant Pregnant Then Screwed charity is on a mission to help us understand what it means and also how to do something about it.She set up Pregnant Then Screwed after being sacked when she was just 4 months pregnant. It started as a project to collect other women’s experiences and now seven years later it is a leading charity supporting thousands of mothers each week who have faced discrimination at work. If you are not familiar with it, it’s worth looking up.Reading Joeli’s book, The Motherhood Penalty was incredibly eye-opening for me. I loved digging into the data on this. My intention with this episode was to bring awareness to this issue and bring to light some of the shocking data and statistics around what it means and how the system is basically rigged against us. Joeli explains why brilliantly in this episode.I hope this conversation inspires you to do something about it and think about how we can all support each other to make it a fairer playing field for mothers. If you can get the book I highly recommend it, but if you can’t she shares amazing information on so much on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter.We talk about: The truth about the motherhood penalty Working mum’s during Covid What we can do to help fix the motherhood penalty Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest really needs no introduction. Lorraine Pascale is a TV personality, celebrity chef, and best selling author of 7 books. She also is incredibly positive. We had such I wide-ranging conversation. I found it really inspiring, light-hearted and funny.We talk about healing, relationships, parenting and what she learned from mothering her daughter who is now 25.What I took from Lorraine and her energy was how to be you and show up authentically as yourself. How to have compassion with yourself and how to take everything you read and listen to, even on this podcast, with a pinch of salt.We talk about: Parenting Relationships Healing How to be authentically you How to have compassion for yourself FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.About Lorraine PascaleLorraine Pascale is a British television TV chef and USA Food Network host and former top model, best known for selling almost one million books in the UK alone. Her TV shows are in 70 countries worldwide. She had her own cooking show on the BBC for several seasons. From 2007-2012 she owned a retail outlet in London selling baked goods called Ella’s Bakehouse named after her daughter. She is the United Kingdom Government Fostering and Adoption Ambassador and an emotional wellness advocate.THIS EPISODE IS SUPPORTED BY NHS TEST AND TRACEWith the kids finally back at school and some normalcy returning, we are all keen to keep life moving. NHS Test and Trace are encouraging all adults in England to get tested twice a week using totally free rapid Covid-19 tests, which are now available for all adults in England.Testing is going to help prevent around 1 and 3 people who have Covid-19 but with no symptoms or knowledge they are spreading it.It’s a fast and easy way to find out if you have Coronavirus, with results in around 30 minutes. You can order tests to your home or go to a test site or participating pharmacies.For more information and guidance online go to nhs.uk/gettestedThe more of us who take part the more we can help protect each other. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is all about the power of slowing down. Even if just for a few minutes a day.My guest is Fiona Arrigo. Acknowledged as a leader in her field, Fiona is an internationally acclaimed intuitive healer, mental life teacher, qualified psychotherapist and biodynamic psychologist.For the past 35 years, isn’t that amazing, she has been running The Arrigo Programme, her internationally acclaimed retreat in Someret, which brings together her approach with working through trauma and stress. It is all about liberating and shifting energy. Reading the reviews of the retreat attendees consistently say that just 5 days feels like 5 years of therapy.She is also a mum of two grown-up children and it was really great to have her perspective. This felt like such an important time to have this conversation with Fiona. Please do let me know what you thought.We talk about: How to hold the challenge and opportunity of the pandemic together The questions to ask ourselves at this particular time Her own journey as a mother and different parenting style How we can truly listen to ourselves As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest on today’s podcast is Mo Gawdat. He wants you to know that happiness is easier to achieve than we are led to believe. Mo Gawdat is the former Chief Business Officer of Google X; host of the popular podcast, Slo Mo: A Podcast with Mo Gawdat and author of the international bestselling book Solve for Happy. After a long career in tech, Mo has made happiness his primary topic of research. In 20014, motivated by the tragic loss of his son, Ali, from a routine surgery that went wrong, Mo began pouring his findings into his book, Solve for Happy. His mission is to help one billion people become happier by founding #OneBillionHappy. It’s his attempt to honour Ali by spreading the message that happiness can be learned and shared. His word for the year is flow and that was present throughout this conversation. His wisdom shines through and he offers so many ideas to take away from this episode, I hope you enjoy it. We talk about: - The key to happiness - Why we become unhappy - How to find peace and acceptance - The happiness flow chart - How to practice being happy About Mo Gawdat Mo Gawdat is the former Chief Business Officer of Google; host of the popular podcast, Slo Mo: A Podcast with Mo Gawdat; author of the international bestselling book Solve for Happy and found of One Billion Happy. After a long career in tech, Mo has made happiness his primary topic of research, diving deeply into literature and conversing on the topic with some of the wisest people in the world. In 20014, motivated by the tragic loss of his son, Ali, Mo began pouring his findings into his book, Solve for Happy. His mission to help one billion people become happier, #OneBillionHappy, is his attempt to honour Ali by spreading the message that happiness can be learned and shared. In 2019, Mo co-founded T0day, an ambitious project that aims to reinvent consumerism for the benefit of consumers, retailers and our planet. In 2020, Mo laughed his successful podcast, Slo Mo: A podcast with Mo Gawdat, in which he conducts interviews that explore the extraordinary lives of everyday people. THIS EPISODE IS SUPPORTED BY NHS TEST AND TRACE With the kids finally back at school and some normalcy returning, we are all keen to keep life moving. NHS Test and Trace are encouraging all adults in England to get tested twice a week using totally free rapid Covid-19 tests, which are now available for all adults in England. Testing is going to help prevent around 1 and 3 people who have Covid-19 but with no symptoms or knowledge they are spreading it. It’s a fast and easy way to find out if you have Coronavirus, with results in around 30 minutes. You can order tests to your home, go to a test site or participating pharmacies. For more information and guidance online go to nhs.uk/gettested The more of us who take part the more we can help each other. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is a special one with Nicky Clinch. Nicky is a maturation coach & facilitator, integrative holistic counsellor, author, mentor & CEO. She is also one of my very dearest friends. We recorded this episode together to celebrate the release of her first book Surrender. In the book she shares many inspiring stories including her own about what it means to let go of who we have told ourselves we should be in the world and begin to explore who we actually are. Nicky calls this the process of surrender. We talk a lot about her marriage in this episode. Unbelievably, through the process of writing this book about how to surrender and grow into our truest selves, her marriage broke down. It is a very moving, raw and courageous story with an extraordinary outcome. We also talk about transitioning out of lockdown. She emigrated to New Zealand while writing this book. She shares what it has been like for her two young children coming out of lockdown. We have what I feel is a useful conversation about how we can support ourselves and our children as we in the UK are transitioning out of lockdown. Please do check out her new book Surrender it is out on the first of June and available for pre-order. I have ordered several books for my friends. We talk about: - Why the book is called Surrender - The basis of her repaired marriage - How her marriage was mirroring her childhood - What does it mean to let go of pictures - Why living in alignment is so important - How to break free from our stories - How to come out of lockdown THIS EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY NHS TEST AND TRACE With the kids finally back at school and some normalcy returning, we are all keen to keep life moving. NHS Test and Trace are encouraging all adults in England to get tested twice a week using totally free rapid Covid-19 tests, which are now available for all adults in England. Testing is going to help prevent around 1 and 3 people who have Covid-19 but with no symptoms or knowledge they are spreading it. It’s a fast and easy way to find out if you have Coronavirus, with results in around 30 minutes. You can order tests to your home, go to a test site or participating pharmacies. For more information and guidance online go to nhs.uk/gettested The more of us who take part the more we can help each other. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you heard of tapping or EFT (emotional freedom technique)? It's an incredibly powerful tool for creating instant calm - a study recently showed that in under 10 mins of tapping you can reduce stress and anxiety by a massive 41%. This week's episode is with Jessica Ortner who is a global leading expert in Tapping - she shares how to get started with tapping and guides us through tapping exercise to process all that has happened this past year - it was incredibly powerful for me, I hope it is for you too. We talk about: - What drew her to Tapping - What this technique is - Why it works - The science behind it - Jessica leads us through a guided Tapping exercise Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to another episode of the Motherkind podcast. As mothers, we’ve held a lot this past year. I hear almost every day stories of you feeling exhausted, low of energy, and burnt out. My guest this week, Selina Barker, says that we don’t need to accept that as our status quo and we have so much more power to change how we feel than we think we do. She says that learning to manage her own energy, now means that she feels calmer, more grounded, and more energised than even before her pre-child self. And that’s what this episode can offer you too. This episode is full of practical tools and ideas. It’s quite a big promise but I do believe that if you put into practice at least 1 or 2 of the suggestions that Selina shares you will experience a difference. My invitation to you, then, is to actually apply what you learn from this episode and let me know how you get on. We talk about: - How does someone know the difference between feeling burnt-out vs knackered - Who her book Burnt Out is for - What got Selina fired up about burn-out - How to break the burn-out cycle - How managing your energy unleashes your best work - Loads of tips and tools to recharge your batteries FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co. Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices