Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

You’re not bound to the thing you thought you wanted. If you want more (or less, or different), let them know. You can’t avoid revealing feelings and risking rejection, but it’s never as scary as you think—and it can be so worth it. If it doesn’t work, you can always go back to your hoe phase. That’s eternal. (Be warned: y’all asked for tangents, and we delivered.) Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Someone saying your worst fear is true doesn’t mean it is; it means they knew your worst fear and used it against you. And that will always say more about them than it does about you. Look to the people who really know you for affirmation, and try to cut the cords to external validation, as destabilizing as it might be. And if you haven’t already, f***ing watch The Last Of Us (Sierra insists). Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yes, white supremacy poisons everything. No, that doesn’t mean the kind, self-aware white man you’re dating is going to do you harm. Without worst-case-scenario-ing yourself to death, try to prepare for the difficult things that are likely to happen if you do commit to this interracial relationship. (And if the worst case does happen, you can just break up!) Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Compatibility isn’t being the same, it’s finding someone whose differences fit yours. Instead of thinking you might one day “fix” your more inactive, laidback partner, see if you can accept that you have different lifestyles (and that productivity and rest are equally valuable, capitalism be damned).  Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a non-binary parent in our Incredibly Gendered World, you WILL have awkward conversations and tense moments, but in the bubble of family, you can affirm and honor your identity. Outside that bubble, it’s up to you who you correct and who you leave in ignorance; when it matters and when sacrificing your peace isn’t worth it.Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s only natural to feel abandoned by a partner who leaves for months-long work trips (especially if you’re stuck in upstate New York…). Remember that they’re not the villain—the situation just isn’t working. Figure out what you need from the relationship and approach the problem as a TEAM. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don’t owe people who have hurt you anything. If someone disregards your core identity then has the audacity to turn up after FOUR YEARS and invite you to their wedding, you can respond, or not. You can tell the truth, or not. You can open up about how they hurt you, or not. The only thing you should absolutely do is block-block-block immediately after.Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can give someone your best on a silver platter, and they might not like silver. That tells us nothing about you, except that you weren’t right for them. Be kind to yourself until you find the one who loves precious metals—and don’t even try to be friends with your ex until “I love you” fades to “I’d be fine playing a board game with you then leaving.”Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s not wrong to want to hurt the person who hurt you (but it is wrong to take your scathing shower comebacks into the real world). You can’t reason your way out of anger, but you can rely on your circle to build yourself up, let people know how much this experience affected you, and remember that this won’t be this hard forever.Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Not having a threesome isn’t an excuse for cheating. And if they did cheat, then you get to decide how the relationship goes from there. Ask yourself: Is it working? Is it worth it? Have they earned their place in your life? Or is the well bone dry, and you’re holding out for trickles? It’s abundant elsewhere if you’re willing to look.Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices