Note to Self

#230. In this Ask P episode of Note to Self, Payton answers listener questions about navigating life’s in-between seasons — from fresh breakups and New Year resets to long-term relationship “ebbs,” family dynamics, friendship loss, and early dating red flags. This episode explores how to move through heartbreak while staying hopeful, maintain independence inside committed relationships, and set boundaries with parents as an adult. Payton also shares her perspective on New Year’s resolutions that actually stick, staying motivated during winter, and how to find peace when a friendship ends without closure. If you’re in your 20s or 30s and rebuilding, recalibrating, or quietly starting over, this episode offers grounded advice and permission to take your time.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com R.W Knudsen: With R.W.Knudsen, krush 100% of your day—morning, afternoon, evening and all the moments in between—with 100% juice and no added sugar. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store todayCaraway:  Visit Carawayhome.com/NTS to take an additional 10% off your next purchaseSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#229. If you’ve done the work but still don’t feel fully present, this episode is for you. We break down why getting out of your head isn’t a mindset shift but a nervous system one, and how embodiment creates calm, confidence, and connection. Think of this as a gentle invitation back into your body — and back into yourself.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Go to quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365 day returnsR.W Knudsen: With R.W.Knudsen, krush 100% of your day—morning, afternoon, evening and all the moments in between—with 100% juice and no added sugar. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store todaySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#228. Welcome to the 2026 toolkit—a curated collection of what's working, what's worth it, and what creates the infrastructure for an intentional life. This isn't about perfection or having it all figured out; it's about the specific tools, rituals, and systems that help you show up as a better version of yourself. Your good life starts with what you choose to let in.                                                                                                                                                                                                     FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get startedR.W Knudsen: With R.W.Knudsen, krush 100% of your day—morning, afternoon, evening and all the moments in between—with 100% juice and no added sugar. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store todaySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#227. January isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about editing what already exists. This week, we’re talking about the art of curation: the rituals worth protecting, the urgency worth releasing, and the one thing you’re building just for you. Welcome to The Annual Edit.                                                                                                                                                                                                  FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELFSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#226. This isn’t about resolutions—it’s about getting clear on the life you’re calling in. We’re walking through journal prompts for work, relationships, wellness, finances, and the aesthetic of your life so you can dream your way into 2026 with intention.                                                                                                                                                                                                   FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELFJoyrise: Go to Joyrise.com and use code NOTETOSELF for15% off plus free shipping nationwideQuince: Go to quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365 day returnsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#225. This year brought some of the most incredible conversations with founders, creators, and women building lives on their own terms - and I’m breaking down the biggest lessons that stuck with me. From building sustainable routines to redefining success, these are the notes from my Note to Self alumni that changed how I think about intentional living.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Visit 47brand.com to shop best sellers and new arrivalsCanopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use code NOTETOSELF at checkout to save an additional 10% off your Canopy purchase.Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELFJoyrise: Go to Joyrise.com and use code NOTETOSELF for15% off plus free shipping nationwideQuince: Go to quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365 day returnsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#224. In this Ask P episode, I’m answering four of your questions to close out the year: how to audit yourself honestly without self-destruction, what I’d tell my 21-year-old self about timelines and dating, how to stay grounded while building your life in your twenties, and the framework Joe and I use for our annual partnership check-in. We’re talking about growth with grace, trusting your own timeline, protecting what matters, and making sure you’re building a life—not just performing one. Consider this your end-of-year toolkit for staying intentional, aligned, and honest with yourself as you head into 2026.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Visit 47brand.com to shop best sellers and new arrivalsCanopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use code NOTETOSELF at checkout to save an additional 10% off your Canopy purchase.Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELFJoyrise: Go to Joyrise.com and use code NOTETOSELF for15% off plus free shipping nationwideRula: Go to Rula.com/notetoself to get started todaySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#223. This year was simultaneously the best and worst of my life, and I need to talk about it before we close out 2025. I got married and made a home, but I also fell apart—moved twice, worked through emotional exhaustion, developed a bitterness I didn't recognize, and met parts of myself I didn't want to meet. If you're ending this year feeling overwhelmed from the weight of it all, like you can't wrap it up neatly before January 1st, this one's for you.                                                                                                                                                                                                        FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Chase: Head to Chase.com/holidayscams for tips, tools, and resources to help keep your finances safeVisit 47brand.com to shop best sellers and new arrivalsCanopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use code NOTETOSELF at checkout to save an additional 10% off your Canopy purchase.Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELFFace Foundrie: Visit facefoundrie.com and use code NTS at checkout for 20% off your first serviceSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#222. In a very special 222 episode of NTS, we’re catching up just 48 hours after our wedding day from an airport hotel on the way to our honeymoon destination. A few things about my wedding weekend definitely surprised me, a few terrified me, and a few made me more emotional than I anticipated. Initial marriage thoughts, sprinting down the aisle & some notes from Joe included in this episode. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Episode Sponsors:EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/notetoselfpod-podcastChase: Head to Chase.com/holidayscams for tips, tools, and resources to help keep your finances safeVisit 47brand.com to shop best sellers and new arrivalsProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#221. Wedding week is here! Today we’re chatting candidly about what I’m looking forward to, what I’m opting out of, what’s making me nervous, and more. This is a casual, chatty episode, especially for those of you who have been on the journey to this point with me for years. Love u! xx                                                                                                                                                                                   FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Episode Sponsors:Canopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use code NOTETOSELF at checkout to save an additional 10% off your Canopy purchase.Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELFQuince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsFace Foundrie: Visit facefoundrie.com and use code NTS at checkout for 20% off your first serviceChase: Head to Chase.com/holidayscams for tips, tools, and resources to help keep your finances safeProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.