
Note to Self
From Q&A’s and break up tips to simply navigating every stage of life, influencer-turned-entrepreneur Payton Sartain brings you the sisterly advice you didn’t know you needed and honest conversations you’ve always wanted. Whether it’s Payton alone or a conversation with a friend, Note to Self is a space to get grounded, explore new perspectives, and ultimately, empower yourself and others. Grab some wine or a mocktail and enjoy the conversation!
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Apr 17, 2025 • 55min
ASK P: solo sex, setting boundaries, escaping the friend-zone, & “wasting” your 20s
#193. In this installment of ASK P, your favorite monthly advice column, we’re discussing a few new-to-NTS topics. We’re tackling a beginner’s guide to self-pleasure, setting boundaries as a generous person, getting out of the friendzone with a man, feeling socially behind or alone, and giving yourself permission to be COMFORTABLE. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:For your next trip, treat yourself to the luxe upgrades you deserve from Quince. Go to Quince.com/payton for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your orderSign up now and join the over 14 million all-time customers who have already saved and invested over $25 billion dollars with Acorns. Head to acorns.com/notetoself or download the Acorns app to get started.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 10, 2025 • 42min
Little Habits That Make Life So Much Better
#192. In true NTS style, we are discussing little ways to elevate your every day (continued). I, personally, like to test out new habits to see what *actually* makes a difference in my day-to-day in hopes I can pass my findings on to someone who may need them. In today’s episode, we’re running through 10 helpful habits I’ve found have made my life just a little bit better. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Go to www.primallypure.com and use code “NOTETOSELF” to get 15% off your Primally Pure purchase.Visit astrthelabel.com and use code NOTETOSELF at checkout for 15% off your order. Visit OliveandJune.com/NOTETOSELF for 20% off your first System! Better Sleep Starts at Cozy Earth. Upgrade your bed with new sheets, blankets or get yourself some PJs for almost 50% off!! Use my code NOTETOSELF this to take advantage of this insane deal!Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 3, 2025 • 40min
Dating 101: Getting Clear About Your Values, Goals & Deal-breakers
#191. We are finding committed relationships here on NTS! In this installment of the Dating 101 series, we are laying the foundation for intentional dating BEFORE we start dating for commitment. We’re getting clear about our “why,” establishing our value-system, acknowledging our personal & relationship goals, talking about deal-breakers and shifting our mindset from casual dating to dating with a purpose. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Go to www.primallypure.com and use code “NOTETOSELF” to get 15% off your Primally Pure purchase.Give yourself the luxury you deserve with Quince! Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 27, 2025 • 44min
I Moved (Again!): How to Get Settled, Build Community & Create Routines in a New City
#190. I moved to Philadelphia! As I settle in to another new city, I’m sharing my step-by-step list to make the move to a new place as smooth as possible from-jump.FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Thousands have already trusted Rula to support them on their journey toward improved mental health and overall well-being. Head on over to Rula.com/notetoself to get started today.Luxury Shouldn’t Be Out of Reach. Visit CozyEarth.com and use my exclusive code NOTESELF for 40% off best-selling sheets, pajamas, and more.Go to www.primallypure.com and use code “NOTETOSELF” to get 15% off your Primally Pure purchase. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 20, 2025 • 50min
ASK P: talking about kids in a relationship, distancing from toxic friends & exiting the honeymoon phase
This engaging discussion dives into the challenges of balancing kids and relationships, with tips on how to communicate effectively about family planning. The speakers tackle the complexities of distancing from toxic friends, offering advice on confronting negative behaviors. They also explore the transition from the honeymoon phase of romance to a more stable partnership, highlighting the need for open conversations to keep the spark alive. Personal reflections on life changes and self-discovery add a relatable touch to the mix.

Mar 13, 2025 • 41min
Listen To This If You’re Experiencing an Identity Crisis
The host shares a humorous take on managing life transitions, like preparing for a move and coping with identity changes. They reflect on thrilling moments, like their first courtside experience and a recent engagement. Emphasis is placed on the emotional turmoil tied to stability amid significant life shifts. The journey from twenties to thirties is explored, emphasizing growth through love and self-discovery. Listeners are encouraged to embrace change and understand personal values during these transitional phases.

Mar 6, 2025 • 42min
What to Do When You’re on the Verge of Crashing Out (from very personal experience)
#187. Whether it’s due to recent world events, personal struggles, or simple brain chemistry, we all know what it feels like to feel a crashout (ie mental breakdown) coming. Here’s what I do to slow down, reset, and change perspective in order to avoid a spiral. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Sign up now and join the over 13 million all-time customers who have already saved and invested over $22 billion dollars with Acorns. Head to acorns.com/notetoself or download the Acorns app to get started.Cancel your unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster with Rocket Money. Go to RocketMoney.com/notetoself today.With R.W. Knudsen, krush 100% of your day with 100% juice. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today.Shop now at weareohho.com and use code NOTETOSELF for 20% off.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 27, 2025 • 54min
ASK P: Learning to Live for Yourself, Remedies to Feeling Stuck, & Seeking Closure After a Breakup
#186. In this month’s installment of ASK P, a segment where I do my best to answer listener Qs, we’re discussing relationships, independence, mental health & breakup aftermath. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Prose is SO confident that you’ll love your results that they’re offering an exclusive trial offer: FIFTY percent off your first haircare subscription order at Prose.com/notetoself.With R.W. Knudsen, krush 100% of your day with 100% juice. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today.Visit Halfdays.com and use code NoteToSelf at checkout for 15% off your first purchase.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 20, 2025 • 51min
Oversharing About Wedding Planning, Mental Breakdowns, Keeping the Spark Alive, & More
#185. In a rare turn of events, we are doing a Q&A episode today. You’re being nosey, I’m (happily) oversharing about all things wedding, relationships, mental health, & more. This episode is meant to make you feel a little better about yourself as I share how not-together my life truly is (because NO ONES is… it’s always something). FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:With R.W. Knudsen, krush 100% of your day with 100% juice. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today.Give yourself the luxury you deserve with Quince! Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Shop now at weareohho.com and use code NOTETOSELF for 20% off.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 13, 2025 • 50min
Dating 101: The Ground Rules for Dating Confidently & with Intention
In this discussion about intentional dating, the hosts tackle the complex journey of modern relationships. They emphasize self-awareness and clarity, encouraging listeners to approach dating with purpose. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding personal values and effective communication in the search for a life partner. Plus, they share tips on navigating relationships while avoiding unproductive patterns. It’s a refreshing take on finding love that prioritizes confidence and intentionality.
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