Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

If you have an anxious tween or teen who didn't like joining in before, how do you support them in a pandemic with remote learning? And another parent asks about her six year old's struggles with blaming others and finding friends. What do you say to the child who says, "Nobody likes me?" Books mentioned in this episode:Playing With Anxiety by Lynn Lyons and Reid WilsonOutsmarting Worry by Dawn HuebnerDavid Gets In Trouble by David ShannonManage Your Kids' Screen TimeThe Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode.New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 has challenged every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves.  Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm and tells parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness.Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast free of psychobabble and full of concrete advice. In each episode, Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving.Find us at flusterclux.comJoin the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode.New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Just because your Thanksgiving table will have empty chairs this year, doesn't mean that your family's dynamics aren't with you.What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dysfunctional generational patterns and give our kids the space for healthy feelings.This is an updated version of a previous episode (#10) about three of the most powerful patterns that shape not just our relationships with our families, partners, children, and friends but the world outside our homes.Lynn walks us through the very big sweet spot where we want to be modeling for our kids healthy emotional management and examples of the extremes to avoid. Manage Your Kids' Screen TimeThe Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode.New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"It'll be okay." "Everything will be fine." "I'm right here."Our kids turned to us for reassurance, and anxious kids ask for a lot of it. When we tell them everything will be fine, it feels like the right thing to do in the moment. But is it? How does our well-meaning reassurance interfere with our children developing critical psychological skills? And what should we do instead?We'll answer that question in this week's episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting.Lynn Lyons 0:32 Hi, I'm Lynn Lyons. I'm an anxiety expert, speaker, Mom and author. I've been a therapist for 30 years.Robin Hutson 0:38 You're here because your family has some anxiety issues, or you want to prevent them. I'm your co-host and Lynn's sister in law, Robin, and I'm here to ask your questions.Lynn Lyons 0:47 Parenting can be a Flusterclux, and I'll help you find your way.There are so many things that we do for our kids, things that are loving and caring and supportive. Things that feel intuitive. Things that we know make our kids feel better. Oh, but if you've heard me talk about these things, oftentimes when it comes to worry and anxiety, there are a few of these things that get a little bit tricky, a little bit sticky. And we're going to talk about one of those. Today, we're going to talk about reassurance.Watch the What I know What I don't Know video on Lynn's Facebook page of her explaining the game.Manage Your Kids' Screen TimeThe Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode.New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We'll hear a lot of hype about gratitude with the holidays coming. We'll go over how gratitude is proven to help you and how you may have been thinking about it all wrong. What are gratitude's powers? And what are its limits? And one listener asks what to do for her usually studious freshman, who's suddenly indifferent to high school and grades this year. Recommended talks on gratitudeBrian Doyle, 365 Days of Thank youLouie Schwartzberg, Nature. Beauty. Gratitude.Laura Tice, Remember to Say Thank YouMichael Norton, How to Buy Happiness Manage Your Kids' Screen TimeThe Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. Robin reads Lynn a listener question on what to do for a usually studious freshman who's suddenly indifferent to high school and grades this year.Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode and to learn more about the origins of Chip and Dale and the Chippendale dancers.New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Anxiety is loud and messy. And it's physical, and it brings with its diarrhea and vomiting and headaches and tummy aches and hives, and all sorts of physical symptoms that can really confuse kids and parents alike.2:08 Robin references Lynn's video that breakdown the physical process of anxiety for kids. 19:23 The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. 19:34 Robin reads Lynn a listener questionJoin the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode.New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your middle schooler is the opposite of a perfectionist— dirty hair, dirty room, indifference to academics, we discuss. And how do you parent your anxious kids in front of unsupportive in-laws? We’ll answer that question in this week’s episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting.1:01 Robin asks Lynn a question from a listener who was reacting to the perfectionism episode a few shows back. Her middle schooler is the opposite of a perfectionist embracing sloppiness and mediocrity.14:53 Lynn references Robin’s travel website Luxe Recess. 18:57 Robin shares why she uses a circle to manage her kids screen time. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle. 17:41 Robin reads a listener question about a mother-in-law who is unsupportive and passive aggressive.19:38 Lynn references her mentor Michael Yapko and his saying there’s a difference between something that impacts you personally, and something that you have to take personally.26:26 Robin references Lynn’s books and videos as resources for parents and grandparents to get on the same page helping an anxious child. 29:46 Join the Flusterclux Facebook group, so that you can ask your question on a future episode.New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Winter is coming; let's talk about how to prevent depression. While 2020 has put anxiety center stage, there are risk factors that can bring about depression, too. What are they? And if you have them, what can you do? We'll answer that question in this week's episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting.15:16 Lynn references Michael Yapko, one of her professional mentors.29:17 Robin reads a listener question about a 13-year-old who sought treatment for social anxiety in the past. Since COVID, she’s become more withdrawn, eating less and just not interested in going anywhere. How does one know if she really is fine or if it’s more serious like depression.38:46 So, join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you have an opportunity to ask Lynn, your question for an upcoming episode. And that’s Flusterclux with an X.SUGGESTED READING LISTBreaking the Patterns of Depression by Michael YapkoAdvice I Ignored: Stories and Wisdom from a Formerly Depressed Teenager by Ruby WalkerFeeling Great: The Revolutionary New Treatment for Depression and Anxiety by David BurnsNew episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

:40 Lynn cites the American Psychological Association research, 68% of adults say currently that the election is “a significant source of stress.”19:39 Lynn references a past episode that talks about when parents argue and model a resolution verses the vitriol of political debates among family members.29:04 And Robin recommends all three seasons of Long Way Up starring Ewan McGregor and Charley Boorman as an antidote for election anxiety.30:22 Lynn recommends the Dolly Parton documentary Here I Am on Netflix.32:20 please join the Flusterclux Facebook group. And we want to let our listeners know that we are switching our schedule, and new episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Episode 27 arrives October 23rd.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

1:13 We’re going to do a progress report for students this fall.4:04 HOW TO SUPPORT YOUNG LEARNERS THIS FALL7:15 MIDDLE SCHOOLERS AND REMOTE LEARNING13:01 HIGH SCHOOL, COLLEGE, and ACADEMIC PRESSURE17:56 Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle to manage your kids’ screen time at home. 18:22 A LISTENER QUESTION: THE CHILD THERAPIST RELATIONSHIP“I have a 17 year old daughter with general and social anxiety that is seeing a licensed mental health professional for about nine months now. I’ve now realized this professional is not making any headway with my daughter’s anxiety. How do I end the relationship with this therapist? My daughter does like her, and 1) find a new therapist that can truly help my daughter and 2) not cause my daughter’s anxiety to go into a tailspin with a new therapist and possibly damage our relationship.”24:59 WHAT TO ASK A CHILD THERAPIST FOR ANXIETYLynn goes over the questions parents should ask any potential therapist for their child. She goes over recommended approaches for anxiety and OCD. 27:36 Robin and Lynn discuss their obsession with watching Masterclass  lessons.33:22 Join the Facebook group so that you can ask Lynn your question on future episodes.Follow Flusterclux on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices