
You Need Therapy
Kathryn DeFatta, who has earned her Masters of Education from Vanderbilt University in Human Development Counseling, is inviting you into conversations around what it’s like to live fully in a world where we’ve become accustomed to shut parts of ourselves off. Here you will find a space that welcomes in discomfort, tough questions, and hard truths, all while showing how to find joy through it all.
Latest episodes

Aug 8, 2022 • 26min
Is Today's Authenticity Authentic Or Just A Marketing Strategy?
This week Kat is diving into how being authentic and being vulnerable became more than just a road toward freedom within our own stories. These days, authenticity and vulnerability for some people... are marketing strategies. How did we get here and how do we tell the difference between what is actually authentic authenticity versus performative... well this week's episode is a good place to start. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 3, 2022 • 15min
Couch Talks: My Relationship Doesn't Fit Societal Norms
Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about why people make such a big deal about age difference in relationships how and how approach people who make judgmental comments about them. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 1, 2022 • 41min
Narcissism At Work
Is your boss a narcissist or are they just a jerk? If you’re asking yourself this question than this week’s episode is calling your name. Honestly, these days the word narcissist is thrown around so much that it is almost losing it’s true me meaning. The good news: Kat is on a mission to help us understand what is just mean and harmful behavior and what it actually looks like to be in a relationship (specifically at work) with someone who might fit the criteria for malignant narcissism. disclaimer: This podcast is not a replacement for mental health services and does not have the ability to diagnose or treat any person for mental health needs. This episode specifically does not and can not serve as means to help listeners diagnose or treat others or themselves with narcissistic personality disorder or any mental illness. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 27, 2022 • 13min
Couch Talks: Do I Need To Set Boundaries With My Unreasonable Mom? And How??
Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat answers a question regarding what to do when a parent continues to react in irrational ways when you spend time with them. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 25, 2022 • 32min
What Is Masculinity with Justin Baldoni
This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has Justin Baldoni (@justinbaldoni) on the show to talk about some of the harmful messages that our culture's idea of masculinity creates. Justin recently came out with a book titled, Man Enough and has started the Man Enough Podcast in an effort to further undefine masculinity and offer freedom to those who have been hurt by the current popular beliefs of what being a man looks like. In this episode you will hear about some of those beliefs and gain a better understanding of why we need to start shifting how we view masculinity. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 20, 2022 • 12min
Couch Talks: How Do I Tell My Friend Her Feedback Feels Invalidating?
Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat reads an email from a listener asking how to approach a friend who has been giving feedback that feels invalidating. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 18, 2022 • 42min
Balsamic Vinegar & Seltzer Does Not = Coke with Dylan Murphy, RD, LDN
In this episode Dylan Murphy RD, LDN joins Kat for the second time! Dylan Murphy is a registered dietitian and founder of The Free Method. She also happens to be one of Kat's friends :) In this episode Kat and Dylan talk about the 75 Hard challenge and why it really isn't that different than all the other "challenges" aka undercover diets. They also talk about some of the weird social media trends that made Dylan do a little eye roll as a dietitian. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 13, 2022 • 14min
Couch Talks: My Estranged Father Has Cancer, Should I Reach Out?
Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat reads an email from a listener about her struggle in deciding if she should reconnect with her estranged father after discovering he has been diagnosed with cancer for the second time. She shares an excerpt from Lori Gotlieb’s book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, where Lori discusses the ability to separate forgiveness from compassion. In times like these, we often look to find the “right” answers. We focus on what we feel like we should do rather than what we believe is right for us. And Kat leaves us with some questions and thoughts to help move listeners into a space where we can discern those things better! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 11, 2022 • 52min
Flipping the Motherhood Scripts with Erin Lane
Today’s guest is Erin S. Lane. Erin is a writer, theologian, and someone other than a mother; which is also the title of her new book. Erin holds a bachelor’s degree from Davidson College and a master’s degree from Duke Divinity School, both with a focus on gender studies. And she is freaking amazing. In this episode we are decoupling a woman’s purpose from her reproductive role. Any woman who even hints she is maybe questioning if she wants to have kids has heard some form of these cultural scripts we discuss in this epsiode. In Someone Other Than a Mother: Flipping the Scripts on a Woman’s Purpose and Making Meaning Beyond Motherhood, Erin S. Lane asks if it is it possible to do something more meaningful than mothering? We always hope that You Need Therapy Podcast continues to provide an opportunity for listeners to discover more than just one way to live a desirable and good life - and this conversation does just that. Follow Erin on Instagram: @heyerinlane Erins website: https://www.erinslane.com/ Purchase Erins Book HERE! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 6, 2022 • 17min
Couch Talks: How Am I Supposed to Be A Good Therapist When I’m A Mess Myself?
Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about some new boundaries she is setting for herself when it comes to instagram, and answers a listener question around how therapists maintain their ability to be good at their job when they are also going through personal issues themselves. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.