Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat reads a listener email expressing gratitude for how the podcast helped her feel less alone in a tough part of her life. Then, Kat answered one of her most popular questions: How do you know if your therapist is right for you? And, spoiler alert that should not surprise any of you: the answer isn’t as black and white as we all probably hope.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are millennials lazy? Or are they branded with the toxic hustle culture mentality? Is it true that no one wants to work anymore or is the system we’ve been encouraged to work in, not working? These are the questions, and this week, Kat is trying to find some answers. There has been an increasing negative reputation associated with the work ethic and general mindset of millennials over the past couple of years and as a millennial herself, Kat has started to get tired and confused by it. If we are lazy, she wants to know why and if we aren’t, she wants to know where this conclusion came from. So this week we are diving straight in with some help from two articles that we HIGHLY suggest you read:   Why Are People Pretending to Love to Work by Erin Griffith  How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation by Helen Anne Peterson   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special Q&A episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every wednesday where listeners can send in questions to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat tackles the highly debated hot topic: What is the difference between a therapist and a coach. With so many self proclaimed “experts” on the internet these days it's hard to tell who to go to for help. It’s confusing, the answer to this question is confusing, AND there is a difference - we promise. Both can be good, both can be helpful, and they are NOT the same.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is breaking down The Karpman Triangle, also known as the Drama Triangle. The Karpman Triangle, developed by Stephan Karpman, is a way to explain a very common pattern of dysfunctional relationship dynamics that includes three roles: persecutor, rescuer, and victim. This dynamic describes how people who were taught that it was unsafe to directly ask for what they needed to operate in order to still get their needs in some way.  In this episode you will learn about the roles and how they play out and also find out how to get out of the cyclical pattern that playing these roles creates.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch aTalks is the special bonus epsiode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about  why she is stepping away from teaching indoor cycling and what the hardest part about becoming a therapist was for her! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever heard someone (in particular a therapist) say something like, "Well, what if both could be true at the same time?" For example, you can be both joyful and angry all in the same moment; or you can be grieving the loss of something and be looking forward to a new experience in unison. This week, Kat is breaking down the beliefs behind both/and thinking. This language tool is derived from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy which is based on dialectics or the idea that two opposing thoughts or feelings can be true at the same time. Listen this week to learn how something that doesn't make sense can help you make better sense of your experiences, relationships, and feelings.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks a listener through her fears around going back to school and "starting over" in a new field of work after already establishing a successful career in a field she lacks enjoyment in. If you are someone who is on the fence in any kind of situation that might involve "restarting" this episode is one you will want to listen to ... maybe more than once :)  Work Life Blend with Jonathon Fields   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat has New York Times best-selling author, Shauna Niequist on the show. Ever call yourself dumb or stupid when you learn something new for the first time? Well, despite what a lot of us have been taught, kindness and grace is a wayyy more effective motivator than shame- and Shauna is here in this episode to share how a simple shift in language has helped her family during difficult transitions in their lives. In this conversation you will also hear Shauna and Kat talk about the complexities of setting boundaries for and with yourself so you can live the life you actually want rather than a life that may look "impressive" to others.Follow Shauna on Instagram: @sniequistOrder Shauna's new book: I Guess I Haven't Learned That YetFollow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of YNT where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, a listener asks if Kat's thoughts on getting therapeutic "advice" from TikTok. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat has Heartbreak expert Guy Winch on the show to talk about why broken hearts hurt so freaking much. Guy is a licensed psychologist, author of multiple self help books, cohost of Dear Therapist Podcast, and a keynote speaker with 3 viral Ted Talks. In this conversation, you will hear what happens in your brain as you move through a break up and what Dr. Winch believes is the most effective way to heal the pain of heartbreak. You can learn more about Guy Winch HERE Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.