

The Break Up Break Down
Pionaire Podcasting
When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story....Abby is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it's even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing...especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We'll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Aug 12, 2025 • 50min
When Her Roommate Turned Out to Be The Other Woman.... - S8E5
She thought it was just a fun getaway with her her friend group (including...uh...her ex), but halfway through the trip, she learned the girl sharing her bed had been sharing something else with her… her boyfriend.-The week we're raising awareness for Harbor House in Appleton, WI: https://harborhousewi.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:11): How they met Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Aug 7, 2025 • 15min
He injured himself in the name of love!!!! | Break Down Bonus
Check out the Personality Hires podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7ddda6wKZg7n5sT9oaLSTJ-Follow the podcast!-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Aug 5, 2025 • 47min
When the 'block' button couldn't hide his post-break up betrayal....
[SCROLL FOR CW]-She uprooted her life and moved across the country for love, only to have her fiancé abruptly break up with her and call the cops on her. She was already blindsided...until the 'block' button couldn't hide the betrayal she never saw coming. We'll hear the full story when we break down this week's break up!-The week we're raising awareness for The Coburn Place in Indianapolis: https://coburnplace.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-[CONTENT WARNINGS: Intimate partner violence] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 31, 2025 • 13min
Break Down Bonus: She broke up with him during a MASSAGE?! w/ The Personality Hires
Check out the Personality Hires podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7ddda6wKZg7n5sT9oaLSTJ-Follow the podcast!-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 29, 2025 • 32min
When her bakery exposed her boyfriend's secret family....
She thought she was baking a sweet surprise for her boyfriend....but she had no idea who else would be tasting it. When his wife walked into her bakery and asked for that exact same cake, everything unraveled. We'll hear the full story when we break down this week's break up!-The week we're raising awareness for Women in Transition in Philly: https://helpwomen.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:53): How they met-(12:08): The cake-(16:47): Reacting to the wife reaching out-(19:45): How the infidelity affected her healing-(21:25): The aftermath-(31:46): Reflecting/advice-(38:09): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 24, 2025 • 26min
Break Down Bonus: How do I leave a manipulative relationship? w/ Vernique Esther, LMSW (Replay)
[SCROLL FOR CW] -This episode originally aired in season 3. -Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary. -Check out Vernique Esther's:-Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/-The Wholeness Academy: https://www.thewholenessacademy.com/-Books: https://www.verniqueesther.com/shop-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Introducing Vernique-(00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated?-(04:06): Why do people manipulate?-(07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries?-(09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation?-(12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up?-(14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?-(15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation?-(18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies?-(20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me?-(23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better?-[CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 22, 2025 • 26min
When she said her husband suggested threesomes to stay faithful.... - S8E2
[SCROLL FOR CW]-Her husband told her having threesomes would keep him from cheating on her with other men (likely story). She stuck by her man, hoping things would get better. It wasn’t until a life-threatening scare that she finally realized she had to get out. What finally gave her the courage to get out? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.-The week we're raising awareness for Casa Myrna in Boston: https://casamyrna.org/about/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-[CW: Suicidal ideation, domestic violence] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 17, 2025 • 14min
Break Down Bonus: Are their friends wrecking your relationship? w/ Laurie Poole, LPC
Follow the podcast!-Thank you, Laurie Poole, LPC, for joining us this week!-Learn more about Laurie and The Montford Group: https://themontfortgroup.com/laurie-poole-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 15, 2025 • 27min
When her husband ghosted her with divorce papers.... - S8E1
She went viral for gushing about her “perfect” husband...until she stitched the video with a brutal twist. Now she’s (almost) single and stunned...but she thinks there's one person to blame for the coldest breakup of her life. And it's not her or her husband.-The week we're raising awareness for Hope and Justice Foundation in Orlando, FL: https://hopeandjusticefoundation.com/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:48): How they met- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 25, 2025 • 15min
When did hadn't solved the break ups (yet).... - S7Finale
Follow the podcast!-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.