The Break Up Break Down
Pionaire Podcasting
When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story....Abby is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it's even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing...especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We'll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Jan 27, 2026 • 33min
When She Turned Cheating Into a Business Plan.... - S9E3
The week we're raising awareness for Refuge in the UK: https://refuge.org.uk/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jan 15, 2026 • 21min
Break Down Bonus: How to trust a new partner after an unhealthy relationship w/ Dr. Margaret Rutherford (Replay)
This episode originally aired in 2023-[SCROLL FOR CW]-Are you having a hard time trusting your new partner after your last relationship? Your ex may have damaged your ability to trust again, but you don't have to live in fear forever. Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins Abby to talk about what you can to have a healthy relationship with your new partner. -Check out Dr. Margaret Rutherford's:-Website: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/-Podcast: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/selfwork/-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Introducing the episode-(00:42): The key to learning to trust again.....-(06:45): How to not use relationships for validation-(09:47): How to build up your own self-worth-(11:54): How to trust a new partner after getting cheated on-(13:44): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?-(14:33): When do I draw boundaries OR when do I leave if I feel like I'm being gaslit?-(19:05): Final piece of advice for building a strong sense of self-[CW: Abuse] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jan 13, 2026 • 23min
When her fiancee disappeared for days.... - S9E2
[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS]-The week we're raising awareness for the South carolina coalition against domestic violence: https://www.sccadvasa.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-[CW: Suicidal Ideation] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jan 8, 2026 • 23min
How your high school relationship impacts your future w/ Amy from New Perspectives | Break Down Bonus Replay
This episode originally aired in August 2023-Amy from New Perspectives: https://newperspectivesforlife.com/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jan 6, 2026 • 33min
When she called to divorce him and heard gunshots over the phone.... - S9E1
[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS]-The week we're raising awareness for the Hubbard House in Jacksonville, FL: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/about-hubbard-house/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-[CW: Mention of Suicide, Intimate Partner Violence] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dec 30, 2025 • 32min
When the break ups went unsolved in season 8.... - Season 8 Finale
Follow the podcast!-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dec 11, 2025 • 18min
The connection between narcissism and serial cheating | Break Down Bonus (replay)
Also check out....Getting Over The Person You Thought You Would Marry: https://www.podcastrepublic.net/podcast/1594917373-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dec 9, 2025 • 18min
When the other woman ruined her engagement plans.... - S8E19
The week we're raising awareness for the Marjaree Mason Center in Fresno, CA: https://mmcenter.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dec 4, 2025 • 20min
When should I stop fighting for my rocky relationship? | Break Down Bonus Replay
Things not going super well in your relationship for the last few weeks? Months? Years? If things aren't great, but not glaringly harmful, it can be difficult to decide whether or not it's worth fighting for or if you're better off moving on. Abby breaks down this week's main episode with clips from previous bonus episodes that help us better understand this week's interview and how to determine when you should get out of a rocky relationship!-This episode originally aired in Season 3-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Lily Womble (The Date Brazen Podcast) Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/777HQvFseDMXe0YKF9dxqt?si=31iSSSg1SPSHfyV8rMoWUw-Veronique Esther, LMSW Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1sEN1ePQ3JcPsLJ2GjgIXF-Dr. Margaret Rutherford Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1pFwVmNGSDEiihTfhuXNEp?si=uVS-xTMGRkOvyg0rYp5sYQ- Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps-(02:01): Does the amount of sex you're having=how healthy your relationship is?-(03:37): My partner is manipulative- how do I know if I should leave them for good?-(07:01): What if I want to work through my partner's manipulative tendencies?-(09:37): I always seem to date manipulators. What should I do?-(12:18): Advice for people who decide to stay with a toxic partner.-(14:13): How to rebuild self-trust.-(16:55): Advice on rebuilding your self-worth.-(19:02): Mic drop moment from Dr. Margaret. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dec 2, 2025 • 29min
When she married the boyfriend of her ex's side-chick.... - S8E18
The week we're raising awareness for the Domestic Violence Resource Center in Albuquerque, NM: https://dvrcnm.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
