
The Break Up Break Down
When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story....Abby is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it's even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing...especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We'll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Latest episodes

May 20, 2025 • 41min
When he walked in on her and his best friend....- S7E18
[Scroll for CW]-You could've called him "Mr. Steal Your Girl" after snagging his best friend from high school from her boyfriend. But after moving across the country for college with her, now the tables might be turning, and let’s just say… he’s not the only one who knows how to sneak around. We'll find out what he walked in on when his girlfriend and close friend snuck away at a party when we break down this week's break up.-This week we're raising awareness for the New Destiny Housing in NYC: https://newdestinyhousing.org/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:39): How they met-(10:43): Red Flags-(15:11): Walking in on his friend and his GF-(23:55): The actual break up-(38:35): Reflecting/advice-(46:59): Teaser-[CW: Suicidal Ideation] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

May 15, 2025 • 19min
Break Down Bonus Replay: How is a narcissist created? w/ Jessica Anne Pressler, LCSW
Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-More from Jessica Anne Pressler, LCSW: https://www.jessicaannepressler.com/-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

May 13, 2025 • 44min
When her therapist knew before she did.... - S7E17
[Scroll for CW]-When her therapist brought up some red flags during a session, it made this week's interviewee question everything in her marriage. Her unease led her to order weeks worth of phone records all to uncover what was really going on in his life away from her. What did she uncover after sifting through all the evidence? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up-This week we're raising awareness for the The Lighthouse near Columbus, OH: https://www.lancasterlh.org/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:47): How they met-(13:54): Red flags-(27:11): The actual break up-(40:29): Reflecting/advice-(48:45): Teaser-[CW: Miscarriage, intimate partner violence] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

May 8, 2025 • 25min
Break Down Bonus Replay: How to reconcile with friends after conflict w/ Danielle Bayard Jackson
Thank you to Danielle Bayard Jackson for joining the podcast!-daniellebayardjackson.com / betterfemalefriendships.com -Follow the podcast!-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

May 6, 2025 • 29min
When a 30yr friendship came to an end in one conversation.... - S7E16
[SCROLL FOR CW]-When you've been best friends with someone for 30+ years, you'd think your relationship could withstand anything. However, after our interviewee started noticing a pattern in her bestie's life...she decided enough was enough. Why did these two part ways after three decades? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.-This week we're raising awareness for the The Family Refuge Center in West Virginia: https://www.familyrefugecenter.org/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-[CW: Suicidal ideation, self-harm] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

May 1, 2025 • 40min
Break Down Bonus: They may not know it's a sex addiction until they're dating you! w/ Dr. Rob Weiss
Thank you to Dr. Rob Weiss for joining the podcast this week!-Find more from Dr. Rob at SeekingIntegrity.com-Tune into Sex, Love, and Addiction here: https://taminp.podbean.com/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Apr 29, 2025 • 53min
When he asked for a divorce right after sex.... - S7E15
[SCROLL FOR CW]-They were college sweethearts who thought they'd nailed the whole "forever" thing — until one night, right after nailing something else, he casually asked for a divorce. Why did these two part ways after feeling like they'd found their great love story? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up. -This week we're raising awareness for the The Family Place in North Texas: https://familyplace.org/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-[CW: Domestic Violence, Infidelity] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Apr 24, 2025 • 13min
Break Down Bonus: What do you do when your partner doesn't want you to break up?
Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Call 1-800-799-SAFE for the DV Hotline-Break Down Bonus: How to Identify Intimate Partner Violence- https://shows.acast.com/the-break-up-break-down/episodes/6661a5d5a44e5000113fcf72-Break Down Bonus: A conversation on domestic violence w/ LCSW Amethyst St. Thomas- https://shows.acast.com/the-break-up-break-down/episodes/6661a5d5a44e5000113fcfb7 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Apr 22, 2025 • 38min
When she said her ex threatened to send her to prison.... - S7E14
[SCROLL FOR CW]-She thought her relationship troubles were over when she broke up with her boyfriend of a few years- little did she know the drama was only getting started. When she tries to move on from her long-term boyfriend, she said he went to extreme lengths to keep her around...even if those lengths were behind bars.-This week we're raising awareness for Roxbury Storehouse in Boston: https://www.stonehouseinc.org/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-[CW: Murder, suicidal thoughts, harassment, DV] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Apr 17, 2025 • 16min
Break Down Bonus: Why a brief relationship breakup still feels just as intense
Dive into the emotional rollercoaster of short-term breakups and the surprising weight they carry. Explore how brief relationships can leave lasting feelings of loss and the struggle for closure. Unpack the excitement and disappointment of fleeting connections, while discovering how they intertwine with self-identity. This discussion sheds light on the complex emotional responses we have to sudden endings and emphasizes the importance of acknowledging grief as part of the healing process.