Unapologetically Sensitive

Embracing Neurodiversity: My Journey Continues to Unfold I may have dropped a bombshell in episode 191. I apologize and I provide more information in this episode. My understanding about neurodivergence has really expanded, and I’m recognizing myself in some new and unexpected ways. I share some insight, education, and how this expands my work with neurodivergent people with new understanding. I also talk about how I see this impacting the podcast and my work with clients. HIGHLIGHTS   Learn to have more conversations about neurodiversity and inclusivity, rejecting finite labels and embracing different ways of showing up in the world. Understand the relief and acceptance upon receiving a diagnosis or deeper understand of how you’re wired Acknowledging the diversity within autism and reject stereotypes. Instead learn about the importance of understanding the lived experiences of autistic individuals. Explore the intersection between highly sensitive people and autism, suggesting similarities and possible overlaps. Learn more about masking and support needs, highlighting their own experience as a high masker with low support needs. Acknowlege the controversy and differing opinions within the autistic community and HSP community about the origins and the intersection (if there is one). Understand a personal anecdote about social awkwardness and sensory issues during a breakfast gathering, emphasizing the need for self-advocacy and self-care strategies. Identify the personal challenges, feelings of not being understood, and the importance of compassion and support from others. Appreciate the connections made with other autistic individuals and therapists, highlighting the support and shared experiences within the neurodivergent community. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Resources UPDATED AUTISM RESOURCES YouTube Could you be Autistic (and not know) Video Yo Samdy Sam  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ot46-YGUF4Y... 10 Autism Signs you need to know Paige Layle (content starts at 1:45) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfKH7-GM3aM Autistic MASKING: how do we do it and should we stop? Yo Samdy Sam https://youtu.be/t9COmZ2HwXY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6uTEoBHHF4 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvZVOlVnQW0 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzske-KMAJYQn84rz6oD_yA https://www.youtube.com/@autismfromtheInside Online Tests and Quizzes https://embraceasd.com/tests/ Pre-diagnostic/Self-assessment quiz for autism https://www.aspietests.org/raads/...  Pre-diagnostic/Self-assessment quiz for autism https://rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php... Adult autism assessment for people socialized as women https://taniaannmarshall.wordpress.com/.../adult.../... Females & Asperger’s: A Checklist - https://the-art-of-autism.com/females-and-aspergers-a.../ Steve Asbell’s Autistic Masking Quiz https://misslunarose.home.blog/.../25/steve-asbell-aq-r/... Collection of Tests Related to Autism & Asperger’s: https://aspietests.org/... A Neurodiversity Paradigm Breakdown of the DSM-5 Criteria for Autism https://autietraumageek.medium.com/a-neurodiversity... Should you seek an autism diagnosis or not? Trauma Geek Facebook Post from Nov. 4, 2020 (with a couple added links): Let’s talk about adult diagnosis of Autism and ADHD. What’s the point? 1. Educational accommodations 2. Disability benefits 3. Specialized support 4. Finding your NeuroTribe 5. All of the above If you’re looking for 1 or 2, medical diagnosis is necessary. If you’re looking for 3 or 4, self-diagnosis is completely valid. Many neurodivergent people do both - There is a self-discovery process first, and then they seek medical diagnosis. Medical diagnosis is a privilege. It is not accessible to all neurodivergent people. It is expensive and emotionally taxing under the best of circumstances. If you pursue medical diagnosis, there is a high chance that your doctor will not be informed about the neurodiversity paradigm or masking. They may not see you as autistic or ADHD because their training involved a very narrow stereotype of these neurotypes. You may need to ask if your doctor is willing to look at the newest research and learn along with you, or you may want to refer them to a neurodiversity advocate who can explain the research to them. (I’m writing from the United States, so this info may not apply to all countries, but I have read that Australia and the UK are very similar with professionals tending to have a biased concept of autism based on outdated research studies of men and boys. This trend is gradually changing for the better, but we have a long way to go to reach full autism and ADHD acceptance in the medical field.) If you don’t need government benefits or educational support, self-identification is enough. Like gender identity, neurotype is a social construct. Self-diagnosis matters because it allows us to reframe our story about ourselves, seek supports that actually work for us, understand our own health and neurology, and find belonging in a group that thinks and feels and expresses themselves like we do. The importance of finding belonging after a lifetime of feeling othered cannot be overstated. How to talk about Autism respectfully - https://coda.io/@mykola-bilokonsky/public-neurodiversity-support-center/how-to-talk-about-autism-respectfully-84 @audhdfeelings: This is the best assessment ever https://1drv.ms/x/s!AqQsNLv44oHwc-z-kYxYTbJ9BxQ?e=yENNbJ Sally Cat checklist http://www.sallycatpda.co.uk/?m=1 Casey Ehrlich PDA at Peace Parents https://www.atpeaceparents.com/ Autism is a spectrum doesn’t mean what you think  https://neuroclastic.com/its-a-spectrum-doesnt-mean-what-you-think/?fbclid=IwAR3-mYBE9aa6OrZLW6t7cN4kFymr_gXtHuDhimKOSHq7AAa9-NqvXsGXb38&mibextid=Zxz2cZ ND communication styles https://neuroclastic.com/weavers-and-concluders-two-communication-styles-no-one-knows-exist/?amp&fbclid=IwAR0dDqS_0TxJxzDyQOkuMyBBqTf5mqb_bs2R0osDgI_sEC5-3FdGONI91K4&mibextid=Zxz2cZ  Books: «Unmasking Autism» (Devon Price) «Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate» (Cynthia Kim) «Drama Queen: One Autistic Woman and a Life of Unhelpful Labels» (Sara Gibbs) «Odd girl out: An Autistic Woman in a Neurotypical World» (Laura James) «I Overcame My Autism and All I Got Was This Lousy Anxiety Disorder — A Memoir» (Sarah Kurchak) «Invisible Differences: A Story of Aspergers, Adulting, and Living a Life in Full Color» (Julie Dachez) Podcasts: - the Neurodivergent Woman - SquarePeg - the Autistic Culture - Neuroqueering - the neurodiverging podcast - Neurodivergent moments Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfKH7-GM3aM https://youtu.be/t9COmZ2HwXY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6uTEoBHHF4 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvZVOlVnQW0 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzske-KMAJYQn84rz6oD_yA https://www.youtube.com/@autismfromtheInside HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Healing & Connection: Finding Your People Amidst the Storm We talk about honoring your neurodivergence, and bringing in self-compassion when you’re having a hard time connecting with your strengths and gifts. We talk about having unrealistic expectations in friendships, and the fear of rejection if you ask for what you want. How do you recognize where you do have control of yourself, and how do you learn to embrace uncertainty? We talk about the challenges with setting boundaries, and identifying who honors your boundaries. GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC HIGHLIGHTS ·         Unravel the significance of self-compassion and mindfulness in working with stress and anxiety. ·         Appreciate your unique perspective to enrich your connections in relationships. ·         Attain equilibrium by letting go of the uncontrollable and harnessing personal power. ·         Elevate your communication skills with meta-awareness to focus on the spirit of connection. ·         Discover the impactful role of self-compassion and mindfulness in minimizing stress and anxiety. ·         Embrace your individuality to strengthen connections and bonds in relationships. ·         Establish boundaries to foster a sense of safety and stability in your life. ·         Achieve inner peace by releasing control over uncontrollable situations and embracing personal agency. ·         Enhance your conversations through meta-awareness, emphasizing the essence of connection while you speak. Resources ·         Consider working with a coach or therapist that is knowledgeable in neurodivergence and can provide a safe space for you to talk about your challenges and find healing. ·         Practice self-compassion by taking a self-compassion break, which includes mindfulness of the present moment, connecting with the universality of suffering, and wishing gentleness and fullness for oneself and others. ·         Focus on what is possible rather than an impossible task by redirecting energy towards simple acts such as taking a sip of water or a deep breath. ·         Recognize that different mindfulness and meditation techniques work for different people and find a repertoire of techniques that work for you to manage stress and regulate emotions. ·         Review your friendships and relationships, recognize patterns, and communicate your needs clearly to foster safe and supportive connections. GUEST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us  LINKS Kristen Neff Self-Compassion Break-- https://self-compassion.org/exercise-2-self-compassion-break/   Jen’s Links Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/ Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Distorted Self-Image; Internalizing How You are Positively Reflected How can you internalize the positive ways others see you in order to shift your distorted self-perception? How do you nurture secure attachments? What prevents you from having intimate relationships with others? Jen and I talk about what it was like for her to come to CA, and for us to meet in person for the first time in our 5-year friendship.  We explore our fears, & how this shifted our relationship. We also explore ways to savor connection. GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC HIGHLIGHTS Listen to episode 193 to hear about Jen's surprise visit to San Diego. Take the time to check in with your needs and feelings in relationships, and communicate them clearly to your partner or friend. Practice nonviolent communication by separating needs from strategies and avoiding making assumptions or personalizing situations. Reflect on the positive parts of yourself that you experience through others, and work on empowering yourself to see those qualities through your own eyes. Embrace your personal living style without seeking reassurance or approval from others. Consider using Marco Polo or FaceTime to build deep, meaningful relationships with long-distance friends. Remember to factor in the impact of ADHD on maintaining friendships and take steps to mitigate those challenges. Take the risk to be vulnerable with friends and loved ones, and cultivate a vocabulary that allows you to talk about GUEST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us  LINKS  Jen’s Links  Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com  Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/ Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6  Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Embracing Vulnerability and Setting Boundaries for Deeper Connection Vulnerability can be an uncomfortable but empowering experience, resulting in stronger connections with others and increased emotional resilience. If you crave meaningful connections, you must allow yourself to be vulnerable, even when it feels uncomfortable. When setting boundaries, we often deal with a part that feels very young and disempowered. We forget we are grown *ss adults. We talk about specific tools and ways to regulate uncomfortable feelings and practice speaking your truth. GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC  HIGHLIGHTS ·     Reach out for support when feeling overwhelmed, lonely, or scared. ·     Practice setting boundaries in relationships and honoring your own needs. ·     Recognize and validate the emotions you are experiencing, even if they seem conflicting. ·     Practice self-compassion when dealing with life's challenges and be gentle with yourself when anticipating potential issues. ·     Reflect on past experiences and how you've grown through them, using those lessons to navigate current situations. ·     Consider your relationship with your body and how you can take care of it as you age. ·     Embrace your finely-tuned nervous system and its reactions. ·     Counter perfectionism by accepting imperfections and embracing life's messiness. ·     Stay connected with others, even when life gets busy or challenging. ·     Practice mindfulness and being present in each moment, rather than getting caught up in past or future worries.  GUEST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us  LINKS  Jen’s Links  Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com  Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/  Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Managing Stress Reactions through Self-Care How do you manage stress reactions—especially when you struggle to set boundaries? Sometimes it can be difficult to assert your needs. I share a story of risking looking like that person in my own home. We talk about the importance of understanding what you are willing to tolerate in relationships and what might come up if you struggle to set boundaries. We also talk about the intimacy that develop when we are able to risk and be vulnerable with those we love. GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC HIGHLIGHTS ·         Fortify your personal boundaries and enhance your well-being as a highly sensitive individual. ·         Master the art of self-care to manage stress reactions and maintain balance in life. ·         Foster empathy and understanding to strengthen relationships and foster meaningful connections. ·         Embark on a journey of personal growth and self-awareness, discovering ways to cope with emotional triggers. ·         Bolster your emotional regulation by embracing support from loved ones and building a nurturing circle. The resources mentioned in this episode are: ·         Consider reading Emily Nagoski's book, Burnout, to learn more about handling stress and setting boundaries. ·         Take time for self-care by scheduling specific days or moments in a month for doing something nice for yourself. ·         Practice asserting yourself and setting boundaries in different situations, even if it feels uncomfortable. ·         Communicate openly with family members or friends about your struggles with setting boundaries and ask for their support. ·         Reflect on where you feel a no in your body and honor that feeling when setting boundaries. ·         Be mindful of rules and social etiquette in public spaces, and assert yourself when needed.  GUEST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski PhD, & Amelia Nagoski DMA  Jen’s Links Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/ Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6  Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com    

Managing Dysregulation with Compassion & Mindfulness In this episode, you will be able to: 1. Learn the importance of honoring your personal needs and setting boundaries to maintain your emotional well-being. 2. Recognize the impact of differentiating past traumas from present experiences to feel more empowered. 3. The importance of cultivating authentic connections through vulnerability and empathetic listening. 4. Uncover some tools for healing through journaling, meditation, and IFS. GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC HIGHLIGHTS The resources mentioned in this episode are: Practice self-awareness and tune into your feelings and needs, especially during moments of dysregulation. Honor your emotions and personal boundaries by taking breaks, resting, and setting limits as needed. Use cognitive tools, such as present moment focus, to help manage dysregulation and negative thought patterns. Find a supportive group or community where you feel comfortable and understood, and avoiding situations that make you feel othered. Invest in helpful tools, like noise-cancelling earplugs, to make sensory experiences more manageable. Educate yourself about your own neurodivergence, such as autism, to better understand your needs and experiences. Communicate your needs to friends and loved ones, and allow them to support you during difficult moments. Recognize and challenge unhealthy attachment patterns or expectations in relationships. Practice self-compassion and avoid self-judgment, recognizing that taking care of yourself is not quitting or failing. Seek therapy or support from a mental health professional if needed to help navigate challenges related to being a highly sensitive person. GUEST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Why haven’t I healed or awakened yet with Jeff Foster-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRLKZN1LRFM Jen’s Links  Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com  Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/  Patricia’s Links  HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6  Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

The Power of Speaking Up; Boundary-Setting in Therapy and Beyond How do you navigate ruptures in therapy if the therapist overshares, or does not meet your needs? Rupture and repair are possible. Are there ways to self-disclose in appropriate ways that benefit the client? We share a vignette about therapeutic rupture. As a client, do you know how to bring up concerns to your therapist? As a therapist, are you creating safety for your clients, so they know that you welcome their feedback? If done skillfully, repair work can create a stronger therapeutic bond, and more intimacy. GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC  HIGHLIGHTS Speak up if your therapist violates your boundaries or wastes your time. You have a right to use your voice and say that this behavior was not okay. Consider giving your therapist feedback if they make a mistake or have an off day. This can help repair any ruptures in the therapeutic relationship and strengthen the alliance. Remember that therapy is a partnership, and you have agency in the process. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need or express your feelings. If you're struggling to show up authentically, consider seeking out a therapist or coach who can help you feel safe and supported. If you're a therapist, practice skillful self-disclosure by sharing information in a measured, appropriate, and helpful way that helps your clients feel connected. Be open to discomfort and learning to tolerate it. The goal of therapy is not always to feel better, but to learn how to manage conflict and discomfort in a healthy way. GUEST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS  Jen’s Links Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/ Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Setting the Groundwork for the Holidays with the Emotionally Immature Person part 2 Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents explains why we repeatedly give in to an Emotionally Immature Person (EIP) even when you don’t want to. She talks about how to stay in touch with your true self and how to plan your actions to support you.  She also helps you understand when to confront and when to let go, as well as providing tools and mantras to remind you that you have needs, and a right to exist.  GUEST  Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.  HIGHLIGHTS 5 Hallmarks of an Emotionally Immature Parent/Person (EIP) 1.    Egocentric 2.    Poor empathy 3.    Not self-reflective 4.    Look at reality through the lens of their own emotions 5.    Avoids emotional intimacy Here are some of the questions Dr. Gibson responds to: How do Emotionally Immature Parents (EIPs) or Emotionally Immature Persons get you to knuckle under and let them do what they want (emotional coercion)? What makes you repeatedly give in to an Emotionally Immature Parent (or Person) even when you don’t want to? Dr. Gibson talks about what makes you give in even when you have a bad feeling about it. Why don’t you listen to your instincts when confronted with a pushy EIP? How do you stay in touch with your true Self, and plan your actions according to what’s healthy and less stressful for you? What’s the best overall approach, or the mantra to remember to get through a holiday visit without serious stress? When do you let things go, and when do you confront? GUEST BIO  Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and she works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Dr, Gibson’s links Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/ Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com 

Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents explains why it’s harder to deal with Emotionally Immature People (EIPs) around get togethers, and the likely pitfalls.  She talks about how to plan and prepare so the experience is healthy for you. She also explains why you may become paralyzed or feel like a small child around your family. Dr. Gibson talks about how to take care of yourself, and how to set boundaries.  GUEST Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. HIGHLIGHTS 5 Hallmarks of an Emotionally Immature Parent/Person (EIP) 1.    Egocentric 2.    Poor empathy 3.    Not self-reflective 4.    Look at reality through the lens of their own emotions 5.    Avoids emotional intimacy Here are some of the questions Dr. Gibson responds to:   Recap of what is an Emotionally Immature Parent (EIP) (or Emotionally Immature Person)? Is there something about holiday get togethers that makes it harder to deal with Emotionally Immature family members? What are the steps in planning to make the holiday visit as healthy as possible? What are the likely pitfalls to be ready for? How do you deal with them? Why do you often become immobilized or silent like scared children, rather than standing up for yourself in the face of Emotionally Immature behavior? How do you set your boundaries when someone is getting upset with you for saying no? GUEST BIO Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and she works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Dr, Gibson’s links Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/ Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com 

Setting Boundaries with Emotionally Immature People Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents provides a 5-part process outlining how to set boundaries with an Emotionally Immature Person (EIP). She also talks about how to reinforce and reset those boundaries when they aren’t honored. Dr. Gibson talks about how to determine the optimal physical and psychological distance with EIPs, including examples. Dr. Gibson states what you can say when an EIP says something hurtful.  GUEST  Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.  HIGHLIGHTS 5-Part process in talking to an emotionally immature person: 1.     Ask if you can have some time (10 minutes) for the person to listen to you 2.     Set ground rules a.      There are some things I need to tell you b.     I’m going to tell you how I’m feeling, and I’d like for you to just listen and understand.  You don’ have to do anything c.      Are you willing to do this? 3.     Tell them what you need to say following this format: a.      When you ­­­(example), I feel (share feeling) 4.     Follow up immediately with what you would like from them a.      Would you be willing to promise me that                                                              i.      You won’t use these words (examples)                                                            ii.      You will talk to me in private instead of publicly.                                                         iii.      You will say this (example) instead of that (example) 5.     Would you be willing to try this for me?  GUEST BIO  Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students. PODCAST HOST  Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and she works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).  LINKS  Dr, Gibson’s links Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/ Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com