Unapologetically Sensitive

EPISODE Episode 19 TITLE The Key To Helping Someone with Rejection Sensitivity is Helping Them Develop a Sense of Security GUEST Jared DeFife Ph.D. EPISODE OVERVIEW Dr. DeFife works with people who are emotionally intense, tend to be perfectionistic and sensitive to criticism. He talks about Rejection Sensitivity, which has 3 primary components. Dr. DeFife talks about the 3 Cs to help if you experience Rejection Sensitivity.  We talk about 2 types of perfectionism, muscle dysmorphia and the benefits of self-disclosure and authenticity by therapists in the therapeutic relationship. HIGHLIGHTS Rejection Sensitivity Anxious anticipation of [rejection] Ready perception of [seeing rejection in neutral situations when it may not be there] Intense reaction to [criticism, failure, set backs, exclusion, lack of belonging] Rejection Sensitivity is highly correlated with aggression and hostililty—this can look like behavior that is snide or snippy. The person engages in hostile and rejecting behavior, then creates the rejection due to their behavior. The person ends up creating what they are most afraid of. They get into this vicious cycle. Rejection Sensitivity can also include reactions where the person engages in social avoidance or shutting down. Rejection Sensitivity is a process that people engage in to avoid feeling shame. In Anxious Anticipation Of—the person imagines that they probably won’t be accepted or liked before the interaction. They may imagine that the other person will think they’re stupid. Perfectionism isn’t really about wanting things to be perfect At the root, it’s that other people will see that we’re defective and inadequate Perfectionism can be a survival skill for some, and if you take it away, you’re taking away the way they believe they can fit in. There are different types of perfectionism Self-oriented perfectionism—competing against yourself (like an athlete would). This can be a healthy form of perfectionism. Socially prescribed perfectionism—If I don’t get this right, people will think I’m an idiot, or I’ll be rejected.     Rejection Sensitivity is transdiagnostic—you will see it across many different diagnoses like depressive disorders, anxiety disorders, personality disorders, eating disorders and substance use disorders. Muscle dysmorphia—"is a subtype ofbody dysmorphic disorder (BDD), in which people, mostly males, are obsessed with the size of their muscles.  They worry that they are not muscular or lean enough or that their bodies are too underdeveloped and weak.  Their symptoms cause significant distress and hinder their ability to socialize, go to work, and/or participate in daily activities.  In many cases, people with muscle dysmorphia have average or above average muscularity.”  Quoted from https://mghocd.org/what-is-muscle-dysmorphia/ The Key to helping someone with Rejection Sensitivity is to help them develop a sense of security. The way to do this is with the 2 Cs Calmness—to calm down that fueled intense reactivity Clarity—learning what your wants and needs are, and knowing your life story so you are clear about your own desires, motivations and interests Connections—having safe relationships with others where you can be vulnerable, and open with others and you don’t have to keep your feelings to yourself Being a psychologically health person isn’t about being a perfect person. Of course it’s  about being vulnerable RESOURCES— Don’t Take It Personally! The Art of Dealing With Rejection Elayne Savage PhD Books by Brene Brown--https://www.google.com/search?q=brene+brown+books&oq=brene+brown+books&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l5.2786j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8 Mentalization Based Therapy Schema Therapy DBT—Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Metacognitive Interpersonal Therapy Radically Open DBT   BIO Jared DeFife, PhD (www.jareddefife.com) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Atlanta, GA and an Adjunct Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Emory University School of Medicine. Dr. DeFife specializes in helping people who identify as “emotionally intense”, perfectionistic, self-critical, and interpersonally sensitive to criticism or rejection. His practice integrates from interpersonal and personality-focused therapies drawing from Schema-Focused, Mentalization-Based, and RO-DBT approaches for chronic depression/anxiety, interpersonal problems, and personality disorder concerns. Dr. DeFife has published widely in professional journals and been a frequent media commentator on mental health and interpersonal relationships for numerous television, podcast, and print outlets including the BBC World News, Psychotherapy Networker, Yahoo! Health, Self, Bustle, Women’s Health and Men’s Health magazines, and The Huffington Post. He is a regular blog contributor to Psychology Today.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. LINKS Website—https://www.jareddefife.com/   http://grantome.com/grant/NIH/R01-MH081948-04   https://www.ffri.hr/~ibrdar/komunikacija/seminari/Downey,%201996%20-%20Rejection%20Sensitivity%20for%20intimate%20relationsh.pdf   https://www.researchgate.net/publication/200008742_Self-esteem_and_rejection_sensitivity_in_close_relationships     Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Bonus Episode 35 TITLE How To Honor Our Needs When Things Feel Unjust GUEST Solo episode—Patricia Young EPISODE OVERVIEW Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) feel things deeply, and we have an incredibly strong sense of wanting things to be just, fair and equitable, and when they aren’t, it can be very upsetting to us.  Many of us have been told to mind our own business.  We perceive things that others don’t, so we catch things that others miss, and we just want things to be fair.  I talk about not staying in my own lane, and consequently having a shame attack.  I learned that I need to honor that part of me that wants fairness and doesn’t want anyone taking advantage of another or not pulling their own weight.  How do we know when it’s the right time to step in and advocate and when we need to allow others to sort things out. BIO Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Episode 18 TITLE Women’s Experiences Matter and Women’s Emotional Lives Matter GUEST Sara Wachter-Boettcher EPISODE OVERVIEW Sara talks about the importance of centering on women’s voices in media, and the importance of showing women in deep, rich, emotional conversations with each other in order to show how powerful it can be when we are vulnerable, and open and honest with each other. Sara talks about the common beliefs that prevent people from taking it to the next level, and steps they can take to get there. We talk about the value of learning from what didn’t work out, and often success is more about the process than the end result. We talk a quote someone said, “You can be a hot mess, and be successful.” HIGHLIGHTS In many environments, women are taught that in order to get ahead, they need to stuff all their feelings down, and that’s what professionalism means Women are taught that to be good at their jobs, they should be more unfeeling; more unstoic, and then they are perceived as unlikable when they are those things We’re extremely good at what we do. We’re competent; we’re ambitious, and we are successful, and we are also people that are unashamed to say, “Hey, I cried twice today.” I’m still good at what I do; I’m still competent and I’m still successful The contradicting messages women receive—you’re too aggressive, and you need to speak up. There are double standards for women, and a narrow tightrope for women to walk in order to be perceived as “just right.” You can spend your entire life just trying to do it “just right,” and still get the message that it’s not good enough We’re creating a space where we can say that none of those rules apply, and we can talk with women about things that matter to them on their own terms, so that people don’t feel less alone, and less alone in processing those toxic messages they get You can be a hot mess and successful at the same time In a male dominated culture, there is an emphasis on glossing over anything that makes you feel vulnerable. The problem with this is that people don’t learn anything from your story about being awesome. That is not helpful for someone else trying to learn from you Success is not any pure thing that doesn’t have down sides to it BIO Sara Wachter-Boettcher runs Rare Union, a strategy consultancy, and cohosts Strong Feelings, a weekly podcast about living your best feminist life at work. She's also a keynote speaker and the author of three tech/design books: Technically Wrong: Sexist Apps, Biased Algorithms, and Other Threats of Toxic Tech from W.W. Norton in 2017, Design for Real Life (with Eric Meyer) from A Book Apart in 2016, and Content Everywhere from Rosenfeld Media in 2012. Her work has been featured in The Washington Post, Slate, The Guardian, and more, and she’s spoken at dozens of events across four continents related to tech and design. LINKS Website--rareunion.com Website--strongfeelings.co   Website--www.sarawb.com   Twitter--twitter.com/sara_ann_marie Podcast—Strong Feelings Elizabeth Gilbert Big Magic  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Episode 017 Part 2 TITLE Conversations with a Non-Binary HSP Therapist GUEST Dara Hoffman-Fox EPISODE OVERVIEW Dara talks about being non-binary, and the challenges with the use of language and pronouns Dara uses.  Dara defines CIS gender, and we explore microagressions (how they show up in the LGBTQ+ population, and how Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPS) may experience them on a daily basis. Dara also discusses the challenges in trying to get the gender markers changed with the DMV to reflect Dara’s non-binary status. BIO DARA HOFFMAN-FOX, LPC, is a queer-identified gender therapist in private practice in Colorado Springs, CO. As a subject-matter expert on transgender and nonbinary issues, Dara is the creator of the "Conversations with a Gender Therapist" YouTube channel as well as the author of the Amazon #1 bestseller YOU AND YOUR GENDER IDENTITY: A GUIDE TO DISCOVERY. Dara's goal is to get as much education, resources, and support out there as possible to the trans and gender-questioning persons of the world. Through the magic of the internet Dara is am able to do this through their Conversations with a Gender Therapist YouTube channel and Facebook pWage, media and podcast interviews, and the content you’ll find on their website, found at darahoffmanfox.com. LINKS Websites: http://darahoffmanfox.com/ http://discoveryourgenderidentity.com/ http://www.thebohemiansanctuary.com Facebook (friend request): https://www.facebook.com/dara.hoffman.3  Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/darahoffmanfoxlpc/ Trans-Affirming Therapists Academy: https://trans-affirming-therapists-academy.teachable.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/darahoffmanfox An in-depth article about the "do's and don'ts" of trans-sensitive language. https://radicalcopyeditor.com/2017/08/31/transgender-style-guide/ http://www.howtobeagirlpodcast.com/   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/ HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/ Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review"  Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Episode 017 Part I TITLE Conversations with a Non-Binary HSP Therapist GUEST Dara Hoffman-Fox EPISODE OVERVIEW Dara talks about being non-binary, and the challenges with the use of language and pronouns that many non-binary persons encounter.  We discuss topics that include defining “transgender,” as well as what it’s like to go through what feels like the “wrong” puberty, which can be one of the more challenging aspects of the experience of being transgender. Dara also talks about the distinction between sexual orientation and gender identity; defines “cisgender,” and why using a person’s pronouns are important. I also talk about my concern and worry about wanting to use the “right” language, and having to think SO hard because I want to be respectful, because it takes a lot of concentration to use new language. BIO DARA HOFFMAN-FOX, LPC, is a queer-identified gender therapist in private practice in Colorado Springs, CO. As a subject-matter expert on transgender and nonbinary issues, Dara is the creator of the "Conversations with a Gender Therapist" YouTube channel as well as the author of the Amazon #1 bestseller YOU AND YOUR GENDER IDENTITY: A GUIDE TO DISCOVERY. Dara's goal is to get as much education, resources, and support out there as possible to the trans and gender-questioning persons of the world. Through the magic of the internet Dara is am able to do this through their Conversations with a Gender Therapist YouTube channel and Facebook page, media and podcast interviews, and the content you’ll find on their website, found at darahoffmanfox.com.  LINKS Websites: http://darahoffmanfox.com/ http://discoveryourgenderidentity.com/ http://www.thebohemiansanctuary.com  Facebook (friend request): https://www.facebook.com/dara.hoffman.3  Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/darahoffmanfoxlpc/  Trans-Affirming Therapists Academy: https://trans-affirming-therapists-academy.teachable.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/darahoffmanfox An in-depth article about the "do's and don'ts" of trans-sensitive language. https://radicalcopyeditor.com/2017/08/31/transgender-style-guide/   http://www.howtobeagirlpodcast.com/ Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/ HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/ Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Bonus Episode 34 TITLE Update After The Holidays When I Lost My Shirt GUEST Solo episode—Patricia Young EPISODE OVERVIEW How we get our needs met when we are in a family or community of non-HSPs.  Even with other Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), we don’t always have the same needs, and it can be challenging to assert ourselves and work as a community so everyone gets their needs met.  I recap the Thanksgiving break when my twins came home from college with a roommate and the other’s girlfriend, and we had kids sleeping on the couch, and I lost my dedicated work space.  I was irritable, depleted, and not my best self.  Bonus Episode 21 is called I Lost My Shirt! (and it’s Not About the Gravy), and on Bonus Episode 23 How to Care For Ourselves When We’re Feeling Depleted and Bonus Epsiode 24 Working Together and Respecting Different Needs and Expectations I share about how difficult and disruptive it is to have HSP needs, and not realize it.  In this episode I talk about how we did it differently, and how it worked out. BIO Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Episode 16 TITLE The Gift Of Vulnerability is Connection; That’s Why I Take the Risk GUEST Christina Miglino EPISODE OVERVIEW The gifts of vulnerability! What is vulnerability? Why would you want to be vulnerable? What makes it difficult to be vulnerable? How shame can inhibit vulnerability.  Calling our power back. We also talk about the connection between courage and vulnerability by Brene Brown. HIGHLIGHTS I didn’t really fit the model of the 9-5er who’s hustling to make ends meet Being highly sensitive means I need breaks; I need time alone; I need to pay attention to my energy systems I get to own my schedule and make time for the things that do matter and allow me to perform really well and to be my best self in my work I’m highly sensitive and I’ve pushed myself to a level that is totally unhealthy work wise Symptoms can be like arrows pointing to where we need to slow down Symptoms can include—migraines, fatigue, depression, overwhelm, irritability, being more negative We get to see that we’re more similar than different It’s not unusual for someone to feel too afraid to step through that [being vulnerable] and expose themselves Fear keeps me from being vulnerable because I’m afraid I’m going to be rejected Brene Brown defines vulnerability as having these elements uncertainty emotional risk emotional exposure Brene Brown talks about the relationship between courage and vulnerability Can’t have courage without vulnerability Can you think of a time when you were courageous and you DIDN’T have Uncertainty Risk Emotional exposure BIO Christina Miglino is a Soul Catalyst, Shamanic Practitioner, and Artist, who has traveled all over the US and Canada as a Teacher, Healer and Public Speaker. She has hosted and taught many workshops on Personal Power, Leadership and Emotional Intelligence.   Christina is passionate about supporting people in upleveling their soul’s ascension process, stepping into their power and listening more to their intuition so that they can have the life and business that they were meant for.    She currently has open enrollment for her 9-month Group Program called, The Sea Within for visionary soul’s seeking to activate their creativity and soul’s potential! for more information about that program please send an email.   LINKS Email: info@christinamiglino.com  Website: www.christinamiglino.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christina.miglino Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinamiglino/   Glennon Doyle Melton   Brene Brown—Courage and vulnerability   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Bonus Episode 33 TITLE Tell Me About Your Experience with Therapy GUEST Solo episode—Patricia Young EPISODE OVERVIEW I want to hear about your experience(s) with therapy! Whether you’re a therapist, a consumer or both, how would you describe what therapy is? What has been helpful when you’ve been in therapy, and what wasn’t helpful?  What are the reasons people go to therapy? What are the groups/populations that I neglect to talk about?  Please let me know, so I can give a shout out!  Please send me an e-mail and let me know if you’d like your name (and practice if you’re a therapist) mentioned, or if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.  I really want to hear what you have to say!  Tell me all about therapy—anything goes! BIO Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

  EPISODE Episode 15 TITLE Releasing Accumulated Belongings Can Lead to Greater Freedom in all Areas of Life GUEST Michael Spencer EPISODE OVERVIEW I admit for the first time in my life that I’m a closeted woo, and I came out of my baby woo closet. Michael is Super Woo (I called it Woo factorial). We talk about how accumulating stuff can impact how we feel and how energy can get stuck when things pile up in our homes.  Michael talks about ways to shift the energy, and energy tools we can use to help in this process. We talk about Marie Kondo and her book and Netflix show Tidying Up, and ways as Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), we can modify her techniques, so we don’t get overwhelmed.  Energy vibration includes feelings like sadness, anger, depression, gremlins, joy, happiness, hopefulness, optimism and excitement. HIGHLIGHTS We can use our intention to tune in in to the vibration of objects We can use energy tools (sound, crystals, sage) to help move stuck or stagnant energy in things or in our environment Everything in the universe is made of energy We can shift the energy of our homes When we feel stuck or stagnant, it’s possible we are ignoring or denying a part of ourselves Part of how we tend to ourselves is by gently and mindfully exploring the possibility of shifting the energy and our relationship to our stuff There’s a difference between seasonal storage that we pull out regularly, and the other stuff that has been put away and has been left there. We often have emotions around clearing our stuff We need to honor how we clear our spaces so we don’t get overwhelmed BIO Michael Spencer is the founder of Let's Purify!, an online business dedicated to the purification and upliftment of the home energy of our living spaces, personal energy fields, and our planet. Michael has honed a process called Home Energy Purification to help soulful people release attachments to accumulated belongings and experience greater freedom in all areas of life. With training as a mental health counselor, Reiki practitioner, and Modern Day Priestess, Michael brings a wide variety of expertise - and a whole lot of heart - to her services. You can connect with Michael on her website - letspurify.energy - and her podcast - The Let's Purify! Podcast. You can also sign up for Michael's email list on the Home Page of her website. When you do, you'll receive her free giveaway: 15 Clarity-Boosting Questions for Decluttering and Purifying LINKS Website: letspurify.energy Podcast: The Let's Purify! Podcast  - website link: https://letspurify.energy/podcast/ iTunes link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-lets-purify-podcast/id1428645349?mt=2 Email: michael@letspurify.energy   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Marie Kondo The life Changing Magic of tidying up Netflix: Tidying Up with Marie Kondo   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

EPISODE Bonus Episode 32 TITLE Do Therapists Have Therapists? GUEST Solo episode—Patricia Young EPISODE OVERVIEW There are misconceptions about what therapy is, and clients often wonder if therapists really care about their clients or is it because the therapist is getting paid.  Can a friend or partner act as a therapist?  50% of clients in therapy are Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), and Dr. Elaine Aron’s research shows that HSPs have better outcomes in therapy than non-HSPs. I also share my own experiences being in therapy. BIO Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS To find a Highly Sensitive Knowledgeable therapist—https://hsperson.com   Psychotherapy and the Highly Sensitive Person Dr. Elaine Aron   Big Magic Elizabeth Gilbert     To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com