BJJ Mental Models

This week, Steve is joined by psychotherapist and executive coach David Zeitler.  David explains his process for coaching as he learned under Robert Kegan.  We discuss Robert Kegan's framework for adult development, the self-authoring mindset, world-class performance, what makes someone coachable, what makes a good coach, resistance to help, the difference between coaches/mentors/advisors, and finding a coach.David Zeitler's website:Zeitler Executive Dynamixhttps://mindfulness.coach/David's book recommendation:In Over Our Heads, by Robert Keganhttps://www.amazon.com/Over-Our-Heads-Mental-Demands/dp/0674445880David's recommendation for finding coaches like him:Minds at Work: Change Leadership Coaching for Immunity to Changehttps://mindsatwork.com/Mental models discussed in this episode:Systematic Abandonmenthttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/systematic-abandonment/Feedback Loophttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/feedback-loop/Investing in Losshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/investing-in-loss/Flowhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/flow/Incremental Learninghttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/incremental-learning/Shuharihttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/shuhari/First Principleshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/first-principles/The Golden Rulehttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/golden-rule/Respect People, Not Positionshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/respect-people-not-positions/The 80/20 Rulehttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/80-20-rule/Don't forget to check out BJJ Mental Models Premium!If you love the podcast, you’ll definitely love our premium membership offerings. The podcast is truly just the tip of the iceberg – the next steps on your journey are joining our community, downloading our strategy courseware, and working with us to optimize your game.  We do all this through memberships that come in at a fraction of the cost of a single private.Our premium offerings are powered by Patreon.  Sign up here:https://patreon.com/bjjmentalmodels/Need more BJJ Mental Models?Get tips, tricks, and breakthrough insights from our mailing list:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/join/Get nitty-gritty details on our mental models from the full database:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/database/Let them know you're an educated grappler with our merch:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/store/Get the latest BJJ Mental Models updates fr⚠️ NEW course from BJJ Mental Models!MINDSET FOR BETAS, our new Jiu-Jitsu audio course with Rob Biernacki, is now available on BJJ Mental Models Premium! For a limited time, get your first month FREE at:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/beta

This week, Steve is joined by Dominyka "Dom" Obelenyte!  On that mats, Dom is a 4x BJJ world champion...but off the mats, she's also an accomplished artist.  Together, we explore the "art" component of the gentle art.  Dom helps us understand the definition of art, being uniquely who you are, building your professional skillset, goal setting, assigning value to the subjective, and finding your target audience.Dom's BJJ website:http://dominykao.com/Dom's artist website:https://dominyka-art.com/Mental models discussed in this episode:Levels of Competitionhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/levels-of-competition/Return on Investmenthttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/return-on-investment/Habits Over Resultshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/habits-over-results/Windows of Opportunityhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/windows-of-opportunity/Table Selectionhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/table-selection/Race to the Bottomhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/race-to-the-bottom/Flowhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/flow/Keep it Playfulhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/keep-it-playful/Don't forget to check out BJJ Mental Models Premium!If you love the podcast, you’ll definitely love our premium membership offerings. The podcast is truly just the tip of the iceberg – the next steps on your journey are joining our community, downloading our strategy courseware, and working with us to optimize your game.  We do all this through memberships that come in at a fraction of the cost of a single private.Our premium offerings are powered by Patreon.  Sign up here:https://patreon.com/bjjmentalmodels/Need more BJJ Mental Models?Get tips, tricks, and breakthrough insights from our mailing list:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/join/Get nitty-gritty details on our mental models from the full database:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/database/Let them know you're an educated grappler with our merch:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/store/Get the latest BJJ Mental Models updates from Facebook:https://facebook.com/bjjmentalmodels/Music by Enterprize:https://enterprize.bandcamp.com/⚠️ NEW course from BJJ Mental Models!MINDSET FOR BETAS, our new Jiu-Jitsu audio course with Rob Biernacki, is now available on BJJ Mental Models Premium! For a limited time, get your first month FREE at:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/beta

Steve is rejoined by Jeff Shaw from Bellingham BJJ.  Steve and Jeff do a deep dive into the art of professional wrestling, why it's so misunderstood, and why it's an excellent base for BJJ.Don't forget to check out BJJ Mental Models Premium!If you love the podcast, you’ll definitely love our premium membership offerings. The podcast is truly just the tip of the iceberg – the next steps on your journey are joining our community, downloading our strategy courseware, and working with us to optimize your game.  We do all this through memberships that come in at a fraction of the cost of a single private.Our premium offerings are powered by Patreon.  Sign up here:https://patreon.com/bjjmentalmodels/Need more BJJ Mental Models?Get tips, tricks, and breakthrough insights from our mailing list:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/join/Get nitty-gritty details on our mental models from the full database:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/database/Let them know you're an educated grappler with our merch:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/store/Get the latest BJJ Mental Models updates from Facebook:https://facebook.com/bjjmentalmodels/Music by Enterprize:https://enterprize.bandcamp.com/

How does a brush with death change the way you live your life?  This week, Steve is joined by Daniel Rodriguez, black belt and cancer survivor.  We talk about how experiencing his own mortality taught Daniel to live with intention.Mental models discussed in this episode:Mindfulnesshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/mindfulness/Kaizenhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/kaizen/Loss Aversionhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/loss-aversion/Growth From Discomforthttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/growth-from-discomfort/Don't forget to check out BJJ Mental Models Premium!If you love the podcast, you’ll definitely love our premium membership offerings. The podcast is truly just the tip of the iceberg – the next steps on your journey are joining our community, downloading our strategy courseware, and working with us to optimize your game.  We do all this through memberships that come in at a fraction of the cost of a single private.Our premium offerings are powered by Patreon.  Sign up here:https://patreon.com/bjjmentalmodels/Need more BJJ Mental Models?Get tips, tricks, and breakthrough insights from our mailing list:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/join/Get nitty-gritty details on our mental models from the full database:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/database/Let them know you're an educated grappler with our merch:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/store/Get the latest BJJ Mental Models updates from Facebook:https://facebook.com/bjjmentalmodels/Music by Enterprize:https://enterprize.bandcamp.com/⚠️ NEW course from BJJ Mental Models!MINDSET FOR BETAS, our new Jiu-Jitsu audio course with Rob Biernacki, is now available on BJJ Mental Models Premium! For a limited time, get your first month FREE at:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/beta

Steve here.  I told Rob Biernacki that we could record an episode on gripfighting and kuzushi to coincide with the release of his new instructional on the same topic.  This was a big mistake.Rob could not get his mic working - which, of course, he blamed on our recording software.  I later learned that he was recording from HIS MOM'S HOUSE, where I assume he was connecting via a 28 baud modem.  I quickly gave up on this endeavor, so Rob enlisted the help of his cabin boy Rory van Vliet to provide the required tech support.  This disasterpiece is the result.In this "episode," Rob and Rory introduce gripfighting and kuzushi, explain why they're important, and do a frankly awful job of trying to sell you on this new instructional.  After suffering through this episode I am even less motivated than before to watch this instructional, and I got it for free!Rob was supposed to include a discount code, but he forgot, so we gave up on that.  Jesus Christ.The Gripfighting and Kuzushi Formula, with Rob Biernacki and Stephan Kestinghttps://www.grapplearts.com/the-gripfighting-and-kuzushi-formula-with-rob-biernacki-and-stephan-kesting/Don't forget to check out BJJ Mental Models Premium!If you love the podcast, you’ll definitely love our premium membership offerings. The podcast is truly just the tip of the iceberg – the next steps on your journey are joining our community, downloading our strategy courseware, and working with us to optimize your game.  We do all this through memberships that come in at a fraction of the cost of a single private.Our premium offerings are powered by Patreon.  Sign up here:https://patreon.com/bjjmentalmodels/Need more BJJ Mental Models?Get tips, tricks, and breakthrough insights from our mailing list:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/join/Get nitty-gritty details on our mental models from the full database:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/database/Let them know you're an educated grappler with our merch:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/store/Get the latest BJJ Mental Models updates from Facebook:https://facebook.com/bjjmentalmodels/Music by Enterprize:https://enterprize.bandcamp.com/⚠️ NEW course from BJJ Mental Models!MINDSET FOR BETAS, our new Jiu-Jitsu audio course with Rob Biernacki, is now available on BJJ Mental Models Premium! For a limited time, get your first month FREE at:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/beta

This week, we're joined again by “Papa Tortoise,” Priit Mihkelson!  Priit talks about the best practices Jiu-Jitsu can take from other sports, such as pedagogic methods, the importance of play, and a reduced emphasis on hierarchy.Mental models discussed in this episode:Keep it Playfulhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/keep-it-playful/Scientific Methodhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/scientific-method/Respect People, Not Positionshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/respect-people-not-positions/Mindfulnesshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/mindfulness/Beginner's Mindhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/beginners-mind/Don't forget to check out BJJ Mental Models Premium!If you love the podcast, you’ll definitely love our premium membership offerings. The podcast is truly just the tip of the iceberg – the next steps on your journey are joining our community, downloading our strategy courseware, and working with us to optimize your game.  We do all this through memberships that come in at a fraction of the cost of a single private.Our premium offerings are powered by Patreon.  Sign up here:https://patreon.com/bjjmentalmodels/Need more BJJ Mental Models?Get tips, tricks, and breakthrough insights from our mailing list:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/join/Get nitty-gritty details on our mental models from the full database:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/database/Let them know you're an educated grappler with our merch:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/store/Get the latest BJJ Mental Models updates from Facebook:https://facebook.com/bjjmentalmodels/Music by Enterprize:https://enterprize.bandcamp.com/⚠️ NEW course from BJJ Mental Models!MINDSET FOR BETAS, our new Jiu-Jitsu audio course with Rob Biernacki, is now available on BJJ Mental Models Premium! For a limited time, get your first month FREE at:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/beta

Steve here!  Please check out this quick update on what we've been working on in the last year, and where we're going in the next.Don't forget to check out BJJ Mental Models Premium!If you love the podcast, you’ll definitely love our premium membership offerings. The podcast is truly just the tip of the iceberg – the next steps on your journey are joining our community, downloading our strategy courseware, and working with us to optimize your game.  We do all this through memberships that come in at a fraction of the cost of a single private.Our premium offerings are powered by Patreon.  Sign up here:https://patreon.com/bjjmentalmodels/Need more BJJ Mental Models?Get tips, tricks, and breakthrough insights from our mailing list:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/join/Get nitty-gritty details on our mental models from the full database:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/database/Let them know you're an educated grappler with our merch:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/store/Get the latest BJJ Mental Models updates from Facebook:https://facebook.com/bjjmentalmodels/Music by Enterprize:https://enterprize.bandcamp.com/

This week, Steve is joined by Judo world champion and 4x BJJ world champion Kathy Hubble.  Kathy shares the tactics and adjustments that make Judo throws more effective in BJJ.Here's the YouTube video we reference in this episode:Judo for BJJ; Stephan Kesting and Kathy Hubblehttps://youtu.be/8wScXUDkwB8Mental models discussed in this episode:Predictable Responseshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/predictable-responses/Kuzushihttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/kuzushi/Microtransitionshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/microtransitions/Funnelinghttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/funneling/Beginner's Mindhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/beginners-mind/Committed Techniqueshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/committed-techniques/Technique Chaininghttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/technique-chaining/Don't forget to check out BJJ Mental Models Premium!If you love the podcast, you’ll definitely love our premium membership offerings. The podcast is truly just the tip of the iceberg – the next steps on your journey are joining our community, downloading our strategy courseware, and working with us to optimize your game.  We do all this through memberships that come in at a fraction of the cost of a single private.Our premium offerings are powered by Patreon.  Sign up here:https://patreon.com/bjjmentalmodels/Need more BJJ Mental Models?Get tips, tricks, and breakthrough insights from our mailing list:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/join/Get nitty-gritty details on our mental models from the full database:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/database/Let them know you're an educated grappler with our merch:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/store/Get the latest BJJ Mental Models updates from Facebook:https://facebook.com/bjjmentalmodels/Music by Enterprize:https://enterprize.bandcamp.com/⚠️ NEW course from BJJ Mental Models!MINDSET FOR BETAS, our new Jiu-Jitsu audio course with Rob Biernacki, is now available on BJJ Mental Models Premium! For a limited time, get your first month FREE at:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/beta

This week, Steve is joined by Matt Kirtley, best known as Aesopian.  In addition to being a moderator of Reddit's /r/bjj and a long-time Jiu-Jitsu blogger, Matt is a critic of martial arts cults.  Matt joins us today to discuss the BITE (behavior, information, thought, emotional control) Model and influence continuum.The BITE Model and influence continuum are concepts defined by cult expert Steven Hassan.  They can help identify whether an organization's influence is positive or negative.  They're a great way to determine if you or a loved one are being manipulated by a cult or cult-like organization.BITE Model:https://freedomofmind.com/bite-model/Influence Continuum:https://freedomofmind.com/influence-continuum/IMPORTANT: BJJ Mental Models needs your help.In light of the COVID-19 outbreak, the future for Steve and Matt is uncertain.  Our gyms are closed, our income is impacted, and we need your help in order to continue providing free content.  We've started a Patreon where you can support BJJ Mental Models.  Please help us keep the lights on so we can keep your game sharp during this once-in-a-century crisis.  Link here:https://patreon.com/bjjmentalmodels/Need more BJJ Mental Models?Get tips, tricks, and breakthrough insights from our mailing list:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/join/Get nitty-gritty details on our mental models from the full database:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/database/Let them know you're an educated grappler with our merch:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/store/Get the latest BJJ Mental Models updates from Facebook:https://facebook.com/bjjmentalmodels/Music by Enterprize:https://enterprize.bandcamp.com/⚠️ NEW course from BJJ Mental Models!MINDSET FOR BETAS, our new Jiu-Jitsu audio course with Rob Biernacki, is now available on BJJ Mental Models Premium! For a limited time, get your first month FREE at:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/beta

This week Steve is joined by Brian Glick, black belt from the Danaher Death Squad.  We discuss methods versus outcomes, how to know if we're on the right path, and how to tell if the resulting fallacy is leading us astray.Mental models discussed in this episode:Probabilistic Thinkinghttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/probabilistic-thinking/Position Over Submissionhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/position-over-submission/Habits Over Resultshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/habits-over-results/Discipline Equals Freedomhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/discipline-equals-freedom/Form to Leave Formhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/form-to-leave-form/Shuharihttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/shuhari/Resulting Fallacyhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/resulting/Scientific Methodhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/scientific-method/IMPORTANT: BJJ Mental Models needs your help.In light of the COVID-19 outbreak, the future for Steve and Matt is uncertain.  Our gyms are closed, our income is impacted, and we need your help in order to continue providing free content.  We've started a Patreon where you can support BJJ Mental Models.  Please help us keep the lights on so we can keep your game sharp during this once-in-a-century crisis.  Link here:https://patreon.com/bjjmentalmodels/Need more BJJ Mental Models?Get tips, tricks, and breakthrough insights from our mailing list:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/join/Get nitty-gritty details on our mental models from the full database:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/database/Let them know you're an educated grappler with our merch:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/store/Get the latest BJJ Mental Models updates from Facebook:https://facebook.com/bjjmentalmodels/Music by Enterprize:https://enterprize.bandcamp.com/⚠️ NEW course from BJJ Mental Models!MINDSET FOR BETAS, our new Jiu-Jitsu audio course with Rob Biernacki, is now available on BJJ Mental Models Premium! For a limited time, get your first month FREE at:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/beta