Ruwando Podcast: Psychology For Men with Brains and Balls

"Getting off on every stroke" is a skill of turning unpleasant experiences into enjoyable ones. On the one hand it's a nice metaphor for alchemizing suffering. On the other hand it's a literal physical skill.Carolyn Elliott described it in her book Existential Kink and discussed in our 2020 interview. Some people asked if I could break it down, so here it is.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

According to Jung, an intimate relationship actually involves four entities: The man's masculine and feminine sides, and the woman's masculine and feminine sides. How these archetypes interact determines the polarity and therefore healthy intimacy of the relationship.In modern relationships, a battle often ensues between the masculine sides— This is often unintentional, but is often the cause of low polarity and lost attraction in relationships. If you want a healthy polar relationship, then it's on you to rekindle the polarity. If you're a man who dates women, that means helping her into her feminine.This episode covers what it actually means to "wear the pants", why women have had to develop their masculinity and the challenges on their side, and how to "outman" her animus.#howtogetherintoherfeminine #howtobemorepolarizingtowomen #howtoattractfemininewomenAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

"There is no female Mozart because there is no female Jack the Ripper." (Camille Paglia)Obsession is a male tendency. It's why boys are more likely than girls to addicted to video games or adult content. It also relates to why young men take stupid risks. And why you really only see male stalkers.But this tendency can also be one of the greatest virtues. All the great men of history have been obsessed with something. When obsessed, a person naturally pushes through discomfort and generates the creative ideas that lead to exponential growth.This episode explores how.#brainwashyourselfAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

"Target Panic" is an experience archers sometimes get when they lose the ability aim properly. My buddy Andy brought it up as an excellent metaphor for the experience many of us have when we get attached to an outcome. Andy is a bowhunter, former cowboy, and has been a client. We speak about Zen and methods of retraining the mind and emotions.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Last weekend a friend and I did a David Goggins-inspired challenge: 4km every 4 hrs for 48hrs.During it we had a lot of philosophical discussion and created personal morality.This episode shows the other side of "Breaking Social Constructions of Reality" episode-- MAKING personal reality.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode we talk about different perspectives on realities (subjective vs. objective reality), how we build our own reality, who sets the norms of "normal" vs. "not normal". We talk about the effect of social media, the effect of resentment on one's life, how important forgiveness is and how forgiving means taking responsibility for your own actions. Living in an abundant reality supposes having responsibility for your own choices.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Regret is a type of shame-- One of the worst kinds since it allows the past to continually F up your present.This episode covers some of my recent experiences confronting these very old feelings.The two types of regretWhy sometimes your actions SEEM outside of your controlHow to retrain your autopilotDeleting victimhoodPsycho-CyberneticsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Actual abundance with women doesn't come from learning a bunch of social tricks. It comes down to who you are.Here I boil down what makes a man attractive to women in two simple but universally true principles.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The 'Dark Masculine' is the set of testosterone-driven traits that have been evolutionarily beneficial, but not accepted by modern society. (Hence they are "dark".)The first Dark Masculine episode (from last summer) focused on healing shame. But how do you embody these characteristics for fun and profit?Enter: The BeastThis episode speaks on channeling that animalistic part of you that conquers, takes, pillages, (and has people love him for it). We dive deep into some social taboos. Be warned.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Q&A episode on the Lover Archetype, Dark Feminine, and Culture. Featuring Noelfry.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe