Ruwando Podcast

Netflix’s Adolescence has sparked much debate around masculinity. Is it feminist propaganda? Or an important awakening around the “manosphere”? I analyze the series from the perspective of the male collective unconscious: What the show got right, what it got wrong, and how it fits in with modern culture, including Andrew Tate, redpill, the manosphere, Jordan Peterson, Joe Rogan, and more.00:00 Introduction to Adolescence on Netflix00:45 Personal Reactions and Empathy01:29 Two Major Psychological Themes04:01 Incel Psychology08:35 Personal Reflections on Adolescence19:46 The Red Pill and Manosphere23:14 Propaganda and Cultural Implications28:22 Self Esteem vs. Respect28:54 The Secondary Father (Joseph Camp)29:12 The Hero's Journey and Male Psychology30:51 The Role of the Secondary Father in Development32:23 Personal Experience with Secondary Fathers34:52 The Impact of Parental Approval39:33 The Struggle with Male Anger and Pain42:00 The Influence of Modern Masculine Role Models52:58 The Need for Striving for Excellence56:28 Final Thoughts and Conclusion Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Why do women like possessive men? Miiska returns to the podcast to discuss dating and relationships. Plus, his major life changes: his new found fame and recent death of his father. Miiska Van Renterghem is Finland’s #1 men’s coach and personal development podcaster. He’s also a good buddy and former client of mine.Hack your brain chemistry for unshakable confidence: Anabolic Psyche mini-course only $12AnabolicPsyche.com00:00 Miiska’s story of becoming masculine03:45 Shifting from liberal to more conservative07:10 The importance of relaxation09:20 Why are women sexually more vulnerable than men14:24 Guys are more insecure when having little sexual experience18:20 Women with relationship trauma21:26 Being responsible with one night stands26:58 Open relationships30:42 How to deal with losing a father51:55 Are all your affairs in order? Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Lucilla was once Denmark's top female pickup artist. Now she's a worldwide midwife (and the wife of Andreas from last episode). We discuss her unusual Journey as a woman in the early pickup community, her approach to developing confidence, social skills, and authenticity.00:00 - Pickup, coaching02:00 - Social skills, dating in teens05:20 - Is dating easier for guys or girls?06:30 - Who needs love when you have the game07:40 - The game or manipulations17:30 - Authenticity is next level of the game24:25 - What you look for in dating?32:30 - Does pickup change your perspective of men39:05 - What you want, need and get44:00 - From pickup to relationship53:00 - Children and social skills57:40 - Practice what you're bad at Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

For many men, their introduction to personal development was the infamous “pickup community”. My friend “Worldwide Psychologist” Andreas and I speak on our experiences, good and bad, and how it led to deeper understandings in self-discovery. We also cover why we replay childhood relations, installing values into your kids, and why staying connected to yourself is important.00:00 Discovering who you are 04:00 Discovering yourself through forums06:45 Pick up community08:00 Benefits of tinder11:50 Healthy pickup coaching13:00 Childhood trauma and healing17:15 You have to abandon the game21:15 Consistency and intensity pay off25:55 Why is staying connected to yourself important28:55 Installing values into your kids34:50 What you emphasize is what your kids will aim to40:45 Have more trust in yourself45:55 You thrive during a process46:40 Persistency in intensity Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Higher consciousness through sex?If you've ever felt in an altered state from falling in love, taking MDMA, or really great sex, then you may have experienced what Timothy Leary called the “Neurosomatic Circuit”—the state of consciousness that comes with a deep connection between mind and body, typically through sustaining sexual arousal.This episode covers how sexual arousal can be used to enhance your emotional state, via lessons I learned intensively studying sexuality in my early 20s. Such as, why men need control of their urges, sexual dysfunctions and healing, how chronic tension effects on body, and tips on sustaining sexual arousal.00:00 - Intro02:00 - Arousal and consciousness09:35 - Announcements11:30 - 8 circuit model of consciousness29:30 - Connection between mind and body50:00 - Truth carries the most sensation56:20 - Sustaining sexual arousal01:03:15 - Anxiety and arousal01:04:30 - Chronic tension effects on body01:08:30 - Higher consciousness through sex Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

My friends Kris and Lily came back from a breakup to coming back together and now happily married with two kids. In order to do so, they both had to drastically change themselves and their reality.We discuss major turning points in a romantic relationship, balancing ideologies in a relationship, and some key (and possibly taboo) principles about how men and women can find deep harmony together.If you’re having relationship issues and you want to fix it, apply to Lead Your Family— small group program for men in committed relationships: https://www.ruwando.com/LYFKris and Lily run a business together helping expats relocate to Thailand. https://cnxlocal.com/00:00 - From Modern to Traditional Relationship06:50 - Turning points in a romantic relationship15:00 - Why are rituals important for a relationship?27:00 - Leaving your principles for a greater goal37:00 - Learning how to surrender to your partner43:00 - Balancing Ideologies in Relationships49:00 - Shift in relationship dynamics01:03:00 - Christian values of family and community01:14:00 - Passing on your values to your kids Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

"A man's beauty represents inner functional truths: his face shows what he can do." (Albert Camus)Trauma (inhibitions to normal function) shows up in out nonverbal communication— facial expressions and posture. We can read one's emotions through their resting faces and micro-expressions. Here's how to read, and modify yours from trauma to ease and confidence.00:00 - Intro01:40 - Body language - first impressions06:05 - A man's looks demonstrate what he can do11:05 - How to understand trauma18:40 - Your face mirrors your feelings22:37 - Left side of face vs right32:15 - The four circuits of consciousness44:30 - Why you should have good physical awareness49:25 - Tips on how to not contract52:10 - The Inner Smile exercise56:50 - Welcoming all the sensations58:50 - How to control your tension Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Why do you get nervous? Do you “choke” in important moments? i.e. Meeting someone you’re attracted to, public speaking, conflict or competition?How to “conquer your inner weakness” really comes down to how to change your stress response.The episode breaks down how to change your stress response. We’ll start with the biologically process of acute stress, and how to “practice right emotions” so the next time you’re faced with an important moment— in business, love, or life— you’ll have a winning response, rather than a self-sabotaging one.00:00 - Intro01:46 - Announcements10:50 - Why do you get nervous?15:55 - Steroid hormone stress22:40 - Understanding your physiology36:00 - Emotional distress vs. chronic stress39:45 - The winner vs. the loser effect45:45 - Practice right emotional response1:05:00 - Why breathing calms your brain1:08:50 - Recap Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Mrs. Meepagala rejoins the pod after 100 episodes. (She was on ep100 before we had kids).We speak on power dynamics and imbalance in relationships, mother and father figure differences, the beauty of surrendered woman, and our personal experiences with “trad” gender roles.If you’re a man in a committed relationship that’s not going the way you want, you may want to join my small group program:https://www.ruwando.com/LYF00:00 - Intro00:43 - Motherhood and work during baby years05:27 - Challenging part of becoming a parent07:10 - Why is family support important during pregnancy?10:55 - Beauty of surrendered woman13:20 - Do young women understand hormonal cycle?15:41 - Nuclear family and masculine values20:45 - Power of surrendered state33:48 - Intrinsic motivation vs proving yourself38:14 - Choosing motherhood or entrepreneurship44:10 - Male vs female competition and confidence52:11 - Mother and father figure differences59:28 - Finding ways to relax when parenting1:03:28 - Power dynamics and imbalance in relationships Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

A few months ago the Economist wrote an article on the political gender gap— how men are becoming more conservative, and women more liberal. While this seems like a recipe for conflict, in many ways this is a return to human nature.This episode covers the evolutionary roots behind political leanings, the reasons for recent cultural shifts, and some fascinating studies about how your political leading may reveal itself in a brain scan.https://www.ruwando.com/LYFhttps://www.ruwando.com/archetype00:00 - Intro: Cultural shift to left3:20 - New Course: Lead Your Family5:50 - Biological difference between liberal and conservative14:40 - Biology behind liberal brain18:15 - Karl Marx and Nietzsche30:22 - Why is there a political gender gap?37:17 - Why are young men more conservative?01:02:59 - How to balance the polarities01:14:57 - Are you truly worthy of respect?01:26:12 - Are you making the right decisions?01:30:24 - Recap Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe