Man Within Podcast

Today's episode continues from episode 64, this time exploring two very different marriage stories: arranged versus dating. The contrast goes to show that while people will meet in different ways through different means, having a successful marriage boils down to just a few simple things (termed "the 3 C's"). Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.com Follow me on Instagram to participate in my live streams Thursdays @ 1230pm EST (@sathiyaMEsam) Submit questions to admin@sathiyasam.com

Our culture today puts a lot of pressure on finding "The one." While this approach is not all bad, today's episode explores best practices for choosing your life partner. This process can be extremely enjoyable and when you involve God in the process, extremely rewarding. Enjoy this practical approach to finding a spouse. Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.com Follow me on Instagram to participate in my livestreams Thursdays @ 1230pm EST (@sathiyaMEsam) Submit questions to admin@sathiyasam.com

The DSM-5, which is considered the Bible of psychiatry, does not recognize porn addiction as a diagnosable condition. Today's episode explores why the DSM has made this decision, but more importantly – the factors that we can look for to classify someone's situation. While it is not recognized by the DSM-5, porn addiction is very real and we typically see addiction patterns and behaviors play out in this area – withdrawal, desensitization, social impact, etc. If you've wondered where your situation lands in the grand scheme of addictions diagnoses, this episode will provide major clarity. Resources Referenced: Informal Addiction Criteria for Porn Usage The three types of porn users Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter www.sathiyasam.com Follow me on Instagram to participate in my live streams Thursdays @ 1230pm EST (@sathiyaMEsam) Submit questions to admin@sathiyasam.com

*Today's episode is the first of many more Instagram Lives* Managing night life matters just as much as anything else in the recovery process. Often staying up late, being unable to fall asleep, and a whole plethora of night-related issues lead to slips and relapses. Developing good night time habits goes a long way in the preventative practices that come with long-term recovery. Follow Sathiya on Instagram to participate in future live streams (@sathiyaMEsam) - www.instagram.com/sathiyaMEsam Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.com Submit questions to admin@sathiyasam.com

As a recovering control freak, I know what it's like to be over-the-top in exercising control in life and relationships. I've read and heard a lot of good material on the subject over the years, but have never been fully satisfied. Today's episode explores Sathiya's proprietary framework for dealing with control – The Control-Safety-Trust triad. This simple teaching has been making a huge difference in his life and the lives of his clients. If you're learning to better understand control and the art of letting go, this episode is for you. Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.com Connect with me on IG - www.instagram.com/sathiyaMEsam Submit questions to admin@sathiyasam.com

When you finally reach that place where you're ready to share about your struggle, the next question is "Who?" One thing is for sure – you should tell someone horitzontally (peer, friend, colleague, etc) and someone vertically (pastor, coach, leader, mentor, etc). How you involve your significant other depends on several factors. We talk about all of this and more in today's episode, providing a couple of real-life examples. Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.com Connect with me on IG - www.instagram.com/sathiyaMEsam Submit questions to admin@sathiyasam.com

How you handle relapses matter. In some ways, it is the difference between a continuation of a binge-purge cycle or a small blip in the recovery journey. There are a few hacks we have learned along the way that any man can apply to recover quickly after a relapse. The goal is to reduce shame and re-engage your heart. Today's episode provides practical ways to quickly accomplish this. For more, check out Episode 28 – The Best Way To Handle A Relapse Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.com Connect with me on IG - www.instagram.com/sathiyaMEsam Submit questions to admin@sathiyasam.com

Often it is the inability to handle stress & anger that eventually leads to a slip. Today's episode explores practical ways to manage anger in the moment to prevent things from boiling over. Managing anger is not only recommended, it is godly. When done right it can quite fruitful. Judson Brewer's book, "The Craving Mind": https://www.amazon.ca/Craving-Mind-Cigarettes-Smartphones-Hooked/dp/0300234368/ Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.com Connect with me on IG - www.instagram.com/sathiyaMEsam Submit questions to admin@sathiyasam.com

Watching friends struggle can be a challenge. Today we talk about how you can help others get free of porn – whether you are struggling or not. Specifically, we talk about: 1) Why saying "Anytime you want to talk let me know" is a bad response 2) Be slow to enter an accountability arrangement 3) Encourage professional help 4) Being a good friend goes further than you think If you apply what you learn in the episode, you are sure to be a helpful guide and could play a catalytic role in the recovery of others. This episode referenced several resources: Episode 37 - "The Only Way Accountability Works" Husband Material Men Secret Habit Ministries Jay Stringer Real Men Connect (Dr. Joe Martin) Johan Hari TED Talk Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.com Connect with me on IG - www.instagram.com/sathiyaMEsam Submit questions to admin@sathiyasam.com

Today Sathiya sits down with Barry Adams, the author of the Father's Love Letter. After a very emotional response from the congregation to a simple sermon illustration in 1999, Barry decided to post the video online. Never in his wildest dreams would he have thought that this compilation of paraphrased Bible passages would transform millions of people around the world and be translated into over 100 languages. Growing in your identity and experiencing God's tangible love are some of the core concepts of experiencing freedom in life, and staples to the DeepClean methodology. This simple sermon illustration perfectly embodies these concepts and will be extremely valuable for you in a recovery context. If you're looking to love yourself more and become more confident in your own skin, you will want to hear this interview.