Lessons from a Quitter

We all know how to work hard to achieve things but we’re terrible at actually enjoying them. That’s because our society loves to glorify hard work but shame the people who have anything– rest, joy, money, pleasure, food. So we think we want those things, we hustle to get them, and then we’re wracked with guilt when we actually have them.  Learning to have is a skill and, on today’s episode, I teach you how to start building it.

When we start thinking about career change, we tend to jump into overdrive and want to change everything in the next couple of months. But then we get overwhelmed by all the things that need to be changed. On today’s episode, I teach you how to use 5-year plans to get past that overwhelm and figure out exactly what it is you want to do. When you can slow yourself down enough to see that all you need is baby steps, the change becomes much more manageable.

This week I want to talk to you about why sometimes you just need to throw yourself the party. You should always make time to celebrate yourself and since I always want to be an example for you, I'm throwing a party next week and you're invited!

This week I want to talk to you about being selfish. This is kind of a hot topic but I want to argue that you can’t help others until you help yourself. Really tuning into your needs and asking what you can do to move yourself a little closer to what you want every day is not a big lift. So if you’re always putting everyone else’s needs before yours and always putting yourself last, give this episode a listen.

On this week’s episode, I’m sharing the lessons I learned from our month in Wyoming. Some of these are lessons I’ve been learning and relearning for awhile and one totally blew me away.

On this week’s episode, I talk with Kathryn Finney, a former Yale-trained epidemiologist turned blogger turned investor and philanthropist. Before Wordpress even existed and you had to print out photos and then scan and upload them online, Kathryn created her blog, The Budget Fashionista. After running that for many years, she sold the blog and founded digitalundivided, a social enterprise focused on helping Black women own their work. She then went on to found and manage Genius Guild, a $20M venture fund. At the onset of the pandemic, she wanted to do more to support Black-women owned businesses so she founded The Doonie Fund, giving out micro-investments from her own personal investment. Most recently, she published Build The D*mn Thing: How To Start A Successful Business If You’re Not A Rich White Guy, in it she empowers entrepreneurs to take advantage of their unique networks and resources. Kathryn has such an incredible quitter story and I can’t wait for you to hear more from her on the episode.

This week I want to talk to you about how to go after your dream life. If you follow me on Instagram, you know I’ve been in Jackson Hole, Wyoming for the past month. Taking this trip with my family is one way I’m going after my dream life. And the process is actually really simple, it’s just two steps. I want to show you that the things you want are possible because whether you think you can or you can’t you’re right. So this week I’m sharing the two-step process for going after your dream life and how I'm applying that in my own life.

On this week’s episode, I talk with Zubin Pratap, a recovering lawyer turned entrepreneur turned software engineer. After over 14 years in international corporate law, Zubin went into commercial roles and then eventually taught himself to code at 37 and became a software engineer at Google at 39.  Today he is still working as an engineer and educator and spends nights and weekends privately coaching committed career changers on how to transition to tech. Zubin is a prime example of how to pivot in your career and follow your dreams but also how you need to shift your thoughts along the way. Find Zubin here: Free webinar: https://futurecoderstraining.com LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/zubinpratap Twitter: @ZubinPratap YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5GcpG4iD0Rtwr5llQPZ9Qg

This week, I dive into emotional maturity. Most of us live in emotional childhood, meaning we want everyone else to fix how we feel. Spoiler alert: there’s a bit of tough love coming so prepare yourself. I like to use the analogy of a car accident. If you get hit by a car, the accident is not your fault but it’s your responsibility to do the work to heal, to go through PT. Life is not fair. You will never control the things outside of you. But you can control how you react to what happens to you. In this podcast, I teach you the difference between emotional maturity and emotional childhood, how your emotions affect your actions, and how to take responsibility for your own life.

This week on the podcast I have three of my current students join me to talk about the program. I can only sell you on the program so much and so I thought it would be helpful to hear it directly from the people in it. Each one of these ladies came in with different problems seeking different paths and yet, thought work and working on mindset has changed each of their lives in a big way. If you’ve wanted to know what Pave Your Path can offer you, this episode is for you.