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Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

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Nov 7, 2024 • 12min

Are Stricter Boundaries Making Your Child Rebel?

Do boundaries and limits really matter in parenting? Have you ever wondered if the secret to a more harmonious parenting journey lies in how we set and manage boundaries with our children? Today, I tackle the often confounding topic of boundaries. I’ll unravel misconceptions about boundaries and explain that they aren't about controlling our children but rather about providing a safe space for them to release their emotions. Many parents struggle because they believe stricter boundaries equate to more obedient children, but today, I’ll share why this isn't necessarily true. This episode is packed with practical examples, including how to handle common situations like turning off the TV without resorting to punishment and the importance of not mistaking control for safety. In This Episode:Redefining the role of boundaries in parentingConnection over controlEmpathy's power in handling emotional outburstsBalancing limits and free willCooperation through understanding, not punishmentTailoring boundaries to developmental stages🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupMy ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupOur Sponsors:* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACEAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Nov 5, 2024 • 21min

Case Study: When Should You Apologize to Your Child?

What happens when empathizing with your child seems to backfire? Should we apologize when they have big feelings? Is it possible that our efforts to validate their feelings might actually increase their frustration? Today, I'm joined by Nandini, a passionate mom to a 7-year-old daughter. Nandini shares her experiences and parenting dilemmas, sparking an enlightening conversation about the delicate balance of validation, empathy, and responsibility. We explore why children might react negatively to our attempts at empathy and the importance of not taking their responses personally.In This Episode:When empathy frustrates instead of calmsValidating feelings without personalizing blameHolding space for children's emotional outburstsCreative ways to foster connectionThe unintentional consequences of over-apologizing🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupMy ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupOur Sponsors:* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACEAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Oct 31, 2024 • 14min

How to Respond When Our Kids Are Defiant

Are you fighting an uphill battle with your child's “defiance”? What if defiance wasn’t something to squash but an invitation to connect? Today, I’m turning the traditional parenting playbook on its head and exploring how to respond compassionately to our kids when they push back.Often, when our kids push back, we instinctively react with frustration, viewing their refusal as disrespectful or unkind. However, what if small changes in our approach could lead to significant improvements? Instead of using consequences or bribes, we could invite cooperation naturally through play or empathy.In This Episode:Why “defiance” isn’t what it seemsTransforming chores into bonding momentsHow patience can encourage cooperationChoosing empathy over punishment in conflictBuilding connection through playful approaches🔗 Join my Connected Parent Mastermind, designed for parents who want to strengthen their connection with their children, experience more love, and reduce frustration.🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupMy ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupOur Sponsors:* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACEAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Oct 29, 2024 • 21min

Case Study: Is Perfectionism Killing Your Parenting Joy?

What if the journey to better parenting starts with accepting our imperfections? In this week's episode, I have a heartfelt conversation with one of my listeners as we explore the emotional process of reparenting ourselves while we raise our children.Pavlina, a dedicated mother striving to balance her own healing process wants to be more present for her two-and-a-half-year-old daughter. She faces the challenge of overcoming avoidance parenting, a tendency rooted in her upbringing, and aims to create a nurturing, playful environment for her child. We explore the delicate balance of empathy, self-acceptance, and the joy of connection in parenting.In This Episode:Combating avoidance parenting tendenciesNavigating emotional triggers from your own childhoodIncorporating empathy into daily interactionsThe impact of striving for perfectionCultivating joy and playfulness in parenting🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupMy ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupOur Sponsors:* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACEAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Oct 24, 2024 • 12min

Encouraging Our Kids to Stand Up for Themselves

Explore how to help kids learn self-advocacy while maintaining respect. Discover the importance of allowing children to practice standing up for themselves, even when they falter. Dive into the balance between free will and respect, and the significance of creating a safe space for self-expression. Learn how parents can encourage their children to communicate needs and boundaries effectively, fostering autonomy and emotional growth. Parenting may be messy, but it’s all about supporting our kids through their journey.
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Oct 22, 2024 • 22min

Case Study: How to Handle Co-parenting After Divorce

What happens when the family you imagined doesn’t turn out the way you planned? How do you navigate single parenting while ensuring your children thrive in both homes? Today is a heartfelt episode where I sit down with Beth, a fellow single mom, to discuss the challenges and triumphs of raising kids post-divorce, co-parenting, and creating a nurturing environment without letting conflict define the journey.As a mother of two teens and someone who’s experienced the highs and lows of divorce, I share with Beth some personal insights on how empathy has been the cornerstone of my parenting approach. Together, we talk about the pain of missing out on moments in our children's lives and how to handle those difficult emotions while staying connected to our kids. No matter where you are in your parenting journey—whether newly separated or a seasoned single parent—this episode offers a compassionate perspective on creating a supportive, loving environment for your children, even when the family structure changes.In This Episode:Navigating single parenting post-divorceImportance of empathy in co-parentingManaging emotions when kids are with your exHow to handle missing out on special momentsUsing play as a tool for emotional release🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupMy ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupOur Sponsors:* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACEAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Oct 17, 2024 • 16min

Is Your Strong-Willed Child Struggling with Aggressive Behavior?

Is your child acting out, biting, or hitting their sibling despite your best efforts? What if the problem isn’t defiance but disconnection? Today I talk about a family I worked with recently who struggled to raise a strong-willed child. They had tried everything: timeouts, punishments, and rewards, but nothing worked to stop the aggression.As I dive into this family's journey, I explain why punitive measures often backfire and how shifting focus toward connection can create the change we’re all looking for. I share with you how I guided this family to stop using threats and start using special time and empathy. You'll hear the small but powerful steps that led to a transformation, both for the child and the family dynamic.In This Episode:Punishments worsen aggression, not solve itConnection as the foundation of behavior changeThe power of empathy and special timeHow to stop sibling rivalry from escalatingShifting from punitive measures to understandingThe importance of removing shame from discipline🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupMy ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupOur Sponsors:* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACEAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Oct 15, 2024 • 19min

Case Study: How Unschooling Helps Create Independent Kids

Are you tired of the traditional school system stifling your child’s natural curiosity? Have you ever wondered what it would be like to trust your child to lead their own learning journey?Today, I am joined by Leah McDermott, a homeschooling expert and advocate for unschooling. Leah shares her personal journey, starting as a rigid, homeschooled child and how she transitioned into a more flexible, child-led approach to education. We discuss the emotional and practical challenges of unschooling, including how societal fears and conditioning can make it difficult to trust our children to learn at their own pace.If you’re curious about how unschooling works in real life or how to foster a deeper relationship with your kids, this episode is a must-listen.In This Episode:Shifting from homeschooling to unschoolingHow schools disconnect kids from curiosityTrusting children’s natural ability to learnOvercoming societal fears around unschoolingWhy connected parenting and unschooling overlapCreating a safe space for independent learning🔗 Check out Your Natural Learner🔗 Follow Leah on Instagram: @yournaturallearner, @bridgeacademy.us🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupMy ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupOur Sponsors:* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACEAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Oct 10, 2024 • 14min

Why Restricting Social Media Could Be More Dangerous Than You Think

Are you worried about your child’s safety on social media? It's easy to jump to the idea of banning electronics, parties, or risky behaviors altogether, but do restrictions really protect them? Today i open up a can of worms as I tackle the tough topic of social media and explore a different approach to keeping our kids safe. In This Episode:Should you restrict social media completely?Why strong connections reduce risky behaviorHandling tricky situations like parties and curfewsBalancing autonomy with guidance for teensCreating open dialogue around social media usage🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupMy ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupOur Sponsors:* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACEAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Oct 8, 2024 • 17min

Case Study: How to Respond When Your Child Withdraws

How do you handle it when your child withdraws in tough moments? We've all been there, right? We want our kids to open up about their feelings, but we’re faced with silence or resistance. This can leave us feeling helpless and unsure of how to connect with them when they seem to shut down emotionally.Today, I talk with a listener named Stevie, who shares her struggles with her 9-year-old daughter’s reluctance to express her emotions, especially after witnessing conflict at home. I share with her how our urgency to “fix” things can often create even more distance, and explore how empathy, patience, and a shift in mindset can bring us closer to our children without pushing them to talk before they’re ready.In This Episode:How to respond when kids shut downWhy space and empathy matter more than wordsThe power of repair in front of your kidsBreaking the cycle of parenting from guiltHow to honor your child's emotional boundaries🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a discovery call by sending an email to: askpeaceandparenting@gmail.com💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupMy ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupOur Sponsors:* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACEAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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