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Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

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Feb 20, 2025 • 13min

Why Your To-Do List Is Hurting Your Parenting

Do you ever feel like there’s just not enough time for connection? Between work, household tasks, and never-ending to-do lists, it’s easy to let quality time with our kids slip to the bottom of our priorities. But what if I told you that focusing on connection first actually makes everything else run smoother?Today, I’m exploring a mindset shift that can transform parenting, prioritizing connection over productivity. We live in a world that glorifies busyness, but at what cost? I explore why deep, meaningful relationships with our kids should come first and how that shift leads to more cooperation, smoother days, and stronger bonds. Listen in for five ways to ensure connection is an integral part of your parenting. In This EpisodeWhy busyness isn’t the same as successThe power of prioritizing connection firstHow natural consequences teach better than punishmentsWhy homework shouldn’t take priority over relationshipsThe long-term benefits of focusing on connection========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Feb 18, 2025 • 21min

Case Study: What If Your Teen Doesn’t Want Connection?

What if your teen rejected every attempt at connection? You’ve ditched punishments and bribes, but now your child is pushing back harder than ever. Is it even working? Today, I sit down with Tova, a mother of four, who’s navigating the tricky transition from traditional parenting to connection-based parenting, especially with her resistant teens.Tova has seen beautiful changes in her younger twins since implementing connective parenting, but her older teen daughters aren’t responding the same way. We dive deep into why trust takes time, what “progress” really looks like, and how to stay the course when your teen meets your efforts with eye rolls and rejection. I share my personal experiences raising teens, offering strategies that shift the dynamic. If you've ever felt stuck wondering whether connection is really working, this episode is for you.In This EpisodeWhy teens resist connection at firstSigns that your approach is workingHow to stay patient through rejectionUsing humor to defuse power strugglesThe problem with punishments and bribesBuilding true cooperation in your home========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Feb 13, 2025 • 19min

Why Connective Parenting Feels Like It's Failing (and How to Make It Work)

Ever feel like connection-based parenting just isn’t working? You try play, empathy, and special time, but your child still melts down, refuses to listen, or lashes out. Does that mean connective parenting has failed? Today, I break down the biggest misconceptions about connective parenting, including why it’s often confused with permissiveness, why quick fixes don’t work, and why consistency matters more than perfection.If you've ever wondered why punishments seem to “work” faster or felt frustrated that your efforts aren’t yielding immediate results, this episode will help you reframe your expectations and find the patience to stick with it. Parenting is a long game, and while the process can be messy, the relationships we build through connection are worth it.In This EpisodeWhy quick fixes don’t create lasting changeThe difference between connection and permissivenessHow punishments create short-term compliance, not true cooperationWhy using all the tools consistently is keyThe long-term benefits of choosing connectionA real-life story of connection turning conflict into cooperation========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Feb 11, 2025 • 13min

Case Study: Lessons from Our First Certification Cohort

Are traditional parenting strategies leaving you frustrated? In this episode, I sit down with Erica, a relationship coach, adoptive mom, and one of the first graduates of the Peace and Parenting Certification Program. Erica shares how shifting from consequences to connection has transformed her family and her coaching practice.Throughout our conversation, we dive into the challenges of unlearning traditional discipline methods, the importance of play in fostering attachment, and how this approach is particularly impactful for adoptive families. Erica opens up about the struggles and breakthroughs in her parenting journey—how moving away from punishments led to stronger bonds, and how her husband’s relationship with their children has flourished through simple but powerful shifts in connection.If you’ve ever doubted whether prioritizing connection over control can truly work, this episode will inspire you. You’ll hear real-life experiences, tangible takeaways, and insights from our certification program that could change the way you parent.In This EpisodeHow connection reshaped Erica’s parentingThe role of play in building attachmentWhy punishments and rewards don’t workThe transformation in Erica’s family dynamicsInsights from the Peace and Parenting certificationHow parenting support reduces shame and isolation========🔗 Become a Certified Peace and Parenting Coach and empower parents to transform their homes with connection, empathy, and understanding.🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Feb 6, 2025 • 20min

System Restraint Collapse: The Hidden Cause of Your Child’s After-School Meltdowns

Have you ever wondered why your child seems to hold it together all day but falls apart the moment they get home? Today, we explore the concept of system restraint collapse and how understanding this phenomenon can help us better support our children.I share my personal experience with my freshman daughter, Esme, and a recent surprising event during the holidays where I discovered that even older kids can experience system restraint collapse. Plus, I’ll offer some practical ways to help minimize system restraint collapse with your own children, ensuring you support them in the healthiest way possible. In This EpisodeWhat is system restraint collapse?Handling after-school meltdowns with calmStrategies to stay regulated ourselvesThe role of empathy in parentingAvoiding shame during emotional outburstsImportance of presence over discussion during tantrums========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Feb 4, 2025 • 15min

Case Study: How Becoming a Parenting Coach Transformed My Relationship with My Kids

What transformative journey led this mom from sleepless nights with her newborn to becoming a parenting coach? Today, I chat with our brand new Peace and Parenting coach, Cammie, about her path from frustration to connection. She opens up about her experiences with her two young children and the profound lessons she learned through our Connected Parent Mastermind program.Cammie shares how embracing play and laughter has revolutionized her approach to parenting, enabling her to connect on a deeper level with her children. Plus, we’ll explore her transformation and how the Peace and Parenting Certification Program equipped her with new tools and perspectives, ultimately leading her to become a coach herself. In This Episode:Embracing play and laughter in parentingUnderstanding different emotional expressions in childrenInsights from the Connected Parent MastermindThe journey from client to coachBenefits of the Peace and Parenting Certification ProgramBecome a Certified Peace and Parenting Coach and empower parents to transform their homes with connection, empathy, and understanding.Join my Connected Parent Mastermind designed for parents who want to strengthen their connection with their children, experience more love, and reduce frustration. Space is limited, so be sure to sign up now if you're interested.========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Jan 30, 2025 • 14min

The Secret to Making Discipline Fun

Imagine replacing threats, bribes, and punishments with laughter, games, and fun interactions. Today, I share with you the transformative power of play in fostering a deeper connection with our children and reshaping how we discipline them.Today, we explore why play is not just an enjoyable activity but a crucial element in our parenting toolkit that helps maintain a calm and connected family environment. Let’s challenge the conventional wisdom around discipline and embrace a method that brings joy and learning to both us and our children.In This Episode:The power of play in teaching childrenReplacing threats with playful strategiesPersonal experiences in using play effectivelyOvercoming barriers to playful disciplineThank you for listening to the Peace and Parenting podcast. If you want to dive deeper into these concepts, consider joining our Connected Parent Mastermind. You can learn more by reaching out to me at michelle@peaceandparentingla.com or by clicking on the link. Together, let’s cultivate a nurturing and playful home.========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Jan 28, 2025 • 21min

Case Study: Help, My Kid Is Aggressive at School

What hidden struggles are fueling your child's aggression? Have you ever wondered why your child might be acting out aggressively? What if the answer lies not in the child but in how we, as parents, respond to them?In this episode of the Peace and Parenting podcast, I help Melanie and Michael, a loving couple struggling with their four-year-old son's aggressive tendencies towards his schoolmate and younger brother. Melanie and Michael share their journey of grappling with their son's aggression, their attempts at various disciplinary methods, and their concerns about possibly overlooking ADHD traits. We explore the impact of shifting from traditional punitive measures to a more empathetic, connection-centered approach. Could making these slight yet significant changes help in calming their child’s aggression?In This Episode:Responding to aggressive behavior with connectionAvoiding positive reinforcement and rewardsEnhancing connection through affection and playManaging sensitive children’s behaviorReducing sibling rivalry with empathy========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Jan 23, 2025 • 17min

How to Show Unconditional Love—Even in the Tough Times

How do you show unconditional love in challenging moments? Are your children feeling truly loved, especially during their toughest times?Today, I share the profound difference between loving your children and making them feel unconditionally loved. It's easy to express love in the fun, cuddly moments, but how do we convey that same love when things get tough? I hope this episode provides you with valuable insights and practical approaches to ensure your children feel deeply and unconditionally loved, even in the hardest moments.In This Episode:Unconditional love in challenging parenting momentsAwareness during parent-child interactionsImportance of self-regulation for parentsAddressing fear and pain in relationshipsModeling positive behavior for children========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Jan 21, 2025 • 18min

Case Study: How Do I Stop Yelling at My Kids?

Does your child's behavior trigger unexpected reactions in you? Join me as I sit down with Taylor, a mom navigating the intense emotions that parenting can invoke.In this heartfelt episode, Taylor opens up about her struggles with a short temper and impatience, emotions she hardly experiences in other areas of her life. Together, we explore the underlying causes of these reactions, linking them back to her own childhood experiences and unmet needs. We explore practical strategies for self-regulation, understanding our triggers, and the power of sincere, straightforward apologies. I hope this raw and honest conversation helps you foster a more connected and peaceful parenting approach.In This Episode:Breaking the cycle of impatience and yellingImportance of self-awareness in parentingApologies: meaningful and untethered responsibilityRecognizing and reacting to physical triggersImportance of self-care for effective parentingPractical mindfulness techniques to stay calm========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupJoin my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signupAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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