

The Lavendaire Lifestyle
Aileen Xu
Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
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Oct 20, 2024 • 1h 5min
265: The Healing Journey: From Conditional to Unconditional Love with Don Miguel Ruiz Jr
What if the journey to healing begins with understanding the stories we tell ourselves? In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the art of self-acceptance and the profound shift that occurs when we break free from the chains of conditional love and societal expectations. Discover how recognizing your triggers is the first step toward mastering your emotional reactions and reclaiming control over your life.
Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. is a Nagual and a Toltec Master of Transformation, descended from the Eagle Knight lineage and the son of don Miguel Ruiz. He combines his family’s wisdom with insights from his own journey to empower others in their quest for personal freedom. His work emphasizes letting go of societal expectations and embracing unconditional self-acceptance and love.
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TIMESTAMPS
1:54 Don Miguel’s story
17:16 Guidance From Others
29:33 Letting Go of Domestication
47:41 Don Miguel’s Journey
55:00 The Mastery of Self
1:01:40 Final Message
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📹The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 265.
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Oct 6, 2024 • 56min
264: The Path to Lasting Fulfillment: Taking Charge of Your Life with Dr. Sara Kuburic (@millennial.therapist)
Have you ever pondered the connection between freedom and responsibility? In this episode, we dive deep into existentialism, exploring how embracing responsibility and authenticity can radically transform our lives. Discover why confronting tough questions about our existence isn't just philosophical but a powerful tool for personal empowerment.
Dr. Sara Kuburic is an existential psychotherapist, consultant, former columnist for USA Today, and author of It’s On Me. She is dedicated to guiding people toward change and supporting them in living authentic, free, and meaningful lives. Her passion for psychology is rooted in her personal experiences of living through wars, navigating complex relationships, and constantly exploring the essence of what it means to be human.
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TIMESTAMPS
1:49 Existential Psychoterapy
2:48 Sara’s Story
9:02 The Role of Responsibility
18:58 Sara’s Book: Key Takeaways
21:59 Identity and Purpose
31:25 Sara’s Personal Journey
40:26 Navigating Suffering
50:54 Embracing Uncertainty
52:54 Final Message
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📹The video version of this interview is available on YouTube
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Sep 22, 2024 • 59min
263: The Impact of Strong Social Networks on Our Health with David Robson
In this lively discussion, David Robson, an award-winning science writer and author of The Laws of Connection, dives into the profound impact of social ties on our health. He reveals how strong relationships can be as vital as exercise for our well-being and addresses common myths surrounding social connections. David shares insights on overcoming psychological barriers like social anxiety, the power of vulnerability, and the importance of gratitude. He encourages listeners to rekindle their curiosity and engage genuinely with their social networks for a richer life.

Sep 8, 2024 • 59min
262: Change Your Life Through Toltec Wisdom with Don Jose Ruiz
How can we live authentically and release suffering? In this episode, we explore these questions with Don Jose Ruiz, son of Don Miguel Ruiz, author of "The Four Agreements." Don Jose highlights that viewing life as a dream and grasping the concepts of life and death are crucial for transcending suffering. Through his own journey of overcoming addiction and temporary blindness, he shows that true freedom lies in unlearning limiting beliefs and seeing beyond life's illusions.
Don Jose Ruiz is a renowned Toltec Master of Transformation and a contemporary Shaman. As a direct descendant of the Eagle Knight Toltecs, he carries forward a rich lineage of wisdom. He is the son of Don Miguel Ruiz, the acclaimed author of the New York Times bestseller The Four Agreements. Don Jose Ruiz has authored The Fifth Agreement among his six other influential works. Together with his family, he conducts workshops and guides transformative journeys across the globe.
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TIMESTAMPS
1:40 What is Toltec Wisdom?
2:52 Early Experiences
8:12 The Most Important Lesson
16:18 Discovering the True You
17:18 Addiction to Suffering
20:57 Healing Yourself
28:09 The Five Agreements Explained
37:28 Living Authentically
45:02 Don Jose’s Lifestyle Choices
54:38 Understanding the Divine Feminine
56:21 Final Message
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• Media Webpage
🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here.
📹The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 262.
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Aug 28, 2024 • 18min
Positive Affirmations for Love & Healthy Relationships
Discover the transformative power of positive affirmations to attract love and nurture healthy relationships. Engage in a 21-day practice designed to reprogram your mindset and enhance self-worth. Learn how to create meaningful connections and open your heart to positivity. With guided affirmations, you can cultivate the love and support you truly deserve.

Aug 25, 2024 • 58min
261: How Invisible Losses Keep Us Stuck in Life with Christina Rasmussen
Are you truly aware of the hidden factors holding you back in life? In this episode, we delve into the profound impact of early experiences and unnoticed emotional wounds on our lives. Christina Rasmussen explores how our brains react to past traumas and the invisible losses we endure—losses that can subtly shape our self-worth and relationships.
Christina Rasmussen is an acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author. In 2010, four years after her thirty-five-year-old spouse passed away from Stage 4 colon cancer, she created the Life Reentry process, which launched her on a mission to bring compassion, grace, and validation to thousands, while simultaneously establishing an exit from what she termed the Waiting Room. Christina holds a master’s degree in guidance and counseling (University of Durham). She is currently finishing her master of fine arts degree in painting and drawing (Academy of Art).
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TIMESTAMPS
2:37 Christina’s Inspiration
7:41 The Waiting Room
12:41 Life Reentry Model
24:17 Staying True to Ourselves
36:00 Finding Joy
38:57 Examples of Invisible Losses
55:00 Final Message
🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here.
📹The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 261.
FOLLOW CHRISTINA
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• Life Reentry
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Aug 11, 2024 • 1h 1min
260: How to Slow Down Aging with Chris Mirabile
Can you really slow down the rate at which you age? In this episode, we delve into the realm of longevity health with Chris Mirabelli, a renowned entrepreneur and longevity expert. Tune in to discover actionable tips for optimizing your own health span, including why the Mediterranean diet is a standout choice for longevity, and how integrating specific lifestyle changes can significantly impact your biological age.
Chris Mirabile, Founder & CEO of NOVOS, and blogger at Slow My Age, is an entrepreneur and longevity expert who has slowed his biological pace of aging by 1/3. After surviving a brain tumor as a teenager, Chris has devoted himself to avoiding disease. With aging being the number one risk factor for chronic illness, he set his sights on its biological causes about a decade ago, which has manifested as NOVOS and SlowMyAge.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:06 Chris’s journey
10:45 Biological age calculation
19:07 Lifestyle tips
25:02 Nutritional guidance
32:46 Daily routines and habits
44:14 Exercises for longevity
49:06 Inspiration for starting his company
58:38 Final message
🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here
📹The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 260
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Jul 31, 2024 • 13min
Positive Affirmations for Peace and Calm | Reduce Stress & Anxiety
Explore the transformative power of positive affirmations aimed at fostering peace and calm. Discover guided affirmations that focus on safety, relaxation, and trust in life. Learn how to reprogram your mind over 21 days to reduce stress and anxiety. Embrace daily practices for inner peace that can enhance your overall mental well-being.

Jul 28, 2024 • 57min
259: The Sovereignty Mindset: A Path to Happiness with Dr. Emma Seppälä
Explore the path to happiness and fulfillment through personal sovereignty. This episode is all about reclaiming your power, overcoming fears, and cultivating resilience for inner peace and personal strength. Discover the transformative power of mindfulness and breathing techniques, forging a vital connection between mind and body.
Emma Seppälä, Ph. D., is a psychologist, author, and researcher specializing in well-being, resilience, happiness, and mindfulness. She serves as the Science Director of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (CCARE) at Stanford University, where she conducts research and teaches courses on these topics. Seppälä's work focuses on understanding the science behind human flourishing and how individuals can cultivate greater well-being.
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TIMESTAMPS
1:36 Dr. Seppälä's Background
4:18 What She Wishes Everyone Knew
9:09 Most Meaningful Study
12:20 Sky Breath Meditation Technique
21:17 Definition of Sovereignty
28:28 Personal Example
35:15 Advice on Going Through Difficult Things
46:36 Why Some People Are More Resilient
52:31 Dr. Seppälä's Lifestyle
54:38 Final Message
🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here
📹The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 259
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Jul 14, 2024 • 48min
258: The Science of Happiness: The Path to True Joy with Stephanie Harrison
What if true happiness isn't about chasing achievements, but about embracing your authentic self and making a positive impact on others? In this episode, we explore the dynamic between "Old Happy" and "New Happy," inviting you to redefine success on your own terms. Discover how embracing who you are and contributing to others can lead to a more profound and enduring happiness in your life.
Stephanie Harrison is an expert in the science of happiness and the creator of the New Happy philosophy. She has a master’s degree in positive psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she was later an instructor, and was previously the Director of Learning at Thrive Global, leading the development of science-based programs that improve well-being.
TIMESTAMPS
2:04 The story behind New Happy
3:45 Stephanie’s background
8:13 What is happiness?
9:14 Old Happy vs New Happy
19:05 Appying the New Happy in our lives
23:00 Tools to boost self-worth
26:16 The obstacles to happiness
33:30 How to connect with other people
35:05 Stephanie’s lifestyle
38:22 Changing our focus
40:51 Finding happiness among challenging times
43:58 How can we have greater compassion for ourselves
45:47 Final message
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🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here
📹The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 258
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