

The Lavendaire Lifestyle
Aileen Xu
Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
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Oct 5, 2025 • 40min
290: Gabby Bernstein on Manifesting, Healing & Undoing Your Biggest Blocks
What happens when you stop pressuring yourself and let creative inspiration come naturally? In this conversation, Gabby Bernstein shares how she channeled The Universe Has Your Back during her darkest time, why we're always manifesting based on our beliefs, and how she turned trauma therapy into a four-step practice anyone can access. Discover how to build faith muscle before crisis hits and her final wisdom: choose again—you always have the power to choose the next best feeling thought.
Gabby Bernstein is a spiritual teacher, #1 New York Times bestselling author and founder of the gabby coaching app. She has written eleven books, including Self Help, The Universe Has Your Back and her latest, an Audible Original: 7 Habits of a Super Attractor. Gabby has been featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “new thought leader” and recognized by The New York Times as “a role model for a new generation of spiritual seekers.”
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TIMESTAMPS
2:27 Spiritual Journey Origins
4:43 The Universe Has Your Back
7:55 The Writing Process
11:11 How Manifesting Works
12:47 Undoing Limiting Beliefs
20:41 Understanding Addiction Patterns
24:09 Super Attractor Definition
27:30 Four Morning Questions
28:34 Building Faith Muscle
30:06 What Gabby's Most Excited About
32:26 How Gabby Stays Grounded
35:40 Message to Her Younger Self
36:09 Gabby's Confidence Journey
37:23 What's Next for Gabby
38:23 Final Piece of Advice
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Sep 21, 2025 • 1h 1min
289: The Inner Work That Creates Outer Confidence with Melinde Huez
Melinde Huez, a confidence coach with a massive following on Instagram, shares her inspiring journey from social anxiety to unshakeable self-trust. She discusses the distinction between fleeting and lasting confidence, emphasizing that inner worth is key. Listeners learn to tackle fears of judgment, reframe negative beliefs, and gradually confront their anxieties. Melinde introduces techniques like the courage exposure method and an embodiment routine to help women embrace their authentic selves while navigating self-doubt and overthinking.

Sep 11, 2025 • 26min
Healing My Father Wound 💔 Visiting China After 6 Years
After six years, I visited my dad in China—and healed emotional wounds I’ve carried my entire life. This is the most personal story I’ve ever shared: a journey of healing my father wound, breaking through years of emotional distance and lack of communication, and finding peace, clarity, and inner power through authenticity.
In this video, I share my family backstory on growing up with a distant father, the silent struggles I held for decades, and the life-changing experience of finally expressing my truth. If you’re navigating family wounds, generational healing, or your own path to self worth, I hope this story brings you reflection, healing, and hope. Sending you so much love 💓
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Sep 7, 2025 • 1h 3min
288: The Secret Wisdom Encoded in Tarot Cards with The Gem Goddess
What if tarot isn't about predicting your future but creating it? In this episode, The Gem Goddess reveals how tarot was originally created to encode wisdom for unlocking your truest potential, breaking down key cards like the Devil, Four of Cups and Strength. Learn how tarot serves as a practical life map for manifestation.
The Gem Goddess is a tarot reader, astrologer, manifestation coach, and YouTuber with over 850,000 subscribers. She has dedicated over 18 years to the study of tarot, manifestation, and spirituality, and has helped guide thousands of people through their spiritual journey, and towards becoming the highest version of themselves.
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TIMESTAMPS
1:47 - Growing Up with Spirituality
7:40 - Manifesting Before Her Calling
12:24 - The Soul Searching Moment
17:42 - Secret Wisdom in Tarot
20:07 - Tarot for Life Challenges
29:42 - The Four of Cups
31:40 - When Cards Keep Repeating
33:28 - Daily Tarot Practice
36:18 - The Strength Card
40:25 - The Devil Card
44:03 - Reading Cards Intuitively
47:37 - Leanna’s Manifestation Process
55:20 - Stepping Into Motherhood
1:00:29 - Last Message
FOLLOW THE GEM GODDESS
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• Jewelry and crystal company
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Aug 24, 2025 • 57min
287: The 5 Types of Wealth for a Fulfilling Life with Sahil Bloom
Why do so many successful people feel empty despite having everything they thought they wanted? Sahil Bloom breaks down the 5 types of wealth that actually create a fulfilling life, explaining why we've been measuring success with the wrong scorecard for generations. From the "dimmer switch" strategy for balancing life areas to creating "anti-goals" that prevent you from losing yourself in pursuit of achievements, this conversation offers a blueprint for redefining success on your own terms.
Sahil Bloom is the New York Times Bestselling author of The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life. In addition to his debut book, Bloom is an inspirational writer and content creator, captivating millions of people every week through his insights and biweekly newsletter, The Curiosity Chronicle. Bloom is also a successful entrepreneur, owner of SRB Holdings, and the managing partner of SRB Ventures, an early-stage investment fund.
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TIMESTAMPS
• 1:47 Sahil's origin story
• 12:31 The 5 types of wealth
• 22:02 Dimmer switches
• 26:51 Fisherman and banker story
• 33:50 Anti-goals explained
• 38:47 Life razor explained
• 43:39 30-day physical reset
• 47:52 Morning routine
• 52:15 1-1-1 journaling method
• 54:50 Last Message
FOLLOW SAHIL
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Aug 10, 2025 • 1h 5min
286: Healing Your Money Story with Shamina Taylor
What if your money struggles aren't really about money at all, but about unhealed emotional wounds from your past? In this conversation, we explore how childhood trauma creates unconscious patterns that sabotage your financial success—and how healing these core wounds can unlock the abundance you've been seeking. You'll learn practical tools like the trigger journal practice, daily wealth consciousness rituals, and specific ways to shift from scarcity thinking to abundance beliefs.
Shamina is a renowned wealth expert on a mission to lift income ceilings, break financial barriers, and make being wealthy the new standard for women everywhere. With a proven track record of helping over 51 women become millionaire and multimillionaires, and thousands more reach their highest cash months, she's passionate about showing what's possible when women unapologetically claim their power and wealth.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:05 Shamina's story
7:19 Recalibrating success
9:15 The 3 core wounds
12:38 Wealth consciousness definition
17:58 Breakthrough moment
20:12 The energy of money
24:15 Why money feels scary
32:07 Daily wealth practices
37:31 Shamina's book
41:25 Trigger journal exercise
51:04 Thriving in any economy
1:00:19 Final message
FOLLOW SHAMINA
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• Upcoming in-person event
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📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube
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Jul 27, 2025 • 48min
285: How Our Mind Can Heal Our Body: The Science of Neuroplasticity with Dr. Caroline Leaf
Did you know that 95% of your physical health issues actually stem from your thoughts? In this conversation with Dr. Caroline Leaf, we discover that your mind actually controls your brain—not the other way around—and explore the groundbreaking science behind this mind-body connection. She reveals practical strategies for managing stress and intrusive thoughts in the moment, and shares how we can literally rewire our neural pathways to transform our lives. This episode will completely shift how you understand the incredible power of your mind to heal your body and change your reality.
Dr. Caroline Leaf is a communication pathologist, audiologist, clinical and research neuroscientist with a Masters and PhD in Communication Pathology and a BSc Logopaedics, specializing in psychoneurobiology and metacognitive neuropsychology. Since the early 1980s she has researched the mind-brain connection, the nature of mental health, and the formation of memory. She was one of the first in her field to study how the brain can change (neuroplasticity) with directed mind input.
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TIMESTAMPS
1:47 Dr. Caroline's Journey
4:48 Mind vs. Brain: The Difference
7:36 How Your Mind Controls Your Body
21:54 Writing "Help in a Hurry"
27:13 Managing Intrusive Thoughts
31:06 Breaking People-Pleasing Patterns
34:54 The Truth About Habit Formation
42:36 How to Change Painful Memories
46:26 One Life-Changing Insight
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• Preorder Her New Book
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Jul 16, 2025 • 6min
5 Minute Meditation for Focus & Clarity | Beat Procrastination & Distraction
Feeling overwhelmed, scattered, or stuck in procrastination? This quick 5 minute guided meditation will help you clear mental clutter, ground into the present moment, and find calm focus to move forward with clarity and ease. ✨ Join the waitlist for our new app for meditations & affirmations → https://resonance.lavendaire.com
This beginner-friendly short meditation will help you release distraction and procrastination, reset your mind with focused energy, and anchor into positive affirmations for motivation and action. Perfect for your work or study breaks, this meditation will help you reclaim your focus and take aligned action.
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Jul 13, 2025 • 59min
284: Astrology Personality Types & 2025 Cosmic Predictions w/AstroTwins
Ever wondered if there's an easier way to understand astrology? In this episode, we dive deep with the AstroTwins to uncover their revolutionary IAM personality system that simplifies astrology into 3 types (Innovator, Authority, Maven), clear up the biggest misconceptions about astrology, and reveal their major predictions for 2025. Discover what your birth chart can actually tell you, learn the truth about eclipse timing and get practical advice for navigating the major planetary shifts coming in 2025.
Ophira and Tali Edut (The AstroTwins) are among the most sought-after astrologers and intuitive advisors of our times. As the longtime resident astrologers for ELLE Magazine and the authors of over 20 books, they are the advisors to a roster of CEOs, celebrities, global leaders and successful entrepreneurs, including Beyonce, Dua Lipa and Emma Roberts.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:04 Evolution Of Their Work
3:46 What Astrology Can Reveal
11:11 Biggest Misconceptions
14:18 The IAM System
18:14 The 3 Types Explained
24:31 How To Apply IAM In Life
28:22 Time Management For Each Type
30:43 Relationships Between Types
35:09 Success Strategies For Each Type
38:04 Surprising Discoveries
40:16 Cosmic Shifts And Predictions For 2025
55:37 Last Message
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🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here
📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube
🎧 The AstroTwins have each shared their insights on the podcast. Be sure to listen to Tali’s episode, and don’t miss Ophi’s as well.
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Jun 29, 2025 • 57min
283: Tapping Into Your Wholeness: The True Meaning of Abundance with Cathy Heller
Join Cathy Heller, a transformational coach and author of 'Don’t Keep Your Day Job', as she illuminates the true essence of abundance. Discover how your 80-year-old self can influence your self-worth and learn to shift from chasing achievements to embracing your inner wholeness. Cathy shares insights on becoming a beacon of positive energy, releasing limiting beliefs, and understanding the law of reception. This inspiring conversation will encourage you to redefine your relationship with abundance and recognize your inherent masterpiece.