

The Lavendaire Lifestyle
Aileen Xu
Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
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Jan 4, 2026 • 50min
Bonus Episode: Creating Your Life as Art: A Journey Through Uncertainty with Aileen Xu
In this episode, Aileen opens up about her “life as art” philosophy—the transformative idea that we are each the artist of our own life, co-creating our masterpiece through journaling, self-discovery, and trusting our inner voice. She shares how she started Lavendaire to document her journey of painting her path layer by layer and embracing uncertainty, turning her exploration into a platform for intentional living. This episode is for anyone ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating their life as their greatest work of art.
Bianca Venchiarutti is the founder of The Twenties Detox, a platform where twenty-somethings unlearn beliefs and mindsets that no longer serve them, and relearn lessons to create a purposeful life of their own. Through her podcast, newsletter, and seasonal alignment workbook, Bianca offers tools and practices rooted in introspection and the rhythms of nature. Through these resources, she guides her community to reconnect with themselves and navigate this pivotal decade with intention, and clarity.
TIMESTAMPS
03:35 When Structure Falls Away
11:05 Journaling: Morning Pages
19:41 Books, Social Media & Intentional Consumption
26:18 Why Success Looks Different Now
31:03 Learning to Trust Your Intuition
36:27 Life Is An Art
43:09 Co-Creating With the Universe
44:20 Breaking Barriers
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Dec 31, 2025 • 8min
New Year Affirmations 2026 ✨ Embody Your Future Self & Dream Life
Step into your best year yet with these guided affirmations + new year challenge to align, manifest, and embody your best self in 2026. This audio is part of the 7-Day New Year Challenge: EMBODY 2026—an invitation to begin your year with clarity, intention, and bold aligned action.
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Dec 28, 2025 • 1h 5min
296: Nutritional Psychiatry: How Food Impacts Your Mood, Energy & Mind with Drew Ramsey
Drew Ramsey, MD is a board-certified psychiatrist, five time author, and leading voice in Nutritional Psychiatry and integrative mental health. He is a Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and the founder of the Brain Food Clinic and Spruce Mental Health. For twenty years, he served as an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at Columbia University, where he taught and supervised psychotherapy and nutritional psychiatry.
What if mental fitness is about so much more than eating well? In this episode, Drew Ramsey reminds us what we already know in our hearts: connection, movement, sleep, and presence matter just as much as nutrition. We walked through the science of processed foods, discovered the brain foods that actually protect your mood, and learned the tenets of mental fitness that transform our lives.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:22 Drew’s Story
10:49 What Everyone Should Know
16:08 Processed vs. Unprocessed Foods
19:28 Food Contaminants
28:07 Building the Perfect Meal
36:07 Brain Food Hacks
51:30 Daily Habits & Practices
1:01:34 Final Message
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Dec 14, 2025 • 60min
295: From Trauma to Connection: Healing Your Nervous System with The Crappy Childhood Fairy
Have you ever wondered why you feel disconnected from others—even when you're surrounded by people? In this episode, Anna Runkle shares how trauma dysregulates your nervous system, affecting your health, relationships, and ability to feel like you belong. She reveals the simple daily practice that transformed her life and explains why healing your connection wound is the key to finally feeling whole.
Anna Runkle is the creator of the Crappy Childhood Fairy healing method, a breakthrough approach to help people heal trauma symptoms and change their lives—whether or not they have access to professional help. Her approach includes simple, self-directed exercises to calm emotional triggers and neurological dysregulation and to begin changing the self-defeating behaviors that are common for people who have lived much of their lives dysregulated.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:22 Where the Name Came From
12:47 Healing Method
20:46 Why Your Nervous System Is Everything
32:48 How To Support Your Nervous System
36:32 Why Connection Is the Key to Healing
50:58 How to Heal Your Connection Wound
56:58 Final Message: Don’t Give Up
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Nov 30, 2025 • 51min
294: The Power of Breath & Meditation: Managing Stress & Negative Emotions with Dr. Ajay Tejasvi
What if everything you need to feel calm, energized, and resilient is already within you—just waiting to be activated? In this episode with Dr. Ajay Tejasvi, you'll discover how your breath is the bridge between your mind and body, and learn the practical techniques to manage stress, anxiety, and negative emotions while reclaiming the energy to show up as your best self.
Dr. Ajay Tejasvi is a renowned meditation and breathwork expert and a part of the executive team for The Art of Living Foundation. As a key figure in Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar's Office in Washington, DC, he contributes to diverse global initiatives. Ajay holds a Ph.D. in Political Science and is actively involved in supporting education, youth, and women's empowerment initiatives.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:28 The Art of Living Foundation
3:47 What Inspired Dr. Ajay’s Path
10:04 Sky Breath Meditation
13:57 Breathing Technique for Nervousness
17:17 Full Yogic Breath
21:22 Nose Breathing vs. Mouth Breathing
26:16 The 4 Pillars of Energy
31:48 Managing Difficult Times
32:56 Learning from Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
37:29 Conscious vs traditional leadership
43:23 Bringing Meditation to College Campuses
48:13 Building Confidence & Resilience
49:20 Last Message
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Nov 16, 2025 • 57min
293: Intentional Imbalance: A New Way to Think About Having It All with Amanda Goetz
What if the version of ambition you've been chasing is actually holding you back? In this episode, Amanda Goetz breaks down the difference between toxic grit and intentional ambition—revealing that hustle should be a season, not your identity, and that real ambition means knowing why you're pushing. She walks through the self-worth iceberg: the invisible layers of societal pressure, generational patterns, and personal trauma that trigger disproportionate reactions, showing you how to get curious about what's actually driving your behavior.
Amanda Goetz is a 2x founder, 4x chief marketing officer, and was a single mom to three small children before finding love again. She spent two decades building and growing consumer-facing brands before shifting to writing, teaching, and coaching ambitious working parents on how to balance success and life. She graduated summa cum laude from the University of Illinois and, after hustling the streets of New York City for over a decade, is now testing out every sunscreen in the world on her children in Miami.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:21 Amanda’s Story
9:13 Defining Toxic Grit
14:28 Healthy vs. Unhealthy Ambition
15:47 The Self-Worth Iceberg
21:33 Processing Tools That Work
25:53 Understanding Burnout
31:24 When Characters Grow Toxic
38:11 The Perfect Day Exercise
43:42 Finding Your People
46:16 Minimally Viable Day
55:03 Last Message
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Nov 2, 2025 • 57min
292: What Ayurveda Teaches About Health, Balance & Your True Nature with Dr. Nidhi Pandya
What if your body has been trying to tell you something, but you've been too disconnected to hear it? In this episode, Dr. Nidhi Pandya shares ancient Ayurvedic wisdom on understanding your body's inner climate, resetting your circadian rhythms, and using simple daily rituals to restore balance. She explains why warm and moist is where life thrives, why stress leaves us hot and dry, and how to bring yourself back to center.
Nidhi Pandya is a NAMA-certified Ayurvedic Doctor and wellness coach specializing in holistic women’s health and longevity. With a dedicated audience of over 300K spanning across continents, she expertly blends ancient Ayurvedic wisdom with modern health insights—covering topics from stress and brain health to the latest wellness trends—delivering clear, science-backed guidance that resonates deeply with audiences worldwide.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:30 Growing up Ayurvedic
8:51 Core Ayurvedic principles
12:17 Understanding your body
14:23 Warm & moist: where life thrives
24:13 How to restore balance
26:01 Living by your circadian clock
35:14 Reconnecting with your rhythms
40:20 The 21-day reset
43:14 Nidhi's daily rituals
52:58 The power of your exhale
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Oct 19, 2025 • 57min
291: Spiritual Awakening, Life Seasons & Following Your Soul's Path with Rebecca Campbell
What if the smallest joy in your life could unlock your entire purpose? In this episode, mystic author Rebecca Campbell reveals the three phases of spiritual awakening, shares how literally following flowers led to her entire career, and explains why you can't skip your winter season—even when everyone else seems to be in their summer. Aileen opens up about unraveling her self-worth from productivity, while Rebecca introduces the choice every creator faces: create from your soul or perform for the algorithm.
Rebecca Campbell is a transformational author, mystic, artist, speaker, teacher and podcaster supporting people to connect with their soul. Founder of The Inner Temple Mystery School and Oracle Card Reader Certification, Rebecca's mission is to weave the sacred back into everyday life.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:13 What's New with Rebecca
4:49 The 3 Phases of Spiritual Awakening
8:35 Why Healing Happens in Spirals
12:04 Rebecca's New Book
13:04 How to Live a Soul-Led Life
18:43 Understanding Your Intuition
21:00 How to Stay Faithful During Uncertainty
23:33 Honoring the Seasons of Your Life
29:17 What Are Oracle Cards & How to Use Them
35:11 Rebecca's Creative Routine
38:10 Social Media & Creators
41:17 Unraveling Self-Worth from Productivity
43:25 Rebecca's Spiritual Routine as a Mom
47:30 What Inspires Rebecca's Next Projects
49:25 What It Means to Be a Lightworker
53:07 Final Message & Oracle Card Pull
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🎧 This is Rebecca's second time on the show. Catch her first episode here
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Oct 5, 2025 • 40min
290: Gabby Bernstein on Manifesting, Healing & Undoing Your Biggest Blocks
What happens when you stop pressuring yourself and let creative inspiration come naturally? In this conversation, Gabby Bernstein shares how she channeled The Universe Has Your Back during her darkest time, why we're always manifesting based on our beliefs, and how she turned trauma therapy into a four-step practice anyone can access. Discover how to build faith muscle before crisis hits and her final wisdom: choose again—you always have the power to choose the next best feeling thought.
Gabby Bernstein is a spiritual teacher, #1 New York Times bestselling author and founder of the gabby coaching app. She has written eleven books, including Self Help, The Universe Has Your Back and her latest, an Audible Original: 7 Habits of a Super Attractor. Gabby has been featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “new thought leader” and recognized by The New York Times as “a role model for a new generation of spiritual seekers.”
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TIMESTAMPS
2:27 Spiritual Journey Origins
4:43 The Universe Has Your Back
7:55 The Writing Process
11:11 How Manifesting Works
12:47 Undoing Limiting Beliefs
20:41 Understanding Addiction Patterns
24:09 Super Attractor Definition
27:30 Four Morning Questions
28:34 Building Faith Muscle
30:06 What Gabby's Most Excited About
32:26 How Gabby Stays Grounded
35:40 Message to Her Younger Self
36:09 Gabby's Confidence Journey
37:23 What's Next for Gabby
38:23 Final Piece of Advice
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Sep 21, 2025 • 1h 1min
289: The Inner Work That Creates Outer Confidence with Melinde Huez
Melinde Huez, a confidence coach with a massive following on Instagram, shares her inspiring journey from social anxiety to unshakeable self-trust. She discusses the distinction between fleeting and lasting confidence, emphasizing that inner worth is key. Listeners learn to tackle fears of judgment, reframe negative beliefs, and gradually confront their anxieties. Melinde introduces techniques like the courage exposure method and an embodiment routine to help women embrace their authentic selves while navigating self-doubt and overthinking.


