The Perfectionism Project

Getting started is one of the biggest challenges that perfectionists face. So in this episode, I’m sharing why it’s so hard to get started and what to do about it! I’m sharing the lessons I’ve personally learned when it comes to getting started, a powerful analogy that will make getting started easier than ever before plus practical things to do if you can’t make yourself take that first step. In This Episode You’ll Learn:  Why we resist starting, even when it’s something we genuinely want to do The question that always helps me get started and how to use it My journey with getting started An analogy that has helped me evaluate whether it’s the right time to get started  Why starting is better than researching What to do if you just can’t get started Featured In The Episode: Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here Episode 16: What To Expect When You Start A Creative Project Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset Episode 131: How To Eliminate All-Or-Nothing Thinking Episode 134: How To Not Quit Episode 136: What Would This Look Like If It Were Easy? Joyride To Freedom Podcast with Lou Niedstadt

Every month, I record a personal growth update to help you get a feel for what personal development is *really* like when you’re on the journey (hint: it’s not rainbows and butterflies when you’re doing the real work).  This month has been an incredible one. I started the month in Los Angeles, where I taught a business workshop, before heading to Las Vegas for Tony Robbins’ Business Mastery event. I also officially started working full-time in my business and learned how to be productive from home. When I returned from the States, I got back into my exercise habit seamlessly (I’ll tell you how in this episode) and  Tune in to hear what I’ve been getting up to, what I’ve been working on behind the scenes and some personal development inspo. I hope you find it helpful! In This Episode You’ll Learn: What I learned from Tony Robbins’ Business Mastery Event in Las Vegas What I got up to in Los Angeles and the biggest highlights Why I’ll be doing more in-person events in the future (watch this space!) How to be productive from home My best tips on getting back into an exercise habit after you return from holidays What I’m reading at the moment Featured In The Episode: Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here Tony Robbins - Business Mastery Episode 116: Personal Growth Update May 2019 Manifestation Babe JetSuiteX Episode 67: 4 Practical Ways To Transform Your Money Mindset Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset Episode 131: How To Eliminate All-Or-Nothing Thinking Good To Great by Jim Collins Jim Collins’ Interview on The Tim Ferriss Show Podcast Building A Storybrand by Donald Miller A Million Miles In A Thousand Years by Donald Miller The Husband’s Secret by Liane Moriarty

Until recently, I believed that success was hard. And that if it wasn’t hard then it wasn’t deserved.  But success doesn’t have to be hard. In fact, for the majority of us, the only reason that success is hard is because we’re overcomplicating it! In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful journaling prompt that will help you create clarity and get out of your own way. I also dive into the hesitations that perfectionists have when using this question and make a few important distinctions that’ll make this question your new best friend. In This Episode You’ll Learn: The best question to ask yourself when you’re starting a new project or habit The two biggest reasons perfectionists overcomplicate their lives How perfectionists use complexity as an excuse not to take action Why so many of us believe that we don’t deserve success unless we worked hard for it The difference between ease and comfort A powerful journaling strategy How to use this journaling prompt in your everyday life Featured In The Episode: Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here Tim Ferriss Episode 19: 3 Questions That Changed My Life Episode 93: Pursuing Your Potential Versus Protecting Your Potential

There’s a difference between intellectual knowledge and actually living what you know. A BIG difference. Which means that knowing about the growth mindset is not the same as having a growth mindset. I’ve recorded many episodes on this topic before but thought it might be helpful to share 7 signs that you still have a fixed mindset. But just remember - having a fixed mindset is nothing to beat yourself up about. That’s not the point of this episode! The point is to help you take your self-awareness to a deeper level so you can create the mindset and the life you want. Enjoy! In This Episode You’ll Learn: What the fixed mindset is and the kind of life it creates 7 signs you have a fixed mindset and what to do about it Why being smart isn’t something you should be aiming for The real reason you want everything to be natural and effortless How to stop fearing wasted effort What it takes to actually pursue your potential The quickest way to create a growth mindset Featured In The Episode: Episode 10: The Fear of Wasting Effort Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset Episode 45: 10 Signs You’re A Perfectionist Episode 57: 7 Differences Between High Achievers and Perfectionists Episode 93: Protecting Your Potential Versus Pursing Your Potential Episode 100: The 5 Biggest Growth Mindset Mistakes Perfectionists Make Episode 118: Thoughts That Create A Growth Mindset

Personal development sounds very inspiring and glamorous. But the reality of personal development is that we’re intentionally bringing up our fears and doubts so that we can overcome them - and that doesn’t feel good! In this episode, I’m sharing my advice on what to do when you feel like quitting. I hope you find it helpful and that it gives you the strength to keep going (because if you persist, you will succeed). In This Episode You’ll Learn: The difference between the discomfort of stagnation and the discomfort of growth How to persist through discomfort even when it’s painful Why quitting won’t make you feel better Why it’s a good thing that personal development will never feel more comfortable The sneaky ways we quit on our goals to avoid disappointment Featured In The Episode: Episode 93: Pursuing Your Potential Versus Protecting Your Potential

Last week, I attended Tony Robbins’ Business Mastery event in Las Vegas. It was absolutely incredible but there was A LOT of information to digest! In this episode, I’m sharing exactly how I take notes when I’m attending events like this as well as 5 practical tips to help you take better notes. If you’re putting time and effort into your personal development but you’re not getting results, effective note taking could be a skill you need to work on. Tune in to learn the biggest mistakes perfectionists make with note taking and how to take action following an inspiring event (without the overwhelm). In This Episode You’ll Learn: How to take better notes at conferences, events and workshops Why you shouldn’t take notes the same way you took notes in school The biggest mistakes that perfectionists make with note taking How to avoid overwhelm and take action following an event Key mindset shifts that will help you make the most of what you learn Exactly how I take notes when I’m at a conference, event or workshop Here’s what my notes look like!   [INSERT PHOTO OF MY NOTES]   Featured In The Episode: Tony Robbins - Business Mastery Episode 81: How To Make The Most of Self-Help Books

Explore the common misconceptions about perfectionism, debunking the belief that perfectionists are perfect people and that perfectionism leads to success. Understand the impact of perfectionism on achievement and the importance of adopting a growth mindset. Embrace self-compassion, appreciate progress, and challenge the mindset of perfectionism. Learn to view perfectionism as a changeable set of beliefs and embark on a journey of personal growth.

One of the biggest signs that you have a perfectionist mindset is that you have an all-or-nothing approach to life. This means you’re working out perfectly or you’re not working out at all. You’re meditating every day of the week or you’re not meditating at all. You’re taking massive action to build your business or you’re not taking any action at all. To escape the all-or-nothing mindset, there are a few important things you must do. One of those things is creating a growth mindset, which I’ve spoken more about in Episode 41, Episode 57 and Episode 100 of The Perfectionism Project. But something else that’s incredibly important is ditching all-or-nothing language. In this episode, I’m sharing how to notice your all-or-nothing language and what to say instead. I hope you find it helpful! In This Episode You’ll Learn: Why eliminating all-or-nothing language will change your life The most common all-or-nothing phrases How to change your self-image so you no longer abandon healthy habit The words I recommend cutting from your vocabulary Featured In The Episode: Episode 26: The Power of Self-Image Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset Episode 57: 7 Differences Between Perfectionists + High Achievers Episode 100: 5 Biggest Growth Mindset Mistakes Perfectionists Make Episode 126: 3 Steps To Create An Empowering Self-Image

If you’re looking to improve your life without spending thousands on seminars and coaches, personal development books are a great place to start. The fact that you can get the best of someone’s work, for $10-$20, is completely mind-blowing. And I recommend taking full advantage of it! Since I get asked for book recommendations all of the time, I thought I’d share some of my favourite personal development books with you. If you want to know how to make the most of self-help books, be sure to check out Episode 81 of The Perfectionism Project to learn exactly what to do. In This Episode You’ll Learn: 7 personal development books I recommend reading and why Why I read most self-help books more than once The power of mastering the basics of personal development Whether to buy the hardcopy, audiobook or Kindle version Why intellectual knowledge is not enough to create lasting change How to make the most of personal development books Featured In The Episode: The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero The Magic of Thinking Big by Dr David Schwartz Mindset by Carol Dweck Carol Dweck interview with Tom Bilyeu Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss Daring Greatly by Brené Brown Episode 59: Daring Greatly by Brené Brown Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza Dr. Joe Dispenza interview on Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu Episode 31: How To Read More Books Episode 81: How To Make The Most of Self-Help Books

There’s nothing a perfectionist loves more than planning - it’s a great way to feel productive without feeling vulnerable. But this affinity for vague or overly ambitious plans tends to leave us stuck. In this episode, I’m sharing how to become a better planner and the practical step-by-step process that will help you do it. I’m also talking about planning tools, walking you through exactly what I use and revealing the biggest mistakes that perfectionists make with planning. I hope you find it helpful! In This Episode You’ll Learn: Exactly how I plan my time and the tools I use to do it The biggest mistakes that perfectionists make with planning How to tell when you’re procrasti-planning Why planning is so tedious and what to do about it How to avoid overwhelm when you’re planning your week Why I prefer to use a digital calendar over a paper planner Featured In The Episode: Canvast Yearly Planner Episode 261 of The Life Coach School Podcast: Throw Away Your To-Do List