Nope! We're Not Monogamous

Are you in a non-monogamous relationship and looking for ways to enhance your emotional intelligence? Look no further! Join me, Ellecia Paine, as I interview Jessica Fern and David Cooley on the importance of emotional intelligence in non-monogamous dynamics. Dive into their personal experiences, learn how they overcame challenges, and discover practical tools for emotional growth. From journaling and meditation to embracing conflict as an opportunity for intimacy, this episode offers valuable insights for individuals in non-monogamous relationships. Don't miss out on this enlightening discussion that will empower you to build stronger and more fulfilling relationships!We're all human, and emotional intelligence plays a key role in how we interact with others. Jessica and David unpack the importance of knowing how to communicate your feelings and needs, especially when they become overwhelming. You'll learn the markers of drama triangle involvement, and strategies to enhance emotional and relational intelligence. This isn't just about relationships, it's about nurturing growth. We discuss practices to cultivate intimacy, the importance of curiosity in conflict resolution, and innovative techniques such as breathwork and restorative justice circles to help us stay present in difficult conversations.Writing a book is a herculean task. Writing a book together? Even more so. Jessica and David share their journey of co-writing, discussing how they unpacked and developed ideas, managed critiques, and the crucial role of accountability in their creative endeavor. We also delve into the complexities of identity and relationship choice when it comes to polyamory and non-monogamy, exploring the power of frames and metaphors in public decision-making. From discussing the importance of living out one's orientation, to the best strategies for fostering intimacy, it's a conversation you don't want to miss. Tune in and let's navigate jealousy, autonomy, and the struggles of becoming ethically non-monogamous together.Send us a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Are you in a long-distance relationship and curious about exploring non-monogamy? Today's guest, CJ, a sex coach and pleasure advocate, walks us through their personal experience of how non-monogamy played a vital role in navigating the challenges of being apart from their partner across two continents. We take a deep look into the significance of communication, creating a non-judgmental environment, and the importance of touch in maintaining intimacy, despite the miles.Navigating jealousy and exploration in a relationship, especially in a non-monogamous one, can be tricky. CJ opens up about their journey of confronting the fear of being replaced and how they managed their anxiety without letting it hinder their partner's experiences. We discuss the delicate balance of sharing feelings without spoiling the partner's experience, and CJ reveals how they turned their partner's experience into something erotic, showcasing the exciting opportunities non-monogamy can offer.Want to connect with CJ?www.noshamewithcj.comSend us a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Get ready for a compelling discussion that charts the high seas of non-monogamy. I'm thrilled to have the inimitable Dirty Lola aboard with us, an accomplished sex educator and media personality you may recognize from Netflix's Principles of Pleasure and HBO's the Sex Diaries. Her insights are not just enlightening, but deeply grounded in her personal journey, lending an air of authenticity and relatability that is invaluable."I always said that. I am very much a polyamorous person in my heart as part of my identity. I view it as part of my sexuality. It's how my brain works." - Dirty LolaThis discussion takes us through the emotional whirlwind associated with navigating non-monogamous relationships. Together with Lola, we uncover the necessity of open dialogue, the art of setting boundaries, and the intricate layers of different forms of non-monogamy. This journey isn't for the faint of heart, as we tackle challenging issues such as managing anger, confronting double standards and comprehending the intricacies of opening up a relationship. To round off, we delve into the life-altering power of having a partner who validates emotions, listens attentively, and takes responsibility for their behavior. Lola generously shares her wisdom on the concept of compersion and the crucial role boundaries play in nurturing it. Whether you're just dipping your toes into the non-monogamy pool or are a seasoned swimmer, this episode is a treasure trove of insights. So, tune in, sit back, and join us on this enlightening journey into the realm of non-monogamy and polyamory with Dirty Lola.Want to connect with Dirty Lola?https://www.dirtylola.co/Send us a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Koe Creation, a second-generation sex educator and author, dives into the realities of growing up in a polyamorous family. They share personal stories and insights from their book, emphasizing the importance of open dialogue and acceptance for non-monogamous families. Koe discusses navigating co-parenting and fostering a supportive environment for children amidst societal perceptions. The conversation also touches on the representation of polyamory in media, exploring terms like 'throuple' and advocating for authentic narratives that challenge stereotypes.

This week we have an enlightening conversation with Rich and Siobhan, from the Poly Podcast, about their experiences with non-monogamy. They reveal how they embraced polyamory, nuanced their relationship structure and even broached this subject early in their relationship. They'll also be talking about their podcast, Polypodcasts, giving you a chance to be a part of their extended community.As we go deeper into their story, we see how non-monogamy, like any other relationship, is a dynamic, evolving entity. Rich and Siobhan share how their relationship has grown over the past 18 months, including the need to explain to new partners that they live together and parent a child. Their insights and experiences provide a fresh perspective on the fluidity of relationships and the importance of revisiting boundaries and rules. But, like any relationship, we get upfront and personal with the tougher aspects. From managing jealousy, to keeping insecurities at bay, Rich and Siobhan share their journey of love and growth. We also touch upon how they handle the inevitable oddball questions about their relationship and misunderstandings about non-monogamy. Tune in for an episode that takes a deep dive into the realities of non-monogamous relationships and gives you a chance to explore and understand an alternative facet of love and companionship.Rich and Siobhan are the hosts of The Poly (Pod)Cast where they answer common questions, debunk misconceptions and contribute to the growing conversation around ethical non-monogamy (ENM). They are non-monogamous and live in London, UK. Want to connect with Rich and Siobhan?https://twitter.com/poly_podcasthttps://the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm/Send us a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Get ready to embark on an enlightening journey with our guest, Alex Cox, as he gives a candid account of his polyamorous lifestyle. Since 2018, Alex has been navigating the intricacies of multiple partnerships, parenting, writing poetry, and battling PTSD while living a polyamorous life. In our heart-to-heart conversation, he highlights the significance of communication, especially while dating someone who isn't neurodivergent, and the vital role of labels in dictating our lives. As we chat with Alex, we delve deeper into his story, unpacking his personal transformation, overcoming societal expectations, and embracing his true self. You'll also hear about his journey of shedding labels, exploring masculinity, and managing a non-romantic relationship. Moreover, he shares his inspiring journey of creating a thriving polyamory community. So tune in to our enlightening conversation as we explore polyamory, creativity, and relationships, and uncover an alternative way of experiencing love and life.Want to connect with Alex?https://alexcoxblog.com/📚 Books mentioned: Ethical Slut, by Dossie Heaton and Janet HardyThe Jealousy Workbook, by Kathy LabriolaFour Agreements, by Don Miguel RuizPolyamory Breakup Book, by Kathy LabriolaSend us a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

The non-monogamous relationship journey is brimming with complexity and profound self-discovery. This episode opens a window into this world, as we chat with Victor Salmon, who walks us through their journey from their initial exposure to polyamory to their experiences within the BDSM community. Victor offers a fresh perspective on managing jealousy and understanding human connections.We get real about the intricacies of being a hinge partner and what it means to be a 'unicorn' in the Swinger community. Victor shares the importance of setting boundaries versus people-pleasing, and how trauma can impact relationships. We delve into emotional maturity and celebrate the growth that comes with breaking away from monogamous conditioning.Finally, we discuss how to set boundaries, understand our own attachment styles, and be sensitive to our partner's needs. By the end of our chat with Victor, you'll be equipped with a wealth of knowledge on crafting healthier, more satisfying relationships, whether you're venturing into polyamory or simply looking to understand it better. Victor Salmon, is a beacon of inspiration for those searching for a healthier emotional and relational outlook. Victor's initial exposure to non-hierarchical polyamory and subsequent experiences within the BDSM community have shaped their nurturing approach to emotional well-being. Victor excels at translating complex emotions into relatable insights that encourage self-reflection and cultivate healthier relationships. 📚 Books mentioned: Nonviolent Communication, by Marshall RosenbergPolysecure by Jessica FernConnect with Victorhttps://intimatevictor.com/resources/podcast/Send us a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, Casey Donatello opens up about the challenges and dynamics of striving for equity in non-monogamous relationships. But just when it seems like they've found the perfect balance, a shocking twist threatens to unravel their carefully built connection. Tune in to find out what happens next.Meet Casey Donatello, a passionate advocate for boundary pushing and exploring dynamics within non-monogamous relationships. Throughout her personal journey that spans almost two decades, Casey has published three compelling memoirs, navigating the captivating landscape of alternative relationships with a raw, unfiltered perspective. Bridging the gap between fantasy and reality, her experiences enrich her candid discussions on equity, equality and the complex nuances that shape non-monogamous partnerships.Gain a fresh perspective on relationships by exploring Casey Donatello's real-world adventures in non-monogamy.Discover the indispensable role of open dialogue and trust, extending beyond non-monogamous relationships into all interactions.Understand the psychological impact of non-monogamy, providing insights into human vulnerabilities and open discussions on emotional challenges.Unwrap the concept of equity versus equality in non-monogamous relationships, setting the stage for thinking outside of traditional relationship norms.Empower yourself with effective techniques to navigate through the complexities of non-monogamy, enriching your understanding of emotional intelligence in relationships.Want to connect with Casey?www.caseydonatello.comCheck out Casey Donatello's Instagram page, In Bed with Strangers, for fascinating and engaging content related to non-monogamous relationships.Explore Casey Donatello's three memoirs, which provide an insightful and personal look into the lifestyle of non-monogamy.Send us a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Are you tired of feeling disconnected from yourself and others? What if there was a way to build a unique web of relationships that truly support your well-being and growth? Well, we're here to tell you that it's possible! In my discussion with internationally known author and educator, Lee Harrington, we uncover the secrets to creating intentional, supportive relationships and fostering self-love.Discover how finding a balance between hyper-independence and codependence can lead to flourishing connections within communities. Lee shares their journey to self-love and self-connection through their new book, Become Your Own Beloved: A Guide to Delighting and Self-Connection. We also dive into the concept of New Relationship Energy, discussing how it can be experienced during various stages of relationships and the courage it takes to embrace new possibilities.Lastly, we explore the importance of listening to all voices within our relationships, including our own, as we navigate the world of polyamory. Learn how changing our minds can help build relationships more compatible with our lives, and the significance of self-love in these connections. Don't miss this enlightening and inspiring conversation that will leave you with a new perspective on self-love, relationships, and community.An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his many books include “Sacred Kink: The Eighfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macrame,” and “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys.” You can check out Lee’s adventures, as well as his podcast, tour schedule, free essays, videos, and more, over at PassionAndSoul.com.Want to connect with Lee?PassionandSoul.comIG:@passionandsoulFB: passionandsoul📚 Books mentioned: Become Your Own Beloved, by Lee HarringtonThe Ethical Slut, by Dossie Easton and Janet HardySend us a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

This week, I am talking with relationship coach, Lucy Price.  Join us as we discuss the power of non-monogamous relationships and the importance of understanding our own feelings and desires before following someone else's lead. Lucy shares her experiences, mistakes, and valuable lessons she learned along the way, highlighting the concept of monogamish relationships and how to navigate open relationships while respecting everyone involved. We also touch on the challenges of finding authenticity in relationships, the impact of unresolved wounds from our past, and the importance of healing and reclaiming power after toxic relationships.Gain invaluable guidance and learn how to improve your communication, elevate your intimacy, and confidently explore your relationship preferences. Listen now and embrace the journey to better understanding yourself and your relationships!Want to connect with Lucy? www.shiftyourstory.netIG: @lucy.m.priceTikTok: Lucy.m.price0Send us a textFLOW Nitric Oxide BoosterFLOW brings blood where you want it to go — your brain, your heart, and your pleasure zones. Try your first bottle of FLOW FREE — just pay shipping. Experience the results yourself and cancel anytime. We’re confident FLOW will reignite your spark!  Support the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237