Stuck Not Broken

We answer a listener question on how to better co-regulate a partner. Get  more Polyvagal Podcast content on -  https://www.justinlmft.com/members for only $5/mo!

Our week-long gift as a thank you to you.  You and your fellow #traumanerds have been instrumental in the success of this podcast.  And as a result, in helping thousands of people get unstuck or help others to get unstuck. Happy Holidays from Mercedes and Justin!  Please enjoy a week of episodes :)

Prompted by a question about parenting from a listener.  Turned into an interesting question about self care - what it is and what it isn't.  Does it have to be alone?  Does it have to be without your kids present? More Polyvagal Podcast for $5 Members - justinlmft.com/members  

Protection is something we settle for.  Safety is something we deserve.  And more!  Open Letters / Stack 1 - https://www.justinlmft.com/openletters Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

In episode 15, Dr Porges himself differentiated between empathy and compassion.  We've mentioned this numerous times since then.  We examine the difference between the two in this episode. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Polyvagal Podcast merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats   What is Empathy? - Greater Good Magazine - https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/empathy/definition Importance and Benefits of Empathy, Kendra Cherry - https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-empathy-2795562 NPR Article - https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2019/04/26/717272708/does-taking-time-for-compassion-make-doctors-better-at-their-jobs

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We've mentioned the difference between curiosity and evaluation a few times on the podcast before.  In this episode, we drill down further than ever in search of a deeper understanding.  Mercedes opens with curiosity and Justin closed with evaluation. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Polyvagal Podcast merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats Articles about curiosity: Six Surprising Benefits of Curiosity - Emily Campbell https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_surprising_benefits_of_curiosity 7 Reasons To Be Extremely Curious - Francisco Saez https://facilethings.com/blog/en/curiosity-and-productivity Using Curiosity To Find Your Best Self - Farrah Campbell https://www.stackery.io/blog/using-curiosity/ The Power of Curiosity - Todd Kashdan https://experiencelife.com/article/the-power-of-curiosity/ Dave Jackson & the School of Podcasting - http://schoolofpodcasting.com/

Part 2 of my chat with Irene Lyon! IRENE Website - https://irenelyon.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/irenelyon/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkXgr0E9ZWUg4iSDEUKqVA Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/lyonirene Twitter - https://twitter.com/Irene_Lyon   Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Show notes are available at https://www.justinlmft.com/post/irenelyon Links are to Amazon, where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you. Gabor Mate, When The Body Says No  - https://amzn.to/2VNe0Q3 Peter Levine, Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes - https://amzn.to/2WHc7Fj Bruce Perry, Born for Love - https://amzn.to/2PO3x6i Bruce Perry, The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog - https://amzn.to/2r6pJ0T The Story of Ryan - https://youtu.be/3WI3aUfsNxM The Story of Teddy - https://youtu.be/dNts7T8_Vig IRENE Website - https://irenelyon.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/irenelyon/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkXgr0E9ZWUg4iSDEUKqVA Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/lyonirene Twitter - https://twitter.com/Irene_Lyon JUSTIN https://www.justinlmft.com  

Another excellent question from a fellow Trauma Nerd - are shutdown and introversion the same thing?  We don't have a crystal clear answer on that, but we've got an interesting discussion on it.  We'd love to hear what you think - send an audio message via email or Instagram DM! More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats