

Time to Lean
Laura Danger and Crystal Britt
On the Time to Lean podcast with Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, we dig into the often-overlooked realities of domestic labor, care work, and household inequity. Through sharp cultural critiques and discussions on trending topics, we explore the systemic issues that shape our homes and lives. In each weekly episode, we tackle the topics that impact our lives, challenge the status quo, and uncover the hidden dynamics that influence how we live and work. Join us as we make time to lean into these crucial conversations and advocate for the value of the work that truly keeps the world turning.Laura, @thatdarnchat, is an educator and advocate. Crystal Britt, @itscrystalbritt, is a coach and licensed therapist in California. Find us on IG or join us on Patreon @ timetoleanpod for Ad-Free episodes, resources, book clubs, weekly virtual meet-ups and so much more!Check us out on Substack for Ad-Free episodes and supplemental resources! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Aug 16, 2023 • 34min
Is housework skilled work that's worth learning?
The podcast discusses the societal assumptions surrounding caregiving skills, including the lack of normalization for men. They explore the concept of invisible labor and how perceptions regarding men's involvement in household tasks are shifting. The hosts also delve into breaking gender stereotypes, challenging gender roles in domestic labor, and the intentional devaluation of domestic work. They draw parallels to 'The Secret Life of Home Economics' and urge for inclusivity and breaking societal expectations.

Aug 10, 2023 • 36min
Are your standards a "you problem"?
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a TikTok that recently went viral--over paper plates versus real dinner plates. Is making the little decisions something we should "JUST GET OVER" or is there an opportunity for connection there?Resources Mentioned:Books Mentioned on This EpisodeHave a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video!Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 26, 2023 • 35min
If it's so hard, why don't you work and I'LL stay home??
Have you ever heard or had a partner tell you directly, "Well if you hate taking care of the kids so much, why don't YOU work and I'LL stay home and relax?" Laura Danger and Crystal Britt discuss this zero-sum fallacy and what it means for BOTH partners to have buy in to a life you're building together--and how you BOTH get something out of that.Resources Mentioned:Lin--The Gentle CounselorDrew AfualoBooks Mentioned on This EpisodeStatistics on Father EngagementHave a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video!Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 19, 2023 • 38min
Mommy FB Groups and Daddy Dumb-Dumbs
HEY MAMA! Join Crystal and Laura in this episode to talk about the dark recesses of the internet known as Mommy FB Groups to touch on the inequity of educating parents on...parenting.Mentioned in this Episode:Kier Gainess on IGDr. Becky on IGMichael Vaughn EpisodeBooks Mentioned on This EpisodeHave a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video!Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 12, 2023 • 44min
What if he says this isn't fair?
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a listener-submitted question: She wonders if, after being the default partner for 20 years, her husband is justified in complaining that their proposed housework split isn't 50/50? What do you think?Resources/Sources Mentioned in this episode:Laura's Free Home Cleaning ChecklistGottman Institute (Couples Tips!)Time To Lean's Bookship.org List (Find Emotional Labor and Set Boundaries Find Peace here!)Emotion Sensation Wheel PillowHave a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video!Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 5, 2023 • 46min
It's All Made Up - A Shiny Happy Breakdown Part 2
In this episode, Laura and Crystal continue their conversation around Amazon Prime Video's "Shiny Happy People" documentary mini-series which focuses on the Duggars and the way The Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) turned a TLC show into ministry. TW: religious trauma and abuseResources/Sources Mentioned in this episode:All About Love by bell hooksLinda Fruits Instagram (@fruitsofmotherhood)Chamber of MothersNick NorthSex Theory with DeeHave a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video!Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 28, 2023 • 37min
Married Single Motherhood?
In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk with Kate Adelle, a single mom, about the concept of "married single mothers." In response to a recent IG story shared by Crystal, Kate talks about how she has been impacted by single motherhood, how she experineced motherhood from within a marriage relationship, and how lack of systemic policy protection and support in the US effects ALL parents. *NOTE* The audio in the episode may seem choppy--we had file issues!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video!Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 21, 2023 • 40min
Redefining Hope - A Shiny Happy Breakdown Part 1
In this episode, Laura and Cyrstal talk about what it means to seek hope when your core understandings are disrupted. We talk about the Shiny Happy People documentary mini-series which focuses on the Duggars and the way The Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) turned a TLC show into ministry.TW: religious trauma and abuseHave a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video!Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 14, 2023 • 51min
Someone on the internet said screens are BAD. Is that true? with The Gamer Educator!
Ash Brandin, @thegamereducator, joins Laura and Crystal to talk about the nuances surrounding screens. A video recently went viral on Tiktok where a creator made some serious claims about the harms of screens. Ash chats with us about how you can set boundaries around screens, how screens can be tools and who's really to blame for the significant role they play in our lives. Ash creates amazing content on their IG page. Go check their website out here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video!Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :)--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 7, 2023 • 43min
Is patriarchy stopping men from dressing themselves?
In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about the viral video where over 40 dads show up to 8th grade promotion wearing the same shirts. Why didn't these men dress themselves? This episode explores some of the ways patriarchy holds men back. Check out The Will to Change by bell hooks here!For a list of books about community, check out this book list!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean Podcast on Instagram @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.