Dear Dr. Tracy

Welcome to Season 4!With each season this community passes new milestones and continues to grow! I am incredibly grateful for you - your DMs, downloads, shares, and comments. Each week, you show up. You bring me your ah-ha moments, your wins, and your struggles. Thank you for joining me here and let's get started with another amazing season!To kick off the season, I am so excited to bring Dr. Becky Kennedy to this space. New York Times bestselling author and child psychologist, Dr. Becky is referred to as the parent whisperer of our time. If there is one thing that resonates with all of us from Dr. Becky's work, it is this: You are good inside. Your kids are good inside. Let's go into today's episode. In this episode, we discuss: What it means to sit with emotions [2:38] and what this looks like with our children [4:30]  The intergenerational legacy of feelings [8:20]  Why acknowledging, validating, and empathizing with others' emotions is not soft [13:15] What happens to a child when no one repairs for them and what it means to go back and repair with your child [23:00] EPISODE LINKSDr. Becky Kennedy Good Inside BookDr. Becky Good Inside MembershipJOIN ME in my community!Ready to learn how to repair? Take my free masterclassJoin me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationshipLooking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are here! Already at the season finale.Season finales are bittersweet. I have gratitude for all the amazing conversations of this season and I feel sad that we are taking a break!I love ending the season by taking your questions.So here are three of YOUR questions that I will answer in this episode: How does one deal with the fear of abandonment when you are someone with anxious attachment? How do I get my partner to prioritize better? How do I navigate the mother wound while feeling low self-esteem, mom-guilt, and exhausted in general?  Did something resonate with you this episode? If so, be sure to share it with a friend!Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again.Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next?We're taking a summer vacation! I'll be back in the fall with more great episodes and conversations. Be sure to leave me a review and send me a DM on Instagram about your topic ideas for next season. I love hearing from you!Subscribe and Review in iTunes"This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many people don't think of divorces as happy, which is why the story from today's guests is an important one!When Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldond got divorced, they devised a strategy to put their son's needs first.Together, they helped each other heal and build a new, blended, family. In this episode, we discuss: How Nikki and Ben came to be "Our Happy Divorce" The markers/moments that they knew it was time to divorce When you're trying to find the "right" way through separation Nikki's and Ben's response to someone who says "I have to stay for the kids" Their individual pain points in their divorce Their prioritization of their son The key piece of respect and mutuality For more from Our Happy Divorce: Follow them on Instagram Learn more about their book Head over to their website Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again.Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next?The season finale where I answer YOUR questions!Subscribe and Review in iTunes"This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"My partner isn't willing to change - what do I do?"We love certainty and the only thing that is certain about our relationships is that we cannot control other people.It's really challenging when our partners are not interested in learning to shift - especially since a couple is two people that make up the struggles. In this episode, I discuss: What if your partner doesn't want to change? Can change happen when only one person is ready? Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again.Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next?When change feels one-sided. What are we left to do?Subscribe and Review in iTunes"This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself asking…How do we feel close again after we just had a disagreement? My partner doesn’t like to come back and talk about the hard stuff. My partner doesn’t apologize. I always have to bring up the hard conversations.  I get it. This is a common experience in our relationships. The reality?We didn’t learn how to repair. It was never modelled to us or it came attached with a lot of shame.And yet, repairing is one of the most important things we need to do in our relationship because without it, we are more likely to build resentment and disconnection. In today’s episode, I get to sit with Dr. Morgan Anderson. A previous guest on the podcast (Season 2, Episode 21, a must listen), we talk about: What happens in relationships when you can’t work through conflict Why you need to repair Difficulties with repair through an attachment style lens Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the fight, and connect with your partner? Join me in my FREE MASTERCLASS. I will teach you my 4 A’s on how to repair so that you can look at your partner and feel like a team again.Learn More About Today's Guest:Dr. Morgan is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach, host of the “Let’s Get Vulnerable” podcast and creator of the E.S.L relationship method. She helps women break the toxic dating cycle, raise their self-worth and attract the healthy relationship they’ve always wanted. Make sure you head over to her IG page and send her a DM to say hello!Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the most common concerns I hear is, "My partner is struggling with their mental health, what do I do?"Dr. Kojo joins me on the podcast to discuss how mental health can show up in relationships.Dr. Kojo Sarfo, DNP, PMHNP-BC is a social media content creator, mental health nurse practitioner, and psychotherapist with over two million followers on all of his social media channels (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Twitch, Triller).He posts skits, songs, and videos in order to bring people together and promote mental health awareness. On social media, he uses relevant trends and popular music to educate individuals about mental health conditions and the importance of self-care. Dr. Kojo is also the author of Amazon's best-selling book titled "You Already Won". He is also working on his second book, which will be a mental health workbook.He is also the host of Late Night w/Dr. Kojo - which is a daily live show that streams primarily on Facebook on Monday-Thursdays at 6pm PST/9pm EST.In this episode, we discuss: What inspired Dr. Kojo to start his TikTok videos and online media presence How does ADHD impact a couple? What are some things people should be aware of? What can people do in their relationships when their partner is coping with mental health difficulties What are the top three things you wish everyone know about mental health? Connect with Dr. Kojo: Follow him on Facebook Follow him on TikTok Follow him on Instagram Check out his YouTube channel Watch The Late Night with Dr. Kojo on Facebook Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next?Dr. Morgan Anderson on why you need to repair in your relationship.Subscribe and Review in iTunes"This podcast provides sound advice, examples, and information for the modern mother navigating a world full of opposing advice. I feel uplifted and empowered after listening." ~ Kat&Babe_I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Growing up we learn so much from our mothers and growing up the messaging we receive is "obey thy mother."The things we learned from our mothers growing up and the way they coped in the world show up in us, throughout our lives.ButWhat if our mother was wrong?What if they are passing along their own trauma?What if they cross our boundaries and teach us not to listen to ourselves?Bethany Webster began blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced a worldwide demand for her work. Though blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist history, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing.She is a writer, international speaker, and transformational coach around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women's leadership and personal development. In this episode, we discuss: What is the Mother Wound? How does shame, guilt, and fear play a role? What does the Mother Wound look like for women? Why is it important to heal it? What happens in our lives when we are willing to heal? To Learn with Bethany: Visit her website Check out her book Learn more about her online course Join her facebook group Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next?Healing after conflict: why you need repair in your relationship with special guest Dr. Morgan Anderson.Subscribe and Review in iTunesLovely Addition to Personal + Couple's Therapy“I just love listening to her podcasts. Super resourceful and I definitely recommend taking a listen" ~ Afireinside7I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it!Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You finally have a minute to pause and relax. As you hold your cup of coffee, just heated up for the fourth time, and look around your house, you feel overwhelmed.How can you relax when the mess keeps triggering you?I get it. There can be so much stuff in our homes that we stop feeling happy in our space, get stuck getting rid of things, and in general, feel a sense of overwhelm by everything going on.Enter Katy Wells. She is a decluttering expert, podcaster, and simplifier, a boy mom, and she knows how to help you declutter your home and your life. In this episode, we discuss: Why are we so triggered by mess? What are the negative thoughts, emotions, and beliefs that come up with mess? Identifying when your "stuff" owns you, and what you can do to shift out of this Letting go of things that feel sentimental And Katy's top tips to help you start living a simplified and decluttered life To Learn with Katy: Follow Katy on Instagram Take her 14-day challenge Check out her toy course Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more What’s Coming Next?The Mother wound with Bethany Webster.Subscribe and Review in iTunesLovely Addition to Personal + Couple's Therapy“I just love listening to her podcasts. Super resourceful and I definitely recommend taking a listen" ~ Afireinside7I would love to hear from you. I would be so grateful if you left me a review on iTunes. I love hearing what you have to say about the episode, but also so that others who might benefit from listening to this podcast can find it! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review.” I can’t wait to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A client once told me through tears that she hadn't been honouring her, and she pointed to her body.I could see reflected in her face the experiences of so many women - including me.It wasn't just a week of not listening to her body. It was years. Possibly her whole lifetime.We build these inner dialogues and narratives around our bodies and food, many of them being unconscious that guide us to make daily decisions. Some of these decisions leave us feeling good, albeit temporarily. While many of these are more examples of ways that we deeply abandon ourselves - the inner wisdom that our bodies hold.In this episode, I'm sitting down with Dr. Meagan Gallagher, psychologist at Integrated Wellness, on how we can start to listen to our bodies and goss these old messages around size, food, and body.  In this episode, we discuss: The common harmful and negative messages we learn about our bodies Breaking the connection between body size and self-worth (hint: stop saying to yourself that you'll do something when you lose those 5 pounds) The connection between stress and food (and how we can use our bodies to shift this) Learning to sit in discomfort and acknowledging that our bodies are noisy How to support someone if you suspect they are struggling with their body When to seek professional help Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does your partner share everything with their parents?This episode dives into this topic after receiving a question from one of our community members. In this episode, we discuss: What kind of impact could sharing everything with your extended family/mother-in-law have on you? Your relationship with your partner? Your relationship with their family? Exploring triangulation and scapegoat dynamics Key questions for you to explore within yourself The reason behind your partner's sharing How to move forward Join me in my community! Curious about the relationship cycle you get stuck in? Take the free quiz Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected Join me in my monthly newsletter where I give you actionable tips that you can use today in your relationship Visit my website for more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices