Two Bi Guys

We chatted with NYC-based entrepreneur Stephen Quaderer, who identifies as gay and pansexual. Stephen is the creator of Headero, the connection app for people who love oral pleasure ;) We talked about the queer future of dating apps; the potential pleasure of meeting people based on shared interests or desires rather than gender identity or sexuality; how to navigate the online dating scene safely and consensually, and the important of being honest and direct about preferences, kinks, and expectations. We also discussed Stephen's gay and pansexual identities and the growing number of gay men who are exploring sexual fluidity.Download Headero: https://www.headero.com/Thot Experiment: https://www.thotexperiment.co/Follow Header on IG: https://www.instagram.com/headeroapp/?hl=enFollow Stephen on Twitter: https://twitter.com/ItsQuadsTwo Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob CohenCreated by Rob Cohen and Alex BoydLogo art by Kaitlin WeinmanMusic by Ross MintzerWe are supported by The GothamMade on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastrUse my special link zen.ai/twobiguys1 and use twobiguys1 to save 30% off your first three months of Zencastr professional. #madeonzencastrCheck out Hinge's "Not-so Frequently Asked Questions: hinge.NFAQ.coThis podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/twobiguys to get 10% off your first month.Visit tracysdog.com/ and use promo code “twobiguys” to get 15% off, and don’t forget to check out the OG Pro 2.Interested in group travel with the bisexual community? Take this survey! https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohen

We're back with part two of our interview with content creator, activist, and all-around bi-con RJ Aguiar! In this episode we chatted about using sex appeal as a marketing tool (for example, the title of this episode...), RJ's modeling work and how it's affected his own body image, how RJ blends sexuality and mental health with other pop culture and political topics on his show "Quick Question", RJ's bisexual activism with the LA Bi+ Task Force and other organizations, why his hair is a different color every summer, and much more! Do you think RJ should return as one of the two bi guys more often? Let us know!Follow RJ on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damnitrjFollow RJ on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DamnItRJFollow RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@damnitrj"Quick Question" hosted by RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gotaquickquestion"Quick Question on Snapchat: https://story.snapchat.com/p/bd17b093-426b-4a13-9d9f-a36dfe8c9231/192565335373824?sender_web_id=ccdf3237-e350-4aa8-9fad-f3ed9dd93d8b&device_type=desktop&is_copy_url=true"TheNotAdam", RJ's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/thenotadamLA Bi+ Task Force: labitaskforce.orgTwo Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob CohenCreated by Rob Cohen and Alex BoydLogo art by Kaitlin WeinmanMusic by Ross MintzerWe are supported by The GothamMade on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastrInterested in group travel with the bisexual community? Take this survey! https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohenGet $5 off a variety pack of Magic Spoon cereal!http://magicspoon.com/twobiguys  CODE: TWOBIGUYSYou can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!

What's it like to go viral with your Bi+ coming out story? We asked that and more to RJ Aguiar, the OG bi YouTube sensation. in our 2-part season 5 premiere! In this episode, RJ discuss his personal bisexual journey, reactions to his coming out (both privately and on social media), the experience of being a very public bi guy years before the more recent (modest) increase in representation, how to balance and integrate Bi+ content with other important issues, the ways that social media shapes how we see ourselves, and much more. Stay tuned for part 2 where we discuss more about RJ's modeling, activism, and his work with the LA Bi+ Task Force! Follow RJ on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damnitrj Follow RJ on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DamnItRJ Follow RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@damnitrj "Quick Question" hosted by RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gotaquickquestion "Quick Question on Snapchat: https://story.snapchat.com/p/bd17b093-426b-4a13-9d9f-a36dfe8c9231/192565335373824?sender_web_id=ccdf3237-e350-4aa8-9fad-f3ed9dd93d8b&device_type=desktop&is_copy_url=true "TheNotAdam", RJ's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/thenotadam LA Bi+ Task Force: labitaskforce.org Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman Music by Ross Mintzer We are supported by The Gotham Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr Get $5 off a variety pack of Magic Spoon cereal! http://magicspoon.com/twobiguys CODE: TWOBIGUYS You can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!

Interested in sponsoring this show or podcast ads for your business? Go to https://zen.ai/twobiguys0 and fill out the contact information so Zencastr can help you bring your business story to life. It's the Two Bi Guys Season Four Finale and it's jam-packed with bi science, bi history, bi culture, bi politics, and of course bi puns! We are thrilled to be joined by Dr. Julia Shaw, psycholoical scientist at University College London, founder of the Bisexual Research Group, and author of multiple best-selling books -- including her new book "Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality", coming out June 28 in the US! We chatted about Dr. Shaw's bi identity and how a lack of research about bisexuality led to her exploring on her own and coming out, why bisexual people frequently "want more" (and deserve more!), the privilege of being in a place and position where coming out is safe (and the responsibility that comes with it), why psychological research has often marginalized fluid sexuality and why the field of "positive psychology" offers new promise, how traditional evolutionary theory comes up short in its explanation of queerness and why multi-spectrum attraction is not only natural but likely evolutionarily advantageous, the deep and often-invisible cultural bias toward heterosexuality that most of us grew up with, how positive Bi+ & queer representation in media can contribute to meaningful, real-world political change, Dr. Shaw's six stages of "bidentity" development (spoiler: it begins with loneliness but ends with peace!), and the importance of Bi+ spaces and BI PRIDE! Thank you all for listening to another season of Two Bi Guys! Happy Pride and we'll be back soon! Dr. Shaw's website: https://www.drjuliashaw.com/ Order Dr. Shaw's book! (and find Bi+ events w/ Dr. Shaw): https://linktr.ee/drjuliashaw The Bisexual Research Group: https://www.bisexualresearch.com/ Follow Dr. Shaw on Twitter: https://twitter.com/drjuliashaw Follow Dr. Shaw on IG: https://www.instagram.com/drjuliashaw Follow the Bisexual Research Group on Twitter: https://twitter.com/bisexualscience Follow the Bisexual Research Group on IG: https://www.instagram.com/bisexualresearch/ Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman Music by Ross Mintzer We are supported by The Gotham Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr You can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!

Interested in sponsoring this show or podcast ads for your business? Go to https://zen.ai/twobiguys0 and fill out the contact information so Zencastr can help you bring your business story to life. This week Rob sat down with Lydia Green, a bisexual Jewish organizer and Democratic party activist currently running for District Leader of NYC Assembly District 52 in Brooklyn. We chatted about her bisexual journey; the intersectin of her sexuality with her gender, Judaism, and disability; how her identity affected her interest in politics, and specifically how her bisexuality informs her campaign for District Leader and her goals if elected; how local government bureaucracy ends up benefitting incumbents, maintaining the status quo, and keeping out fresh voices and progressive ideas; why it's important to elect more queer representatives across the country; how to hold the Democratic party accountable; and much more! Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman Music by Ross Mintzer We are supported by The Gotham Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr You can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!

This week Rob chatted with a fellow Bi+ podcaster all the way from Melbourne, Ruby Susan Mountford, and we covered... um, everything?Literally. Take the list of topics from all our other episode descriptions and re-read those, because Ruby -- co-host of the TripleBiPass podcast -- touched on all of that.But seriously, we focused on how being autistic and non-binary intersects with Ruby's bisexuality (often in joyous ways), the coming-out and community-building process among those identities, the necessity of labels while injustice exists, what it's like to host a bisexual podcast that's actually a LIVE radio show (and how doing it gave Ruby confidence in their Bi+ identity), radical progressive Bi+ politics and Shiri Eisner's influence (yes, again), Ruby's disability activism and how it relates to their Bi+ activism, addressing negative Bi+ health outcomes by (perhaps counterintuitively) talking more about bipohbia, creating maintaining queer community spaces without organizer burnout, and, as usual, MUCH MORE.

Interested in sponsoring this show or podcast ads for your business? Go to https://zen.ai/twobiguys0 and fill out the contact information so Zencastr can help you bring your business story to life. Alex is back to co-host! In this episode he and Rob have a free-flowing discussion touching on their recent dating and sex lives, how their bi identities continue evolving and expanding, other parts of sexuality that are just as important as gender preference or identity (sometimes more important!), demisexuality and how it can relate to trauma and boundaries (trigger warning: sexual assault), and the wonderful world of alt-Twitter. We also got political and discussed Florida's "Don't Say Gay" law -- as well as other anti-queer and especially anti-trans legislation being passed all over the country -- the stupidity and harm of Lauren Boebert and other fundamentalist politicians targeting queer kids and teachers, the continued damage being done by She-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named with her unwarranted anti-trans rhetoric, and how to fight back against all this with radical acceptance and authenticity. Plus a bit about bisexuality in media, touching on the 2019 movie "Straight Up". Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman Music by Ross Mintzer We are supported by The Gotham Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr You can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!

Follow Mark Wilkinson on Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarkJoseph_82Follow Mark Wilkinson on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markjoseph82/Mark's "Bisexual Oysters" paper: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1750481318817624Two Bi Guys is now sponsored by Zencastr! You can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today! We're back with part 2 of our interview with Mark Wilkinson, a PhD candidate at Lancaster University studying media representation of the LGBT+ community, and we pick right up where we left off, analyzing the use of the word "bisexual" in the British press during the 80s, 90s, and through 2017. Mark discusses how the term became much more widely used during the AIDS/HIV crisis and the implications of that association, as well as how it shifted to becoming more of an identity in the 2000s as opposed to a word describing behavior or sexual activity.We also chatted about changes happening just in the last few years, like the rise of the term "pansexual" and a push for more "queer" spaces. Then we talked about challenging basic assumptions about sexuality, like the fact that gender is the basis for most labels, as opposed to, for example, what sexual acts turn you on or your preferred relationship structure. Finally we touched on queer politics and the power of linguistics to both divide and unite. Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob CohenCreated by Rob Cohen and Alex BoydLogo art by Kaitlin WeinmanMusic by Ross MintzerWe are supported by The GothamMade on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr

Follow Mark Wilkinson on Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarkJoseph_82Follow Mark Wilkinson on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markjoseph82/Mark's "Bisexual Oysters" paper: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1750481318817624Two Bi Guys is now sponsored by Zencastr! You can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!This episode is also sponsored by Vinovest. Discover wine investing with Vinovest -- get 2 months of fee-free wine investing with this offer link: zen.ai/twobiguys Though the bisexual/fluid community has always existed, the word "bisexual" has evolved significantly in popular usage over the last 60 years. Mark Wilkinson, a PhD candidate at Lancaster University, has been studying media representation of the LGBT+ community and the discursive construction of identity & community, using linguistics to understand how queer people identify themselves over the years -- and how others identify our community in the press.In part one of this two part interview, we discussed Mark's paper, "Bisexual Oysters", which analyzes how the word "bisexual" was used in The Times (of London) over the past six decades. In the 50s, 60s, and 70s, it was not used nearly as much as today, and it often did not describe sexuality but rather other aspects of gender or presentation, as well as androgyny, "co-ed" spaces, or "unisex" objects. Mark also discusses the prevalence of fictional characters as opposed to real people being described as "bisexual", contributing to bi erasure and invisibility. We also chatted about when and why these semantics are important -- especially to unite in solidarity for political purposes -- and when and why it's important to remember that "bisexuality" is not a universal identity across time and space, but rather a discursive construction that emerged at a particular time, location, and moment in our culture.Stay tuned for part two which continues tracking the use of the word "bisexual" in the 1980s through 2017, how the word grew in usage during the HIV/AIDS epidemic (with unfortunate consequences), and some history of the term "LGBT" and how the B has historically fit in (or not). Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob CohenCreated by Rob Cohen and Alex BoydLogo art by Kaitlin WeinmanMusic by Ross MintzerWe are supported by The Gotham

Follow Benjamin Perry on Twitter: https://twitter.com/FaithfullyBPSome queer theological resources recommended by Benjamin Perry:1. Radical Love by Patrick Cheng2. Indecent Theology by Marcella Althaus-Reid3. The Black Trans Prayer Book ed. by Dane Figueroa Edidi & J Mase III4. Bad Theology Kills by Kevin Garcia Two Bi Guys is now sponsored by Zencastr! You can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!This episode is also sponsored by Vinovest. Discover wine investing with Vinovest -- get 2 months of fee-free wine investing with this offer link: zen.ai/twobiguys It's about time for modern religion to not just accept queerness but to celebrate it -- and that's exactly what Benjamin Perry, a Bi+ Minister as Middle Church in New York City, is doing. In this episode we chatted about Benjamin's journey toward a bisexual identity, opening up to his wife and the experience of being married and bi, how he found his calling in theology and began to blend it with his burgeoning queerness, coming out in a religious community (a surprisingly positive experience for him), and the inclusive mission of Middle Church and how it reflects God's queerness. We also discussed the possibility that Jesus and his disciples were bisexual/fluid/queer, what the backlash to this "controversial" idea tells us about religious fundamentalism, and why queerness should not just be "acceptable" among the faithful but why it's actually vital to understanding God's love, community, and compassion. Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob CohenCreated by Rob Cohen and Alex BoydLogo art by Kaitlin WeinmanMusic by Ross MintzerWe are supported by The Gotham