Sex for Saints

The podcast this week is quite a bit different from my usual content.  My son returned home from his mission this past Saturday, so I’ve been busy getting him settled back into real life and wasn’t able to devote the time to research the topic I had planned.  So I’m sharing with you the talk I wrote and gave this past Sunday in our new ward’s Sacrament Meeting.  I share my testimony of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, my father’s conversion story and how it was the basis for my testimony and how I have seen the evidence of God’s hand in my life.  But don’t worry, I tie it in to why I do what I do.  Back to our regular topics next week.

A recent survey reveals that 40% of married women experience guilt and shame about sex. This discussion dives into the origins of these feelings and why they can be harmful. The conversation promotes the 'Say Yes to the Sex 30-Day Challenge' as a way to enhance intimacy. Listeners are encouraged to challenge cultural norms and embrace eroticism and fantasies to improve their sexual relationships. Insightful anecdotes and community perspectives emphasize the need for open dialogue and better sexual education.

Do you often reject your spouse’s advances for sex?  Do you feel rejected by them?  Rejection is a huge issue for many couples.  Find out why we feel rejected and what we can do about it when we are.   I also challenge you to 30 days of saying Yes to the Sex!

When you think of sex, what first comes to mind?  Are you full of excitement and desire? Or are you immediately in dread? Does thinking about sex make you feel anxious?  Are you annoyed?  All of these feelings are created by your default sex thoughts.  Do you like what you are thinking and feeling?  Do you like what is happening for you?  If so, then great! No need to make changes.  But if you don’t like what is going on for you, or you have a desire to see things differently, then you might need to work on those default thoughts.

Dive into the intriguing world of orgasms, exploring their complexities and the unique experiences women face. Discover practical advice to enhance pleasure and increase the chances of achieving orgasm. The discussion emphasizes the importance of open communication between partners about sexual preferences. It also tackles the often-taboo topic of masturbation, affirming couples' autonomy. Finally, learn how trust and openness can transform sexual dynamics and the benefits of personalized coaching for better intimacy.

The discussion dives into how body image impacts sexual experiences and relationships, particularly for women. Listeners explore the gap between self-perception and societal ideals, emphasizing the need to overcome shame for healthier sexuality. Personal experiences highlight the strong link between body image and intimacy. The podcast encourages self-love and confidence as keys to deeper connections with partners, making the case that embracing one's body can enhance sexual fulfillment.

Exploring the intricate dynamics of intimacy, the discussion reveals that desire doesn't always precede arousal. It challenges the notion that one must feel 'in the mood' to engage in sexual intimacy. Listeners learn practical exercises to improve communication with their partners and discover how physical arousal can enhance intimacy, regardless of initial feelings. Personal anecdotes about moving and community connections add depth to the conversation, showing the intertwined nature of relationships and intimacy.

It’s normal to have ebbs and flows of attraction during a relationship.  But what happens when you find yourself not attracted to your spouse anymore?  What can you do?  What is attraction anyway?  Can you get it back?

Sex has many aspects that benefit us physical, emotional, spiritually and in our relationships.  What are these benefits? 

What do you believe about sex?  How do those beliefs shape the way you view your sex life?  In my coaching, I have found that many women have underlying beliefs that sex is shameful, embarrassing, un-virtuous, or that it’s all about their husband.  These beliefs are preventing them from having the amazing sex life that they could be having with their spouse.  What could your life and sex life be like if those beliefs changed?  What do you want to believe about sex?