Sex for Saints

The 3 keys to any healthy sexual relationship are safety, trust, and vulnerability. And they all build on each other. If we don’t feel safe, we can’t trust our partner, and in turn, we can’t be completely vulnerable with them if we can’t trust them. That’s why we’re talking about safety, trust, and vulnerability in this episode. Let’s find ways to help you be courageous and choose to trust, feel safe, and be completely vulnerable with your partner.

Discover how your menstrual cycle influences libido with insights into its four phases. Learn how hormonal changes can shift sexual desire and intimacy throughout the month. Explore the connection between mindset and heightened romantic feelings during the follicular phase. Plus, gain tips for couples to enhance their relationship and hear about upcoming retreats focused on mind-body connections.

In our conservative Christian culture, oral sex comes with a lot of hang ups. But it doesn’t need to. In this episode, let’s talk about how amazing oral sex can be between you and your spouse. Let’s look at the hang ups that either spouse might have and see what we can do to help them. After all, a high percentage of women say that oral sex is the most reliable way for them to orgasm. There is a lot of pleasure to be had there. Maybe it’s time to give it a try?

I have some serious concerns about an upcoming Come, Follow Me lesson on pornography.  Hear my concerns and what you can do about it.   https://amandalouder.com/cfm-june-13-pornography/

Dive into the refreshing take on sexual thoughts and desires, challenging traditional views that label them as sinful. Understand the natural role of fantasies in human sexuality and how they can enhance emotional and spiritual connections. Uncover different types of sexual fantasies and explore how intentional engagement with them can enrich relationships. Embrace your desires and intentions, as they can be key to deeper intimacy with your partner!

Someone shared with me recently that their friend says she has a great sex life, but she won’t let her husband watch her undress because she doesn’t like her body after having a baby. I want to talk more about that in this episode. Can you really have a great sex life while hating your body? No. As much as you can’t hate yourself thin, you can’t be fully present in your sex life while hating how you look. It’s time to be your own best friend. Are you ready? Let’s go!

Discover how personal growth can transform your intimate life! The discussion dives into reframing guilt as a valuable learning tool and enhancing relationships through self-acceptance. Challenges become stepping stones for compassion and spiritual development. Learn how personalized coaching can elevate sexual experiences from good to great. Plus, there's an invitation to connect for additional resources and support. Tune in to turn guilt into intimacy!

I got asked a question that I didn’t know the answer to so I brought in an expert! The question was about sex and menopause. Is it all over once you hit 50? It doesn’t have to be! Cami Hurst, a counselor and sex therapist from Meridian, Idaho joins me to in this episode to share her expertise on what to expect with your sex life and menopause. I learned so much from her about what’s happening in women’s bodies and most importantly what we can do about it! 

Explore the four essential elements that make a marriage both healthy and passionate. Learn how to embrace individuality while nurturing emotional support and connection. Discover the importance of loving your partner for who they truly are, not who you wish them to be. Uncover strategies for enduring challenges together, promoting growth and resilience within your relationship. This engaging discussion offers practical insights to help couples thrive in their marriage.

When something is scarce, you want it more! (Remember the toilet paper shortage of 2020?) So what does this have to do with sex and marriage? When you’re not having sex, you begin to be preoccupied with sex. I see this scarcity mindset show up in my coaching practice in two ways. Either you don’t have enough to give or you feel like you need to do more to be fulfilled. In today’s episode, we talk more about this scarcity mindset and how to change your mindset to make sex something for you not something you have to do.