Sex for Saints

There is a Come, Follow Me lesson coming up in the youth program about the Law of Chastity. I feel that we need to be careful when we’re teaching our kids about sex to not use the fear or shame-based language that was used when we were taught about the Law of Chastity, because I see the results of that every day when I work with my clients. I know that we as parents and leaders are doing the best we can so I created a lesson plan for the youth leaders to know what to say and what to teach and how to say it in order to break that cycle of shame. I’ve also created a parent’s guide to help you talk about this upcoming lesson beforehand. Sex is great! It’s fun! And we want our kids to have that great sexual relationship when they’re married. But we also want to give them the information they need to make an empowered choice. To download the lesson plan and parent guide, go to: www.amandalouder.com/podcast/216/

According to a survey, about 2% of marriages are completely sexless. Or, according to another study, couples are only having sex 10 times a year. Now, if 10 times a year is agreed upon by both parties, then that’s great. But what happens when you don’t agree on the frequency of sex? In this episode, we’re going to take a look at 5 steps to create that intimacy in your marriage again. Passionate marriages take work but it is so worth it!   Sexless Marriage State of Affairs by Esther Perel What is a sexless marriage and are you in one? 5 Ways to start fixing your sexless marriage today

My clients often say that they don’t communicate well with their husbands, but actually, we as humans are really good at communicating. In fact, only about 7% of communication is verbal. We pick up on the non-verbal cues that our spouses are giving us, and sometimes we don’t like what we “hear.” So in this podcast, I’m talking to you pursuers out there. (I’m talking directly to the men today, but there are also women who do this too.) The pursuers are the ones who feel like when their wife says no, that just means try harder. You’ve already caught her since you’re married. Are you actually causing her to run when you chase her?

Are you disgusted by the bodily fluids of your partner? Maybe you’re disgusted by your own bodily fluids. If so, you are not alone. Many people feel this way. I used to. But did you know that it’s a learned response? And if it’s learned, that means it can be unlearned. In this podcast, we talk about why we feel bodily fluids are so disgusting and what we can do about that in our relationship. You won’t be able to go from “bodily fluids are disgusting” to “anything that comes from the body is good” overnight, but it is possible.    Sources: BBC News Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown Pubmed

Has sex become boring for you? Do you not want to have sex? Maybe you’re not having sex because there are so many other things that get in the way. So the question becomes, are you not having sex because you don’t like it or do you not like the sex you’re having? In this episode, we discuss how we can maintain that strong sexual connection throughout our marriage. Because life will get busy and you will be tired, but we’ll talk about some ways you can get back that connection again and sustain it this time.   Resources: Emily Nagoski TedTalk Ondina Wellness

In this episode, I’m talking with Jessica Farmer, a fellow life coach and friend, about how she went from being a peacekeeper to a peacemaker in her life and her marriage. She shared with us when she realized that what she had always been doing, what she thought she should be doing, was not letting her be completely herself. She was able to move from the peacekeeper that she had always been to a peacemaker that let her be who she was inside. Join us for this awesome discussion about how that change has improved everything in her life, including her sex life.   Find Jessica at: jessicafarmercoaching.com/ @jessicafarmercoaching on Instagram Podcast: When Marriage Gets Hard Go to https://jessicafarmercoaching.com/free-video/ to receive free training on  How To Stop Walking On Eggshells In Your Marriage

Are you reluctant to show any affection towards your husband because then he’ll want sex and you’ll have to give it to him? Maybe you’ve been told that when your husband has an erection but doesn’t have an orgasm, he is in actual pain. What if I told you that this is WRONG! Thinking like this makes women feel like we are just objects to relieve their desires. It doesn’t need to be that way. (And guys, women get this too.) Listen to this episode to find out the truth about blue balls and blue beans! RESOURCES: Medical News Today Daily Orange Priority Mens Medical

One of the questions I see the most in Facebook groups I follow is, “How do I know if my partner is turned on?” But I think that what they really want to know is the opposite. They want to know why their partner isn’t showing the outward signs of arousal like an erection or wetness. Let’s talk about what some studies have found about the difference between men and women when it comes to how our bodies react to stimuli and how our brain reacts. Because, as with most things, they are very different.    Sources: Come As You Are by Emily Nagasaki Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá

We’ve all heard the phrase, “Happy Wife, Happy Life,” but my guest today, Glenn Lovelace, says that’s a lie. Listen to this episode to find out why he thinks it’s a lie and what we need to do in our marriages instead so that we can both be happy and fulfilled.  It’s great to have Glenn on to give us the men’s perspective on marriage. Both you and your husband will enjoy this one! You can find Glenn Lovelace at: Website: www.glennlovelace.com Instagram: @itsyourwingman

I recently watched a ‘horse whisper’ do a lay down with a horse. If you’ve never seen this process, it is amazing! But unlike horses, who constantly think, “Am I safe?” and look for things outside themselves to make them safe, we humans can find safety within. And when we feel that inner safety, then we can really open up to our partner and enjoy sex and our sexuality in a way that we haven’t before. Listen to this episode to see what it looks like when we don’t feel safe, what it looks like when we do, and what we can do to change it.