The Connected Life

Leadership is messy! For both those leading and those following. It can be a rough ride on each side of the coin and we’ve all had our fair share of aches, pains, and problems no matter which side you land on. In part two, of this two-part episode, Justin and Abi discuss some things that leaders should definitely NOT do, as well as things we should not be expecting our leaders to be doing for us. They also talk about how to handle both good and bad advice from leadership, why we should value our own voice just as much, and four keys to maintaining balance in our world. As a bonus, Abi and Justin take time to end the episode with an invitation into healing and more freedom. If you’ve ever felt abused by any type of authority figure, or you’ve been a leader and felt the heavy, impossible expectations people have put on you, then this episode is a MUST listen to!

We’ve all had people with authority and influence over our lives, whether it’s bosses, pastors, coaches, or leaders in general. As children we learn that we can either submit or rebel to this authority. Unfortunately, this two-mode response system often carries over into adulthood. If we’re hurt by, or disagree with the leaders in our world, we respond with judgment and condescension. On the flip side, if we give them all authority over us, we treat them like a god and we are rendered powerless in our own lives. Both have the capacity to destroy us. Luckily there is an alternative called balance. Join Justin and Abi for this two-part episode as they discuss the detriments of demonizing or deifying spiritual authority, or any authority for that matter. They’ll also share keys to having healthy interactions with leaders that will help empower you to be the captain of your own life. You are, after all, the one living it.

Tis the season for generosity! Generosity is contagious and in any book, or teaching, on success and wealth, generosity is foundational and fundamental. Generosity comes in many different forms far beyond financial. In order to truly “feel wealthy,” we have to learn how to express generosity. Understanding multiple expressions helps us find ways of doing just that. Join Justin and Abi as they share about the power of generosity and how it’s profoundly affected their lives, and the lives of those that they love so much. Get ready to be challenged to face your fears of giving in order to step into a lifestyle of abundance! You won’t want to miss this episode! And don't forget to check out www.stumvollconsulting.com to learn more about Living Fully Alive 2020 starting in January!

The holidays can be filled with all kinds of emotions and unexpected experiences. For some, the holidays are full of fond memories, for others, they're a time we want to forget all together. The day we call Thanksgiving is meant to be a reminder of what we’re thankful for. For many of us, we’ve forgotten that it’s more than a tradition, and we’re in necessary need of making it a lifestyle. Join Abi and Justin as they share a wild Thanksgiving story and tackle keys to thriving through the holidays, while simultaneously highlighting the power of living a lifestyle of thankfulness. Perspective dictates the objective, guiding the trajectory of our lives. If you want greater connection to the life right in front of you, an adjustment to your narrative is a must! And don't forget to check out www.stumvollconsulting.com to learn more about Living Fully Alive 2020 starting in January!

Breakups and betrayals can be brutal! As humans we’ve all had these experiences, whether it’s with our parents, siblings, extended family, friends, boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse. The pain is real clear, but the process of healing and moving forward isn’t always that clear. In this episode, Abi and Justin dive in to the affects of the betrayals and breakups in their own lives and lay out a road map of 7 strategic steps to overcoming the pain and finding a way to thrive on the other side of it all. If you’ve been through a breakup or betrayal you won’t want to miss this episode!

In part one of this two part episode, Justin and Abi took an honest look at the hurdles Joey and Kelley Feste faced in their formative years of marriage. Here, in part two, we jump back in where we left off as Joey and Kelley dive into their sex life and share the details of what makes it work. After 32 years, Joey doesn’t need viagra and Kelley wants sex more than ever before! Things are about to get steamy as Joey and Kelley share the secret ingredients to a healthy sex life that has longevity.  Get ready to be challenged and have some great laughs with two of our favorite people ever! So come join us for part two of The Lifelong Journey to Great Sex!

We all have varying experiences of marriage. For many of us, we didn’t have the best examples growing up. For others, marriage looked like land of the happy people where nothing was ever wrong. No matter what side of the pendulum you’re on, one thing is for certain, today’s society is progressively reluctant to walk down the aisle and say, “I do.” In this two part episode Justin and Abi are joined by their close friends, and seasoned marriage veterans, Joey and Kelley Feste. They take an inside look into the difficulties that had to be faced and what it took to get to a marriage that is vibrantly alive and has a thriving sex life 32 years in. If you’ve been a marriage sceptic, or just need some hope and inspiration about what marriage and romance could be, this two part episode is for you!

We’ve all been through tough seasons of life that felt like they would never end. Many of us are terrified we’ll get stuck, or even worse, that the best seasons will end as quickly as they started. We can find ourselves getting bitter, depressed, or burnt out if we don’t have the tools to identify which season we’re in. The good news is that there is a beginning and an end to every season. In this episode, Abi and Justin discuss 7 major seasons of life that are necessary to our development and how they help us evolve into better humans. If you’re looking to find a few master keys that will help you to understand what season you’re in and make each season of your life more bearable, fruitful, and peaceful, this episode is for you!

All of humanity have what we call core needs that must to be met. Nurture is one of those needs and one that initially, and primarily, gets met by our mothers. But what if you had a mother that was critical, emotionally unavailable, or depressed? Or maybe, just a mom who was fundamentally good, but didn’t have all the tools to give you what you needed as a child? When core needs are left unmet we can find ourselves coping through overeating, drinking, shopping, sex addictions, working, or “using” other people in an attempt to get the comfort we missed as a child. Often times, the repercussions can leave us feeling powerless, broken, and much like a lost cause. But what if we can do something to heal ourselves? Join Justin and Abi as they highlight ways to recognize a nurture related deficit and give solutions on how to reconcile this problem in healthy ways. This next segment of The Mother Series will help to create practical steps to healing both the past and present! For more info check out www.justinandabi.com and be on the look out for the Living Fully Alive Course at www.stumvollconsulting.com

Mom’s are an intricate part of the fabric of our lives. Our bond with them is woven into the interactions with our most intimate connections, whether we’re aware of it or not. Moms are known for creating the road map for nurturing, when left unacknowledged, this relationship with our mother can skew how we experience and treat the people we love the most. In this episode, Justin and Abi share how the relationship with their mothers unknowingly created pain and misunderstandings that drove a wedge in their connection throughout their marriage. After over a decade of being together, Abi opens up about her newfound understanding in her own process. If you want to solve some of the mysteries driving your experiences with your loved ones and want a better understanding of yourself, this episode is a must listen to!