

What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't
Rhoda Sommer on Relationships
Relationships matter. Do you want to know the nitty gritty of what makes a relationship work? Get your answers to relationship questions. Learn how to keep respect alive & well, because lack of respect is why people get divorced. Learn what builds trust & how to recover from infidelity, drama or codependency. Advice from psychotherapist Rhoda Sommer based on over 35 years of working with couples. www.therapyideas.net
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Oct 1, 2024 • 1h 1min
Low Sexual Desire & What To Do About It
Sexual well being can relieve stress & contributes to bonding with your partner. Yet it’s so easy to give up and not even try to begin talking about it. It’s the lack of communication about sex that is the real problem. Pleasure is the measure according to Emily Nagoski. Learn how to improve your sex life.

Sep 9, 2024 • 58min
Unlocking Emotional Intelligence: Improving You & Your Relationships
Understanding our own emotions is a whole lot of work, much less understanding someone else’s. Understanding our own emotions is a whole lot of work, much less understanding someone else’s. The process of successful communication and negotiation are closely linked to high levels of EQ. The good news is you can improve your emotional intelligence.

Aug 20, 2024 • 48min
Navigating Relationships: Understanding Expectations and Projections
Listen to understand projections & expectations which impact all of our relationships. We all have selfish expectations that cloud our perceptions. If we lack self-awareness then there is even more at stake. We all project aspects of ourselves onto other people, especially the parts of ourselves we don’t take ownership of…which easily contaminates relationships.

Jul 31, 2024 • 46min
Thriving Together: Relationship Fun Essentials
Fun is something that is all too often missing in relationships.Over several decades when I've asked couples, what do you want to do for fun as a couple, not as a family? The response is often blank looks or a downcast glance at feet. It was Plato who said, you can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.

Jul 10, 2024 • 54min
Attachment Anxiety: Tackling Insecurities for Healthy Relationships
Attachment anxiety. Tackling insecurities for healthy relationships. Insecurities can rob us as individuals and in relationships. Insecurities feed everything from a shopping addiction so you look good on the outside or a secret life of porn because real people are confusing and too messy. Fighting our insecurities is a battle all of us share.

Jun 19, 2024 • 35min
MORE FORGIVING LOVE
Learn how to be more forgiving in love. Whether you are discouraged about dating or questioning whether your relationship is good enough, we've got some great answers in our interview today. Love sets up a lot of expectations beginning with our own fantasies of what love is supposed to be. When the truth is real love is deciding to do the work of being a better person because you love somebody else.

Jun 4, 2024 • 50min
BUILDING STRONGER CONNECTIONS WHEN YOUR PARTNER WANTS MORE
Connection is a tricky business. Creating and maintaining genuine connections within relationships is a multifaceted challenge that holds profound importance in our lives. The intricate dance of understanding, empathy, and communication often proves to be a mystery to all of us. Miscommunications, differing perspectives, and the complexities of individual personalities can leave us confused as to what happened.

May 20, 2024 • 51min
Healing from Within: Understanding Self-Forgiveness
Self-Forgiveness is an essential aspect of personal growth and well-being, as it enables individuals to move forward, heal, and cultivate a positive relationship with themselves. Forgiving oneself is important because it allows individuals to break free from the shackles of self-blame and regret. We all make mistakes, experience failures, and engage in behaviors we later feel really bad about.

May 1, 2024 • 56min
Breaking Down Barriers: Overcoming Challenges in Sexual Intimacy
Our sex lives are too easy to leave behind. It’s so easy to make excuses & dismiss opportunity with “I’m too tired.” Going without sex for long periods of time creates feelings of hurt & rejection that pile up to destroy connectedness. If a couple is unable to talk about sex then negative assumptions are silently stashed.

Apr 16, 2024 • 49min
Communication Breakdown: Overcoming Challenges in High-Conflict Relationships
Everybody can get stuck in repeating patterns of ugly disagreement. Frustrations run high & solutions seem impossible. Communication can so easily break down for so many reasons. The intensity of the unhappiness that never gets resolved leads to a familiar stickiness that neither feels able to dig out of... The good news is it is possible!