

The Hook Up
ABC Podcasts
The Hook Up is about love, sex and relationships. We answer your questions, learn things together, cry over heartbreak and normalise shit. Every Tuesday Dee and Pip debate your dating dilemmas and hear your cooked stories. Every Thursday it's the sex ed you never had — we call on an expert to go deep and find answers with Dee.
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Apr 1, 2025 • 48min
Unpacking Adolescence, The Manosphere and The 80/20 Rule
Everyone’s talking about Netflix’s new crime drama Adolescence atm. The series is about a teenage boy accused of murdering a female classmate and it’s triggered a huge cultural conversation around toxic masculinity, incels and the gender divide. Ryder Jack from Tomorrow Man joins Dee and Pip to unpack your thoughts on the series and your experiences as guys dating women.SHOW NOTES:Tomorrow Man & Tomorrow Woman: https://www.tomorrowman.com.au/Research debunking 80/20 theory: https://www.psypost.org/romantic-attraction-and-evolution-new-study-pinpoints-key-traits-in-mate-selection/DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Mar 26, 2025 • 27min
How To Ask For What You Actually Want In Bed
If you’re someone who struggles to talk about sex, or you feel uncomfortable asking for what you want (or don’t want) in the bedroom, this ep is for you!Psychologist and sexologist Laura Lee has some great tips to get you yapping your way into a hotter sex life. SHOW NOTES:Laura Lee Website ResourcesDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Mar 25, 2025 • 35min
What Makes Someone Good In Bed?
'Good sex' is one of those things where you kinda just know it when you have it. But how do YOU define it? From communication, safety and enthusiasm to compatibility, dirty talk and aftercare - we hear what you reckon makes someone good in bed.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Mar 19, 2025 • 31min
BV (Bacterial Vaginosis) Is Actually An STI!!!
A new groundbreaking study has found that the most common vaginal infection bacterial vaginosis (BV) is actually an STI. This is huge news! Especially if you’re someone who keeps getting BV again and again. In this ep, Dee chats to the two lead researchers behind the study Professor Cat Bradshaw and Dr Lenka Vodstrcil to find out everything we need to know. SHOW NOTES:Professor Cat and Dr Lenka's studyBV resources Study on LGBTQ+ couplesDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Mar 18, 2025 • 28min
Is Surgery, Filler And Botox Changing The Way We Date?
There’s new research saying that women who use dating apps are more likely to get cosmetic procedures. So how are you feeling about getting work done and dating?? We hear from you about whether it’s affecting your body image, your partners, and your experience on the apps.SHOW NOTES:Research on dating apps and cosmetic procedureshttps://www.unisa.edu.au/media-centre/Releases/2025/swipe-style-surgery-why-dating-apps-are-fuelling-cosmetic-procedures/SBS - Sasha Kutabah Sarago chats on Eurocentric beauty standardshttps://www.sbs.com.au/audio/podcast-episode/sasha-kutabah-sarago-chats-about-challenging-eurocentric-beauty-standards/u5vrg5m0jDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Mar 12, 2025 • 23min
How To Deal If You Feel Shame After Sex And Masturbation
Recently we did an ep on post nut clarity and 50% of you said you felt shame, disgust or embarrassment after orgasming.So in this ep, sex therapist Aleks Trkulja chats to Dee about why it’s so common and how to work through those feelings. SHOW NOTES:Post Nut Clarity vodcastDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Mar 11, 2025 • 34min
What Is Post Nut Clarity?
Have you ever finished and had a massive realisation about your life, a partner, your sexuality? Maybe you find energy, peace and creativity? Or do you get hit with a wave of shame, disgust, and anxiety? We find out what happens when you cum to your senses and experience post nut clarity.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Mar 5, 2025 • 31min
An Expert Weighs In On Game Playing In Dating
In our last ep we spoke about game playing in dating - things like playing hard to get, posting thirst traps, not double texting, withholding sex for the 5th date etc. 86% of you said you don’t do it, but what does the research show? And is ‘game playing’ as problematic as you said?Dee chats to psychology and relationship researcher Dr Beatrice Alba to find out. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

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Mar 4, 2025 • 35min
Are We Are Playing Games In Dating?
The hosts dive into the quirky and often absurd games people play in dating, from never double texting to posting thirst traps. They reflect on how these tactics can confuse emotions and complicate relationships. Trust and vulnerability are explored, especially how past experiences influence dating approaches. The conversation emphasizes the importance of clear communication and emotional honesty, advocating for genuine connections over mind games. Listeners are encouraged to rethink the dynamics of love and dating in today's world.

Feb 27, 2025 • 30min
What You Need To Know For Your First Mardi Gras
Mardi Gras celebrations kick off in Australia this weekend - so whether it’s the parade, hooking up at after-parties, or finding your people - here’s everything you need to know about the LGBTQIA+ protest/celebration with author and psychologist Dr Chris Cheers. SHOW NOTES:Sydney Mardi Gras detailsDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.