The Hook Up

Everyone’s talking about the rise of AI, but what about AI and sexism?Author and journalist Laura Bates has spent years investigating how technologies like chatbots, deep fakes, sex robots, and the Metaverse are perpetuating a culture of misogyny and violence against women.In this ep, Dee chats to Laura about what the research shows, what toxic dynamics she found in her investigation, and how we can stop this tech being built into our futures.SHOW NOTES:1800 Respect: 1800 737 732Lifeline: 13 11 14Laura Bate’s book - The New Age of SexismDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Whether it’s for friendship, therapy or sexual and romantic relationships, AI companions are becoming way more normalised. So what does this mean for the way we relate and date people irl? We investigate the rise of AI relationships and hear how you’re using it in your own love lives.CW: discussion of mental health and suicideSHOW NOTES:Mental health and AI companionshttps://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-01-07/ai-chatbot-husbando-waifu-relationships-romance-psychology/104701556Reddit - My Husband Wants To Open Our Marriage To His AI Girlfriend https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1ltm60b/aio_my_35f_husband_36m_wants_to_open_our_marriage/Can ChatBots Substitute Real Human Romance?https://theconversation.com/computer-love-ai-powered-chatbots-are-changing-how-we-understand-romantic-and-sexual-well-being-234054NY Times podcast - She Fell In Love With ChatGPT https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0tXmc_cYW9Y14 Year Old Boy Takes His Life After AI Chatbot Encourages Himhttps://www.theguardian.com/technology/2024/oct/23/character-ai-chatbot-sewell-setzer-deathAI Companion inciting Sexual violence, abuse, terror attackshttps://theconversation.com/an-ai-companion-chatbot-is-inciting-self-harm-sexual-violence-and-terror-attacks-252625DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

When it comes to professor student relationships, a lot of people argue ‘if everyone’s an adult’ and ‘if everyone’s consenting’ there’s nothing wrong with the dynamic. But Author Madison Griffiths disagrees. In this chat with Dee Salmin, Madison unpacks her new book Sweet Nothing which explores four women’s experiences dating and sleeping with their professors - and how gender and power imbalances make the relationships so much more nuanced than consent. SHOW NOTES:LifeLine: 13 11 141800 Respect: 1800 737 732DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Dating your best friend’s ex, boss/employee relationships, celebrities and fans, dating with a huge age gap - there are so many relationships that are considered forbidden and taboo. We hear from you on what it’s like to date someone you feel like you have to hide.CW: discussion of domestic violence.If this episode brings anything up for you, help is available: 1800 RESPECTDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

If you struggle with finishing too quickly during sex (aka premature ejaculation) sexologist Cam Fraser is here to help. In this ep, we find out why it’s the most common sexual issue to affect men, what causes it, and how to deal. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Does the order in which you’re born impact your compatibility with a partner? According to ‘research’, opposites attract eg. first borns work are best paired with last borns, and if you’re both the eldest/youngest - it’s chaos. But is Birth Order Theory legit? We investigate the latest Tiktok trend with your stories and some research of our own.SHOW NOTES:Birth Order Theoryhttps://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/dating/birth-order-dating-theory.htm#pt1Norwegian study into birth order and marriage successhttps://epc2006.eaps.nl/papers/60249Dr Kevin Leman’s on birth orderhttps://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/who-you-should-marry-based-on-your-birth-order-a7513656.html#:~:text=According%20to%20the%20study%2C%20the,to%20be%20a%20power%20struggle.Study into how birth order doesn’t affect compatibilityhttps://www.demogr.mpg.de/papers/working/wp-2020-017.pdfDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

If you’re keen to explore consensual non-monogamy or open up your relationship - this ep is for you! Psychologist and Author Dr Chris Cheers chats to Dee about his own poly identity, how he navigates having a husband and a partner, and shares his advice on how to do non-monogamy ‘ethically.’ SHOW NOTES:ABC iview Compass Episode - Beyond MonogamyDr Chris Cheers Instagram DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Seeing the term ‘ENM’ in dating app bios? Noticing your friends are opening up their relationships? Ethical Non-Monogamy is on the rise in young people, so in this ep we find out from you how it’s going - the good, the bad and the horny. SHOW NOTES:ENM explained: https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-04-27/inside-lives-polyamory-ethical-non-monogamy-enm-ethics/105216136https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hook-up/ethical-non-monogamy-open-relationship-polyamory-enm-dating-apps/13624808ENM on the rise: https://today.yougov.com/society/articles/27639-millennials-monogamy-poly-poll-survey-dataDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

A lot more people are adding terms like ‘dom’ or ‘sub’ or ‘switch’ to their dating app bios - so what does it mean? Dee chats to sexologist Lauren French about how to add power play into your love life and how to spot a ‘fake dom’.SHOW NOTES:1800 Respect - 1800 737 732LifeLine - 13 11 14More info on powerplay and sex: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hook-up/power-dynamics-in-sex-top-bottom-dominant-submissive/11996290DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

What does it mean to actually be dominant or submissive in sex? Because you told us heaps of people are abusing their preference to be “dominant”, and you’re ending up physically, sexually and emotionally hurt. We explore dom/sub dynamics, hearing your stories from how it can be the best sex of your life when done right, but traumatic when done wrong. SHOW NOTES:1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 LifeLine - 13 11 14More info on powerplay and sex: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hook-up/power-dynamics-in-sex-top-bottom-dominant-submissive/11996290DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.