
The Hook Up
The Hook Up is about love, sex and relationships. We answer your questions, learn things together, cry over heartbreak and normalise shit. Every Tuesday Dee and Pip debate your dating dilemmas and hear your cooked stories. Every Thursday it's the sex ed you never had — we call on an expert to go deep and find answers with Dee.
Latest episodes

Apr 23, 2025 • 34min
I Think I Want To Go To Therapy, What Next?
If you’re not feeling great mentally, or you want to work through some things, or you’ve just gone through a big life event - you might be thinking about getting some professional help. Starting therapy can feel super overwhelming if you’ve never done it before, so in this ep we chat to clinical psychologist Dr Jarrod White about everything you need to know about going to therapy for the first time. SHOW NOTES:Dr Jarrod White - Beyond Therapy Room The Body Keeps The Score - Bessel Van Der Kolk The Courage To Be Disliked - Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga Lost Connections - Johann HariDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Apr 22, 2025 • 32min
Cumfessions LIVE Pt 1
It's triple j's award winning and most complained about show – The Hook Up, live from Melbourne International Comedy Festival.

Apr 16, 2025 • 27min
The Science Of Why We Fall In Love
Let’s unpack romantic love!!!why do we fall in love? And why only with certain people over others? Is love at first sight real? Can you stay in love your whole life? What’s happening in the brain and body? Is love an addiction? And can you actually die from a broken heart?Dee chats to the world’s leading romantic love researcher Adam Bode to find out the science of love. SHOW NOTES:Adam Bode's researchDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Apr 15, 2025 • 34min
Circumcisions And Commitment Issues w/ Comedian Will Gibb
We couldn’t get him on for our live show, so we got him in the studio - content creator, stand up comedian and podcaster Will Gibb chats to us about dating with radical honesty, cooked sex dreams and what it’s actually like to get a circumcision as an adult. *NB this chat contains descriptive language about surgery so skip that part if you're squeamishDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Apr 9, 2025 • 36min
An Expert’s Advice For Dealing With Toxic Families
Nearly 30% of you told us you’ve ended a relationship because of your own family or your partners. So whether it’s parents being manipulative, controlling or having no boundaries, we get some advice from clinical psychologist Dr Lillian Nejad on how to navigate a meddling family. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Apr 8, 2025 • 34min
When Family Messes With Your Love Life
Have you ever dated someone who's family was too involved, or a bit too close? (Anna Paul and Atis???) Whether it’s your own or your partners - we hear how families with no boundaries, cultural/religious differences, and mummy’s boys/daddy’s girls have messed with your love life.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Apr 2, 2025 • 26min
Dylin Hardcastle On Queer Storytelling and Trans Joy
If you’re looking to read about queer joy, pain, heartbreak, love and hot af sex - A Language Of Limbs is for you. The story follows two lives over three decades as they navigate their queer identities, the beginning of Mardi Gras and the AIDs epidemic. Dee chats to author Dylin Hardcastle about the process of writing their novel, portraying queer sex and the importance of trans joy. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Apr 1, 2025 • 48min
Unpacking Adolescence, The Manosphere and The 80/20 Rule
Everyone’s talking about Netflix’s new crime drama Adolescence atm. The series is about a teenage boy accused of murdering a female classmate and it’s triggered a huge cultural conversation around toxic masculinity, incels and the gender divide. Ryder Jack from Tomorrow Man joins Dee and Pip to unpack your thoughts on the series and your experiences as guys dating women.SHOW NOTES:Tomorrow Man & Tomorrow Woman: https://www.tomorrowman.com.au/Research debunking 80/20 theory: https://www.psypost.org/romantic-attraction-and-evolution-new-study-pinpoints-key-traits-in-mate-selection/DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Mar 26, 2025 • 27min
How To Ask For What You Actually Want In Bed
If you’re someone who struggles to talk about sex, or you feel uncomfortable asking for what you want (or don’t want) in the bedroom, this ep is for you!Psychologist and sexologist Laura Lee has some great tips to get you yapping your way into a hotter sex life. SHOW NOTES:Laura Lee Website ResourcesDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Mar 25, 2025 • 35min
What Makes Someone Good In Bed?
'Good sex' is one of those things where you kinda just know it when you have it. But how do YOU define it? From communication, safety and enthusiasm to compatibility, dirty talk and aftercare - we hear what you reckon makes someone good in bed.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.