Your Secret Is Safe With Me

It’s that pivotal scene in the movie: The couple who has been at odds is about to consummate their passion and get into bed. Things are getting steamy, clothes are being thrown around, and then they’re under the sheets. But did anyone reach for protection? A condom? A dental dam? Anything? With references to protection being left out of scenes like this in movies, books, and porn, it begs the question: Can safe sex be sexy? And if not, what are the consequences? According to nurse practitioner Lisa Bayani, it’s up to you to make sure you’re being safe and healthy with your sexual practices—sexy or not. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me, Dr. Marie Murphy sits down with nurse practitioner Lisa Bayani to talk about safe sex 101. They discuss the different types of sexually transmitted infections, what to do if you need treatment and privacy, and how COVID-19 has added a new layer to the practice of safe sex. Tune in to hear how you can make sure you’re practicing safety in a sexy way.

How do you respond to conflict? Do you shut down and try to push the discomfort away? Or, do you barrel through the situation and burn down anything in your path? Whatever your response, do you take the time to process what you’re feeling? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, many of us never slow down long enough to process our emotions. In fact, more often than not, we don’t know what we’re actually feeling during moments of tension, such as an affair. As Dr. Murphy says, the way we’ve been taught to understand our emotions has distorted how we engage with the way we feel. So, what now? In this episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me, Dr. Marie Murphy is joined by John Corcoran, Co-Founder of Rise25, to talk about emotions and how we process them. She dives into the distinction between feelings, thoughts, and circumstances, the inherent versus assigned meaning behind emotions, and what happens when you take the time to sit with your feelings. Keep listening.

The human spectrum of emotion is vast; we can feel any number of them in any given hour. But, with the way that we’re socially taught how to express and process what we’re feeling, that scale ends up feeling a lot shorter. So how can we more consciously experience our emotions in our day-to-day lives? According to Mark Anthony Haviland, the ability to physically experience our emotions is something that we haven’t really been taught—but it’s a skill that can grant us a deeper understanding of ourselves, our relationships, and the world around us. With over 20 years of experience in bodywork, Mark has taken what he’s learned about the healing touch and transformed it into a life-changing practice for his clients. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me, Dr. Marie Murphy sits down with Mark Anthony Haviland, the Owner and Founder of Beyond Bodywork, to talk about the importance of developing a conscious relationship with your emotions. They examine the spiritual work that intimacy requires, the way we’ve been taught to understand our feelings, and why it’s important to process our emotions as physical experiences. Keep listening.

Have you ever been in a sticky situation and felt unable to reach out to a friend or family member for advice? What if that sticky situation was an affair—do you know how you would work it out? Do you have anyone you’d feel safe enough to call? More often than not, the answer is no. The stigma surrounding infidelity is pervasive, but what people who are going through this situation need most is a safe space to work through their feelings. This is Dr. Marie Murphy’s approach: providing a shame-free, blame-free atmosphere for people to process what they really want without the judgement and anxiety that usually accompanies affairs.  In this first episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Relationship Coach Dr. Marie Murphy sits down with John Corcoran, Co-Founder of Rise25, to talk about her approach to coaching clients that are having affairs. Together, they’ll chat about Dr. Murphy’s core beliefs as a professional (and a human), the stigma surrounding infidelity, and what Dr. Murphy does when asked if she condones cheating. Stay tuned!