Your Secret Is Safe With Me

If you aren’t clear on how to move forward with your infidelity situation, what can you do to make a change? How can you make the right decisions for you — regardless of what your affair partner does? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you have the choice between making decisions consciously and deliberately and making them haphazardly or based on fear. Many people want safety, comfort, and security in their relationship. But, are these desires holding you back from what you really want from your future? Dr. Murphy says the first step to making the right decision for you is dealing with your own emotions — only then can you create the relationships you want to have. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about navigating obstacles while planning a future with your affair partner. Dr. Murphy examines the new emotions that can impact your choices, what you should acknowledge in your relationships, and how to make decisions based on your desires.

How does the way you understand and express boundaries affect your relationships? What does it look like when your needs are in alignment? And, can creating better boundaries with yourself lead to more pleasure in your external relationships and life? According to Melissa Hite, to live an authentic life, it’s important to communicate boundaries with yourself and with others. Melissa says you should not negate what your body and mind are telling you in order to remain in a relationship. Instead, choose yourself, or you will feel the effects of not honoring your needs. When your boundaries are heard and respected without justification, you’ll have the safety and clarity needed to strengthen your relationships.  In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy is joined by Melissa Hite, Founder and Sexual-Spiritual Advisor at Higher Sex Education, to discuss her advice for setting and understanding boundaries with yourself and others. Melissa talks about recognizing your body signals when making decisions, learning how to honor your needs, and thoughtfully expressing your boundaries without creating an ultimatum. 

When you’re unclear on your desires, you may feel stuck or powerless in your situation. If you are trying to cheat and want your sanity to stay intact, how can you deliberately decide what you want from your relationships? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you are accountable to yourself and your choices. To make more deliberate and satisfying relationship decisions, you need to manage your mindset and emotions. How? Dr. Murphy has the tools to help you get clear on your desires so you can keep your sanity intact in your infidelity situation. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about managing your emotions while cheating. Dr. Murphy discusses the emotional baggage that comes with deciding to engage in cheating and how to navigate it. She also shares her tips for maintaining sanity during an affair.

If you’re too focused on certain requirements or expectations with a partner, you may miss out on rich connections. So, what can you do to make a change? Is it possible to experience growth in a relationship without sacrificing your needs? As Dr. Marie Murphy says, there is a way to advocate for your preferences while also compromising with your partner. During conflict, many people struggle with taking responsibility for themselves. Fortunately, Dr. Murphy has techniques to help you experience the growth that comes with addressing tension and rethinking compatibility. With this clarity, you can prioritize your needs, move forward, and improve your relationship. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy explores the negative implications of having a “personal religion” and shares her tips for navigating conflict in a relationship. Dr. Murphy reveals a personal story about how she responded to tension with her partner, talks about cultivating a new understanding of compatibility, and explains the benefits of taking radical responsibility for your actions.

Do you expect your relationship to be a constant source of happiness and joy? Do you find yourself feeling discontent with your partner — or thinking that you might be happier with someone else? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the key to true relationship satisfaction is recognizing that the only person who can make you happy is yourself. While there may be times when you feel annoyed or upset with your partner, you can choose to instead focus on emotions and aspects you enjoy about your relationship. As Dr. Murphy says, realizing that you’re in charge of your feelings can provide clarity, help you make better decisions, and lead to more fulfilling relationships. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about choosing your emotions in your relationships. Listen as Dr. Murphy talks about why you shouldn’t depend on your partner for happiness, the power of unintentional thoughts, and how to find clarity and make better decisions about your relationship status.

Do you put your relationships with others above your relationship with yourself? Actively trying to suppress or deny your feelings or your truth can be exhausting, especially during an infidelity situation. So, how can you prioritize being honest with yourself? If you’re looking for a better way to gain clarity and certainty with your thoughts, Dr. Marie Murphy suggests that you take ownership and acknowledge what is true for you. Letting your fear of what other people might think can deter you from achieving what you truly desire. As Dr. Murphy says, you are the sovereign ruler of your mind and happiness. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about taking ownership of your thoughts and acknowledging the truth in your infidelity situation. Listen as Dr. Murphy talks about the repercussions of neglecting your relationship with yourself, questions to help you acknowledge your truth, and the importance of not letting others influence your thoughts.

Are you faced with an ethical dilemma in your infidelity situation? When you’re upset, it can be difficult to slow down and make a conscious decision about your relationship. So where can you turn for guidance?  According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you get to decide how to make the best decisions for you — no one can tell you what to do but you. But, with Dr. Murphy’s help, you can navigate difficult ideas around morality — such as telling the truth versus lying in your relationship — and take action to determine the best route for you.  In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about navigating lying in your infidelity situation. Tune in as Dr. Murphy discusses how to reframe lying in neutral terms, the key to making more conscious decisions in your relationships, and why you should stop focusing on the opinions of others.

Are you struggling with the idea of perfectionism and hustling to show your self-worth in your relationships? Is trying to meet the needs of others holding you back from what you truly desire? If you’re too afraid of failure, you will never succeed. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, many people struggle with other people’s standards about love, acceptance, and worthiness. But, it’s not easy to create relationships you truly want without your own self-worth. So, are you ready to overcome your thoughts and feelings of failure, shame, and perfectionism to get what you truly desire? In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about navigating infidelity, shame, and perfectionism. Dr. Murphy discusses failure as an opportunity to grow, why hustling to meet other people’s demands is hurting your relationships, and how to work your way out of the cycle of perfectionism and shame.

Do you want to change your thoughts about your past but feel helpless about where to begin? Dwelling on the past won’t change the future — but it is possible to reframe your thoughts and regrets in order to identify your desires. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the only things that make an experience regrettable are your thoughts. As she says, you have to decide for yourself what is truly valuable in each situation and use that to create the future you desire. So, how do you break the habit of negative thoughts? In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about reframing your thoughts about regret. Dr. Murphy discusses why regret is not as helpful as you think, how to find value in your past experiences, and the key to discovering clarity in your decisions about your relationship.

Does your sense of self-worth depend upon other people’s thoughts and beliefs? Is the desire for perfection holding you back from getting what you truly want from your life and relationships? When you endeavor to conform to societal — or other people’s — expectations of what is acceptable and worthy, you open yourself up to feelings of shame and fear, which may be corrupting your standards and holding you back from your desires. Dr. Marie Murphy suggests a solution: cultivating a sense of self-worth that is not contingent upon what other people value as perfect. So, are you ready to stop perfectionism from interfering in your life and happiness? In this episode of Your Secret Is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses the role of perfectionism in romantic relationships. Listen as Dr. Murphy talks about the harmful impacts of perfectionism, the importance of establishing a sense of self-worth that is not conditional upon others, and how to nurture a relationship based on your own desires.