Your Secret Is Safe With Me

Pain and suffering may be inevitable parts of the human experience. But when we can learn to deal with our discomfort differently, we can eliminate unnecessary suffering. So, tune in this week to discover how to deal with a vindictive affair partner, and how to use your thinking to get clear on what exactly it is you’re afraid of, how likely it is that your fears will be realized, and how you would proceed if you didn’t feel so freaked out about the situation becoming volatile.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/103

Tune in this week for some non-judgmental advice if you’ve been caught in the act of cheating, or been presented with irrefutable evidence of your cheating. Dr. Marie Murphy is focusing on your feelings about getting caught, dealing with your partner’s response to what’s going on, and how to decide on the way you want to frame your story - what you want to disclose, and thinking carefully about what you want to do next.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/102

Is emotional discomfort getting in the way of what you want most from your relationships? When faced with a situation that challenges your growth, it is normal to feel discomfort. How can you embrace that discomfort to rebuild your relationship? When transforming your relationship, you need to concede that emotional discomfort — just like physical discomfort — is part of life. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, learning to recognize an emotional experience in constructive ways has profound and broad benefits. Dr. Murphy says these emotions can be lessons and motivators for change to achieve the relationship you desire. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about what we can learn from emotional discomfort. She discusses the correlation between physical and emotional discomfort, why avoiding your emotions can have consequences, and building a new relationship with emotional discomfort.

Do you find yourself torn between wanting to resolve your relationship worries and being afraid of negative consequences? What is the best way to deal with infidelity drama, uncertainty, and intrusive thoughts? Dr. Marie Murphy says it all starts with being faithful to yourself. She shares her advice on various challenges that could seem terrifying and explains how facing these challenges can bring you peace in your relationships as well as in your everyday life. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about different methods of solving an infidelity situation and understanding the benefits of change. Dr. Murphy explains the importance of recognizing your emotions and needs, how to effect change, and strategies for motivating yourself to live the life you want — without the paralyzing feelings.

Dr. Marie Murphy, relationship expert, discusses the importance of understanding personal expectations in romantic relationships. She emphasizes the significance of communication and taking ownership of desires. Dr. Murphy challenges the belief that relationships should solely bring happiness, highlighting personal accountability and mutual respect as key components.

When confronted with grief, difficult situations, or relationship challenges, it’s easy to convince ourselves of uncertainty or confusion to avoid making tough decisions. Yet, these thoughts are often unproductive and promote stagnancy. So, how can you change your mindset to overcome these difficulties? Dr. Marie Murphy recommends establishing what you know and want so you can begin to make decisions that will satisfy your desires. It’s important to remember that you always have a choice about whether or not to accept challenges. By embracing emotional discomfort and acting on your circumstances, you can redefine your perspective to manage your thoughts and feelings. Join Dr. Marie Murphy in today’s episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, as she discusses turning unproductive statements into effective decisions. Dr. Murphy explains the difference between thoughts and circumstances, how to overcome uncertainty in relationships, and tips for managing your thoughts and emotions.

Why do you want to re-engage in your primary relationship? How can you intentionally generate excitement and a deep passion with your primary partner? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the convenient option of re-engaging with your primary does not mean it is obligatory. While the comfortable and familiar route may be the easiest, it also comes with challenges, difficulties, and awkwardness. Dr. Murphy recommends meeting those challenges with enthusiasm, and to be present and fully honest with yourself to improve your primary relationship.  On this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about the process of re-engaging with your primary partner after an affair. Dr. Murphy discusses deciphering whether you have a relationship of convenience or desire, the challenges and emotions around your relationship, and why you need to put in the effort to produce results.

When presented with the prospect of dismantling their lives by ending their marriage, people may become dismayed. What happens when your affair partner doesn’t leave their marriage — but you do? It can be easy to downgrade your value and blame your partner’s actions on the explanation that you’re deeply and fatally flawed. When someone makes a choice, Dr. Marie Murphy says you can’t manage what other people do, you can only manage your decisions about how to respond to them. You have the power to recognize and make the best of the situation — and the ability to recognize your romantic future is not determined by the fate of your affair. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about how to decide what you want your romantic future to look like, even without your affair partner. Dr. Murphy explains what happens when your affair partner does not leave their marriage, why you need to get clear about your wants in a relationship, and the importance of recognizing that your affair partner’s decisions do not indicate a flaw with yourself.

What happens when your affair partner becomes needy of your attention and affection? How can you handle the feelings of discomfort and uncertainty when ending your marriage while being pushed by your affair partner to make a decision? Dr. Marie Murphy says it's all about how you manage your mind and deal with your emotions. You feel good when you’re with your affair partner, so you begin to expect that feeling. But, when things go differently, you may encounter feelings of neediness. What does Dr. Murphy suggest? In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about understanding and navigating neediness in your affair. Dr. Murphy discusses decision-making and the effect it can have on your relationships, how to manage conflicting experiences, and understanding the behaviors behind neediness to create a more respectful relationship.

It’s easy to feel exhausted when you’re constantly at someone else’s disposal. Society’s biases toward a Martyr Complex can make it difficult to talk about — especially when you’re told to sacrifice your own happiness at someone else’s expense. How can you set boundaries to achieve your own happiness, even when it feels difficult? Loretta knows what it is like to face challenges, stigmas, and responsibilities as a caregiver to her husband with Alzheimer's. Since her husband’s diagnosis, she had sacrificed her happiness in and outside of the bedroom — until she made a decision. Are you ready to improve your situation and let go of the guilt holding you back? In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy is joined by Loretta to discuss how to create your own happiness and rediscover new joy — regardless of the difficulties in your life. Loretta talks about her husband’s diagnosis with Alzheimer's, why setting boundaries is an incalculable practice in a relationship, and ways to allow growth and happiness into your life through new opportunities while caring for an incapacitated spouse.