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Dr. Marie Murphy
Dr. Marie Murphy talks about infidelity and other challenging relationship situations from a non-judgmental perspective. She shares practical tools and advice from her own coaching practice to help you make changes in your love life, and interviews professionals with complementary expertise, such as family law attorneys, mediators, non-violent communication specialists, and more. In addition, Marie discusses the social and historical context of romantic relationships to provide perspective on our taken-for-granted assumptions about how relationships are supposed to be. To learn more, visit mariemurphyphd.com.
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Nov 3, 2022 • 27min
113. Wanting Something and Not Having It Yet
By allowing yourself to want something or someone, contending with the experience of not getting what you want is inevitable. So, how do you deal with the ache of deeply wanting something and not having it yet? And why could this be the key to getting the result you truly want in your infidelity situation? Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/113
Oct 27, 2022 • 33min
112. Being a Human Feels Terrible Sometimes
Tune in this week for a discussion on why being a human feels terrible sometimes. Dr. Marie Murphy is exploring why the traditionally prescribed intolerance of feeling awful isn’t actually helpful, why as a society we’ve never normalized feeling terrible, and how to deal with feeling uncomfortable emotions without making it a problem that needs to be immediately solved. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/112
Oct 20, 2022 • 35min
111. The Price of Convenience
Tune in this week to discover the price of living in convenience over taking uncomfortable action. Even when we know that making the effort to change our behavior would benefit us in the overall scheme of things, Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing why so many people would rather take the convenient route, and how to see what you stand to gain by finally dealing with it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/111
Oct 13, 2022 • 28min
110. What Do You Owe Someone You’ve Cheated On?
Let’s say you’re in a committed relationship and you’ve done something that counts as cheating, and your partner knows about it. There is indeed something you might owe them. However, if you think you need to make your partner feel better, answer their questions, share your thoughts, right your wrongs, agree to protocols to reestablish trust, and suffer like your partner is suffering, what Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing today might surprise you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/110
Oct 6, 2022 • 37min
109. You Don’t HAVE to Make a Decision
Tune in this week to discover why it may be helpful to hold off on making a decision. Dr. Marie Murphy is diving into why pressuring yourself to immediately make a decision about your infidelity situation isn’t going to lead to a decision you actually feel good about, and how to slow down, so you can make the decision that’s right for you when you’re ready. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/109
Sep 29, 2022 • 35min
108. Why Do People Cheat?
Some people are very preoccupied, perhaps even obsessed, with the question of why people cheat. But is that a helpful question to ask? Dr. Marie Murphy is here to show you why, although every single person is responsible for their actions, nobody acts in a vacuum. Social conditions create the context in which cheating happens, so you’ll learn about the circumstances that make it more likely for cheating to occur, and how these structures come up against individual agency. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/108
Sep 22, 2022 • 35min
107. Is Monogamy (Un)Natural?
Tune in this week because Dr. Marie Murphy is unpacking the question, “Is monogamy natural or unnatural?” Marie is diving deep into what natural even means, the meaning that gets applied to the word natural, and why it only gets more complicated when you try to bring the natural versus unnatural debate to how you think about your relationships, monogamy, and what you really want in your sexual and romantic life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/107
Sep 15, 2022 • 28min
106. Ask Yourself the Right Questions
Maybe you want to leave your marriage, but you’re not sure exactly why yet. Perhaps you think your marriage is something you should aspire to and value, but you’re not fully wanting it. Asking yourself, “Why would I want to leave a perfect relationship?” is the wrong question. So, in this episode, Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you how to ask yourself the right questions that show you what you really want, not what you think you should want. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/106
Sep 8, 2022 • 27min
105. It May Be Time to Chuck Your Checklist
Tune in this week to discover why your attempts to systematically compare your relationships aren’t helping you make a decision. Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing why being in a relationship with more than one wonderful person isn’t some kind of terrible problem that needs resolving immediately, and she’s showing you how to decide what you really want, so you can make a checklist that actually works for you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/105
Sep 1, 2022 • 28min
104. The Courage to Make Changes and Choices
Despite what you may have told yourself, it’s your human right to have desires and make choices in the service of what you want, regardless of whether other people like them or not. If you’re in the midst of an infidelity situation, you don’t need anybody telling you what you should be doing. You need to figure out what you want and how to get it, so in this episode, I’m showing you how to cultivate the courage to make new choices that lead to the change you want for your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/104
