Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

Generational Healing and Integrating Masculine and Feminine Energies with Gao Motsemme In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Gao Motsemme, a psychic surgeon and embodiment queen dedicated to helping individuals break free from patterns of generational toxic relationships. Gao discusses her journey into ancestral healing, energy work, and the importance of connecting with one's inner child and sexual energy. The conversation delves into the integration of masculine and feminine energies, the impact of generational trauma, and the significance of authentic leadership in both personal and professional settings. Listeners are invited to explore their own emotional and energetic landscapes to achieve deeper healing and self-awareness. 00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel 00:21 Meet Gao Motsemme: Psychic Surgeon and Healer 01:39 Understanding Generational Trauma 03:53 Gao's Personal Journey and Awakening 06:53 The Role of Ancestral Healing 09:36 African Ancient Quantum Medicine 15:28 The Power of Sexual Energy 22:27 Leadership and Presence 23:55 Integrating Masculine and Feminine Energies 27:31 Connecting with the Inner Child 31:11 The Importance of Emotional Resilience 39:34 Conclusion and Contact InformationLinksGao Motsemme -- https://www.gaomotsemme.com/Book a complimentary call with Gao -- https://bit.ly/OrgasmicclarityConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/groupSupport this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/supportYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 316

Exploring the Flavors of Emotions with Kim KorteIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant converses with Kim Korte, a sensory perception and emotion management strategist. Kim explains her unique metaphor for emotions, comparing them to flavors and cooking ingredients. They discuss how emotions are formed, the impact of memories, and the importance of acknowledging and working through emotions rather than suppressing them. Kim shares insights from her book, 'Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions' and discusses how external sensory perceptions and past experiences influence emotional responses. She also emphasizes the significance of emotional granularity and the benefits of being attuned to one's feelings to improve overall well-being.00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel00:32 Introducing Kim Korty01:43 Exploring Emotions Through Food Metaphors04:29 Understanding Emotional Processes06:27 The Importance of Emotional Awareness20:09 Practical Exercises for Emotional Insight27:48 Personal Reflections and Impact34:15 Final Thoughts and FarewellLinksKim Korte -- https://kimkorte.comYucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions -- https://amzn.to/46S79t6Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/groupSupport this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/supportYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 315

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes pioneering coach and author Owen Marcus, who discusses integrating emotional physiology, attachment theory, and somatic therapies into men's emotional connection and leadership development. Owen shares insights from his new community, MELD, which focuses on men's emotional leadership development. They explore diverse subjects such as rolfing, polyvagal theory, anti-fragility, and the importance of co-regulation and vulnerability in emotional intelligence. The conversation highlights the significance of using somatic experiences for emotional growth and how men can improve their relationships and leadership skills through these practices. Owen also emphasizes the role of safe spaces for practicing emotional skills and the benefits of such spaces on men's personal and professional lives. The episode wraps up with a discussion on the common challenges men face and how women can support men in their emotional journeys.Topics and Highlights00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel 00:26 Introducing Owen Marcus 01:50 The Journey to MELD 02:38 Understanding Somatic Therapy 04:26 Exploring Rolfing 06:57 Men's Emotional Leadership Development 08:39 Polyvagal Theory Explained 11:28 The Importance of Vulnerability 14:09 Emotional Intelligence and Leadership 24:35 Challenges Men Face Today 26:17 MELD Programs and Offerings 28:40 Couples Retreat and Coed Programs 31:23 The Impact of Men's Groups 36:14 Advice for Women Supporting Men 42:08 Conclusion and Contact InformationLinksOwen Marcus & MELD -- https://meld.communityResourcesOur Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us, by Dr Stephen W. PorgesThe Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe, by Dr Stephen W. PorgesAntifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder, by Nassim Nicholas TalebHold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, by Dr. Sue JohnsonAttachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families, by Dr. Sue JohnsonConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/groupSupport this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/supportYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 314

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews psychotherapist Marc Azoulay about the unique challenges and shortcomings of traditional therapy for men. Marc shares his personal journey from client to therapist, highlighting how his own struggles with addiction and identity shaped his approach to helping men. The discussion delves into the importance of challenging men within a supportive community, the need for both masculine and feminine love in therapy, and the transformative power of male initiation rituals. Marc also introduces Men's Therapy Online, a community-based service designed to offer tailored support and foster meaningful relationships among men. Topics and Questions00:20 Meet Marc Azoulay: Psychotherapist and Founder of Men's Online Therapy01:15 Marc's Personal Journey: From Client to Therapist 03:07 The Challenges Men Face in Therapy 06:09 Redefining Masculinity and Therapy 07:35 Marc's Addiction and Transformation 13:41 The Importance of Male Support Systems 16:06 Marc's Therapy Approach and Personal Experiences 18:07 Vision Quests and Fasting: A Deep Dive 18:53 The Importance of Initiation Rituals 20:03 The Power of Fasting and Survival 22:01 The Mankind Project Experience 24:50 Leading Wilderness Retreats 28:43 Men's Therapy Online: A Community for Men 31:32 Emotional Strength and Vulnerability 34:18 Conclusion and ResourcesLinksMarc Azoulay -- http://www.menstherapy.online/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/groupSupport this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/supportYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 313

Leadership In Chaotic Times | Principles of Harmonic Leadership"Lots of people are seeing the world in a negative way right now. So many people are waiting for someone else to come along and fix it." My returning guest today is James Greenshields. James is a husband of over 20 years and an honored father of two amazing women; he served 17 years as an Australian Army Officer and woke up in combat. With over 14 years post-military, James has Co-Founded and been the Lead Facilitator for Leadership and Men's Well-being at the Emergent Leaders Foundation. He couples experience with First Nation people around the globe, running youth rites of passage for ten years, overlayed on a practical understanding of leadership in environments as diverse as the battlefield, boardrooms, and professional sports, have enabled him to create a new paradigm of leadership - he calls Harmonic Leadership.We discuss our current chaotic times, the power of community, and how indigenous people helped heal James' PTSD. James expands on his belief that every issue on the planet can be solved at a community level and that community is the essence of why we are alive. Listen in and learn the true pandemic of the last four years.We also explore alchemy, power vs. force, states of fear and love, and much more.Topics and Questions 2:15 - Lots of people are seeing the world in a negative way. 4:45 - Every issue on the planet can be solved at a community level within a global context. 7:14 - Everyone is waiting for someone else. 7:36 - What made you say yes to a Life Activation? 9:19 - We must move beyond fighting against everything. 11:00 - Consequences of people operating from fear. 14:40 - People will give up their safety to belong. 17:30 - We are seeing more people tilting towards authoritarianism across the globe. 21:24 - Michigan football metaphor. 23:07 - The biggest pandemic of the last four years is the lack of critical thinking. 27:07 - Clarifying your values. 28:53 - We need to understand how powerful we are. 34:56 - Completely healing from trauma. 37:50 - 3-month online program on Harmonic Leadership. 40:20 - What's the best way for people to learn more and connect with you?James Greenshields and his wife Kirsty joined us in February 2017 to explore how you can empower your family to positively affect your community and the world. That was Real Men Feel ep #48: Empowering the Family UnitLinksJames Greenshields -- https://www.emergentleadersfoundation.org/Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/james.greenshields1Email James at james@emergentleadersfoundation.orgResourcesPower vs. Force, by Dr David HawkinsEscape from Freedom, by Erice FrommPsychology and Alchemy, by Carl JungConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/groupSupport this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/supportYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 312 July 26, 2024

"It's amazing to love people every day as a job." A random feature of Real Men Feel is Regular Guy Chats. That is when I converse with an average dude who has nothing to promote but a willingness to share.It's been a year and a half since my last Regular Guy Chat. Today, I'm talking to Jake Marko, a young man I met last month in a Self-Leadership class we both attended.We discuss Jake's experiences with purpose, spiritual growth, and overcoming challenges. Jake discusses his life before and since his initiation with the Modern Mystery School. Jake also opens up about times he felt hopeless and what he's done to live a life of joy.Through it all, there's been a desire to share his voice and help people.Topics and Questions 1:49 - Why did you say yes to coming on Real Men Feel? 2:55 - What does sharing your voice mean to you? 4:53 - Have you always had this desire? 7:36 - What made you say yes to a Life Activation? 16:13 - What was it like becoming a healer? 20:59 - Andy's experience receiving a Life Activation. 25:34 - What are you proud of? 30:11 - What is one thing that you wish more men knew? 32:10 - Can you share a habit, book, or practice that has helped you? 34:43 - What are you looking forward to? 36:16 - What's the best way for people to learn more and connect with you?LinksJake Marko -- https://www.JakeMarko.comInstagram -- https://www.instagram.com/jakemarkohealingConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/groupSupport this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/supportYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel 311

Sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is ask for help. Men face a stigma about that, too.My guest today is Laverne Friesen. He is a former first responder who is passionate about raising awareness around the stigma of mental health after experiencing his own mental health crisis. Now, as a transformation coach, Laverne shares the wisdom he gained from his traumatic experiences to help others live fulfilling lives.Laverne shares his experience as a sexual abuse survivor in a fundamentalist family who went on to become a police officer and hid his mental health crisis for years.He shares what kept him going, the tools that helped him turn his life around, and the three-year-old angel that brought him back from the brink of suicide.Through it all, the stigma of what other people would think about him if they knew how badly he felt kept him quiet.Topics and Questions 1:31 - What is stigma? 2:32 - I know you had an interesting childhood; let's start there. 5:30 - First time seeing a police officer. 7:48 - Validating myself by helping others. 10:08 - I thought I had it made. 13:53 - Stigma of seeing a therapist. 18:50 - I had nothing left. I was completely apathetic. 25:59 - Having hope again. 27:33 - So angry at work. 36:49 - Laverne's most profound epiphany. 40:37 - The beauty of hardship. 47:16 - Directing our thoughts. 49:49 - What is the best way for people to discover what you are up to?LinksLaverne Friesen -- https://www.TrueEmotion.caTikTok -- https://www.tiktok.com/@trueemotionhealingFacebook -- https://www.facebook.com/LaverneFriesen97Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/trueemotioncoachConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantPersonal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/supportRMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/groupYouTube | https://youtube.com/realm#RealMenFeel 310 July 12, 2024

Today, we are exploring the power of words, especially the words we use when talking to ourselves. I'm going to share some tips on moving from belittling language to empowering phrases that you can use in your self-dialogue and conversations with others. One of my favorite things about coaching clients is listening and noticing what words they repeat the most and then pointing out how often their own words are working against them. Our words express our subconscious beliefs. They also express our thoughts, and thoughts become things. We put our words into the universe, and they are reflected back to us. Do you speak to yourself the way you would to your best friend, mom, child, or spouse, or are you much harsher, a tyrant to yourself? I invite you to raise your awareness of the words you use. In Africa, the Big Five are what everyone wants to see on safari. They are the big five game animals: the lion, leopard, rhinoceros, elephant, and African buffalo. In this episode of Real Men Feel, I share the Big Shitty Five - the most disempowering words and phrases we can all avoid for a better life. Wherever you discover Real Men Feel, please like, subscribe, follow, comment, and share. You can always email me your reaction or comments at realmenfeel@gmail.com Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talkInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andyfgrant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support RMF Facebook Group | https://realmenfeel.org/group #RealMenFeel ep 309

I recommend watching this episode instead of only listening to it, as I share some of my downsizing journey and give a tour of my home. We are preparing to move to a house 2,000 square feet smaller than the one we've lived in for the past 21 years. Listen in to discover how my father's sharing of Buddism made me think life sucks then you die. Also, learn how the experience of donating, selling, and trashing our possessions has been so far. Do you own your stuff, or does your stuff own you? I wish you successful detachment. Links Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andy_grant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org is for all things podcast-related! YouTube | Real Men Feel

Earlier today, I was part of a Let's Talk Fabulous panel discussing positive male role models. I enjoyed that conversation so much that I want to share more in a motor-mouth 10-minute brain dump. Topics Include What male role models did you see/have while growing up? What do you think are traits of a positive male role model? If the person who taught you what it means to be a man, through their words or actions, was a miserable bastard -- why would you continue to follow their example? Before I invited you to the show, did you already consider yourself a positive male role model? What are some challenges you see men going through today?  Any advice or tips for men who are trying to do/be better? What do you want women to know? How can women support you in your experience of being the best man you can be? How can men support each other? Too many men would rather be right than be happy. Be willing to be wrong. Here are three places to see the Let's Talk Fabulous episode on Positive Male Role Models. FACEBOOK -- https://www.facebook.com/letstalkfabulousshow/videos/474192231817313 YOUTUBE – https://www.youtube.com/live/5ef7AWjYk9k?si=k08zodgdryq0EPnF LINKEDIN – https://www.linkedin.com/events/let-stalkaboutpositivemalerolem7206140973528084480/theater/ Links Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andy_grant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast related! YouTube | Real Men Feel #RealMenFeel