Teal Swan

 Taking the other person as a part of yourself is what is required in order to have a good relationship. Teal Swan explains that doing this involves vulnerability, empathy and compassion. This is an experience of love and oneness… To feel that your partners pain is your pain and your partners happiness is your happiness. It is a practice of oneness. 

 The Defective Doll in this Ask Teal episode refers to your dysfunctional relationship with your parents or kids. It deals with your perception of who your child or parent is versus who you want them to be. Teal Swan explains that by seeing this dysfunctional dynamic we can truly see our relationships for what they are, and in turn heal them.  

 How has it come to this? How did we get to the current state of the human condition in loneliness, isolation and independence? This episode is about gradual evolution of loneliness throughout human history and the development of our social systems. 

 Teal Swan teaches us an Anger Exercise for Self Growth and Self Improvement. Anger is by far the emotional state that we disapprove of and try to suppress in ourselves as well as each other the very most. Anger is notorious for creating social conflict. But there is an amazing application for anger that most people would never suspect. 

 Are you or someone you love a victim of Self Hate, Suicidal Feelings, Self Harm, or Severe Depression? Understanding how self hate begins with how hatred for the self was developed during childhood is critical. How to stop hating yourself resides in the realization that Self Hatred is merely a coping mechanism developed in childhood. A Genius Coping Mechanism at that. 

Understanding School Shooters and how to prevent school shootings begins with understanding the school shooter’s emotional dynamics and emotional upbringing and surprisingly has nothing to do with guns or anti-gun sentiment. School Shooters are often isolated in a world unto themselves even when surrounded by other people. They feel misunderstood and like no one can feel their pain. Teal Swan discusses the emotional dynamics that create and sustain school shooters.

Everyone gets upset sometimes. But often, what makes the upset worse is that the upset can feel like a mess of painful emotions without much conscious understanding about why that upset is being experienced and even more so, why the upset is so bad, given the situation at hand.

Am I responsible for how other people feel? There are a couple answers to this question and many of them relate to our choice in our relationships. Some people take too much responsibility for how others feel, others take no responsibility at all. Teal explains that our responsibility is a choice and that we need to learn how to choose want we want rather than be led by what we think is right or wrong.

As people, we become addicted to knowing. We become addicted to the acquiring of knowledge. When we grasp a new concept, our brain releases a dose of chemicals similar to opium. Knowledge addiction gives the physical human a strong evolutionary advantage. We are guaranteed to progress if we are hard wired to learn. The human biological system, being a reflection of the greater universe (which is geared towards expansion), is essentially designed to maximize the rate at which new but understandable information is acquired. Once you have acquired a new bit of information, you spend your time learning something else. Without thinking about it, we pick out experiences that are new; experiences which cause us to know more. A biological addiction to know more is perfect design because it endows the physical human with a perpetuating beneficial learning behavior, even if misery and negative consequences are experienced along the way. This is helpful in an environment of contrast such as this.

When people start off on the path of healing something, they often do so with a feeling of excitement and empowerment. We feel like we have the power to actually create the feel good life that we want. Any time we find a new tool to heal with or approach to healing or new process and we experience some healing with it, we feel like we have finally found THE answer and that in no time, we will be completely healed. We will be living a healthy life of total bliss and harmony. And then something terrible happens. We hit something else that needs to be healed.