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Relentless tests. Lessons and gifts are optional. Relentless tests. Every second of your life, business & relationships. Question is though. Are you taking the lessons that matter and letting go what doesnt belong so you learn between tests? Are you accepting the gifts that helps both you and their giver, and letting the ones go that dont? Even if they are from yourself, fully formed, shiny and polished with hardwon sunc costs? When you grew up. School gave you lessons, then you take the test. And you though that was the "fair" order it was supposed to be done at. I believe that by embracing reality you see we are all given neverending tests and its very very optional if anyone will take the lesson. Less easy is to see its the same with gifts from your former self to yourself. What got you here wont get you there. Let go of that raft and habits that protected you so far so you can form new one that serves you better where you want to go from here. Instead of seeing goals and the long journey there. Embrace the hard obstacles right here right now. Help others move their for them, learning for yourself while doing it. Instead of longing for a smooth journey towards the goal. Embrace that the "deeper downs" will teach you better & faster. So so how can you weave in rest time so you can go deep on a hard problem when helpful? You level up faster in positions like that versus the dream you have of smooth sailing That position is a choice. That emotional labor is a choice. if whater you are feeling right now isnt what you want. Whats the lesson? Whats the gift from your former past, the company you keep. what are you carrying that you can lay down in favor of helping to carry something else? Sensortoipia. Metaverse. Data. machine learning. Fast pace of our world... Makes it hard to see the lesson longterm to say privacy yet you can still think about it right now. Who am I teaching right now? its so hard to missread reality thru the lens of the past. Its so easy to be blinded by the shiny object or goal in the future. Who am I teaching right now? Take a breath and ask yourself this six times centering on just one of the word each time you ask it. You just might see reality better. You are being tested all the time. Dont be unprepared. Dont autoaccept whats given. Whats worth that extra care? Who are worthy of that extra effort again and again?

About this eposide: I'm glad to introduce you to Özlem, our first guest in perhaps 6 years or something of weekly shipping. Since the 1990ths I have always created a few cyber communities where we have learned together. (On whatever voice platform made it most easy at the time) Almost every day I'd join a live voice channel in a joint venture within a game the group as a whole would be playing. This created a space where so many different age-groups, professions and walks of life met. Often and recurring working together creates remarkable spaces. One where we know during our day we have this "other" place where we can questions. Learn from others experiences or share when we feel vulnerable. On any topic from Life, business or anything. I thus jumped into AltMBA number 4. Knowing already at #1 it was for me but I feared I wasnt worthy enough to be there so took a while before I dared. I have since been part of 30 akimbo workshops and a remarkable coach in a few. Because I believe in learning together. Helping each other see better together. Feel seen for what matters. So when my friend Özlem started her course on Maven.com A platform where I've also been part of a few great community based courses I thought we should talk about whats inside her creation for your benefit. About your guest: Özlem Özkan is an author, podcaster, teacher and coach. She tells us more about how she got Seth Godin on her show, went from homeless to living in a monument, and how every NO brought her closer to the YES. Özlem was invited to be an instructor with Maven, a new cohort-based course platform founded by the co-founder of Udemy and the co-founder of altMBA. She is now teaching the cohort-based-course DARE TO ASK at Maven. To attend her free workshop go to https://lu.ma/ooj6zmcs Check out DARE TO ASK on https://maven.com/bridging-workshops/dare-to-ask?custom=true Özlem’s Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ozlemozkan/ Özlem’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ozkanozlem/?hl=en