

Self Obsessed
Tam Kaur
Tam Kaur’s Self-Obsessed is the ultimate guide to everything society didn’t want you to learn. In a world where women are criticised for wanting and being ‘too much’ it's time to change the narrative. Join our host Tam in learning how to be self-obsessed. After all, it’s only about prioritising your self-love, self-care, self-confidence, self-worth and self-growth.
‘Self-Obsessed’ simplifies the process of closing the gap between your current self and your desired self. Every episode is a straight-to-the-point carefully curated guide to help women everywhere fall in love with themselves. Each episode will provide actionable advice while navigating topics such as building confidence, embracing authenticity, setting boundaries, cultivating healthy relationships, and pursuing your passions.
So, consider this your safest space on the internet as Tam gives you the life secrets no-one else ever shared. It’s time to be your own idol.
‘Self-Obsessed’ simplifies the process of closing the gap between your current self and your desired self. Every episode is a straight-to-the-point carefully curated guide to help women everywhere fall in love with themselves. Each episode will provide actionable advice while navigating topics such as building confidence, embracing authenticity, setting boundaries, cultivating healthy relationships, and pursuing your passions.
So, consider this your safest space on the internet as Tam gives you the life secrets no-one else ever shared. It’s time to be your own idol.
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Sep 12, 2025 • 18min
how to heal your INNER CHILD & reinvent yourself | self love, trauma release + mindset shifts
the ultimate guide to inner child healing ✨ if you struggle with people-pleasing, over-apologizing, or low self-worth, it often comes from unmet childhood needs. in this video, i’ll show you how to heal your inner child through re-parenting routines, journaling, and neuroplasticity to rewire old beliefs. this is your blueprint to emotional healing, confidence & self love 💗♡ WHAT'S IN THIS PODCAST:00:00 Introduction: Understanding Your Inner Child04:52 Chapter 1: What is Your Inner Child? 07:36 Chapter 2: How to Heal Your Inner Child13:45 Chapter 3: Homework17:32 Conclusion 🛍️ SHOP & LINKS: SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTION use my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER STAY CONNECTED: MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKS Business enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com *My intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Sep 5, 2025 • 21min
the ULTIMATE back to school guide | mindset glow up, friendships, routines + study hacks
[ad] This is a paid advertisement by BetterHelp.Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/selfobsessed and get on your way to being your best self. this isn’t your average back-to-school advice video — this is the ULTIMATE Back-to-School Guide 2025 to help you glow up your mindset, routines, and study habits while reinventing yourself for the new school year.✨ instead of cliché tips, i’m sharing the mindset shifts and life systems that actually transform your high school experience: handling drama, making genuine friendships, romanticizing daily school life, mastering emotional intelligence, embracing failure as growth, and building effective routines that stick. this video is your blueprint to level up academically, socially, and personally — so you can step into your dream reality this year. ♡ WHAT'S IN THIS PODCAST: 00:00 — Introduction 01:15 — Chapter 1: Life and Drama 11:25 — Chapter 2: Studying and Goals 18:39 — Chapter 3: Homework 20:22 — Conclusion: Embrace the School Year Ahead🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSBusiness enquiries:tam@mvetalent.com*My intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Aug 29, 2025 • 16min
Obsessed With Manifesting | the easiest way to manifest your dream reality
my new obsessed with manifesting journal is out! 🪄. this isn’t just another manifestation journal you forget about in a week. it’s designed to actually help you rewire your beliefs and step into your dream reality using neuroscience, self-concept work, and powerful manifestation techniques. inside, you’ll find:✨ a vision board to map out your dream life✨ gratitude immersion + daily affirmations✨ law of assumption scripting & quantum leaping✨ aligned action plans + manifestation prompts✨ pages for detachment, self-concept & success trackingbasically, it’s everything i wish i had when i started my manifestation journey. and in this video, i’m also answering some of your most common questions — like how to manifest properly, how to build a journaling routine, and the psychology behind why these practices actually work.if you’re ready to stop manifesting the wrong way + finally create the life you’ve been visualizing, this video is for you. ♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:44 Chapter 1: Manifestation Myths 02:18 Chapter 2: How is Obsessed with Manifesting Different?08:02 Chapter 3: Why Does Obsessed with Manifesting Work? 11:55 Chapter 4: Obsessed with Manifesting Q&A ---🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSBusiness enquiries:tam@mvetalent.com*My intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Aug 15, 2025 • 28min
the ULTIMATE guide to friendships | advice I WISH I knew earlier to build lasting friendships
friendships are harder than relationships sometimes… and no one talks about it. this is the ✨ULTIMATE ✨guide to friendships — the advice i wish i knew earlier to build real, aligned, and lasting connections. we’re diving into red flags, green flags, setting boundaries, and why so many of us settle for surface-level friendships. if you’ve ever felt misunderstood, drained, or unsure of your standards, this video is for you 🤍 ♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO: 00:00 Introduction 01:50 Chapter 1: What to Avoid in Friendships 10:29 Chapter 2: Setting Your Standards 19:36 Chapter 3: Being a Great Friend 26:41 Conclusion 🛍️ SHOP & LINKS: SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTION use my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide! SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL PRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNAL ORDER MY BOOK THE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER STAY CONNECTED: MY INSTAGRAM MY SNAPCHAT [BTS] MY YOUTUBE MY VLOGS LISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS PODCAST INSTAGRAM MY OTHER LINKS Business enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com *my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Aug 4, 2025 • 19min
how to MASTER self-love while dating | detachment, boundaries, & self-worth no one talks about
mastering self-love while dating isn’t always easy — especially when no one talks about the detachment, boundaries, confidence, and self-worth it really takes. if you’ve ever felt like you start shrinking in relationships, this video is for you. i’m sharing the exact mindset shifts that helped me stay independent, grounded, and fully in my power while navigating love. after spending time single, focused on building my dream life and reconnecting with myself, i learned that the right relationship should expand your world — not consume it. whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or healing from one, this video will help you protect your peace, stop overgiving, and keep becoming her — the woman you were always meant to be. 💅🏽💖♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Self-Love and Independence02:21 Chapter 1: The Talk08:44 Chapter 2: The Lifestyle15:43 Chapter 3: Homework18:48 Final Thoughts🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSBusiness enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com*My intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Jul 25, 2025 • 18min
the 5 laws of self-obsession | how to build unshakable confidence & start choosing YOU
the 5 laws of self-obsession aren’t about being selfish — they’re about how to build unshakable confidence, protect your peace, and start choosing you. in this episode, i share the mindset shifts that helped me heal, stop people pleasing, and finally become the most confident, grounded version of myself. we’ll talk self-love, boundaries, personal growth, and how to rewrite the stories you tell yourself. if you’ve ever been told you’re “too much” for simply prioritizing yourself — this one’s for you. ✨ it’s time to reclaim your power and start living for you. 💅🏽💭💖♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction: Why Self-Obsession Isn’t Selfish01:11 Critique of Societal Views on Self-Obsession02:41 Law 1: The Mirror Law06:22 Law 2: The Boundary Law08:25 Law 3: The Celebration Law10:18 Law 4: The Upgrade Law13:04 Law 5: The Rewire Law15:52 Final Words of Empowerment🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSBusiness enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com*My intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Jul 18, 2025 • 14min
watch this when you're in a slump
<p><strong>feeling stuck or in a slump? here’s your sign to reset and realign 🫶 i’ve been there. in this video, i’m sharing 7 reminders and mindset shifts that helped me break out of low-energy phases and reconnect with my higher self. we’ll talk about how to stop spiraling, reconnect with your future self, and turn quiet seasons into your biggest growth moments. whether you’re going through a rough patch or just feeling off, this is your sign to reset, reflect, and step into your comeback era.</p><p>🛍️ <strong>shop my abbott lyon collection:</strong> <a href="https://www.abbottlyon.io/TamKaur-YouTube-Collection" target="_blank">https://www.abbottlyon.io/TamKaur-YouTube-Collection</a><br>use my exclusive code <strong>TAM2FOR1</strong> for buy one get one FREE sitewide!</p><p><strong>♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:</strong><br>00:00 – Overcoming the Slump Phase<br>01:14 – Fact 1: Emotions Are Not Reality<br>03:19 – Fact 2: It's Just a Phase<br>05:27 – Fact 3: Stop Identifying with the Slump<br>06:59 – Fact 4: One Decision Away<br>08:32 – Fact 5: Future Self Knows Best<br>10:32 – Fact 6: Resisting the Next Version of You<br>12:28 – Fact 7: You Are Resilient<br>13:28 – Final Motivation</p><p><strong>SHOP & LINKS:</strong><br><a href="https://tamkaur.com/products/growthjournal?_pos=1&_sid=e42fa6aa8&_ss=r" target="_blank">SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL</a><br><a href="https://tamkaur.com/products/manifestationjournal" target="_blank">PRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNAL</a><br><a href="https://geni.us/TamKaurBook" target="_blank">ORDER MY BOOK</a><br><a href="https://tamkaur.com/" target="_blank">THE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER</a></p><p><strong>STAY CONNECTED:</strong><br><a href="https://www.instagram.com/tamkaur/?hl=en" target="_blank">MY INSTAGRAM</a><br><a href="https://story.snapchat.com/s/tamxkaur" target="_blank">MY SNAPCHAT [BTS]</a><br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/@tamkaur" target="_blank">MY YOUTUBE</a><br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/@TamKaurVlogs" target="_blank">MY VLOGS</a><br><a href="https://linktr.ee/selfobsessed" target="_blank">LISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS</a><br><a href="https://www.instagram.com/selfobsessedpodcast/?hl=en" target="_blank">PODCAST INSTAGRAM</a><br><a href="https://bio.site/tamkaur" target="_blank">MY OTHER LINKS</a></p><p><strong>Business enquiries:</strong> <a href="mailto:tam@mvetalent.com">tam@mvetalent.com</a></p><p><em>*My intro and outro music was made by the incredible <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUfCnZxvAKI&t=1s" target="_blank">@raaginder</a>!</em></p>

Jul 15, 2025 • 17min
relationship RED flags that are actually GREEN | 10 healthy dating signs every woman needs to know
<p>💚 you might be pushing away healthy love without even realizing it. in today’s episode, we’re talking about the 10 “red flags” in men that are actually signs of emotional maturity — and why your past might be making you miss them. from taking time to reply, moving slow, having female friends, or even being a little “boring”… these things aren’t toxic, they’re actually green flags 🫶</p><p>🛍️ <strong>shop my abbott lyon collection:</strong> <a href="https://www.abbottlyon.io/TamKaur-YouTube-Collection" target="_blank">https://www.abbottlyon.io/TamKaur-YouTube-Collection</a><br>use my exclusive code <strong>TAM2FOR1</strong> for buy one get one FREE sitewide!</p><p><strong>♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:</strong><br>00:00 – Introduction<br>01:45 – Debunking Dating Red Flags<br>01:49 – Green Flag #1: He is Picky<br>03:13 – Green Flag #2: He Rejects You<br>04:54 – Green Flag #3: No Past Relationships<br>05:55 – Green Flag #4: Has Female Friends<br>07:11 – Green Flag #5: Takes Time to Texting Back<br>09:03 – Green Flag #6: Challenges You<br>10:36 – Green Flag #7: He Has His Own Life<br>12:03 – Green Flag #8: He Moves Slow<br>13:53 – Green Flag #9: There Are No Sparks<br>15:48 – Conclusion</p><p><strong>SHOP & LINKS:</strong><br><a href="https://tamkaur.com/products/growthjournal?_pos=1&_sid=e42fa6aa8&_ss=r" target="_blank">SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL</a><br><a href="https://tamkaur.com/products/manifestationjournal" target="_blank">PRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNAL</a><br><a href="https://geni.us/TamKaurBook" target="_blank">ORDER MY BOOK</a><br><a href="https://tamkaur.com/" target="_blank">THE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER</a></p><p><strong>STAY CONNECTED:</strong><br><a href="https://www.instagram.com/tamkaur/?hl=en" target="_blank">MY INSTAGRAM</a><br><a href="https://story.snapchat.com/s/tamxkaur" target="_blank">MY SNAPCHAT [BTS]</a><br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/@tamkaur" target="_blank">MY YOUTUBE</a><br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/@TamKaurVlogs" target="_blank">MY VLOGS</a><br><a href="https://linktr.ee/selfobsessed" target="_blank">LISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS</a><br><a href="https://www.instagram.com/selfobsessedpodcast/?hl=en" target="_blank">PODCAST INSTAGRAM</a><br><a href="https://bio.site/tamkaur" target="_blank">MY OTHER LINKS</a></p><p><strong>Business enquiries:</strong> <a href="mailto:tam@mvetalent.com">tam@mvetalent.com</a></p><p><em>*My intro and outro music was made by the incredible <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUfCnZxvAKI&t=1s" target="_blank">@raaginder</a>!</em></p>

Jul 3, 2025 • 20min
it’s time YOU became the center of your own universe | detachment, inner peace & true confidence
Tired of pleasing others and seeking validation? Discover how to center yourself and reclaim your confidence. Learn the importance of self-awareness and personal agency in achieving fulfillment. Embrace self-discovery while setting intentions grounded in your desires. Find actionable steps for personal growth, including journaling and curating a positive online environment. This insightful discussion encourages you to let go of external validation and embrace authentic self-expression.

Jun 20, 2025 • 19min
MID YEAR RESET: you have 6 months LEFT to make 2025 the BEST year yet. This is how.
As we hit the midpoint of the year, it’s the perfect time to reset and realign your goals. Discover a six-step strategy designed to help you reassess your progress. Learn how to get back to basics and celebrate your wins, while also turning losses into valuable lessons. The importance of scheduling is emphasized to keep you on track. This mid-year check-in is your chance to shift into your highest self and make the rest of 2025 extraordinary!