Self Obsessed

Tam Kaur

Tam Kaur’s Self-Obsessed is the ultimate guide to everything society didn’t want you to learn. In a world where women are criticised for wanting and being ‘too much’ it's time to change the narrative. Join our host Tam in learning how to be self-obsessed. After all, it’s only about prioritising your self-love, self-care, self-confidence, self-worth and self-growth.
‘Self-Obsessed’ simplifies the process of closing the gap between your current self and your desired self. Every episode is a straight-to-the-point carefully curated guide to help women everywhere fall in love with themselves. Each episode will provide actionable advice while navigating topics such as building confidence, embracing authenticity, setting boundaries, cultivating healthy relationships, and pursuing your passions.
So, consider this your safest space on the internet as Tam gives you the life secrets no-one else ever shared. It’s time to be your own idol.

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Dec 26, 2025 • 22min

2026 vision board that ACTUALLY works [2025 goals came true] | manifest tips, goals & becoming her

Nov 21, 2025 • 32min

GIRL TALK Q&A: dating advice, friendship jealousy, self-worth & feeling behind in your 20s

feeling behind in your 20s? comparing yourself to friends? struggling with dating or confidence? in this girl talk q&a, i’m answering your real dilemmas — from friendship jealousy and dating rejection to self-worth, glow-ups, and navigating your own timeline. whether you’re dealing with unrequited love, envy in friendships, or just trying to figure out your dream career, this is your reminder you’re not alone. grab a matcha, plug in, and let’s get honest. 🤍☕️♡ WHAT’S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction01:18 Dilemmas in Love and Dating06:46 Navigating Friendships14:46 Self-Love and Confidence22:19 Goals and Career Advice30:25 Conclusion🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:Epidemic Sound*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Nov 21, 2025 • 19min

how i became the woman of my dreams and how you can too

how i became the woman of my dreams 💫 — after years of chasing validation, overworking, and holding onto past versions of myself, i realized true growth begins when you stop waiting for permission and start becoming her — the version of you who chooses herself daily. in this video, i open up about the mindset shifts, identity shedding, and inner work that helped me raise my standards, embrace discomfort, and start living with intention. this journey isn’t about perfection— it’s about evolving into the woman you’ve always known you could be.♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction01:09 The Importance of Self-Discovery02:18 Embracing Change and Letting Go04:52 Creating Your Alter Ego05:48 Focusing on the Steps, Not the Goal07:30 The Power of Continuous Learning13:01 Manifesting Your Dream Life14:22 Investing in Yourself and Your Business16:09 Overcoming Fear and Taking Action17:55 Conclusion🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:Epidemic Sound*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Oct 25, 2025 • 38min

25 life lessons I learnt at 25 | self-care, success & the mindset glow-up that changed everything

[ad] This is a paid advertisement by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/selfobsessed and get on your way to being your best self.25 life lessons I learned at 25 🎂— this video is a reflection on everything the past year has taught me about growth, mindset, and becoming the woman I’ve always wanted to be. from overcoming past failures and trusting my intuition to protecting my energy, finding balance, and learning the power of therapy — these are the lessons that truly changed how I see myself and the world. turning 25 has been all about evolving, embracing discomfort, and letting go of what no longer serves me. whether you’re navigating your own season of change or simply looking for motivation to keep growing, I hope these lessons remind you that self-care, consistency, and courage will always take you further than fear ever could. 🤍♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction01:37 Lesson 1: Forget the Past03:11 Lesson 2: You Are What You Consume04:22 Lesson 3: Protect Your Energy05:20 Lesson 4: Trust Your Intuition06:23 Lesson 5: Starting Therapy08:25 Lesson 6: People Aren't Villains, They're Limited09:53 Lesson 7: Lock Into Your Goals11:30 Lesson 8: Get Comfortable Making Others Uncomfortable12:51 Lesson 9: Find Joy in the Way You Do Things14:46 Lesson 10: Life is Too Short Not to Get Closure16:11 Lesson 11: Find Your Outdated Subconscious Scripts17:27 Lesson 12: New Eras Come with Loneliness19:18 Lesson 13: Regulate Before You Grind20:48 Lesson 14: Stop Using Struggle as an Identity22:09 Lesson 15: You Attract What You Believe You Are Worthy Of23:32 Lesson 16: Healing Isn't About Not Being Triggered24:23 Lesson 17: The Things You Want to Do Require Confidence25:50 Lesson 18: Your Soulmate is Like Nothing You Ever Imagined27:31 Lesson 19: Stop Feeling Bad28:55 Lesson 20: Future Self Mentoring30:02 Lesson 21: Falling Out of Frequency31:06 Lesson 22: Rest and Balance for True Manifestation32:38 Lesson 23: Discomfort is the Cost of an Interesting Life33:33 Lesson 24: Ask More Questions35:00 Lesson 25: Get Obsessed with Your Potential36:22 Conclusion🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:Epidemic Sound*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Oct 17, 2025 • 22min

how to find REAL HAPPINESS | stop burnout, people pleasing & quick dopamine

[ad] This is a paid advertisement by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/selfobsessed and get on your way to being your best self.the happiness trap 💭— in this podcast, i’m sharing the mindset shifts that helped me break free from the constant chase for success and finally understand what real fulfillment feels like. after hitting 100,000 subscribers in 2022 and still feeling empty, i realized i had fallen into the arrival fallacy — the belief that happiness exists in the next achievement. this episode is all about resetting your relationship with success, detoxing from quick dopamine highs, and building daily habits that support long-term peace. from reframing your goals to practicing resilience, gratitude, and guided journaling, this is your reminder that happiness isn’t a destination — it’s a daily choice. let’s reconnect with the present, redefine what it means to feel “enough,” and build a life rooted in meaning, not milestones. ✨♡ WHAT'S IN THIS PODCAST:00:00 Introduction: The Illusion of Happiness02:05 Chapter 1: Happiness Myths That Are Keeping You Stuck09:15 Chapter 2: Mindset Shifts for Happiness14:34 Chapter 3: Actions to Be Happier21:19 Conclusion🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSBusiness enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Oct 10, 2025 • 24min

10 STEPS TO LOCK IN BEFORE 2026 | goal-setting, realigning, building habits & glow up secrets

10 steps to lock in before 2026 ❄️ — this is your chance to reset, realign, and transform before the new year begins. in this podcast, i’m sharing how to design a winter arc routine that’s tailored to your lifestyle and goals. from goal-setting and identity shifts to dopamine detox strategies and glow up secrets, these are the steps that will help you stay consistent, disciplined, and aligned. let’s lock in together this season and build habits, routines, and mindsets that feel sustainable, empowering, and transformative before stepping into 2026 ✨♡ WHAT'S IN THIS PODCAST:00:00 Introduction: The Great Lock-In of 202502:53 Step 1: Environment Creates Flow05:49 Step 2: Set Friction Against Sabotage Habits07:39 Step 3: Make Your Lock-In Enjoyable10:08 Step 4: Energy is Everything11:47 Step 5: Take a Dopamine Detox13:05 Step 6: Set Your Game Plan15:00 Step 7: Manifest Like a Pro17:01 Step 8: Weekly Reviews and Course Corrections18:26 Step 9: Challenge Your Identity20:57 Step 10: Forget Your Feelings22:31 Conclusion and Final Thoughts🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSBusiness enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Sep 12, 2025 • 18min

how to heal your INNER CHILD & reinvent yourself | self love, trauma release + mindset shifts

the ultimate guide to inner child healing ✨ if you struggle with people-pleasing, over-apologizing, or low self-worth, it often comes from unmet childhood needs. in this video, i’ll show you how to heal your inner child through re-parenting routines, journaling, and neuroplasticity to rewire old beliefs. this is your blueprint to emotional healing, confidence & self love 💗♡ WHAT'S IN THIS PODCAST:00:00 Introduction: Understanding Your Inner Child04:52 Chapter 1: What is Your Inner Child? 07:36 Chapter 2: How to Heal Your Inner Child13:45 Chapter 3: Homework17:32 Conclusion 🛍️ SHOP & LINKS: SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTION use my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER STAY CONNECTED: MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKS Business enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com *My intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

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