Self Obsessed

Tam Kaur

Tam Kaur’s Self-Obsessed is the ultimate guide to everything society didn’t want you to learn. In a world where women are criticised for wanting and being ‘too much’ it's time to change the narrative. Join our host Tam in learning how to be self-obsessed. After all, it’s only about prioritising your self-love, self-care, self-confidence, self-worth and self-growth.
‘Self-Obsessed’ simplifies the process of closing the gap between your current self and your desired self. Every episode is a straight-to-the-point carefully curated guide to help women everywhere fall in love with themselves. Each episode will provide actionable advice while navigating topics such as building confidence, embracing authenticity, setting boundaries, cultivating healthy relationships, and pursuing your passions.
So, consider this your safest space on the internet as Tam gives you the life secrets no-one else ever shared. It’s time to be your own idol.

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Aug 4, 2025 • 19min

how to MASTER self-love while dating | detachment, boundaries, & self-worth no one talks about

mastering self-love while dating isn’t always easy — especially when no one talks about the detachment, boundaries, confidence, and self-worth it really takes. if you’ve ever felt like you start shrinking in relationships, this video is for you. i’m sharing the exact mindset shifts that helped me stay independent, grounded, and fully in my power while navigating love. after spending time single, focused on building my dream life and reconnecting with myself, i learned that the right relationship should expand your world — not consume it. whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or healing from one, this video will help you protect your peace, stop overgiving, and keep becoming her — the woman you were always meant to be. 💅🏽💖♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Self-Love and Independence02:21 Chapter 1: The Talk08:44 Chapter 2: The Lifestyle15:43 Chapter 3: Homework18:48 Final Thoughts🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSBusiness enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com*My intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Jul 25, 2025 • 18min

the 5 laws of self-obsession | how to build unshakable confidence & start choosing YOU

the 5 laws of self-obsession aren’t about being selfish — they’re about how to build unshakable confidence, protect your peace, and start choosing you. in this episode, i share the mindset shifts that helped me heal, stop people pleasing, and finally become the most confident, grounded version of myself. we’ll talk self-love, boundaries, personal growth, and how to rewrite the stories you tell yourself. if you’ve ever been told you’re “too much” for simply prioritizing yourself — this one’s for you. ✨ it’s time to reclaim your power and start living for you. 💅🏽💭💖♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction: Why Self-Obsession Isn’t Selfish01:11 Critique of Societal Views on Self-Obsession02:41 Law 1: The Mirror Law06:22 Law 2: The Boundary Law08:25 Law 3: The Celebration Law10:18 Law 4: The Upgrade Law13:04 Law 5: The Rewire Law15:52 Final Words of Empowerment🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALPRE-ORDER MY MANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSBusiness enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com*My intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Jul 18, 2025 • 14min

watch this when you're in a slump

Jul 15, 2025 • 17min

relationship RED flags that are actually GREEN | 10 healthy dating signs every woman needs to know

Jul 3, 2025 • 20min

it’s time YOU became the center of your own universe | detachment, inner peace & true confidence

Tired of pleasing others and seeking validation? Discover how to center yourself and reclaim your confidence. Learn the importance of self-awareness and personal agency in achieving fulfillment. Embrace self-discovery while setting intentions grounded in your desires. Find actionable steps for personal growth, including journaling and curating a positive online environment. This insightful discussion encourages you to let go of external validation and embrace authentic self-expression.

Jun 20, 2025 • 19min

MID YEAR RESET: you have 6 months LEFT to make 2025 the BEST year yet. This is how.

As we hit the midpoint of the year, it’s the perfect time to reset and realign your goals. Discover a six-step strategy designed to help you reassess your progress. Learn how to get back to basics and celebrate your wins, while also turning losses into valuable lessons. The importance of scheduling is emphasized to keep you on track. This mid-year check-in is your chance to shift into your highest self and make the rest of 2025 extraordinary!

Jun 13, 2025 • 28min

GIRL TALK Q&A: toxic friends, dating drama, healthy relationships, goals and self love [PART 7]

ITS THAT TIME AGAIN GIRLIES! I'm answering all of your juicy dilemmas and sharing real advice you can actually use. from calling out red flags in relationships, dealing with toxic friendships, and setting boundaries, to healing your self-esteem, building confidence, and learning how to stop comparing yourself to others. we’re also talking about normalizing your wins, trusting your timeline, and how to stay focused on your own growth 💖 grab a drink and let’s get into it!♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction00:54 Dating Dilemmas: Identifying Red Flags and Breaking Cycles10:42 Friendship Dilemmas: Setting Standards and Identifying Envy17:16 Being Your Best Self: Achieving Goals and Self-Love26:02 Final ThoughtsRESOURCES & LINKS: SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL:https://tamkaur.com/products/growthjournal?_pos=1&_sid=e42fa6aa8&_ss=rPODCAST INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/selfobsessedpodcast/?hl=enLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS:https://linktr.ee/selfobsessedORDER MY BOOK:https://geni.us/TamKaurBookTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER:https://tamkaur.com/STAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/tamkaur/?hl=enMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]:https://story.snapchat.com/s/tamxkaurMY YOUTUBE:https://www.youtube.com/@tamkaurMY VLOGS:https://www.youtube.com/@TamKaurVlogsMY OTHER LINKS:https://bio.site/tamkaurFor business enquiries please contact:tam@mvetalent.com*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder !

Jun 9, 2025 • 21min

REALITY CHECK: Why Your Life Still Hasn’t Changed (Even After All Your Effort)

Feeling stuck despite your hard work? Discover why effort alone isn't enough for real transformation. Learn how the subconscious mind shapes your reality and the importance of mindset shifts. Unlock the power of meditation and visualization to reprogram your thoughts. Explore environmental and lifestyle conditioning to create lasting change. This discussion offers practical tools to help you reshape your beliefs and align with your goals.

May 30, 2025 • 22min

how to become UNRECOGNIZABLE by summer 2025 | daily habits, beauty hacks, mindset shifts & glow up

Explore the ultimate guide to transforming into your best self by summer 2025! Discover beauty tips, nutrition advice, and personal style strategies that empower you to shine. Embrace your individuality and foster emotional resilience while building confidence through gratitude practices. Learn how to integrate self-care and fun into your daily routine, moving away from hustle culture. This is your blueprint for intentional living and manifesting the glow-up of your dreams!

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May 23, 2025 • 14min

life is a movie & you’re the STAR so ACT like it | the ultimate guide to being the main character

Step into the spotlight and become the star of your own life story! Discover how to rewrite your inner dialogue and embrace 'main character energy' to live authentically. Learn to ditch the need for external validation and romanticize your daily rituals. With mindset shifts and practical action steps, you'll glow up from the inside out, becoming the person your younger self always dreamed of. It’s time to take control of your narrative and make your life a movie worth watching!

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