When you feel shame around having viewed pornography, blame is never far behind. Whether you blame yourself and experience more shame or you find someone else to blame for what you’re going through, this is a trap many of my clients are stuck in when they first come to me.   Start the work of escaping the shame-blame trap. I’m sharing why, even though it’s difficult to talk yourself out of shame, you can move through it with compassion for yourself, without resorting to blaming others.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/shame-blame-trap

I’m sharing a replay of one of the most important episodes of this podcast to date all about one of the foundational things you need to understand if you want to quit viewing porn and never go back to it: urges.   Discover why you don’t have to push your urges away or try to silence them. Like any new skill, there will be failures along the way. But when you are no longer scared of your urges, I promise, you’ll be able to approach them in a way that will completely change your life.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/essential-episodes-stop-fearing-urges

I have a special guest on the show this week. Kat Jenkins is one of the coaches in Overcome Pornography for Good and she recently completed some certifications in breathwork.   Discover what breathwork is and how it can help you quit viewing pornography for good. Kat and I are discussing how buffering with pornography impacts your nervous system, and how breathwork can bring ease and calm into your body when you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/breathwork-kat-jenkins  

You might be thinking that if you can just get through this week without viewing porn, then you’re on the right track. But the truth is, we need to look at the long term, and this requires that you stop thinking in weeks or even months, and start thinking in years.   Learn why thinking in years makes for more sustainable action than only looking at the short term, and how to benefit from the compound effect of implementing a long-term strategy.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/think-in-years

Tina Gosney is a Certified Family Relationship Coach who helps LDS parents who have a child leaving the church, and she’s also an incredible coach and asset in our Overcome Pornography for Good program.   Tina walks us through the 10 loopholes that keep you from changing. You’ll hear why you shouldn’t let these loopholes send you into a shame spiral if you relate to them, and how to start questioning the loopholes that your brain tries to offer you.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/loopholes-tina-gosney

Have you ever found yourself feeling desensitized to porn and the process of trying to quit? You might feel miserable, exhausted, and just don’t care anymore.   Discover what might be leading you to feeling desensitized, and my recommendations for what to do when you find yourself feeling this way. You’ll hear how to listen to your body’s signals in these moments, and why, when you do, you’ll be able to quit viewing porn so much easier and faster.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/feeling-desensitized

Tune in this week for a simple exercise that will help you understand what’s going on in your brain when you have intrusive thoughts on a deeper level. I’m sharing why trying to stop, avoid, or question your intrusive thoughts will only make them worse, and how to instead accept them and let them pass.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/pink-elephant-and-intrusive-thoughts

Tune in this week to discover what your anger is trying to tell you, and how to keep the focus on yourself as you work through anger that relates to other people. I’m sharing some stories from my own life about anger, why anger is just a package, and how to start unpacking your anger in a way that helps you let it go.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/anger

Discover where you’re choosing indulgence over self-love and the important differences between the two. I’m sharing how our brains find it so difficult to show ourselves compassion and some thoughts you can try to show up with more self-love when you need it most.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/self-love-is-not-indulgence

Tune in this week to dig deeper into your story of you. I’m giving you a practical exercise to get clear on the ways your story of you is leaving you feeling unworthy and shameful, so you can get clear on the facts of your story and how your thoughts about these facts are making your story feel a whole lot worse.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/the-story-of-you