The realm of sexuality can sometimes be erotic, strange, or even dark, and that’s okay. If you’ve spent your life demonizing or rejecting your sexuality, you’ve probably found it extremely challenging to cut back on or completely cut out viewing pornography, and the answer here is to start accepting and loving your sexuality instead.   Learn how understanding the differences between fantasy, desire, and choice is the secret to using your sexuality for good. I’m showing you the importance of knowing what is and isn’t real in porn, what to do if you’re distressed by intrusive sexual thoughts, and how to integrate your sexuality into your whole human experience.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/fantasy-desire-intrusive-thoughts-porn-literacy

Last week, I shared part one of this milestone where we dove into what it means to use your sexuality for good and what that can look like. I also touched on porn panic and started dispelling myths about porn that just aren’t true, and I’m sharing even more myths about pornography this week that may be keeping you stuck.   I dispel more porn myths that are creating panic, shame, and fear, and show you how most of the research available to us is biased. Learn about the ongoing research project we’re undertaking, non-shame-based reasons for you to work through a porn habit, and why busting these myths will give you more freedom and control over how you want to use your sexuality.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/healthy-sexuality-part-2

Sexual shame and purity culture teach us that sexuality is bad and inherently sinful, and I’m inviting you to question that narrative this week. The truth is your sexuality is neutral, but you may have been taught that your sexuality is something to be feared.   Hear my thoughts on healthy sexuality and what using your sexuality for good can look like. I’m exploring the key concepts that will help you reduce the shame you’re experiencing, busting the most common myths about porn that might be holding you back, and addressing the moral panic that comes from porn use.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/healthy-sexuality-part-1

Coach Jessica Farmer is here to answer this Ask a Coach question this week. In a world where we’ve been taught to shut down our emotions, you’re not alone if paying attention to your body feels challenging. However, if it often feels like your emotions are in control of you, learning how to truly feel your emotions is vital.   Jessica explains the importance of gaining awareness of the physical manifestations of your emotions. Learn what it means to ‘feel’ it in your body and where to start if you’re struggling to feel your physical sensations.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-feeling-your-body

We’ve been Sara Brewer Coaching since day one, and we are now rebranding to The Center for Overcoming Pornography. This is an outward manifestation of all the internal changes that have been happening in me, my business, and my team, and I can’t wait to tell you all about it.   Hear why this rebrand is happening, the big updates that are coming to the program, and how all of this affects you.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/rebrand-the-center-for-overcoming-pornography

The problem with trusting other people, whether that’s a specific leader, congregation, or organization, is that you’ll often get differing or contradicting opinions. This is an exhausting and defeating place to be, and it’s incredibly disempowering.   Learn what it means to develop your personal spiritual authority and why it matters more than you might think. I show you what to do if you find yourself leaning on others to tell you what’s good or best for your life, examples of subtle spiritual abuse, and how to recognize the depth of your connection to your highest, most spiritual self.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/personal-spiritual-authority    

It’s not your fault if you’ve been unable to quit your porn habit. Most people have been told to just stop, use more willpower, pray, or focus on connections in their lives. These approaches don’t get to the root cause of unwanted porn use and actually make it worse in most cases.   Join me on this episode to learn how the quit porn industry is not addressing the root issue of porn use, and why you need to get underneath the surface to truly heal. You’ll hear how my approach addresses the drivers of unwanted porn use, and why it’s changing the lives of my clients.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/missing-from-quit-porn-industry

Have you ever found yourself wondering why you made a decision that you know wasn’t in your best interest? What do you do when you experience an urge and have difficulty moving through it? Why does it sometimes feel impossible to make conscious decisions from your higher brain?   If you’ve ever found it challenging to think through your decisions, you’re not alone. Prioritizing nervous system healing in these moments is the secret to bringing your brain back online, but it can be difficult to practice. That’s why this week, I’m sharing some simple ideas for grounding and orienting yourself when nothing else seems to be working.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/prioritizing-nervous-system-healing

This week, I’m joined by sex and intimacy coach for married couples, Dan Purcell. Dan is the founder of Get Your Marriage On: a step-by-step program designed for couples who want more closeness, deeper intimacy, honesty, and an exciting sex life. He’s also the creator of the Intimately Us app, host of the Get Your Marriage On podcast, and leads retreats, all with a Christian perspective.   I invited Dan on to the show this week to dive into a specific scripture from The Sermon on the Mount where Christ says, “Whoever lusteth after a woman has committed adultery in his heart.” If this scripture has been something you’ve battled with on your porn journey, listen in this week as Dan and I explore its interpretations and how we can use it in a way that serves us better.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/interpreting-scripture-dan-purcell

If you’re a long-time listener of the show, you’ll understand the crucial role your beliefs play in your ability to overcome your pornography habit. That’s why helping you intentionally create new thoughts and beliefs is a foundational part of my work, and the magic lies in repetition.   Join me this week to hear why there’s magic in repetition, how I incorporate the power of repetition into my daily life, and how using my Belief Plan guided meditation will help create new neural pathways in your brain so you can believe new thoughts that serve you on your journey.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/repetition-magic