Overcome Pornography for Good

Do you ever feel like you're caught between believing you're either a good person or a bad person? This kind of black-and-white thinking can lead to frustration, especially when trying to change unwanted behaviors. The truth is, we all embody both positive and negative qualities—this duality is a part of being human. In this episode, I explore how embracing this dual nature is key to creating lasting change. Trying to label ourselves as entirely good or bad creates unnecessary resistance, especially when we face challenges. Instead, accepting that we're both gives us the freedom to be honest with ourselves and move forward without shame or self-pity.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/living-duality-good-bad

Do you ever find yourself stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts that feel impossible to break? It’s easy to get caught up in self-doubt, frustration, or fear, believing those thoughts as truths. But what if, in that moment, you could choose a different path? In today’s episode, I’m revisiting the Choose Again Method, a simple and powerful technique to help you shift negative thinking and build a more positive mindset. This method is based on the idea that we don’t have to accept every thought that crosses our minds. The Choose Again Method involves three simple steps that help you choose a thought that feels better. It’s not about ignoring difficult emotions or forcing yourself into positivity; it’s about taking intentional steps to shift your thinking in a way that aligns with what you truly want. This method has been a game-changer for so many of my clients, and it can be just as impactful for you. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/choose-again-shifting-negative-thoughts

When your emotions feel like they're spiraling out of control, your body already knows what to do. In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins introduces a powerful hands-on technique called Jin Shin Jyutsu finger holds. This grounding practice assigns each finger to a specific emotion.  Through this guided practice, you'll discover how to use your own hands as tools for emotional regulation. Kat walks you through each finger hold step-by-step, explaining not just the technique but the deeper connections to your body's energy systems. You'll learn to recognize which emotions need attention and how to address them directly through this simple yet profound practice that you can use anywhere, anytime you need grounding.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/processing-emotions-jin-shin-jyutsu

Do you ever feel like you should be further along in overcoming pornography? Despite knowing the tools, listening to the podcasts, and doing the work, something still feels off. It’s a common frustration that often leads to the belief that either you’re not trying hard enough or the tools aren’t working for you. In this episode, Coach Hunter addresses this struggle by revealing a crucial shift in perspective. The issue isn’t that you need more tools or that you need to work harder; it’s that you haven’t fully understood where you are right now. Shifting from “doing more” to “understanding where you are” is the key to moving forward with confidence.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/recognizing-progress-feel-stuck-hunter

Is watching porn considered cheating? It’s a question many people wrestle with, and the answer isn’t black and white. In this episode, I explore the emotional complexities surrounding pornography use in committed relationships and how it intersects with infidelity, betrayal, and sexual boundaries. I dive into how personal values, inherited beliefs, and unspoken agreements shape how we view fidelity. I discuss how infidelity isn’t defined by specific actions, but rather by breaking agreements and trust. Through this conversation, you’ll gain insights on navigating difficult conversations, co-creating agreements with your partner, and understanding the role of shame and fear in shaping sexual beliefs. If you’re struggling with porn use or your partner’s, this episode provides a roadmap for moving forward with clarity and compassion.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/watching-porn-considered-cheating

Have you ever felt sadness or confusion about letting go of something you desperately want out of your life? The grieving process often shows up in unexpected ways when you're trying to overcome pornography. It’s normal to experience complex emotions like grief, even when you know you want to quit. Understanding this emotional landscape can significantly transform your healing journey. In this episode, Coach Jessica explores the three key areas where grief shows up while overcoming pornography. She discusses how letting go of porn as a coping mechanism creates a real sense of loss, even when your mind wants it gone. Using the five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—Jessica provides practical strategies for processing these emotions.  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/grieving-loss-jessica

If you’ve mastered your morning routine and crushed your gym goals, but still feel stuck when it comes to showing up in your relationships or handling hard emotions, you’re not alone. Discipline without emotional intelligence turns into control, not connection—and this is the key piece that so many self-development approaches miss. You can do everything “right” on paper and still find yourself disconnected, reactive, or avoiding emotional discomfort.In this episode, I’m diving into why empathy might be the most undertrained skill in personal development, especially for men. If you’ve been missing this piece, this episode will help you reconnect—with yourself, your values, and the people you love.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/missing-from-self-development-world

Do you ever feel like you're one stress away from losing control? That could mean you're outside your window of tolerance—a state where your emotional balance is compromised.In this episode, Coach Hunter explains a powerful framework for understanding emotional regulation, using the metaphor of a rubber band to illustrate how our nervous system reacts to stress and why we sometimes turn to coping mechanisms, like pornography, when overwhelmed. You'll hear practical tools to return to your green zone and how to process emotions in a healthy way. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/window-tolerance-hunter If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Is censorship effective for pornography? While banning pornography might seem like a protective measure, it often backfires and creates more harm than good. In this episode, I explore how censorship, even with the best intentions, escalates the problems it aims to solve.Learn why censorship isn’t real protection, how it can increase division and control, and what strategies actually protect kids while respecting adult freedom. You’ll feel empowered, knowing how to make a real difference without unintentionally causing harm, because true safety comes from education and guidance, not control. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/censorship-protection-bans If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Do intrusive thoughts create distress for you, especially when they involve sexuality? Through my work helping people overcome pornography, I've noticed how these unwanted thoughts often trigger shame, anxiety, and a desperate desire to make them stop. In this episode, I share a powerful exercise about a pink elephant that perfectly illustrates why fighting against intrusive thoughts only makes them stronger. I demonstrate how we can learn to let intrusive thoughts exist without engaging with them, ultimately allowing them to fade naturally into the background. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/intrusive-thoughts If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme