Overcome Pornography for Good

Have you ever wondered why your thoughts about yourself or pornography feel so automatic and unchangeable? So often we treat beliefs like facts, but many of the things we tell ourselves repeatedly are just thoughts we’ve rehearsed until they feel true. Learning to separate facts from beliefs is the first step in taking control of your mind and your habits. In this episode, I’m revisiting the beliefs and identity milestone, where we spend the most coaching time in the program. We focus on how repeated thoughts shape the beliefs you hold about yourself and pornography. By noticing these beliefs, questioning them, and identifying evidence that contradicts them, you can begin to shift how you think about yourself and your actions. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/changing-beliefs-identityClick here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Have you noticed that trying to be “Mr. Nice Guy” or constantly people-pleasing can actually keep you stuck? On the surface, it may look like kindness or keeping the peace, but prioritizing others’ approval over your own needs often leads to resentment, disconnection, and the very behaviors you’re trying to overcome. In this episode, Coach Jessica explores how people-pleasing creates a cycle of self-abandonment disguised as kindness. She shares how to stop managing other people’s feelings, allow for discomfort in relationships, and engage in real, honest conversations that deepen connection. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/mr-nice-guy-stuck-jessicaClick here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Do you find yourself believing every thought your brain throws at you? Our brains are wired to keep us safe, which often means defaulting to negativity and imagining worst-case scenarios. These patterns can create shame, frustration, and old habits that keep us stuck, including patterns around pornography use.In this episode, I explore how you can step back and observe your thoughts instead of automatically identifying with them. Thoughts aren’t facts, and simply noticing them can release the pressure, fear, and self-criticism that so often hold us back. I walk you through practical ways to practice being the observer each day, guiding your human body with care, and letting love, rather than judgment, direct your decisions. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/observer-you-not-your-thoughts

Do you find yourself stuck in a cycle of self-judgment, especially when dealing with pornography struggles? That critical voice in your head can feel like an unrelenting force, weakening you both mentally and physically. The longer this judgment lingers, the more it blocks your energy and affects everything from your stress response to your ability to sleep. In this episode, Coach Kat dives into how self-judgment creates a toxic cycle of anger, disappointment, and resentment, mirroring the shame cycle many face. Kat explores how this judgment manifests physically, causing your body to become constricted and stuck. She explains why forgiveness is the key to healing your self-judgmental voice and how it opens up space for peace, trust, and emotional freedom.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/healing-self-judgemental-voice-kat

Have you ever wondered why all your hard work to overcome pornography still leaves you stuck in the same patterns? Many people are primarily focusing on filters, routines, or counting days. They work hard, follow all the steps, and still find themselves stuck in the same patterns, wondering why their efforts aren’t paying off. In this episode, Coach Hunter explains why all of that misses the point. You’ll learn how to rebuild self-trust through small promises, why it’s critical to live from your future identity instead of your past, and how training your mindset like an elite athlete can change everything. Hunter shares practical strategies for moving from fear-based thinking to confidence-driven action so you can walk into each day knowing you are built to win.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/rebuilding-mindset-confidence-hunter

Setting boundaries can feel challenging, especially when it involves people you care about—whether it’s a spouse, family, friends, or religious leaders. In this episode, we revisit an important discussion about setting healthy boundaries while overcoming pornography. Transparency is crucial in building trust, especially with your spouse, but it’s equally important to protect your emotional and spiritual well-being. In this episode, we discuss how to draw the line between honesty and self-protection, how to set boundaries that nurture your recovery, and why spiritual maturity is essential for maintaining healthy relationships. You'll hear practical advice on how to handle disclosure conversations, manage well-meaning but challenging check-ins, and establish healthy boundaries in every aspect of your life.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/boundaries-loved-ones-religious-leaders

Have you ever wanted to get to know the coaches behind the Overcome Pornography for Good program? In this special Meet the Coaches episode, Jessica Farmer, Kat Jenkins, and Mimi Porter share how their unique journeys shaped the ways they guide clients toward real, lasting change. Listen as the three coaches share insights from their personal experiences and show why different coaching styles matter, how the right fit can accelerate progress, and what it truly means to believe in someone’s ability to change before they believe it themselves. Through their stories, you’ll see how creativity, curiosity, and the creation of a safe space help clients navigate pornography struggles. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/lessons-coaches-jess-kat-mimi

Do you feel like you're stuck in a cycle? The journey of overcoming pornography is often marked by repeating patterns that feel impossible to break. It can feel like falling into the same hole over and over again—lost, helpless, and unsure how to get out. In this episode, Coach Kat shares a powerful metaphor about breaking free from unwanted habits. It illustrates how we move through stages of awareness and responsibility, from feeling stuck in familiar cycles to finally choosing new paths. Understanding these stages can help you see that change isn’t instant, but a gradual progression towards freedom.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/hole-choosing-new-path-kat

Dating while working through pornography struggles can feel heavy and complicated. From fear of judgment to uncertainty about disclosure, it’s easy to get stuck wondering if you should even be dating at all. In this episode, Coach Jessica Farmer talks about navigating dating while overcoming pornography use. She shares guidance on managing vulnerability, handling intense emotions, assessing your readiness for dating, and why putting life on hold might actually hold you back. Jessica reframes difficult conversations—not as confessions, but as opportunities for collaboration and building authentic connection.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/dating-overcoming-pornography-jessica

Do you ever feel like you're caught between believing you're either a good person or a bad person? This kind of black-and-white thinking can lead to frustration, especially when trying to change unwanted behaviors. The truth is, we all embody both positive and negative qualities—this duality is a part of being human. In this episode, I explore how embracing this dual nature is key to creating lasting change. Trying to label ourselves as entirely good or bad creates unnecessary resistance, especially when we face challenges. Instead, accepting that we're both gives us the freedom to be honest with ourselves and move forward without shame or self-pity.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/living-duality-good-bad