Overcome Pornography for Good

Are you frustrated by the idea that life should feel better once you finally quit porn? In this episode, I introduce the 50-50 principle and explain why understanding it can completely change how you approach quitting pornography. If you’ve ever thought something has gone wrong because you’re still struggling, still uncomfortable, or still dealing with hard emotions, this conversation will help you see your experience in a very different way. The 50-50 principle is simple but powerful. Life is always made up of both positive and negative experiences, no matter where you are or what you’ve accomplished. This episode will help you understand why quitting isn’t about eliminating discomfort, but about choosing a different relationship with it so you can grow, change, and build a life you actually want to be present for. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/50-50-principle-quitting-porn Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you afraid of your urges? Many people struggle with the fear and discomfort they feel when urges to view pornography arise. But what if you could completely change how you relate to these urges? In this episode, I’m revisiting one of the most important topics for anyone looking to overcome pornography: understanding that urges are not a problem.You’ll learn how to separate urges from the thoughts that create them and how to describe your urges in neutral, non-dramatic language that makes them feel much less overwhelming. By the end of this episode, you'll know how to sit with 100 urges and make them no longer something you fear. This is the work of true self-control and will completely transform your journey to freedom.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/understanding-urges-why-not-dangerousClick here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you measuring your progress by counting days without pornography? If so, you may be setting yourself up for frustration and unnecessary shame. In this episode, I take a closer look at the all or nothing mindset that so many people are taught when trying to quit porn, and why starting over every time you slip up works against how real change actually happens. I walk through what learning truly looks like in any area of life. Whether it is learning a new skill like snowboarding or playing Super Mario Bros, progress is rarely linear. Learn what actually creates progress, how to work with urges instead of fearing them, and how to use slip-ups as part of your growth. This episode will help you rethink what success looks like and stay engaged even when things feel messy. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/progess-really-looks-quitting-porn Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

What does true freedom from porn look like? In this episode, I’m diving into the core principles shared in a recent live class. We went beyond quick fixes like willpower or filters, which often lead to shame and repression, and explored what really leads to lasting freedom.These insights have helped clients from all different backgrounds create lasting change. By shifting your mindset and approach to overcoming pornography, you’ll learn the tools to not just quit, but to transform the way you relate to your sexuality and your life.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/finally-be-free-from-pornClick here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you struggling to stay committed to your New Year's goals? The excitement of a new year can be motivating, but it often fades quickly, leaving us wondering how to keep going. In this episode, I revisit one of my most popular topics: how to follow through with your goals, especially if quitting pornography is on your list for the new year. I address why so many people give up on their resolutions and why it’s not the goal itself, but our expectation that New Year’s energy should last forever. Instead of relying on short-term motivation, I share five tips to help you stay committed for the long haul. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/following-through-new-years-goals Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you struggling to recognize your progress in overcoming pornography? In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins shares a powerful indicator of success that can transform your journey: celebrating your wins. After nearly four years of coaching clients in the Overcome Pornography for Good program, Kat has identified a pattern that separates those who make lasting progress from those who feel stuck. Kat explains the "winner's effect" and how one win can create more wins. By acknowledging and fully experiencing your wins, you trigger a biological and psychological response that boosts your confidence and performance. This positive feedback loop helps you stay motivated and primed for future success. You'll discover practical ways to start recognizing your wins, even when overcoming pornography feels like an uphill battle. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/one-indicator-success-kat Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you worried about staying committed during the busy holiday season? The holidays bring travel, family dynamics, stress, and disrupted routines that can trigger emotional discomfort. In this episode, Hunter addresses a concern many have when working to overcome pornography: how to keep making progress when your normal systems and routines are disrupted.  Hunter reframes the holidays not as a setback, but as an opportunity to practice the skills you've been developing. While your environment may change and emotional triggers may become louder, these challenges offer a chance to test and strengthen the tools you've learned. You'll also learn mindset shifts that can make a real difference during the holidays, like understanding that increased urges are a natural brain response to unusual circumstances. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/tools-committed-holiday-season-hunter Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Do you believe you need to feel terrible about your porn use in order to change it? In this episode, I revisit why those emotional highs of celebrating a long streak and the lows of feeling devastated after a slip-up make quitting harder. When your experience swings between extremes, it becomes difficult to stay consistent, and the process starts to feel discouraging.  I explain how neutralizing your porn habit creates space for real progress. You will hear how to identify the main emotion you associate with quitting porn and how to shift toward a more grounded internal experience. This neutral space is not justification. It is a practical way to step out of the high highs and low lows so you can stay committed. When you make your habit less emotionally charged, the path to quitting becomes clearer and more manageable.  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/neutralize-porn-habit-emotions-quitting Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

When sexuality and religion overlap, it is easy to get stuck looking for the “right” answer from your church or leaders. If you have ever found yourself searching for approval about masturbation, sexual decisions in your relationship, or whether quitting porn fits your faith tradition, this episode will help you understand why that search feels so confusing. The real question is not what your church says. It is whether you feel aligned with God and with yourself.  In this episode, I talk about developing your own spiritual authority instead of relying on external voices that often contradict each other. You will hear what it looks like to move away from black and white thinking and into principle-based living, where you get clear on the sexual values you want to live by and make decisions from integrity rather than fear. This shift opens space for nuance, compassion, and choices that truly support your wellbeing.  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/learning-trust-own-spiritual-authority Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Do you get stuck in the cycle of negative “what-ifs” that hold you back from taking action? Many of us play the “what if” game, imagining worst-case scenarios that paralyze us from moving forward. Whether it’s fear of failure, shame, or anxiety, these negative thoughts can keep us from trying new things, especially when it comes to challenging old habits like pornography use. In this episode, Coach Kat Jenkins shares a powerful coaching experience about how shifting from “below ground zero” thinking, where we spiral into fear and self-doubt, to “above ground zero” thinking, where we focus on positive possibilities, can break the cycle of inaction and create real change. She explains how giving “equal airtime” to empowering “what-ifs” opens up a new world of possibilities and helps you overcome fears and anxieties before they stop you from reaching your goals.  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/playing-new-what-if-game-kat Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass